Are lap dances cheating?

[yoyo 2]

Ladies, if your husband, boyfriend or SO got a lapdance, would you consider a form of cheating ? If not, would it piss you off? And how would you feel if he told you that he liked it? Would it make you go insane? Just wondering. :ph34r:

[Bubble Gum 15]

i don't consider it cheating, and i would hope he likes it. It means he is straight.

[DDBug 1,665]

seconded, bubble gum!

 

or, yoyo, how about if you got a lap dance from someone (or something similar) would you consider yourself as a cheater?

[Guest]

I wouldn't consider it cheating, but I would be pissed off about it (although I think it's wrong to be).

[MoiLV 18]

I don't consider it cheating, but I wouldn't really like witnessing it. If he liked it, you just have to give him one yourself and show him who's boss...

[potterstreet 8]

my reaction to my partner getting a lap dance would depend upon the situation. if it's a stag night or similar, then go, have fun and enjoy. if i were to find out that he was getting them surreptitiously on a regular basis, then i'd be upset, but otherwise no, i would not be bothered at all.

[ajohnson 16]

I agree with Bubble Gum on this one...not cheating and damn well better like or something's definitely wrong with him.

 

My suggestions:

1. Go with him (my fiance and I have gone togehter and it's some of the most fun that we've had together not to mention the festivities after we get home).

2. Try not to get too worked up about it. Most men are like this. To get jealous over this, shows a bit of insecurity in the relationship.

3. Give him a lap dance yourself if you want to keep him out of those establishments.

 

just my 2 cents for what it's worth...

[parnell 68]

karma to all the ladies as i head to Prague this weekend... ajohnson deserves a mega hit for going with her guy ... nuthin better

[bhupeshis 4]

With all due respects to all ladies on this forum and everywhere...

 

Well, I beleive as per my personal experience, that ladies are very very possesive about their loved one. They may say at your face that it's okay with them, but in their heart they would definately NOT like a bit about it...

 

-Bhupesh

[HollyGolightly 22]

I agree...

if its a stipper or what have you its fine...

if its his exgirlfriend or former wife or something like that you are allowed to be pissed

if it really bothers you, I say be honest with him and give him your own private showing

;)

[yoyo 2]

@bubblegum

 

Yeah sure I have had lap dances and no, I do not consider it cheating. With that said however, the whole "lookie lookie but no nookie" thing is a bit strange to me. The guy just receives an emptier wallet and a case of blue balls. I prefer to have a chance in the game if I am that close to the ballpark.

 

Guess it depends on the parameters set by the couple involved. Some would consider it cheating, others wouldn't.

[Bubble Gum 15]

Nicole raises a good point. I was assuming strippers but if it is in another environment, I think I would have a problem with it.

 

I think, and this is only my opinion, that if you are in a relationship and go out with the guys and get a lapdance thats okay, thats normal. It is also normal to be turned on and maybe want something more in the heat of the moment. But to pursue it...I think that's taking it too far if you are in a monogomous relationship. Because, obviously, you agree to only be with that person and you should stick to it.

[Johnny English 3,071]

I think I posted once on this subject before. I was on rugby tour in Vancouver a few years ago. We would drink in the stripper bars 'cos there was no entrance fee and the beer cost the same. One of the strippers on the raised stage walked over and started heckling me...cos I was reading a book at the table.

 

I bloody hate those places. I just cannot for the life of me see how people find them even vaguely sexually exciting - I guess I must be wired up wrong internally or something? Watching a stripper is about as sexually exciting as mowing the lawn.

 

I think the problem is my VERY limited imagination. I do not even for a nano-second think "hey this girl fancies me and wants to play with my bendy toy" but more like "Those are plastic, I can see the surgeon cuts".

[crowes 1]

i dont see it as cheating watching strippers, its not like your going to have one off the wrist in a packed lap dancing club or even private room. you would have your arse kicked out if you even tried having a tug the ladies do not permit it.

[Johnny English 3,071]

 

the ladies do not permit it

Everything is available at a price in this world!

[kitkat64 461]

It would not bother me at all. I trust my guy - so whatever. Hell, he even met up with his ex-girlfriend from like 10 years ago(that we ran into in a restuarant) who now lives in Munich(with her fiance). He said he wouldn't go if it bothered me. I said 'it doesn't bother me because I'm not the jealous type, but don't think about making a habit of it' and then I added 'just reverse the situation - how would you feel if I suddenly mentioned that I was getting together with Jim-Bob(my ex, not really but...). He didn't even think for a minute about how much that bothered him.

 

Trust me, I know where he is 24/7

[Johnny English 3,071]

God I love women:

 

 

I'm not the jealous type

Trust me, I know where he is 24/7

[crowes 1]

i think the seedier the club the more activity is permitted, yeah your right mr english

[HollyGolightly 22]

:lol:

@ JE

I was thinking the same thing!

 

But my point is not that he would be going to a resturant with his ex...it would be a lapdance from his ex...that is the question of the thread...about lap dances

 

and that would NOT be ok

[Inflatablewoman 34]

 

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