dessa_dangerous

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  1. What's got you flummoxed today?

    Yes.  They really hate being called out on their shit.  It is one thing to lean on the people around you, and it's OK to expect them to just listen.  But when every day they are befallen by new and insurmountable problems, things that most people would find a way over, around, or through, you start to want them to realize that they do in fact have some degree of control over their lives.  But if they were to actually work at finding solutions to the things which plague them, they'd have nothing else to talk about.  No other way of drawing attention to themselves.  Sad really, but you can't let it become a full-time job for you, too.  And when they lose their narcissistic supply (you) they tend to lose their composure.  The mask falls, they're losing control over you.  I wish these people were rarer, these energy suckers.  When they're old we're more likely to give in and be more tolerant, for longer.  But most of them have probably been playing these same games their whole lives.
  2. What's got you flummoxed today?

      Literally the only reason a person says that is to be manipulative.  It doesn't mean they're not actually troubled and depressed--I mean, of course they are, it's far from a normal, healthy thing to do.  But at some point a person is at least partially responsible for how they cope with their mental health issues.  I find that the more reinforcement people get from manipulating others, the more they'll do it.  They begin to think they are actually fooling you.  Or that you are allowing yourself to be manipulated and are therefore complicit.  You're in on it.  So they keep going.  I realize I'm not telling you anything you don't know.  But it can be hard to stay strong sometimes.  A very close relative of mine does this.  At some point I told her, "you've been dying for the past 30 years already" and guess what?  Oooohwee, that made the rounds faster than you could say boo.  Far from the feeble, sorrowful impression she wished to make, she was blazing mad and made sure everyone in the family knew what an unfeeling, ungrateful little bitch I am.  Essentially she was trying to put pressure on me, to be so shamed from all corners of the family that I would eventually take it back..  Aha.  I did not tell her "Na dann" but like you, I was also having. none. of. it.  Basta.
  3. Politics Gen XYZ

      Merkel's married, so little need for a "new love in her life," and almost certainly doesn't give a rat's ass what john g. from Toytown thinks about her appearance  I think she always looks very nicely put together.  I even like her little blazers in their calm autumn tones and she often wears some interesting jewelry, especially her necklaces of asymmetrical polished agate and the like.  I don't know how else you want her to look. She's a Head of State, one of the most powerful people on Earth, not a contestant on The Bachelor, hoping john g. from Toytown might think she looks good enough to take out for an ouzo and a slice of pizza.  For an almost 70-year-old woman with a terrifically arduous, complicated and difficult job she is doing quite all right IMO.  
  4.   thank you!!  I'll reset the receiver then.
  5. Has it happened to anyone else?  First one, then, a few weeks later, the other one.  Is it an evil plot by CNN and EuroNews to get me to watch more of their networks?  Because it's working, and I'm so not happy about it.  The CNN anchors are just way too sassy for me, I realize I have been away from the US for a long time but I could have sworn there was a time when CNN was halfway professional.  Now they basically remind me of FOX News except with a heavy Democratic (but not necessarily leftist) bias.  Fareed is good, I set aside time to watch GPS.  The rest of them truly upset me.      Anyway, HALP.  Does anyone know what I can do to get those stations back, or why they have gone, or if they are simply gone forever in Berlin/Germany?   Thanks.
  6. @fraufruit I like her too.
  7. @pappnase thanks for the edit.  Yes, it's PYUR, they recently sent us some spam about paying for their shit but I didn't pay it much mind.  I have all those channels except the pay ones.  I guess I must have this CI+Module because I have all those channels too.  Just not BBC.  Thanks very much, I think you've solved it!  I guess I need to fiddle around with my receiver again.  
  8. Thank you, I did do a rescan and changed my settings to auto-update which is often a pain.  I keep waiting for either channel to reemerge, but nope, it's always bad radio stations, infomercial/spam channels, and oddly, an unseemly amount of Christian programming  have considered resetting everything again, which takes a bit, but worth a try.
  9. Can you get kicked out of Germany for shoplifting?

