Dating expat English speakers in Munich

[Hazza 5,458]

That's true - My mum's German and my dad's Indian and they've managed.

 

In case anyone's wondering, though; my parents aren't rootsheral and his missus...

[lemon 0]

 

Actually I remember a TT thread in the past where the female posters specifically said they'd never hook up with someone who approached them on the u-bahn, that the men who did so were creepy, and that pretty much anywhere else would be better...

 

 

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I'm going to have to agree. While the whole "When a man suddenly gives you flowers, he's acting on impulse" notion sounds really romantic in theory, in actuality, it's pretty creepy/ uncomfortable/ perhaps even scary. And that's not a good start to any relationship. :)

[Guest]

OK, I'm the guilty party who started this post. No, I don't think I am too bitter about German men, but I just find them harder to get to know, too serious and they can't flirt worth a damn! I miss flirting and contrary to what someone wrote here -- Germans ARE commitmentphobes!

 

I think BadDoggie summed it up well with the state of things and who's available. I guess that is why I just wanted to put the feelers out and see whether or not anyone else felt the same way.

 

Also, as corny as it sounds -- I just miss speaking my mother tongue to someone when I date! I know -- I will probably hear from someone that if that is how I feel then it is high time to go back home, but that's not quite the answer either. I'd like a fellow countryman who understands this world, too, and appreciates it and likes it. I like it here, but I don't really want to date the Germans anymore. I don't see what is so hard to figure out about that without sounding like a complete cynic!

[Eleanor_Rigby 17]

My experience dating German men is that they actually call the next day. Back home (Canada) there is an unwritten rule that if you meet a girl on Friday you wait until Tuesday to call her. I always thought that was lame.

 

On the flip side German men seem to take a lot longer to 'get the hint' when you're not interested.

[UrbanAngel 445]

@Lemon - yeah, but sometimes you get the other extreme too - I haven't got a b'day present 2 years out of 6 *sniffles*

 

Not that I am tallying or anything... hehe

[gideon 137]

i haven't dated seriously dated since 96/97 (before e-mail ansd sms, colour television, compact disc players eletricity fire and the wheel) so my expierience is kind of old and dusty and fogged with the memories of many a drunken night. but germans girls are ok apart from some seem to be about as relaxed as a an up tight psychopath with a large cactus in their bottom. what i allways found strange, untill meeting my wife (whos also a german, but is now probably more english than alot of people here) is the constant wimins lib fight shit thing. they expect to be treated like a lady but then get pissed off about it "we're not weaker" etc... i like women who are a little bit more confident of themselves and work more on an equal footing. i also find it sad that alot of german women dont know how to drink, lets-get-drunk-and-fall-over is a rare sentence to hear from alot of them (my wife, tt and munich touch girls are not included in the last statement)

[AquaticMeringue 269]

 

Also, as corny as it sounds -- I just miss speaking my mother tongue to someone when I date!

Well most Germans speak pretty good English - some almost like native speakers. There's always going to be the occasional misunderstanding because of culture/language, but that's hardly unique to Germans and Germany (in fact the differences are pretty tiny when compared with most countries).

 

Furthermore, you're likely to run into similar problems with other native English speakers as well - I've had more than my fair share of misunderstandings with Americans, due to both culture and language.

 

Here are a couple of amusing (related) links:

 

Divided by a Common Language - Trash can or rubbish bin?

 

Divided by a common language - I could really murder a fag!

 

I particularly like the first story in the second link - I'll repeat it here, for the lazy among you:

 

A friend stayed over in Texas a few years ago at the home of a clergyman and his wife. Feeling the need for a cigarette after the long flight she chose the unfortunate wording "I could really murder a fag!" Her hosts were horrified, particularly as she had flown over to assist the church in its charity work in a local prison!

[Guest]

Like duh, Germans can speak English. Boy, what a revelation! I don't want to stoop to that level, though, either. I didn't become fluent in German for nothin'!

[Keydeck 9,248]

What, stoop to the level of speaking the language that you want to speak. I don't geddit, you're not making any sense.

 

Actually as a number of people seem to have already pointed out this whole thread doesn't really make any sense. If you really don't like the German people then just say so, open yourself to whatever prejudices are lurking in the shadows of your heart and embrace the hatred for which you seem to so desire and don't try to mask it under some pretence of failed relationships or nationality-induced emotional dífferences.

 

Or does I owe you a apology?

 

Nah, the fcuk with it, I'll say what I say.

 

Now, I'm just about to board a plane so in case this is my last post, I do really like everyone and in the spirit of the great Bob I'd just like to paint happy little bushes everywhere. ;)

[AquaticMeringue 269]

 

Like duh, Germans can speak English. Boy, what a revelation! I don't want to stoop to that level, though, either. I didn't become fluent in German for nothin'!

So just to clarify...you don't want to date Germans any more, because you want to speak English. And you don't want to speak English to Germans, because you you'd rather speak German with them?

[Keydeck 9,248]

That's how I read it too AM. I guess we're both too dumb to understand what she's on about.

[Jeeves 41]

I interpret it as:

 

"Had enough of speaking and (mis)understanding German in my relationships, would rather speak my own language to a partner who understands. Having learned German I'd rather use that in everyday situations."

 

Makes sense to me.

[Kza 49]

It sounds to me like the language was just a minor issue and she was mostly just asking if her experiences could have been culture related. I think the main idea was to start a discussion to see if anyone else had had similar experiences. Oh, and to advertise herself as on the market for an english speaker... I know I would be sending off a PM if I wasnt taken...

[Webmaster6 3]

 

Oh, and to advertise herself as on the market for an english speaker...

I suppose there is nothing wrong with that as well... :D

[roots 59]

I think you are all "misunderestimating' Lisl's "subliminable" sense of humor

 

Hey don't yell at me, I learnt my English from Dubya.

[AquaticMeringue 269]

 

I interpret it as:

 

"Had enough of speaking and (mis)understanding German in my relationships, would rather speak my own language to a partner who understands. Having learned German I'd rather use that in everyday situations."

That doesn't make sense within the context of what she's said, though.

 

In regards to dating to an English-speaking German she specifically said that she would rather not "stoop to that level" as she "didn't become fluent in German for nothin'!"

 

She wants to date a native English speaker because she wants to speak English with them - and she doesn't want to date a German, because she doesn't want to speak English with them. Maybe what she needs is someone of dual nationality? Or do you think she would just refuse to talk to them altogether?

[potbelly 17]

 

Oh, and to advertise herself as on the market for an english speaker...  I know I would be sending off a PM if I wasnt taken...

Best interpretation so far... as a newbie. I'm now starting to understand what this Forum is about. Woof ! :D

[Gen 2,454]

woof? BadDoggie and potbelly, are you schizophrenic?

 

anyhow I'm an Ami married to a German and we have to fight in German because my German's still better than his English and that's what it comes down to. I don't think I'd have married him if his English weren't as good as it is though... I have Toytown for talking to native speakers, that's why I joined, because I missed it so much...

[Guest]

Jeeves is the one who gets it. Anyway...maybe we should wrap this post up? It is getting old and I'm sick of the accusations.

[AquaticMeringue 269]

What accusations? You put forward what appears to be a circular argument, and all I've done is ask you to explain it - if you're not even able to do that with another native speaker, then perhaps the language isn't the root of your problem as far as misunderstandings are concerned?