What is the least diplomatic question you have ever been asked?

[Santitas 319]

I got married a year ago, and people have been asking non-stop if I’m pregnant. Two weeks ago someone took it to another level by asking, na, fleißig dabei? 

 

I didn’t even know how to answer. I was left with my mouth hanging open as she hopped on her bike and rode away.

[Anna66 2,010]

Once I laughed really loudly at a joke, at the time I was really really skinny, a guy turned to me and said.

"You laughed so hard your tits fell off!" When I finally did gain a few pounds some idiot actually asked me if I had had a boob job "Are they real? Or did you get a boob job?" Seriously.

 

When I was 9 months pregnant these women walked past me in a shopping center and pointed "Das ist fett"- That is fat. I shouted back at them, that is 9 months pregnant.

 

When I was child I asked if I could have a go on this boys bike. He had one of those cool new ones that were really popular at the time. His answer was "No because you are a girl and are dressed wrong!"

 

 

[john g. 28,071]

...noticeable how it´s not only men who can be catty about women!

[dj_jay_smith 3,242]

16 hours ago, Anna66 said:

When I was 9 months pregnant these women walked past me in a shopping center and pointed "Das ist fett"- That is fat. I shouted back at them, that is 9 months pregnant.

 

A former colleague of mine was very slim and when she was pregnant she also remained quite slim (different woman carry it differently after all).  

So as to ensure that there was no doubt about her pregnancy she started wearing a scarf/bandanna around the bottom of her baby bump almost like an extended belt. 

This helped to draw your attention to the bump as well as show it off as being a baby bump and not just fat.

 

I thought that this was a very good idea and it worked well.  It also suited the way she would dress, which of course helps.

[RedMidge 5,137]

I bumped into a friend some years ago. We had worked together, but lost touch. I had met her family, and her mum was lovely.

 

Me: Hi, nice to meet. How are you and how is your mum?

Friend: I am not too well, my mother died last month.

Me: So sorry- deepest sympathies. What are you doing now and how is John? ( Twin brother)

Friend: He died in a car accident last year.

We had coffee, but I was afraid to ask any more questions.

[Sannerl 318]

My father asking me if I was pregnant when I was seriously sick one day...

[dessa_dangerous 10,055]

mine is/are more a series of questions that I find highly undiplomatic: 

 

random German: where are you from?

me. Seattle

rg: ?

me: in the northwestern US, about a two hour drive from the Canadian border.

rg: (amused) no, I mean, where are you really from?

me: I'm really from Seattle

rg: (lightly exasperated sigh) no, I mean, where are your parents from?

me: they're also American

rg: come on, you know what I mean

me: you want to know why I'm brown

rg: I'm not a racist!

 

repeat ad nauseum

 

sometimes followed up with

 

rg: where are your parents from

me: US 

rg: you know what I mean! where in Africa?

me: no clue

rg: how can you not know? my great grandparents are from [three or four random central/eastern European countries and/or Bundesländer]

me: slavery

rg: what a horrible thing to say!

me: (ROLLS EYES HARD) history isn't always pretty. (mentally:clueless douche)

[jeremytwo 2,237]

49 minutes ago, dessa_dangerous said:

mine is/are more a series of questions that I find highly undiplomatic: 

 

random German: where are you from?

me. Seattle

 

Seattle btw is a beautiful city. I went there in the 90s. Loved it. Those flying fish in Pike Place Market! :)

[BethAnnBitt 96]

On 8/14/2019, 7:54:19, RedMidge said:

I bumped into a friend some years ago. We had worked together, but lost touch. I had met her family, and her mum was lovely.

 

Me: Hi, nice to meet. How are you and how is your mum?

Friend: I am not too well, my mother died last month.

Me: So sorry- deepest sympathies. What are you doing now and how is John? ( Twin brother)

Friend: He died in a car accident last year.

We had coffee, but I was afraid to ask any more questions.

People who are processing loss, especially multiple losses, often feel very isolated from others.  When others can simply be present with them in the moment it is extremely helpful.  One often doesn't realize how helpful he or she can be by just being good, non-judgmental listener.  It's a great gift.  

[john g. 28,071]

Here’s a selfie on the most undiplomatic answer to a question!

Walking the dogs in our Greek village can be strenuous: often hot, dodging speeding cars, walking the gauntlet past certain people who look at us disdainfully ( walking dogs? Urgh? ), trying not to hit my head on tree branches in the middle of pavements etc ) and the ubiquitous :  “ pou pas ? “ ( where are you going? )...

 

It can be very strenuous indeed and , with the best will in the world , I can get shirty. 

Once, and feeling stressed and impatient , and upon hearing: “ pou pas? “, I just said: “  we’re going to a brothel. “

I said it in English cos I didn’t ( and still don’t ) know the Greek for it.?

The old neighbour just smiled though she didn’t understand  and said “ bravo. “

 

?

 

Edit: just googled for fun! Brothel is porneio!! 

[fraufruit 29,202]

1 hour ago, BethAnnBitt said:

People who are processing loss, especially multiple losses, often feel very isolated from others.  When others can simply be present with them in the moment it is extremely helpful.  One often doesn't realize how helpful he or she can be by just being good, non-judgmental listener.  It's a great gift.  

 

Amen!

[Magmax 89]

I am polite to people awould never sak anyone rude questions let alone a prefect stranger but i was asked a lot of insulting questions by some people just ignore is the best way to deal vith it.,

[HH_Sailor 1,208]

3 hours ago, dessa_dangerous said:

random German: where are you from?

me. Seattle

 

 

Hmm, odd. That happened to me early '90s as I started work in Hamburg.

 

random German: where are you from?

me: UK, well England actually

random German: where before that?

me: well born near Manchester - you know - Manchester United - in England.

random German: no, before that...

 

And repeat...

 

[dessa_dangerous 10,055]

@HH_Sailor did they also inform you that you don't "look English"?

 

I wish I had $100,000 for every time someone told me I don't "look" American. 

[black1 1,584]

Some waiter guy asked my brother's black girlfriend why she was at our wedding.

[john g. 28,071]

Jeez, black1- That is terrible. Where was that?

[Alexnf 1,975]

1 hour ago, john g. said:

 

 

Edit: just googled for fun! Brothel is porneio!! 

 

Mpourdelo will also do  

[BethAnnBitt 96]

2 hours ago, BethAnnBitt said:

 

 

[jeremytwo 2,237]

1 hour ago, john g. said:

Edit: just googled for fun! Brothel is porneio!! 

 

Bet you never accidentally stayed in one! Erm...

[john g. 28,071]

I obviously have less experience in such as environment than you, Alex!!

By the way, did you  steal that word from the Italians or VICE versa?