Sending daughter to school 1 year later.

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My daughter will be 6 in April and we have already enrolled her for school starting in September.

 

However due to Corona and the amount of pre-school (at kindergarten) she has missed I am now thinking of sending her to school next year when she is 7 and allowing

her one more year at Kindergarten (pre-school).

 

Is it possible to delay her school for one year? 

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Is she part of a close knit group all of whom are going together? If so, that's probably a reason to let her start with them. 

 

If not, in our area, either the kiga or the school itself would be your starting point, and they would tell you who to contact - to get approval as vronchen says.  

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Hi, I hope you don’t mind me posting here, I’m new to this and didn’t know how to start a new post! 
I have to a slight opposite issue to yours. My daughter is also an April born and she is 5 now. She is very bright and in a private school which means she will get a lot of attention in a class of no more than 15 kids. I decided to start her in first grade this year and had her tested by a therapist for her IQ and emotional readiness and the therapist strongly suggested not to hold her back. I am still indecisive and the director of the school thinks she should stay in kindergarten for another year. I am worried this will drag her down. She’s been talking about going to first class for the past few months already. I worry the director’s decision is only based on financials and not what’s best for my child especially that her teacher was initially on board and acknowledges my daughter’s intellectual capabilities. 
I am like you covid is making me think to wait another year mainly bcos I don’t want her to be home schooled in the first and most critical year of life doesn’t get back to normal by September. 
does anyone have some experience or opinion that can help me make up my mind!  

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Have you considered a Montessori school? There she could go ahead at her own speed which seems very beneficial for a child like you describe. They may have more than 15 kids/class but 2 teachers/class.

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No bcos albeit we live in Germany she’s in the French section at her school. She speaks all three languages (French, German and English) fluently. as I do everything with her in English I put would like for her to get her education in French as it’s her second mother tongue. 

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If you think it's right and so did the teacher, then push it.

 

It can be undone by eg. repeating the first year of secondary.

 

We have friends who did that - no long lasting bad effects, and he was very 'ready' at 5, and was fine all through Grundschule. When he went into the Gesamtschule he was a bit overwhelmed, and the repeat of Kl 5 was brilliant for him. All good.

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6 hours ago, EH said:

Hi, I hope you don’t mind me posting here, I’m new to this and didn’t know how to start a new post! 
I have to a slight opposite issue to yours. My daughter is also an April born and she is 5 now. She is very bright and in a private school which means she will get a lot of attention in a class of no more than 15 kids. I decided to start her in first grade this year and had her tested by a therapist for her IQ and emotional readiness and the therapist strongly suggested not to hold her back. I am still indecisive and the director of the school thinks she should stay in kindergarten for another year. I am worried this will drag her down. She’s been talking about going to first class for the past few months already. I worry the director’s decision is only based on financials and not what’s best for my child especially that her teacher was initially on board and acknowledges my daughter’s intellectual capabilities. 
I am like you covid is making me think to wait another year mainly bcos I don’t want her to be home schooled in the first and most critical year of life doesn’t get back to normal by September. 
does anyone have some experience or opinion that can help me make up my mind!  

 

We had a similar situation when my oldest started school.   He will finish Abitur in the coming weeks, so we have gone full cycle.  We enrolled at age 5 against the recommendation of the Kita.   

 

In retrospect, we would focus on social development factors much more than academic factors if we needed to make the same decision again.   Academic performance was never an issue, but in the early years, differences in maturity were apparent.

 

Good luck.

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Thank u so much for this insight.. it’s exactly what I try to focus on.. I don’t think too much of how my child will perform academically, I wouldn’t care if she had to reaper a year 10times as long as she’s happy, learning and doing something she loves in the long term. I have a PhD and my sister hardly finished her high school. She’s a way more successful person than I am and runs her own business today. Point is I don’t measure success in school as success in life... I just think if my child is really advanced then she may be discouraged and bored if not challenged. She’s an only child of a single mother.  I give her all my time and attention which translates to her spending way too much time with an adult, speaking and behaving like one took. it really is so difficult to decide on her maturity. I have invited different friends of different ages for play dates and observed her closely. She seems to interact more with the older kids and get frustrated with the younger ones or ones of her age.

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