Regrets on making a permanent move to Germany

[kitkat64 461]

 

i've told my boyfriend time and again that, while i love him, i will NEVER be that kind of wife or mother!!

 

have any of you had a similar experience with a bayerisch mother-in-law?

Ha, ha, ha...my boyfriend finally told his mother that when she visits us she is not to say one word about dust bunnies, dirty windows, etc or give any opinions on how we should live. She cannot complain about his clothes because my boyfriend does all the laundry in our house (and all the cooking). I have to clean but, since I work full-time (and then some), I don't always have time to clean every weekend. But, when we are there, she will iron his stuff (even his underwear). It's kind of creepy. I just go along with it because it's only a few weekends a year.

[germanyshelley 10]

 

It's kind of creepy. I just go along with it because it's only a few weekends a year.

Lucky you, kitkat! :P

[Verwirrt 3]

yeh, what's up with the germans ironing underwear, undershirts, bed linens???

 

hey i understand a table cloth and napkins...but things you dont see? what next? hand towels and condums?

[Jack 13]

I'm here 22 years now and I've regreted it about 22 times, but every time I think about the alternatives ... I guess I'm happy enough here.

To the mother in law topic ... My mother in law is Italian! I should have known! I SHOULD HAVE KNOWN!

[cabbagefairy 29]

HAHAHA!!! I just went downstairs to do my washing, and the house cleaner is there ironing the families socks...SOCKS!!!

 

Oh dear I just starting dating a german,am I doomed?? although he still lives at home so I get the full family including the grandpa too. Not understanding is kind of good in a way although I always feel really impolite not being able to help out.

[germanyshelley 10]

 

Oh dear I just starting dating a german,am I doomed?? although he still lives at home so I get the full family including the grandpa too. Not understanding is kind of good in a way although I always feel really impolite not being able to help out.

me too! last weekend i walked in on my boyfriend's mother, on her HANDS AND KNEES, scrubbing the kitchen floor. i mean seriously, should i ask if she wants some help?! hahaha...

 

my BF's family home also includes the grandparents...with 2 sets of aunts and uncles living on either side! agh!

 

we ARE doomed, cabbagefairy!

[Siggie 1]

I always thought the cooking/cleaning/ironing thing was just MY mother in law. Does everyone else get their windows washed and their balconies mopped too?

[germanyshelley 10]

i've seen my boyfriend's mother scrubbing the sidewalk in front of their house.

[HEM 11,163]

If its any consolation - one of my daughter's classmate's family are ALWAYS together

each any every weekend. And they are ALL German! (the mother moans about it

but doesnt/cannot do anything).

 

We are lucky that may parents (since passed away) were 2 hours flying away & my wife's

are 1.5 hours driving so we were able to stand on own two feet. However I have to say

that my wife moves almost heaven & earth to prevent the kids (teenagers) from helping

with the housework...

 

I wish someone would come round & wash our windows for us!!!

[laura2007 1]

I have been here since September and of course i want to go back to canada some times, I know noone (except my mother in law-who is actually really cool)

my "better half" is no help either. lol, oh well. I do miss movie theaters(english) and tim hortons.

 

Oh and my family. :huh:

[Yandi 4]

 

yeh, what's up with the germans ironing underwear, undershirts, bed linens???

 

hey i understand a table cloth and napkins...but things you dont see? what next? hand towels and condums?

I ironed the bed linens a couple of times Only the ones for the guest bed, when we had guests. And only the part at the very top of the top sheet b/c it's supposed to lay flat and fold over beautifully - but it can't when it's all wrinkled up.

[Elizabeth40 3]

:) Theres no place like home. Intergrating is a very slow and painful process, some people have good results, others try and fail and end up packing there bags up, returning back home. I guess it all boils down to, what we all are looking for? (krikeys... where are my glasses?)

[Carm 74]

 

Oh dear I just starting dating a german,am I doomed?? although he still lives at home so I get the full family including the grandpa too. Not understanding is kind of good in a way although I always feel really impolite not being able to help out.

oh, god, get out while you can. Seriously!

the reasons are a whole other thread. :blink:

[Lifeisabuffet 483]

 

yeh, what's up with the germans ironing underwear, undershirts, bed linens???

 

hey i understand a table cloth and napkins...but things you dont see? what next? hand towels and condums?

I wouldn't say ironing underwear, undershirts etc is a German thing. I come from a mediterrenean family and

my grandmothers used to have everything ironed. So does my mother. I don't.

[Jack 13]

It's interesting to see how such a topic can develop. From "Regrets on making a permanent move to Germany" to "mother in laws" to "the ironing of underwear".

[Lifeisabuffet 483]

Oh, this is a classic on TT. Topics tend to go in another direction after 10-15 posts.

[perdido 6,083]

oh my

nothing else could have been done...

[shannon 20]

The first words when meeting my "could of been future bavarian mother in law were "was wilst du mit meine son und warum nehmst du kein englander und wenn gehts du zuruck nach england(...I stayed longer for "love of her son and also to do her head in..but with time she did my head in

14 years later im still deciding wen to go zuruck nach england. I love the alps and skiing and love swimming in the lakes in summer thats all i like about living here

[Guest]

Charming mother-in-law, I have to say... Hope for your your husband stood up for you back then (and still is)...

[Chicago 23]

 

This made me laugh! I moved to Belgium from Germany, thinking something along those lines - belgium is a 'neutral' country...

 

Dont be fooled!! Belgium has a very unique personality!! ...

Perhaps a bit of misunderstanding here. The 'neutral' country idea is that: the country of residence for the couple is non-native to each of them so that they both are facing the same issue of integrating and struggling with the local language(s)/culture(s).

 

But agree: burocracy in Ben/Lux counrties can sometimes make your head spin.

 

And see: br understood.

 

living in a 'neutral' country can be a good idea though - that way both partners are basically in the same situation - rather than one being in the other ones home country. Obviously that involves finding work etc in that neutral country so its not without its logistical problems