Posted 10 March On 05/03/2023, 09:29:03, jeba said: It might be a good idea to have evidence documented. You're allowed to have noise and camera recording in your own room. Also, according to this recent court ruling maybe even record conversations secretly if you have no other way to provide evidence: https://mobil.kostenlose-urteile.de/LG-Karlsruhe_16-Qs-9822_Keine-Strafbarkeit-wegen-Verletzung-der-Vertraulichkeit-des-Wortes-bei-Audioaufnahme-aufgrund-Beweisnot.news32671.htm I have told my son to write down every incident and record what he can. At the moment he is trying to study for exams. He desperately needs to get out. We are looking at WG gesucht and sent over 100 requests, usually they are gone in minutes. Even with putting his rent limit to his max he still can't find anywhere. He's spoken to people but it seems nothing can be done apart from moving out. I didn't realise that the lads daddy owns the flat. Any help to find my son a room appreciated 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 10 March On 05/03/2023, 09:54:27, Anna66 said: I'm sorry to hear your son is suffering so much. He needs to get out of that flat ASAP. My brother had a similar situation but the person owned the flat. Your son is spending alot of time at the gym to get away from the toxic situation in the flat. He should speak to the university and the professors. I am certain they will be able to support him and possibly help him. I wish you strength. What an awful situation to be in. Maybe mention the behaviour to the university too. The other student needs to be accessed. Your son needs to be removed from this situation. On 05/03/2023, 09:54:27, Anna66 said: I'm sorry to hear your son is suffering so much. He needs to get out of that flat ASAP. My brother had a similar situation but the person owned the flat. Your son is spending alot of time at the gym to get away from the toxic situation in the flat. He should speak to the university and the professors. I am certain they will be able to support him and possibly help him. I wish you strength. What an awful situation to be in. Maybe mention the behaviour to the university too. The other student needs to be accessed. Your son needs to be removed from this situation. On 05/03/2023, 09:29:03, jeba said: It might be a good idea to have evidence documented. You're allowed to have noise and camera recording in your own room. Also, according to this recent court ruling maybe even record conversations secretly if you have no other way to provide evidence: https://mobil.kostenlose-urteile.de/LG-Karlsruhe_16-Qs-9822_Keine-Strafbarkeit-wegen-Verletzung-der-Vertraulichkeit-des-Wortes-bei-Audioaufnahme-aufgrund-Beweisnot.news32671.htm I have told my son to write down every incident and record what he can. At the moment he is trying to study for exams. He desperately needs to get out. We are looking at WG gesucht and sent over 100 requests, usually they are gone in minutes. Even with putting his rent limit to his max he still can't find anywhere. He's spoken to people but it seems nothing can be done apart from moving out. it seems that there is a huge queue for room rents. He can go up to 600, more with my help Any help to find my son a room appreciated 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 10 March On 03/03/2023, 10:31:45, maxie said: Maybe airbnb? If it is short term. Just until he finds a proper room Ive looked at some, the cost works out very high. We keep looking though. On 05/03/2023, 09:54:27, Anna66 said: I'm sorry to hear your son is suffering so much. He needs to get out of that flat ASAP. My brother had a similar situation but the person owned the flat. Your son is spending alot of time at the gym to get away from the toxic situation in the flat. He should speak to the university and the professors. I am certain they will be able to support him and possibly help him. I wish you strength. What an awful situation to be in. Maybe mention the behaviour to the university too. The other student needs to be accessed. Your son needs to be removed from this situation. On 05/03/2023, 09:54:27, Anna66 said: I'm sorry to hear your son is suffering so much. He needs to get out of that flat ASAP. My brother had a similar situation but the person owned the flat. Your son is spending alot of time at the gym to get away from the toxic situation in the flat. He should speak to the university and the professors. I am certain they will be able to support him and possibly help him. I wish you strength. What an awful situation to be in. Maybe mention the behaviour to the university too. The other student needs to be accessed. Your son needs to be removed from this situation. On 05/03/2023, 09:29:03, jeba said: It might be a good idea to have evidence documented. You're allowed to have noise and camera recording in your own room. Also, according to this recent court ruling maybe even record conversations secretly if you have no other way to provide evidence: https://mobil.kostenlose-urteile.de/LG-Karlsruhe_16-Qs-9822_Keine-Strafbarkeit-wegen-Verletzung-der-Vertraulichkeit-des-Wortes-bei-Audioaufnahme-aufgrund-Beweisnot.news32671.htm I have told my son to write down every incident and record what he can. At the moment he is trying to study for exams. He desperately needs to get out. We are looking at WG gesucht and sent over 100 requests, usually they are gone in minutes. Even with putting his rent limit to his max he still can't find anywhere. He's spoken to people but it seems nothing can be done apart from moving out. it seems that there is a huge queue for room rents. He can go up to 600, more with my help Any help to find my son a room appreciated 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 10 March Not really what he's looking for, but what about going to the library to study für his exam? That's what I did back in the day. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 11 March 18 hours ago, jeba said: Not really what he's looking for, but what about going to the library to study für his exam? That's what I did back in the day. He sometimes does, but the bully will burst into his room while he is sleeping, he will demand that my son leaves the bathroom because he wants to go. He demands that my son leaves the kitchen because he wants to cook. My son pays for a room in an apartment, everything should be shared. Luckily he has secured a place at a spanish university for a semester which will be from september, so we are desperately looking for a room until then. Sadly there are hundreds of students chasing each room. The ones that stay available are incredibly expensive. Ive been quite shocked at the prices of some of the rooms 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 11 March 21 hours ago, Henribear said: Your son is spending alot of time at the gym to get away from the toxic situation in the flat. He should speak to the university and the professors. I am certain they will be able to support him and possibly help him. I wish you strength. What an awful situation to be in. Maybe mention the behaviour to the university too. The other student needs to be accessed. Your son needs to be removed from this situation. It seems that this lads father is very wealthy and is an old student of the university and has been though this problem with his son before. Any help my son has been asking for is falling on deaf ears. I think that the lad has issues maybe due to his constantly playing video games. I also believe that he sees my son passing when he is failing. Studies hard and passes, plays games all day and night and fails. Its not rocket science. My son refuses help financially ( i do slip cash into his account now and then). The other lad has what he wants paid for. Money doesn´t buy everything i guess 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 11 March On 2 March 2023 15:49:01, Henribear said: If I could get hold of daddy I'd have a lot more to say. I have asked my son why his bully doesn't live at home because his parents are fairly local. I suspect that they want their son to grow up and my son gave him a chance. ive told my son to keep notes about every incident, which are now daily and to record his outbursts. I suspect that this lad is purposely pushing until breaking point. I know what the result will be and I know that the bully will end up being the victim. I'm trying to avoid this I'm sorry to hear that your son is in this situation. If he's able to talk to the bully's father, do you think it might help if you were included in the conversation and could speak to him too? Maybe he'd agree to a solution, e.g. for his son to move back home so that your son can be left in peace to finish his studies. I agree with Anna66. If your son spoke to his lecturers and university about it perhaps one of them could offer him a room or the university could find him a room. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 11 March afaik, most rooms these days do by word of mouth. They never make it to any online portals. Has he told all of his friends and acquaintances that he is looking for a place? Also teachers, tutors, everyone. If the other guy's father owns the aparment, he is your son's landlord and you guys would be well within your rights to complain to him about the impossible living situation. At the very least, he should not need to pay rent if he is being harassed in his room. Maybe call the police, too, when it gets bad. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 11 March So there is no lock on his door? Couldn't he put one in? At least a hook or something? If there is space under the door, maybe a wedge? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 18 March My son is leaving his rooms. His furniture is coming to our house and he hopes to get a room at another frat house until he starts his semester in Spain, end of august. The lad is a total nightmare and daddy does nothing. Daddy is something big at the university but not sure what. I think he piles money into the place. No one wants to take over my sons rooms because the bully has a reputation of being a total nightmare. University is not supporting my son. When the bullies, daddy comes after my son for rent money we will step in. If the room in the other frat house doesn´t work out then my son will need to leave his master course for the next semester but also looking at transferring to Hannover. Of course this is not acceptable but as they say money talks. If my son wedges the door shut the other lad will bang on the door for hours. I didn´t realise that this has been going on for months, my son has only just talked about it because he can not deal with this any more. He´s walking away before he loses his temper and hits the lad, which is probably just what he needs. I hope Daddy is proud of his little darling 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 18 March You assume daddy is in control. Can your son not record the hammering on his phone and present it as evidence of harassment to the nice policeman ? Sounds like he needs to be sectioned. Maybe try the psychiatric route. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
