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  1. 1 hour ago, food mom said:

    @arunadasi:  congratulations to all! Here's hoping that all are well and healthy! Very auspicious, being born on a full moon! Kudos to mom & pop!


    25 minutes ago, fraufruit said:

    Monster sized congratulations!!!! I know you are already besotted!!


    8 minutes ago, john g. said:

    Massive and joyful congratulations to you all arunadasi!!!


    Thanks to all of you, and yes, all are in best of health and they already went home last night from hospital. The care in the NHS hospital, indeed care before and after birth, was excellent, already today, on a Sunday, a midwife came round to visit and check up.

    Remember I went to a wedding in Bali last year? The daughter of my best friend who had died from cancer? Well guess what, she had a baby, a son, yesterday too! I represented her mother at the wedding and I feel kind of like a maternal foster-grandma for that baby too.


  2. Just wanted to say that Barmer finally acknowledged me as Pflichtversichert. But no help from the NHS.


    I had sent them (Barmer) original NHS cards which stated that I was covered, as well as a letter from my last GP confirming I was an NHS patient since 2001.


    However, there is still the complication of my income as a writer, which is still going to be assessed for my contributions. And the complication that I applied to the Künstlersozialkasse for admission back in October, and they are taking their time...


    A call to them (KSK)  last week confirmed that the assessment is finished and the application has moved on to the boss. So when I got a letter a few days ago I was relieved -- untill I opened it and saw that they want more information, this time regarding my move to Ireland. Is it temporary or permanent? Am I still active as an artist in Germany, and will I continue to do whetever artistic stuff I do in Germany?


    The answers are "permanent" and "no". 

    Plus they wanted proof of when I left Germany.


    So I am assuming that they will cover me, but only up to the day I left Germany.

    I was stupid to give them my change of address before I got the acceptance letter. I should have waited, so as not to cause further delay.


    So, if the KSK does not cover me in Ireland, I think I will leave German public insurance altogether.
    I can do that, can't I, Panda?

    I still get Beihilfe, which will pay 70% of my bills. And I will join an Irish private insurance plan which is so much cheaper:


    (OK that plan is for younger people but I filled out the required application form with my age and it is still similar)


    It does not cover pre-existing conditions in hospital for 5 years; I have such a condition, which is bursitis, but I can deal with that on my own -- it's not a hospital kind of thing.

     Otherwise there's a 6 month wait for inpatient treatent, which I think I won't need.

    Laya Health Care also has interesting plans which cover dental as well, a bit more expensive. But everything is under €100. Yes, there are limits to the amoumt they pay out in a year (as an outpatient) but since I have Beihilfe...

    And €500 excess in a private hospital.


  3. The Umlaut is transliterated as a, o, u. It's not an extra letter. A and Ä and two different letters, as arte O and Ö, U and Ü. They are different letters through through the Umlaut so it is only reasonable that if the Umlaut cannot be used, a new letter is used instead. Why is that so difficult to understand?


    I get it that for non-Germans the Umlaut is invisible, they justpretend it isn't there when reading the word. The Umlaut practically represents a new letter. So it is not "introducing an extra letter" that wasnt there in the first place. It was always there, just invisible to you.


  4. On 23/04/2018, 13:40:25, TP said:

    Yeah if resident  but as I just said if you been away and return you are then classed as non resident.!

    Even the manager at military charity was not sure re NHS access!


    I know of a few American tourists who were ecstatic because they were visiting the UK and got free NHS treatment. They couldn't believe it!'PAnad's suggestion sounds excellent, She even found a flat for you!

    Above I mentioned India. I found out that the hospitals arrange everything, including airport pick up and accommodation. Flying there would not be a problem as you would travel as needing assistance and you would be helped from the moment you arrive at the airport. I know India seems like a liong shot but it's very good and  very cheap and can be quickly arranged, and it's English speaking. Just so you also know of that option. If interested let me know and I'll do some searching.


  5. 7 hours ago, snowingagain said:

    If you had shown your German passport, they would have seen in the machine readable section that your name was entered with the "ü" substituted by the "ue".  That might have persuaded them.  Also might not have.





    I did show my German passport and the transliteration at the bottom. They still wouldn't accept it.


    I had a huge problem with this when trying to get an Indian visa in Sri Lanka. One visa office insisted u was correct, the other that ue was correct. Both insisted that the application would be rejected, and the €100 fee lost, if I did not do as they said.



  6. They do make sense as far as pronunciation is concerned. Adding an e ensures that non-Germans at least make a small effort to pronounce it correctly, even if they don't know it. Without the e my name sounds so silly in english  Germany accepted it as a reason for my son to change his name when living in an English-speaking country; they said this in the Bescheid. And I might do the same ie change my name in a couple of years.