      definitely not the case in Berlin.  In fact, they have SO much security, they go chasing down innocent people who haven't stolen anything at all.  In recent years this reached my wider circles a couple of times.  And they did not offer apologies or restitution or anything of the sort.  
  10. I have heard both of those things about Sky but never really checked them out too much because their format didn't appeal to me.  And of course, on my TV set at home I have both Sky Sports News HD and Sky News Arabia  but nothing in English.  Conspiracy!     I do watch the local news in German, actually, most of my news is watched in German, except on weekends, and during the commercials.
  11.   Do you actually watch Al Jazeera?  I know that they sometimes take a critical view of Israel's policies.  But calling Al-Jazeera English a propaganda network is a bit much.  They often report things the other stations don't pick up.  RT does the same but is very obviously propaganda.  Although I have found them interesting from time to time.   And it's a funny term to throw around.  In general I found both BBC and Al Jazeera to at least *present* in a somewhat professional, objective, journalistic manner.  But for example CNN is too extreme for me.  Even when we're supposed to be on the same "side", they are just too much editorial, speculation, opinion and downright gossip to take seriously anymore.  And they are definitely propaganda.  They talk about Republicans the way FOX talks about everybody else.  That's why nobody takes FOX seriously, because they make themselves look like idiots.  Both are propaganda networks.  But Al-Jazeera, if they were, then they did a good job of concealing it.  They always made a pretty professional impression to me and they reported on interesting things in corners of the world the Western networks don't seem to give much of a shit about.
  12.   so, I had BBC through my regular cable box for years, and then it was suddenly just gone.   If I really wanted to stream it online I have a VPN, but again, like I said, I also won't go to any great lengths to access it.  It was just nice to have while it was there.  
  13.   Thanks for the suggestions.  I don't want to spend anything.  When I watch shows for entertainment I stream online.  When I am seriously interested in news I usually read it, also online.  The TV news is honestly just a distraction while I'm working out.  I can and do easily replace it with anything else that happens to be on.  If it is a big hassle to chase down either of those stations, I will simply leave it be, I will definitely not pay money to access them and in my free time I don't seek them out either.  But I'll still tune in for GPS.
  14. Maybe a better question is, does anyone else still have these channels on their basic cable?  If everybody else still has it and I'm the only one that lost them, then maybe it's a problem with the receiver.
  15. Thanks.  I just have a regular TV and a newish cable box.  The TV has USB ports but I don't have any Firestick thingies or anything similar.  The cable is connected with a cord to the house cable.  I primarily watch the news during/after working out, so it's not that I don't know how to access the news sources I want online, but it's not very convenient or desired when I'm on the elliptical or on the floor.  I just want to turn on the TV and flip around every once in a while to skip commercials but otherwise not have to put too much thought into it.
  16. Can you get kicked out of Germany for shoplifting?

    @MikeMelga I'm wiping tears!!!  the veterinarian one is great. The two umbrellas in the same day is also somehow poetic.
  17. Can you get kicked out of Germany for shoplifting?

      I have been given this opportunity many times, and it is always my absolute pleasure, especially in Germany, where strangers don't talk to each other much and you're terrified to even speak to people who actually *work* in the frigging store when you need help.  Smaller people, old people, fragile grannies, maybe because I am always looking somehow "aufmerksam" they often ask me to get stuff for them and it makes_my_whole_day.  Hard to explain.  I already enjoy being tall and then sometimes it is even useful for something.  Another thing that makes my day is reading packages for people who either don't read German, or don't read at all, or just forgot their glasses.  People seem to like to ask me for help and they have no idea what it does for me.  In this shitty world, to help a stranger for a second, to be asked for help and be able to help... I dunno.  It's good, very good.   Today I gave someone else the opportunity to help me, and it seemed to do him good, too.  At the stupid Bio-Markt in the mall.  He was just minding his business looking at the smoked tofu (oh barf) and I conscripted him to help me decide whether to try out tempeh.  And in the end I didn't buy it and I thanked him for the consultation and although he was a little taken aback at first when I just started talking to him out of the blue, by the end of it, he honestly looked *so* pleased to have been able to help me.     Uh, back on topic--we had this one already.  I don't know if proving you spend a lot of money in a place is going to help you.  First, because we've (hopefully) already established that people shoplift all the time with money in their pocket, and they almost always pay for most of their stuff.  But for whatever reason, and there are many, they decide that it would be more fun to steal one thing and pay for the rest.  They think that no one will think they are stealing, because they paid for a cart full of stuff.  So, it's not that "but here's proof I wanted to pay" isn't actually valid in some cases, unfortunately though, it's the exact same MO as actual thieves.   Second, because the point of prosecuting or banning shoplifters is not to let them know they've been bad, evil people, but to deter them from doing it again.  The point is that you did it, even if you didn't mean to do it, obviously somehow you've got to learn to pay more attention.  When I hear that Mike says he can't help it, he's absent-minded, I wonder, how hard can it be, you literally have one job at the store--pay for your shit.  But then I also hear that he left the house in his undies and I think... OK, maybe we have an outlier here  Hope you never have to find out the hard way!
  18. Things to ponder

