The women addicted to Facebook friendships

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In America the term "friends" is used rather loosely. "AcquaintanceBook" just doesn't slip off the tongue so easily...

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FB helped me to see Perdido's new pirate look ;)

I have ca. 350 friends on Facebook but for me that's normal considering I've lived in 5 different cities and been to uni (huge social network). Sure not all of them are best buddies. Can you imagine though implementing what someone suggested above regarding different lists? People would get offended as to why they weren't on the 'Close Friends' list for example.

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350??? wow get you!

I've got about 150 I think but they are all people I know at least that, though some of them are on 'limited profile' (including my mum!).

one of my friends, a lawyer in London has about 700 friends, she is having a race with her friend. bit sad really...

 

I like Facebook for the photos function, no need to email friends zipped photos any more. also have found a few old friends and some relatives too.

and I can also still annoy Sin even though he's not on TT any more mwahaha...

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Can you imagine though implementing what someone suggested above regarding different lists? People would get offended as to why they weren't on the 'Close Friends' list for example.

I really don't want my mother seeing everything;-)

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Mr. David Smallwood has clearly been put on block by his ex-wife and this article is his way of striking back.

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I guess, this kind of thing will never happen in Germany (at least to the extent, others are doing). Recently, there was a German show on Television, which checked how people maintain their privacy. The host of this show randomly searched for different people on Google and other search engines and found a couple of people, explicitly sharing all the stuff they are doing, in chronological order. There was also a guy, who ordered for some porn books and you could see this info on some sites. This host picked on some teenage girl, who posted everything that she was doing and where she travelled, since 2 years. He (host of the show) printed around 20/30 typical pictures of her in different poses (dressed minimally) and bumped into her, on some busy street and showed her all the pictures and claimed that he knows everything that she did, in the last 2 years. Germans/German Govt. knows how to control people. I guess, the typical attitude of the people over here, rule-based life and other things like the history of wars they fought makes it a typical country and thats why we don't normally see much German stuff floating around on the internet (I mean people/private information).

yasni.de seems to have a hug file on every web site Germany dwelling people may have contributed to. I counted my blessings, only to google myself (I know, I can go blind doing that) and found that some search engine called Reunion.com has my info. How? It also lists my dad, my brother, my dad's cousins, my age, and my present address. Unbelievable. Now if I win Publishers Clearing House millions (joke) anybody can drive right up to my house! I am really annoyed. Of course, you can't write to Reunion.com unless you sign up, which is essentially giving them permission to post about you. Unreal.

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I stupidly used my first and last name a very long time ago on the BBC website about a topic that was then current. Then my college decided to brag about my (former) good grades. I asked them to take it down, but it still floats in cyberspace. And now, within the last couple of weeks, everything about me is out there. Anyone can tell me who my relatives are, their ages, and where they live, plus my own age and residence. Great. Just drive right up!

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Linkedin.com is another great way to stay in contact with people. It is a professional networking tool so in essence...Facebook for professionals. I see the same thing on Linkedin with people requesting a connection who I met once at a party in college!!! Whenever you have an online tool people will use it in different ways (boost self esteem, actually make friends, stalk, flirt, or use the tool for what it was made for)!

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HellesAngel: All based around the assumption that anyone on the planet gives a shit what she's doing.

Not everyone on the planet. She just has loads of friends from Waterloo Univ, Toronto and Vancouver. This is the only site that they share all of their stuff.

 

 

Linkedin.com is another great way to stay in contact with people.

This site was actually an idea to avoid people with fake professional backgrounds. Its a good site, but in some cases, it's not much different from other social-networking sites. If you setup a profile, sometimes you come across some people (whom you have just met once or had a conversation) requesting you to add connection, so that they can claim that they know some guy with high-profile professional background.

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I love Facebook because I am really bad at keeping in touch with people and I can write one thing and anyone who cares can go read it. Great! I also get to hear about my cousin in Florida becoming an MD, and the other one in Portland having a preemie. People from back home write what they are doing so if they come to Europe I can tell them to look me up, or I can write when I will be back home so they can try to meet up with me if they care to...

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One of my friends, a 'real' friend, not a cyber friend, has over 450 'friends' on Facebook, i'm pretty sure he has only ever actually met 20 percent of them.

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No real answers but a few thoughts (like this thread)

And how is accepting friendship requests from perfect strangers so different than chatting with someone in a queue (not that that happens in Germany so much)?

How is FB taking more advantage of young girls than the rest of society? We've all seen girls who show more cleavage or wear minimal clothing get more 'friends' than modest girls.

I'm grateful I've got an easy way of keeping in contact with friends who've moved to Hong Kong, UK, Europe, US, Australia (or been left behind.) I'm grateful for social networking sites for helping me make friends in new cities; FB, TT, whatever.

Are these netowrking sites another pale reflection of society, or a rough first cut at a distributed consciousness/awareness?

I'm struggling to get 120 friends - but mostly because use of FB has a slow uptake. These are all people with whom I've shared some part of my life and whom I will always call friends.

I am still waiting for my first love to contact me. I threw up at her 5th birthday because of too much cake. maybe that's why...

And how do you lose 2 brothers. (I'm grateful they found you perdido.)

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One of my friends, a 'real' friend, not a cyber friend, has over 450 'friends' on Facebook, i'm pretty sure he has only ever actually met 20 percent of them.

I have 378 friends on facebook and I've only ever not met 10 of them. They are from online games I used to play. And one of them is a friend of a friend whom I added as hell would have broken loose had I not.

 

I don't really like having people on there who I have never spoken to though. I'm not someone who will add people because I vaguely remember them from highschool either. I only add people from real life who I know, as in have met and spoken to etc.

 

I don't really it when people you never met will add you and then strike up a conversation or something.

 

Just wanted to say some of us with lots of friends are legit.

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Why Facebook is actually a good thing:

 

Reason #1: My friend who moved to Dubai used facebook to ask me to go race Ferraris with him. He did not have my mobile, landline, new email...no other way to get a hold of me. Maybe extreme...but I think it's a great reason :)

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