  7. I hate to say this as it is impractical considering he can't see, but one of the best and cheapest places for medical tourism is India. I have a German-Australian friend who lives in India and he not only has all his dental work done there for a pittance, he says his dentist is the best he's ever had anywhere; and he had a hip replacement done there as well and he is more than happy with the treatment and of course the cost.

    But traveling to india if you can't see properly -- i would not recommend it. The chaos is bad enough as it is!. Although I do believe some of the clinics organise everything from start to finish, even airpor tpick-ups.


  8. 47 minutes ago, PandaMunich said:


    Strange, in the western Bundesländer they don't have that much trust in people. Here, they ask people who don't present a health insurance card for payment upfront, or immediately after the examination.





    We had that in Baden-Wuerttemberg --  when my son was here in January he had some unexplained symptoms and he was worried. He went to the emergency services at Mosbach hospital (after calling the International Insurance company he is with to ascertain they'll cover, thanks  for setting him  up @john g. ) and they kept him for the night for some tests.

    He gave my address, but he did not have any health insurance card and no proof of residence here. The bill arrived a few days ago... Of course he is long gone and it was forwarded to me in Ireland, and already been sent to the insurance company in the UK. But he could easily have just disappeared.


    I know it's different in Bayern, because he once went to hospital there and had to pay up front.


    I've been following this thread and agreeing with all the excellent advice -- nothing to add except that my best wishes are with the OP.



    What is it with everybody's eyes atm? Three people with serious problems on TT, and I know two others in another community (Americans)  with serious problems. Luckily they both seem to have got the care they need and are OK now. I wish the same for you...


  9. Also Guyana was a Dutch colony before it was British. And it was also French.


    The second biggest town there is New Amsterdam. Georgetown used to be called Stabroek, and lots of other Dutch place names; Kyk-over-al, Vreed-en-Hoop, etc. My ancestors were Dutch and I have a Dutch maiden name. And the Dutch created an ingenious system of water management (Dykes and canals and a long Sea Wall) to protect our land from the sea.

    Guyana's coastland is 6 feet below sea level -- figure that out!

    Also our beautiful architecture is Dutch colonial. The bottom house pictured in this article was the home of one of my bestfriends so I used to hang out there a lot of the time. I adored her mother. 


  10. This is an example of what I mean; I have a ton of Facebook friends who are writers, and so very liberal and easily outraged. I usually don't get the outrage. Maybe I'm just too old or have experienced so much worse. I dunno. But this is on the same subject, so it's a fitting example by one of my friends; a very intelligent and outspoken female friend.

    "So, what should be some of the agenda items on Starbuck's "sensitivity" training?

    1. The term "sensitivity training" should be banished. As a woman, I'm not "sensitive" about how men in business situations treat me, I'm fucking incensed. So, Step 1, "Rename it to Starbuck's Asshole Mitigation Training."

    What next?"


    So, am I terribly dense that I am not as outraged by the words "sensitivity training"?


  11. 1 hour ago, Guest said:


    Depends on the usage and who is using it. An older bavarian dude using the word Neger isn't bad, in my White-ass opinion, as that was the normal word for a black person up until a few years ago, and isn't meant to hurt. If I call someone (even joking with a friend) a nigger, that is not ok, because I know the word is not ok. 


    On the other hand, Words for Friends (similar to scrabble) doesn't allow the word Negro. Just because it isn't PC, doesn't mean it isn't a word anymore, and I think it should be a valid word in that format.


    Oh absolutely. (And btw I also play Wordswith friends but never tried Negro). Another such word is Coloured. Absolutely taboo in the USA, but very neutral in the Caribbean as all it means it mixed race, which many of us are. Now we have to say People of Colour so as not to cause offense; but I don't see that much difference. I rather like Coloured actually. A gane we used to play as kids was There's a Coloured Girl in the Ring. Changed to Brown Girl in the Ring for American sensitivities.

    Context is everything. 


  12. 15 minutes ago, snowingagain said:

    Could be more than just racism.  I can remember going into a restaurant by myself, and being ignored.  After all, why on earth would  a woman want to eat or drink by herself??  Surely she must be waiting for someone!  Though when the penny finally dropped with me, that the delay could not be caused by a backlog in orders, and I approached a waitress, she was surprised, but at least apologetic.