    really?  I wonder if the lawyer had not included his nationality whether anyone would have reacted that way toward him.  If he had just said, "I'm a lawyer, want to talk to other lawyers" we wouldn't be here talking about this now.  But because he wanted to talk to black lawyers and he happens to be from Africa, it's worthy of abuse and suspicion.   Sorry Midge, it's just racist.  There was not a single thing about it that sounded scammy, apart from the all-important word, "Tanzania."  People read that and lost all respect for the post and the poster.  He wants to do some projects with other people.  Not leasing an apartment or selling puppies.  Essentially it was even an offer of employment.  Ohhhkay then.
  19. Things to ponder

    blah, blah, blah.  Tell it to your diary.
  20. Things to ponder

      no, but you greened the very rude, demeaning and nasty comments left to troll him.  Those comments got removed.  Yet no one reported them, either, for being utterly unnecessary, unkind, combative and hostile.
  21. Things to ponder

      Well, the whole world does color.  Just not often in your direction.  It's one of the great advantages of not being seen to HAVE a color.  Can there be any more privileged statement in the world?  Guess what, many people don't have the luxury of not being confronted with color (their own) every day.   john, if it makes you feel any better (and it shouldn't), you're only one of a handful of people I'm mad at right now.  You're the only one getting yelled at for it now because you were the only one with the balls and/or utter folly to open your mouth and try to defend it.
  22. Things to ponder

    what the fuck, john, the man is from Tanzania, nothing to do with Nigeria. You and the others obviously don't believe they have lawyers in Tanzania?  You think they're just all bobbing around their huts chucking spears at each other to settle disputes or what?  What spam?  He wants to talk to OTHER BLACK lawyers, how does that even affect you, or the majority of anyone on Toytown?  Or *anyone* on Toytown for that matter? Pretty weak plan for a scam.  If he'd have made a ridiculous offer, like the other person did, say, for a too-cheap apartment sold from a different continent, that would have been one thing.  But no.  It was simply too unbelievable that Tanzania has just one lawyer.  €50 an hour is a fucking ludicrous amount of money to pay for that service yet we've got you fawning all over its OP and another member actually signing up, hope she makes sure to exercise a healthy skepticism and ask the right questions before traipsing over to the home of some stranger luring her with a really baffling offer.  Like to me that sounds like what a bad person does to get stupid people over to their house so he can do bad things to them.  But the black man can't be a lawyer.  Get the fuck out of here with that bullshit.
  23. Things to ponder

    so when a lawyer makes a post trying to network it must be a scam but when someone claims they're going to pay €50 an hour once OR TWICE a week to play with their two-year-old in English, no one bats an eyelid.  Where are the trolling comments and multiple reports about how there is something fishy about offering to pay €50 an hour to a glorified babysitter?  The racism on this forum makes me sick to my fucking stomach sometimes.
  24. Lawyer looking for black colleagues, journalists

    I've sent you a PM.
  25. Things to ponder

      might be incest--frightfully not uncommon--but it might be any other number of forms of abuse, too.  Other things that might do the job include dad beating the mom, dad being emotionally abusive to everyone, dad cheating on the mom and everyone knew it, or being totally checked out, disinterested and indifferent since forever.  But that's not to sweep sexual abuse off the table.  It's only one of many things that might make a family fail to mourn their relative.  I was at a funeral for a father and grandfather some years ago.  40 of his friends and family were in the church.  No one wanted to speak, not his wife, none of his kids.  The pastor did his best to say a few words over this man he never knew, and had a hard time of it, too.  It was very awkward.  At the wake afterward no one mentioned his name.  We ate and drank and talked about our lives.  There was not a moist eye in the place.  I don't know if it was incest (though I doubt it very much).  But he was a grumpy, shitty old git that made the lives of everyone around him harder and by the time he died no one was particularly sad to see him go.