I need some female company

[eurovol 126]

Girls do it, they just don't talk about it. That is, unless you are another girl and then they like to brag. Then second girl says if you are doing her for comfort, then do me too. This is where things get complicated because one of the tenants of FBs is that it is safe and not whorish like. Therefore, if you do FBs GF, then FB feels like a whore and starts to wonder who else you are doing, but if you don't, then FB may think that it is something more than it is and starts to imagine something more permanent. It is a delicate balance that usually only lasts about a year or so. There is something about getting screwed for a year that fucks things up. :rolleyes:

[dorman143 21]

I never met the man but the qualities (honest, funny, self-deprecating) evident in the original post means I hafta root for the guy, Grinner god bless ya, I sincerely hope it all works out for you. I think you're in, personally. There are plenty of women in the world, and the best ones are the ones that 'get' you. Brilliant post, man.

[Yeti 276]

Good luck Grinner, hope your ad has the sucess it deserves. Haven't read all the replies but if TT is a litmus text you won't be short of resonance on a dating site.

 

Looking for a fuck buddy in public is fine as long as the woman you find has no problem with being associated with that term

 

I think as well as honesty, humour, intelligence, women appreciate a little discretion.

[Guest]

 

There's a huge difference between a fuck buddy and a prostitute. Besides, it was Lavenderrain who first suggested a prostitute so please get off your moral high-horse when it comes to men. And no I don't condone prostitutes or Asians or East Europeans for that matter. You must really be a loser to have to resort to something like that in my books.

Ulysses, whether men turn to prostitutes or not does not interest or concern me. What bothers me and this what I wrote in the beginning of the thread already, is the tone in which women get discussed on this forum and those two posts were examples of what I meant. The guy basically wrote "if you are looking for a girl to fuck, either go to Hansastrasse or fly to Asia for a month". The next one then wrote "yeah, but be careful not to catch any diseases. That's an example of the kind of shit we women get to read on TT. I found it offensive as a non-Asian woman, not sure how offensive Asian women would find it. I have often enough had to hear how men speak of Asian women("travelling through Asia with your girlfriend is like taking your own beer into a bar"). It bothers me and I am not even Asian.

 

Prostitution in general? Go ahead, why not, it's a job like any other. I think Grinner can do better though.

[Guest]

I think we need a topic split, Mods. This thread is being unjust towards Grinner.

[Lavender Rain 7,859]

Geoff, in an effort to make peace with you, I offer you this informative website that can give you some tips on how to become the best possible fuck buddy that you can be.

 

http://www.fastseduction.com/youarenew/

 

Good Luck in your search for your ideal fuck buddy!

[zee 109]

why do you all insist on the fuck buddy thing? ... wasn't that last on Grinners list as he has repeated I need some female company (Part II)? I also think the thread should be split into Grinners add and the fuck-buddy discussion, as some of you insist on discussing the latter.

[Panama 26]

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[DJ_Jazzy_Guff 32]

I can't believe I actually went through so many of these posts. I really don't see the big deal in having a "fuck buddy". It's better than jacking off whilst watching someone else getting filthy. If both participants in this arrangement agree that the relationship will be based purely on sex, what's the problem there?! Sod all. No doubt some two bob psychologist is going to come on here and pour scorn on my viewpoint. Fuck it! The only real issue could be if the woman wants a relationship and the guy wants a "fuck buddy". If he chooses to hide this from her, respect! shame on him! However, I very much doubt Grinner's going to be able to do that now that his cover's been blown!

[georgiagirl 35]

 

I think we need a topic split, Mods. This thread is being unjust towards Grinner.

NOOOO! No more topics spawned from this topic, mods, I beg you. This forum is already in danger of becoming Toytown Grinner.

 

Possible tagline: Germany's English-speaking, fuck-buddy-seeking fat blokes

 

_{No offence meant to Grinner.}

[the Boy From Bozlem 574]

 

What bothers me and this what I wrote in the beginning of the thread already, is the tone in which women get discussed on this forum and those two posts were examples of what I meant.

I know I’ve cut your post a bit, but do you feel the same way when the bints on this forum post pictures of rugby players, TV stars, football players and ex wizards with horses saying “whooooo I’d shag him

[Wee Mun 25]

Jesus, long thread, having read most of it, it seems to me that the underlying point is either that lavender rain is on the blob or a lezza...

[Yeti 276]

Nobody thinks of the chips.

[Rilana 484]

Gosh. Stopped reading after the first 4 pages. I just don't get it...what the big deal that is...so what, that's what he wants, that's what he's looking for, if it's not something you want, ignore it...if it is - get in touch. Simple, but why keep it that way when one can complicate things. Everyone has a time in their lives when they are lonely but might not neccessarily want a full on relationship - I really don't see what's degrading or any of the like. He is being open and honest and it's refreshing. It's probably the very opposite to degrading if anything.

[Johnny English 3,071]

The observant of you here will have noticed that Grinner has stopped posting in this thread recently.

 

Why you ask?

 

Well that's 'cos he is off shagging himself senseless with his new harem. Give 'em one for me big fellah!

[Dostoyevsky 21]

 

Possible tagline: Germany's English-speaking, fuck-buddy-seeking fat blokes

It's in good company with the other possible tag line mentioned in the serial comma thread: Hateful backstabbing, vicious verbal attacks, and sexual gossip.

[Johnny English 3,071]

I do sometimes wonder if TT is different for people that live in town, to those of us that live out in bumsville?

 

Is it like a whole different gig?

 

'cos for me it is just a bit of silliness to witter away the day when bored, and learn some useful nuggets about Germany, but scarily it seems that a few people take the whole thing waaaaaaaaaaaay too seriously.

[Punchbear 1,024]

JE, you may be onto something there.

[don_riina 7,406]

Strange how some days on TT have a certain theme running through a number of threads. This thread, the serial comma thread, and the "there are loads of types of english" thread are all about the same thing man, language.

 

The phrase "fuck buddy", however crude I or others find it, has entered the international vocabulary man, it is used. Grinner is an Englsih bloke from up north with t' whippets and shit, and if he actually said the words "fuck buddy", it would sound a bit weird really, but he's used in in writing here - and in the context, all he was saying was "looking for a bird; friendship, few drinks, and also open for it to progress to a sexual level". Pretty fair statement. Better than somebody geting close to somebody and the finding out that sex was never going to on the cards. How many people have been gutted to make friednds with somebody and then find out that there is simply no chance of it going further? Its not nice to be on either side of that one - telling somebody that you can only be mates, or finding out from someone that you can only be mates...unpleasant. "Fuck buddy" is a clumsy phrase, but in this case it simply suggested that something more than friendship is possible.The phrase itself may carry connetations of sexism, or objectifying women, or whatever the fuck, but casting those connetations upon somebody as a view of his or her opinions, just because they used a certain phrase? Not right.

 

EDIT: @JE, spot on mate. Hateful backstabbings? Eh? What? I'm lost man.

[Johnny English 3,071]

Language changes anyway. In the old movies the birds say stuff like "will you make love to me?" - when they just mean "chat me up".

 

Grinner is just a bit ahead of his time. 10 years from now everyone will have a couple of fuck buddies.