    Trust me  it was. This kind of thing is endemic in Guyana and always was; white people being served first, people jumping to attention when a white person appears, rules not applying to them. For instance most government offices and banks and even restaurants have a dress code. I spent a day with some Norwegian girls once who wore shorts and they were admitted everywhere. I have been refused entry for wearing a sleeveless dress. In fact, when I go to Guyana I always have a little bolero in my bag which I will wear when entering offices. White people would never be refused entry. Black people never confront white people in Guyana, and always jump to attention. It was perfectly normal for us all while I was growing up and nobody thought that anything was wrong; we were content to defer to whites. Black and brown people were the majority and white people moved among us like royalty.


  13. I remember one incident in Guyana a few years ago. There's a very nice little cafe/restaurant in the middle of Georgetown where all the cool people hang out, certainly all the white people go there. O I had an appointment with two white guys -- they were German as it happened. It was a "business" appointment scheduled for miidday. I arrived half an hour early and sat at a table for three. There were a few servers, and the place was very busy with lunch customers.


    No one came to serve me. I sat there not being served until 10 past 12. That's when the two guys arrived - youngish white guys. They hadn't even sat down before the waitress was at the table beaming taking orders -- and I noticed that she took their orders before mine (might be old fashioned courtesy  but male befre female, old before young is usual, no?). The waitress was black. And she contionues to hover around our table taking furtherorders, all of which were served immediately. I ordered a dessert which they forgot to serve, so that I had to remind them.


    Now I'm not normally one to make a fuss -- as I said before, I have always shrugged off racism because it was all over the place when I was growing up.

    Butthis time I complained to the owner. She was very apologetic and did not accept payment from me.


    As for the guys they did not even notice. Well, they did not know how long I'd been sitting there but they did see that I didn'teven have a drink as they arrived. They didn't notice that my dessert didn't come. I did not tell them.


    So I do believe in calling this kind of thing to attention when it's a clear case of discrimination. People using the wrong words, or an old-fashioned expression or gesture? Doesn't really bother me.


  14. Yes, I agree -- and it's not so much the "protesting" that rubs me the wrong way, its the immense sense of superiority these people display -- like going on Facebook to boast about how you you sorrected this or that racist or sexist person. I prefer the Biblical injunction of not letting your left hand know what your right hand is doing. Maybe it's my British upbringing!


  15. Well I am neither a racist or a bigot but when someone goes around constantly picking at the language of others I don't get a happy feel.

    I grew up to learn to shrug this stuff off whenever I encountered it and grow strong and resilient --  and I grew up in an instituionally racist society, a British Colony in the 50's.

    There's a difference between defending someone who is a direct victim of some kind of "ist" behaviour and going around trying to pull up everybody's socks. I never liked people who lecture others, no matter what the cause, and these days it's often carried too far, with "victims" screaming "sexist!" because some man opened a door for them or whatever.


  16. I think this (OP rant) is called Virtue Signalling in urban newspeak.

    Today I read a post by a facebook friend who claims that she will always, always, always confront a person who uses sexist or racist language, call them up on it. And of course all of her friends chimed in to say who right she is and how good.

    I don't know. I did not chime in. All these moral crusaders who want to change the world by now allowing racist or sexist or transphobic or whatever-phobic language -- they get on my nerves.

    Speaking as someone who grew up in a society of deeply imgrained racist instuttions and prejudices, even within my own family...


  17. OK so yesterday I went back to the office armed with a wad of print-out, the EU regulations with pix of all the veihicles, weights etc, ready to do battle with that woman. I had not made any calls as she had instructed.


    And guess what, she wasn't there! It was a man, the guy who had dealt with me the first time I went there. The only argument I had with him is with my name; he refused to transcribe the ü as ue, so I end up with a u, which gives me a rather silly surname when mispronounced by English speakers! But in the end I accepted it with a sigh.


    Anyway: yesterday there he was again and he never asked about weights or letters of entitlement etc. He knew his job. He did it quickly and efficiently, took my photo, got me to sign, told me my German licence is being sent to Germany and my Irish one will be here in a few weeks, gave me a paper with my number to show if anyone asks for licence, and voila! Done! :)


    I must say the Irish way of changing vehicles is so very simple and quick. My problems were due to my German background. Normally here all you do is fill in a registration form the old owner shows you with your name and address, and they pop it in the post. You pay the money and get the car and keys, no paperwork changes hands. A few days later you get a document with your registration number and car details and a link to pay car tax. You make a call to get insurance, pay the tax online, and that's it. No going to any amt or changing of licence plates etc.


    Anyway thanks especially to @yourkeau for the tip which seems pretty obvious in retrospect and I should have known and not been intimidated by that stupid woman, and insisted that she just do her job.