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  1. Apartment cleaning in Winterhude?

    Can also try ebay kleinanzeigen.. but be real specific as to what you want.. can write it in English probably... but lock your valuables just in case... most want off the books of course ... if you allow monring hours to do it can probably get lots of mothers applying to work when children are at school or daycare...
  2. Maybe up by Harvesthude near the Musik Schule... they seem more used to high class East Asians there since more than a few are out and about the Musik Schule plus some of the flats are newer so less chance of bumping into grumpy old people who have been there for decades and can't stand anything new...   And in my building so few people seem to actually cook whenever one does it is really noticeable in the hallway and probably you are better off with a place with a vent.  
  3. Malory Towers book set giveaway

    I have a set, not illustrated and on cheap paper, but new, of Malory Towers books and a few other English language books for girls I'm looking to give away. Pickup near U2/U3 Schlump or near Uni Hamburg. Please PM me if interested.
  4. Seeking installer for 2 lights and 1 Ikea Tuppler

    The lights, yes.
  5. In Hamburg I have not yet encountered american-style chinese egg rolls and I.. sniff.. still miss them.
  6. Ask the home coutry doctor to email you a copy of her immunization records if you did not bring a copy with you.
  7. I would have people over as witnesses. Keep a log with date and what happened and signed by witnesss. Similar as for noise complaints.
  8. No personal experience and the only person I know with an autistic child is curretly also in the looking for a school stage.   I just know that there are public Inklusion classes in Hamburg and these seem to be a nice option for children slow in arithmetic or writing but who enjoy being with other children all the time day in and day out, the setting is less looking at a black/whiteboard, instruction at greade level is greatly reduced,  and instead there are more hands-on activities and drawing so it is less boring for social and active special  needs children. The special needs children are usually grouped by about four into one class of 23 children to pool helper hours.   Bu they do not emphasize teaching the child, that is it is more keeping the child following the activities of the day.   There is a  private school called Bugenhagen with a couple of  branches in Hamburg that is also Inklusion but I don't know if they are set up to take care of autistic pupils.    But these are not English environments.   I am afaid it might be very hard to find what you require here: English and accommodation for an autistic child.   Some religious schools here are  also Inklusion, if they are full one can get on a waiting list, people move and so a space will open, but again not English.   You could try sending an email in English to or ask  As for the latter contact, maybe also ask them if you send your child to a private English-language school here what if any resources for a helper to be with him in the classroom could he perhaps qualify for, so you could mention that in your application to a private school, as they might not know and so just reject because of lack of information saying they acnnot admit because they have no helper for him. If you are willing to pay full price for the private school, and they have a spot open, and they can be sure there will be a helper available then they might be more willing to acccept?   The only English school I know here is the ISH.  The rest with English are bilingual and might not be setup to waive the German part, and the courtyard langauge often is German and not English.
  9. Son refuses to go home to the US for summer vacation

    Some boarding schools (at least in Germany) are not the send-back-to-the-parents type. This apparantly is the case with my neighbors' child. If they think she ought to come back before 2 years they must apply from what they tell me.
  10. Son refuses to go home to the US for summer vacation

    I don't have a teenager but,   If you are sure the US boarding school option is better in your situation, or the only option because of immigration status, maybe the school you have in mind has some slick recruiter salesman who can have a talk on the phone with your son? And if the length of required stay is less than that of the German one (my neighbor tells me her daughter must stay at the boarding school in Schleswig Holstein she started about 4 weeks ago for two years) then that might help convince him to go to the US one?            
  11. Coping with mind games

    If there is Eilverfahren the matter will be delegated to JA to investigate as a tool of the court, which will mean the child will be required to have a chat with  a social worker or psychologist or someone of the sort selected by the JA, and that person will certainly ask her about how she finds her current school. Right now the continuity argument is on the side of Spiderpig until she actually starts at the new school.   I guess Spiderpig reads German but just in case not Seems to be happening to other parents as well - school change without both parents signing despite GSR - and one has to do the Eilverfahren to put a stop to it, and have a solution ready to make it not needed, such as help with drop off and pick up in the short term and an alternative for the mid term.   If Spiderpig knows where he would want to live with his daughter maybe he can call around Grundschule there and see where an open spot is starting the beginning of the coming school year and have that also a point to be considered during the Eilverfahren. Maybe too because he is a working parent the school would let her attend the summer daycare if they offer.    Best if the daughter could do some meet ups with children from the area Spiderpig proposes before the meeting with the psychologist otherwise a new place is a big unknown, but if she has played with some children there then she probably would be more warm to it.   This is of course extremely hard at this late point of time to make happen though. I hope he can buy time by Eilverfahren and arranging drop off pick up through the end of the school year.  
  12. Coping with mind games

    JA is not binding as far as I know for this, one is to go with a typed application to Family court with Eilverfahren. If you have GSR and she did not get you to sign to make the school change, that is a no go, she ought to have told you first and if you don't agree then the court decides, such as neither of you can do drop off pick up to the current school going forward so school must change. Type up what you want and don't want, and you might very well get it or at least some of it. If you want your daughter to live with you weekdays and go to a school of your choice (or the current school for now through end of school year, maybe with the help of someone you pay to do drop off and pick up if you cannot change your schedule so fast), give your and the ex's contact info on the document, no form needed but is to be typed, a short paragrah of the current situation... maybe propose a school closer to you as a possible long term solution if you plan to stay where you are for the next several years and for the short term keep her at current school? Or maybe your current place is a compromise place because you left the nice place to be closer to your daughter and so on got dragged about Germany... do you have something stable you could go back to if you could bring her? Such as a home you own someplace with a decent school not far away... then you can argue to keep her where she is school-wise until the end of the school year with long term plan of going to where you want.                
  13. Coping with mind games

    The parent with the child that day would be responsible for the babysitting arrangements that day.  School daycare and babysitters need to be scheduled often well in advance, (my daughter's school daycare is to be arranged months in advance), so all the reason for a set a formal Umgang schedule. But if you like where you live now and there is a decent school in the neighborhood then ask if the school near you has a spot from the start of the new school year if your daughter must switch school anyway? Or if you want her to stay at her current school then reject the school change and affirm that you will be doing the drop off and pick up daily to the current school, including on school holidays to make staying at current school doable?  
  14. Coping with mind games

    If your flat is closer to the current school then maybe your daughter stays with you regularly on a set schedule 3 or 4 days a week? You would probably have to reduce your work hours though on those days and make it up on others, don't know if you have this flexibility.   If your ex has a car maybe this would work as she could drop off and pick up your daughter to and from school despite being some distance away from the new home? One couple I know has done this. They set up one joint email and tell everyone to use the joint email so they can coordinate academic and social matters  for their daughter despite two households.   Apply for an Umgang schedule to accomodate this? If your daughter has friends at her current school she might prefer this option, so now is the chance if this is so and you're home is closer to her current school.