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About maxie

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  • Location Mannheim
  • Nationality German
  • Gender Female
  • Year of birth 1977
  1. Very true, everything you said.   There is also the fact that the areas were handed over with the proviso that the army was not responsible for any pollution etc. below ground (leading some to speculate that there might be rockets or warheads underground...). In some areas, the pollution appears to be quite extreme. The Mannheim notably the forest where shooting exercises took place, but also storage areas and petrol stations where pollutants have seeped into the ground. (Source: Info evening about Konversionsflächen in Mannheim 5(?) years ago)  
  2. Moving 3,5 hours away following a separation

    Just as an aside: Shared custody does not necessarily refer to where the child lives. You can have joint custody when the child lives with you and only spends every other weekend with the other parent. The custody comes into play when decisions need to be made - medical such as surgery (not regular check-ups), school, travel etc. and - of course - residence.
  3. I heard - no idea if this was true and can't really research it at this moment - that some barracks somewhere could not be used because they were built using asbestos. It sounded not too far- fetched to me.     
  4. In Mannheim, it is a huge project. I have not followed it closely since I moved out of the city a few years ago. But the vision the planers had was impressive. I hope it will be successful. I think Turley was one of the first to be converted. The website is in German, but google translate can help you there and maybe you spot familiar areas in the phots.   Coleman is still used by the armed forces as a storage area for vehicles. They are parked everywhere including the runway. Benjamin's diner is still there and busier than ever.   I think the effect the departure had in Mannheim and HD was diluted by the fact that these are both larger cities that did not depend solely on the armed forces economically. Things were a bit different in rural areas, e.g. the Pfalz, afaik. Many Mannheimers miss the young Americans that livened up the night life in the city.
  5. Re tile paint - when i missed it of my last apartment,  the owner had the tiles in the kitchen painted.  It looked like new tiles,  but they did have it done by a professional
  6. Breast reduction surgery

    A friend of mine had the same surgery,  also in Munich.  She paid for it herself.  I think mostly because she wanted to get it done and not run around getting various doctors to sign off on it.  She is very happy with the results and has a completely different posture now.     As everyone else has said: talk to your insurance and don't be afraid to get a second opinion.  
  7. Pregnant without legal status in Germany

    The question no one has asked yet - and Muma might not be able to answer: Does she want the baby? And more broadly: What are her plans? Does she want to have a future with you? Stay in Germany? And are you willing to support her whatever her decision might be?   Is she in Bonn as well? Maybe it would be an idea to talk to a counselling service such as ProFamilia: (available in English)
  8. Previous owner feels he can enter my home

    Not quite so easy.  It depends on,  I think,  the municipality.  Or maybe the state.  Bramble's answer is a good rule of thumb,  but there are exceptions.  E.g. near my parents'  village is considered "Naherholumgsgebiet" so dogs have to be leashed in that area,  but not in nearby fields   Except for 1 Apr to 30 June(???), which is Brut- und Setzzeit, i.e. breeding time for wild animals and birds when all dogs have to be leashed. Same thing here: dates and exact rules vary throughout Germany so better check with city hall.  
  9. Previous owner feels he can enter my home

      I am still laughing at your transcript. It does sound like a skit that would be hilariously funny if played by the right actors.   I grew up in a small German village, but in the South. That kind of behavior would be very odd there as well. Maybe not so much in the 70s and 80s, where it was much more common to just stop by, but definitely today. And, thinking back on my childhood, I can't think of any situation where somebody would have thought it a good idea to walk into someone's house, unless they were family, close friends or long time neighbors. Maybe the guy is also not too bright? And has a problem grasping the fact that the house is no longer his? We always had some "characters" in our village. People that at the time were just considered "odd". Maybe he is one of those and the rest of the village has just gotten used to his antics?   The suggestions above are good ones. Show up at a local event, chat with your new contact and tell them about your plans for the pub and how you came to be in the village. Stuff that you don't mind everybody knowing. That way, you can better controll the narrative. If you don't, they just make stuff up anyway. Wrt dogs: if it is a farming area, there might be farm dogs, hunting dogs or watch dogs on the farms that are not necessarily walked as you do yours. Maybe there is a dog club somwhere nearby that you would be interested in? e.g. man trailing etc.?
  10. Sorry you are hung up on a woman who is not interested in you. It won't be the last time, I am sure. We have all been in that place.   BUT This just pisses me off.     You have a crush on your roommate, have neven been on a date etc. and you are already making demands in your head and conditions that would make her "worthy" of you? So not on! Maybe I misread that, but you might want to get rid of that attitude rather quickly. No woman wants a man who tries to tell her what to do, who she can see or be friends or hang out.
  11. Previous owner feels he can enter my home

    He entered your property uninvited. Your dogs are guard dogs. He should be glad he didn't get bitten. Definitely file a report with the police and talk to Haus & Grund or a lawyer (both asap) to draft a letter giving him a deadline and an appointment to get his stuff otherwise you will throw it out. Things might be different in a small village, but this is not ok. Are you on good terms with your new neighbors? It might be good to casually tell them what is going on, just in case he is planning on spreading rumours. Also, I would make sure to close the doors when you are not e.g. on the ground floor. Dogs usually have a pretty good sense of people. If your dog growled at him, he probably picked up something about the guy he didn't like very much and on your nervousness.
  12. Landlord entering apartment without permission

    What White Rose said. Also jeba. Change the lock. Tomorrow. Keep the old one and reinstall when moving out. Do not tell your landlady you have changed it and see if she complains. Also Mieterverein. Know your rights and make sure she knows them too.
  13. Verdi - terrorist union

    I think you don't just get the money for showing up to work, you also have to participate in the union events/protests etc. while you are not working ad sign a form every day in order to get paid. I have never been on strike or in a union so I am not sure. Maybe someone can confirm?
  14. Verdi - terrorist union

      There are so many things wrong with that statement. € 600 for what? 40 hrs a week? (Which would bring it to a whooping 3.75 €/ hour? Just enough for a cup of coffee in a cafe? Talk about living wage...) Not bloody likely. Caregiving is not a 9-5 job. Most of the caregivers work 7 days a week, often they have to be available almost 24 h a day. So the patients sleeps most nights. Nice. Still doesn't mean they can go off and party. They have to stay at home. No Feierabend for them. Paid holidays? Nope. Health insurance? I believe the EHIC card covers emergencies. Probably not when working though. Accident insurance? Nope. I know why people do it an I know it is a necessary evil because all those old people can't just be on their own or go into a nursing home. But to claim that this is a huge benefit and basically a gift to the poor, underdeveloped people from Poland or third world countries is bull...
  15. What can I do if my flatmate is mental ?

    If you can: don't let her push you around. Push back. Be rude right back. Most bullies will back off if they are met by resistance. Some suggestions: Ich wohne auch hier. Lass mich in Ruhe. Das geht dich nichts an. Du bist unverschämt.   In a normal WG, she can't kick you out of the communal areas. If you avoid the kitchen, she is winning. Take your non-perishables into your room if you don't want her eating them. Lock the door. If you have paid a Kaution, the suggestion of Mieterverein above is a good one. Also for future rentals.     But mostly: Well done for finding a new place. Some people are just a... You should be able to relax at home and not deal with all this drama. I wish you better luck with your new roommates.