Posted 27 Dec 2022 I have no idea if this post fits in this subreddit, anyway: I have a new roommate (2 room apartment). She will move in the next days but came very often to hang out with me or brings furniture, etc. for her new room. We got along very well relatively quickly and ''vibed'' (she also told her friends that) as she said. In a few evenings together, we noticed that we have a lot in common and also tick similarly and she said that . One evening she asked me if I was single and would like to have children someday and also said ''this is a bit like dating''. She also suggested, that we could watch movies or series. Then we had an exchange about our love life and I found out that she has ended a 3-year relationship 2 months ago, so she said straight away that she didn't want to have a relationship for the time being (which I think is super reasonable!) and doesn't have time for that either, so of course I then asked which types she likes, and she said that she doesn't really have a type, but that inner values are more important, but it's "important" to her that the person comes from a Russian-speaking area - but isn't that somewhat contradictory? During the conversation we came across dating apps and suggested me using Bumble and so on. Maybe she wants to set me up with someone in her circle of friends, but then she wouldn't say we have a lot in common and stuff. The whole thing is just super confusing and I don't want it to escalate because we already get along very well but I would not mind if this friendship could go anywhere. Am I imagining things or does she already see me as a potential partner? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 27 Dec 2022 1 hour ago, Tedyssey said: so she said straight away that she didn't want to have a relationship for the time being She couldn't be more clear. Oh, and this is not Reddit. It is Toytown. 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 27 Dec 2022 Girl: *is friendly with guy* Guy: *thinks girl wants to fuck.* Here is my advice: don't fuck your roommates. 5 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 27 Dec 2022 5 hours ago, almafreya said: Girl: *is friendly with guy* Guy: *thinks girl wants to fuck.* Here is my advice: don't fuck your roommates. Oh cmon, I was just asking because i got confused signals from her, nothing more. I am more than aware of its danger 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 27 Dec 2022 6 hours ago, hooperski said: Would make a good rom-com. What do you mean 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 30 Dec 2022 On 27/12/2022, 14:02:57, almafreya said: Girl: *breathes* Thirsty Guy: *thinks girl wants to fuck.* Here is my advice: don't fuck your roommates. Fixed that for you. The advice is solid though, so I left that as it was. 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 30 Dec 2022 If you are interested, the best thing you can do is to do nothing. Let her come to you. If and when she is ready. Definitely do not move on her. She will freak. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 30 Dec 2022 Imagine her moving out and you get another roommate like me who fry red chilli atleast 2 times per week before grinding it to a fine paste. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 30 Dec 2022 On 12/27/2022, 4:49:24, Tedyssey said: The whole thing is just super confusing if this is so, what do you do for a living? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 30 Dec 2022 Room-mate? Do you share a room with "them"? Or do you mean 'flat-mate'? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 30 Dec 2022 My shamefully compulsive reading of Reddit AITA and Relationship forums has educated me that room mate does indeed mean flat mate. Bonus information: Dorms are not twelve bedded rooms as in my boarding school days. Little sister or brother means a younger sibling. Even if they're now 30 years old and a 6' tall weightlifter. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 30 Dec 2022 It´s Friday... By the way.. What´s a readit? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 31 Dec 2022 14 hours ago, slammer said: It´s Friday... By the way.. What´s a readit? https://www.reddit.com/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reddit 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 31 Dec 2022 20 hours ago, jubinjohn said: Imagine her moving out and you get another roommate like me who fry red chilli atleast 2 times per week before grinding it to a fine paste. I wouldn't mind a roommate who cooks with chilis. I'd be a bit leery of getting handjobs though. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 31 Dec 2022 42 minutes ago, Malcolm Spudbury said: https://www.reddit.com/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reddit Malcolm... I know what a reddit is, that was just me trying out some Socratic Irony. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 31 Dec 2022 10 minutes ago, slammer said: Malcolm... I know what a reddit is, that was just me trying out some Socratic Irony. Oh dear, how humiliating for @Malcolm Spudbury. Being tricked in to revealing his knowledge of one of the most popular websites in the world. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 31 Dec 2022 Dont fuck Russians and dont fuck your roomate. There, I solved your problems 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 31 Dec 2022 You know what people regret the most… Things we didn’t do. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted 31 Dec 2022 Agree. But the flat will be the poor woman s home. She needs to feel safe. And not like the prey of some letch. She will move on OP if she is so inclined. Utmost respect is the order of the day. If he moves and she is just being innocently friendly, she will write him off as a creep and probably look to leave. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
