Reiseausweis for a child with 3 citizenships but no passes?

[Proton Anna 63]

I am a separated mother of a 6 year old child. For those who are not familiar with the saga regarding my personal life and divorce, i will only say that it is crazy and peculiar, yet most of the details are not that relevant here, so i will only mention the important ones. I am separated from my husband, who has left Germany for his native Hungary, and I have Aufenhatsbestimmungrecht for my son. We still have shared custody, I only applied for sole custody recently, but I understand this will take almost one year. My husband at this point is not cooperative anymore and refuses to sign any document pertaining to anything (he even refused to sign the new Kindergarten contract, I needed to sue him for that too). 

 

So I am inquiring about the possibility of applying for a Reiseausweis for my son. He has citizenships. Lots of them. 3 to be more exact, and will be eligible for the German one too. But it is not all that easy.

His father, who is a Hungarian citizen, applied and for his Hungarian passport a while back. However, upon our separation, he took the Hungarian passport and will not release give it back. (He is bonkers). As he no longer resides in Germany, these is little I can do in this regard. 

 

I am Canadian Romanian. I have both of these citizenships. However, in order to get a passport from these countries, I need the father's signature. My soon-to-be husband informed me that he will not sign anything anymore. I can go to court against him here in Germany regarding this, and I could get a Vollmacht that his signature would not be required for matters regarding passports, however such a document issued by a German court would only be accepted in Canada, and not Romania. Romania informed me that as this involves a Romanian legal document, i would have to sue my husband in a Romanian court. I left Romania when I was 10!! There is no way I will be able to do that. So no Romanian passport for my son for the time being. 

 

Canada is even worse. I need to apply for Canadian citizenship, which will take more than 2 years, and then passport. 

 

What I am left with is German citizenship. We don't have German citizenship yet, but I can apply for it as of now. However, I have a problem here as well, as I was recently informed that until February my son will only be able to stay in Kindergarten until 12:00 (due to lack of staff). So with a maximum of 4 hours of Kindergarten per day, I doubt I will be able to work, And if I can't work, I will have to apply for Harz IV. So no German citizenship for me anytime soon. So no German passport either. 

 

To make this ridiculous story come to an end, I thought maybe I could apply for a Reiseausweis? This is a special situation, and I could get from the judge a Vollmacht even as his father refuses to sign the form. Would he qualify for this?

 

Thank you

Protonmom

 

[jeba 4,349]

Didn´t you write in another thread that the father wants your son to come to Hungary? Couldn´t you make this dependent on that he´ll sign an application for a passport? Don´t you have a claim towards the municipality that they make sure your son is taken care of in the afternoons as well, so that in the afternoon you could employ a Tagesmutter (or a fellow parent from his KIndergarten) and they´d have to pay for it? Worth asking methinks.

[karin_brenig 692]

ok - #1: I feel sorry for you, that is a mess!

 

#2: let's tackle this on step at a time.
 

Why would you need a travel document for your son right now?
If you can wait for your German citizenship to be approved, you should be able to get a German passport for your son too. (Even with a non-cooperative father)
You could also apply for sole custody for your child right now - that year could be over faster than you think.

To be able to apply for German citizenship, you need to keep your job. Find a babysitter/Tagesmutter/day-care/Kindergarten for your child that allows you to work. Talk to your current employer about a (temporary) reduction of your work hours - until you find full-time care for your child. Also, depending on your line of work, there are many home-office/remote jobs available (Thanks to COVID19).

[Proton Anna 63]

1 hour ago, karin_brenig said:

ok - #1: I feel sorry for you, that is a mess!

 

#2: let's tackle this on step at a time.
 

Why would you need a travel document for your son right now?
If you can wait for your German citizenship to be approved, you should be able to get a German passport for your son too. (Even with a non-cooperative father)
You could also apply for sole custody for your child right now - that year could be over faster than you think.

To be able to apply for German citizenship, you need to keep your job. Find a babysitter/Tagesmutter/day-care/Kindergarten for your child that allows you to work. Talk to your current employer about a (temporary) reduction of your work hours - until you find full-time care for your child. Also, depending on your line of work, there are many home-office/remote jobs available (Thanks to COVID19).

Yes. I will start applying for jobs right now. I am aiming for a home office position, But even there one needs Betreuung. I mean, doing 4 hours of work per day every day while my son runs amok outside somewhere is not the best scenario. 

Here is the thing with Tagesmutter, First of all, none is available, at least not for the specific times. I would need someone from 12:00 to 16:00. Secondly, a Tagesmutter for the whole day until february, when I will have a full time kiundergarden place, is also not in the best interests of my kiud. Isn't the whole point of Eingewöhnung to get the child to get accustomed to the new institution? I can't bring my child somewhere else until February, only to have him change to kindergarten again. 

Babysitters charge 10 euros per hour. 4 hours per day, times 5, that's 200 euros in a week. 

[Proton Anna 63]

7 hours ago, jeba said:

Didn´t you write in another thread that the father wants your son to come to Hungary? Couldn´t you make this dependent on that he´ll sign an application for a passport? Don´t you have a claim towards the municipality that they make sure your son is taken care of in the afternoons as well, so that in the afternoon you could employ a Tagesmutter (or a fellow parent from his KIndergarten) and they´d have to pay for it? Worth asking methinks.

Yes, I will look into it. The mayor of the town told me to find a job first, and then let's see. Whatever that means.

I am working on my application right now. 

[jeba 4,349]

What about trying to find a (part-time) job which allows you to have your son with you? Like babysitter.

[Proton Anna 63]

2 hours ago, jeba said:

What about trying to find a (part-time) job which allows you to have your son with you? Like babysitter.

Sure. That could be a solution. I would need to be able to support myself with it, and also be able to bring my son to Kindergarten, as he is vorschulekind. And I live in a small village about 60 km north of HB Munich. I guess I could do something part time. 

[klingklang77 499]

Have you gone to your local Jobcenter and asked for a social worker? I highly suggest talking to a social worker. They are there for people who have too much going on. They would really help you out right now.