I need some female company

[Ulysses 2]

 

I just think we should be trying to connect on a deeper level with people and in more meaningful kind of ways. I think we should not allow our own dysfunctional pathology to be dsplaced upon someone else and use them as a fuck buddy to try to enrich our own empty lives.

With posts like this you'll most definitely be 42 and single too. Trust me. No guy wants this sort of high-maintenance. Let go of your psychology textbooks and live life a little. It doesn't have to be this complicated. No one likes psycho-analysis either. there too many 2 quid psychologists running around as it is. And drop the big words. They do nothing when the rest of your post is riddled with spelling and grammar mistakes.

[Guest]

 

Can only think many women speaking here may have had a bad experience being a fuck buddy :-)

That's a rather interesting conclusion to draw. I have never felt the need to be nor have I have had to be anybody's fuck buddy. Interesting to see how differently we all think to one another. I agree with you though that there has been way too much fuss about this, but for Grinner it's good publicity.

[Lavender Rain 7,859]

 

Good post, Lavenderrain. We aren't talking about seeking a relationship here though. I thought Grinner doesn't want a relationship, just a fuck buddy. I don't think it's the right thing though to analyse a person's weaknesses like this on an open forum, on the other hand it explains your line of reasoning very well and Grinner specifically asked to be discussed. Grinner, if you want us to stop we'll stop. I anyway have to still do some work so I can't hang around on this thread for much longer.

Frankly, I wasn't going to go any further with this until Timmeh asked me to clarify and that's what at least I attempted to do. Regarding "a relationship" being fuck buddies is a kind of "relationship' albeit, a very superficial one. Regarding what Marie said, No, I haven't had any experience being a "fuck buddy" and to all the women and men who appreciate being "fuck buddies" more power to you.

 

Grinner, I truly do wish you all the best in your pursuit.

 

I think I've said enough (or perhaps too much) and this will be my last post on this topic.

[Carm 74]

LR- where did you get your Psychology degree? Have you met Grinner to make such assumptions about him? Have you ever had a 'fuck buddy'? Everyone wants someone to love or to love them back, some people don't have the time or the patience to deal with high maintence relationships, so casual sex is the easiest. I admire Grinner's honesty and putting himself out there. We have all gone thru lonely times, and sometimes waking up next to somebody that you know you don't have to ever see again, works for some. Not everyone can do that, but you are harshly judging someone you have never met.

[Guest]

In fairness to LR though, if you do want to try to understand why a person would want said things, a person who refers to himself as having major problems and feeling empty, why not try to analyse somebody if you did study psychology? I wouldn't have posted the analyses here though, I would have kept it for a f2f conversation if anything. She had her reasons though, she was asked to explain why she thinks what she thinks. I am quite sure though that Grinner isn't an empty person.

[Ruthie 216]

I have to say I am a bit shallow in my judgement of people based on their spelling abilities. I am always amused by the spelling mistakes that slip through LR´s fingers, especially "weiner" when referring to a certain male body part...Also a very proper term.

[gemini 2,074]

 

Regarding "a relationship" being fuck buddies is a kind of "relationship' albeit, a very superficial one

No that is not neccesarily so...that is your interpretation as one who admitedly has no experience with them. They can also be friends one has rich relationships with, but whom you might not choose as a life partner. It is a mutual understanding.

 

There is nothing superfical or degrading about being open and honest about your motives and desires, and being respectful enough to the other person to let them know where you stand.

 

It is when you don't do that, that you remove the power of choice from the other person, and that, to me, is the real crime.

[sharpe 7]

 

With posts like this you'll most definitely be 42 and single too.

well said :D

[Guest]

I don't think there is anything wrong with a woman being 42 and single. To many a woman being single is a blessing.

[Ulysses 2]

Really. That explains the plethora of dating agencies and websites then.

[Panama 26]

So, I have a pile of clothing to iron, anyone up for a homemade dinner sometime this week? ;)

[sharpe 7]

well, i offered a dinner out but no one replied :(

[Carm 74]

boys, give us some time to clear our calanders first. ;)

[Kat 59]

I really really don't like the term 'Fuck Buddy'. It does seem to denigrate anyone entering into such a 'relationship'. I mean really, it sounds so cheap. Like these people wouldn't give each other the time of day without their clothes on the floor. I think this unfortunate choice of words it the main problem here and it probably doesn't even accurately describe what Grinner really wants. 'Friends with Benefits' would be a term most women would find more acceptable.

 

@panama - what are you cooking?

:lol:

[Lavender Rain 7,859]

 

I really really don't like the term 'Fuck Buddy'. It does seem to denigrate anyone entering into such a 'relationship'. I mean really, it sounds so cheap. Like these people wouldn't give each other the time of day without their clothes on the floor. I think this unfortunate choice of words it the main problem here and it probably doesn't even accurately describe what Grinner really wants. 'Friends with Benefits' would be a term most women would find more acceptable.

Kat, I said I wasn't going to say anything else about this topic, but I just to tell you your post made me howl with laughter. That's absolutely funny stuff...Friends with Benefits, You are so politically correct. :lol:

[Katrina 4,522]

 

I know Grinner, and I believe he has failed to mention his most redeeming features, probably because of the first one; modesty. He is also witty, generous, a non-smoker, doesn't seem to be interested in football, financially secure without being flash about it, technically adept (can fix almost any household item), and can do magical things with soft ropes.

And he's got a huge heart, the big soft bugger. Plus he's been a real pal to me over the years, sure, he's a rough diamond but he is still a diamond.

 

Good luck pal, she's out there or you'll have fun while you look!

[the_eagle 7]

Lad one thing to also remember...being single is not a bad way to go. I was single for easy over 20years due to being an emmigrant, a drinker , continually moving and being an ugly bastard to boot.

 

Being abroad will limit a mans chances simply due to the fact you dont belong here and it will be hard to get off with a local.

 

I know married men who would cut their arms off to be free ,single and 42 in Munich.

As regards a fuck buddy I can recommend Hansa street at fifty euro a pop for relieveing stress. (Westend tube)

 

Another well tried and tested option is take one month off and get over to Thailand and or Cambodia, tons of totty and you will be happy to be single when you get back !!!

 

Man you got no worries .

[Guest]

 

As regards a fuck buddy I can recommend Hansa street at fifty euro a pop for relieveing stress. (Westend tube)

Another well tried and tested option is take one month off and get over to Thailand and or Cambodia, tons of totty and you will be happy to be single when you get back !!!

Man you got no worries .

Not sure what the Asian ladies on the forum think of this, but I rest my case. Point made, nighty-nite. :(

[Grinner 4]

A fuck buddy...!

 

These seem to be the words that have stired controvasy (sp)...

 

Re-read what I said...

 

 

I am looking for some companionship.. a drinking buddy, a fuck buddy if things are good..

What have I done that is so wrong?

 

I thought you girls liked Honesty!

[Ulysses 2]

 

Not sure what the Asian ladies on the forum think of this, but I rest my case. Point made, nighty-nite.

There's a huge difference between a fuck buddy and a prostitute. Besides, it was Lavenderrain who first suggested a prostitute so please get off your moral high-horse when it comes to men. And no I don't condone prostitutes or Asians or East Europeans for that matter. You must really be a loser to have to resort to something like that in my books.