maxie

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  • Location Mannheim
  • Nationality German
  • Gender Female
  • Year of birth 1977
  1. Choosing a Midwife !!

    Some addition to the excellent info already given: It is normal to go to different midwives for preparation classes, Rückbildungsgymnastik and Nachsorge. In my view, the most important one is the Nachsorgehebamme.   Geburtsvorbereitungskurs: usually 8 sessions, sometimes offered as a weekend crash course. Some without dads, some with dads for some sessions, some with dads. Mine had 8 participants and it was very nice to meet people in the same situations. Most were first-time mothers. A lot of info on what to expect (and that most of your expectations might turn out to be wrong anyway), some exercises etc.   Nachsorgehebamme: Will come to your home after you return home with the baby. In the beginning every day, if you need her. She will check that everything is ok with you (medically and mentally) and the baby (umbilical cord, weight, etc.), help you with problems, answer questions, give advise on breastfeeding, show you how to bathe the baby etc. It is very important that you feel comfortable with her and her style of doing things. Some for example are very spiritual, some very into alternative medicines, some will tell you that it is absolutely essential that you breast feed (implying that you are a bad mother if you don't, which is very helpful to someone having problems and probably feeling very guilty in the first place) etc. Some you might just not warm up to. We had a meeting with ours somewhere in the middle. This is covered by the health insurance. If you want to have a first meeting with another midwife, this is absolutely acceptable but you will have to pay it yourself and you should let them know as soon as possible if you change your mind and decide to go with someone else just because there are not enough of them and other women are desperately trying to find one. Since junior was about six weeks early, mine was on vacation when we came home. She asked a colleague of hers to come for the first two meetings. The midwife can visit you as long as your are breastfeeding and if not, for (I think) the first nine months. Ours also gave us advice on the introduction of regular food, switching to bottle after 7 months, teething etc.   Rückbildungskurs: Best to sign up for one as soon as you can. Your midwife can tell you when the earliest is you should start after birth. Useful but not essential.    
  2. unemployment benefit

    Just remember that it's perfectly alright to ask for help and at as many places you can think of.  I'm glad things are looking up a bit for you.  
  3. Data protection act and CV

    You might want to check what your contact says especially wrt working for the condition. Aside from being unethical and that it makes you look like a complete prick,  it might be in direct violation of your contract.    They pay you for your expertise and you don't want them to use it. Why exactly do you expect them to continue to pay you for tags next nine months?     As an employer,  i would consider this refusal to supply an updated CVArbeitsverweigerung and give you an Abmahnung. If i found out what you are up to, I'd throw the book at you.  What does your potential new employer think?  Are they happy with an employee that resorts to  such underhanded moves?     There is a saying in German that translates to "You always meet each other twice in life." If you are burning bridges now,  it might come back to bite you in the bum inn the future. And if you think your old employer won't find out, think colleagues whose toes you might step on or even the ethics of your new employer who is happy for you to screw your current employer. They might not think twice about screwing you at some point if it seems beneficial to them... 
  4. unemployment benefit

    Nothing to add to the suggestions, except that you might be able to also file a "Dienstaufsichtsbeschwerde" against the case worker. In addition to speaking to her boss.   Depending on where you are in Germany, there might be a Tiertafel not too far away where you can get food for the dogs. Also a Tafel where you could get food for yourself.   As engelchen said, that your husband's employer paid him only 450 € seems very illegal. He has a contract, no? They can't just decide to adjust the salary after they should have paid it. If they have several offices across Germany, they probably have a works council. It has probably been mentioned before but he should definitely contact them.   And ffs stop talking about begging for money. You might need to swallow a bit of pride - I know I would probably feel the same way you do about having to apply for benefits - and grow a pair. It's help you are entitled to. Your husband worked, paid into the system, now he needs help and he should get it. The whole point of the Sozialstaat.   You could also check Verbraucherzentrale or Caritas. No idea if they help in this kind of situation, but if not, they might know who does. Even if your German is good, it might be an idea to get someone to attend the appointments with you. Someone who knows the system and can set an ignorant caseworker straight.
  5. If you need a doctor outside of the regular opening hours, there is also the kassenärztlicher Notdienst. It is for cases that cannot wait until the next working day, but are not emergency room urgent. (Other names here: https://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/%C3%84rztlicher_Notdienst) Phone number 116117 I have been once or twice and it is brilliant. People don't clog up ERs without being a real emergency and for us, the waiting time was always very reasonable.
  6. Do tell.  Just in case we ever need one!  Recommendations are always good
  7. Lists of typical German mistakes in English?

      That's a classic mistake in German too and a standard (sorry) choice of teachers in spelling tests. Along with Temparatur instead of Temperatur, Reperatur - correct Reparatur, nähmlich (nämlich).
  8. Waldkita Experience?

    Unfortunately, there is no Waldkita near us so our son will have to go to normal Kindergarten. Friends are lucky enough to have one though and both their kids loved it. They got in very early, the year it opened, which was brilliant, because now there are long waiting lists. The kids have a wonderful immune system, learned a lot, but in a fun way and had really good motor skills when they started school. Also, you're gonna spend long hours in school when it starts, anyway, so a Waldkita is a wonderful way to ensure they have more of a chance to play outside. But it is like always: a Kindergarten usually has an educational concept. Waldkita even more so because you are so much more dependent on having a working system. If it works, great. If they try to be just like a normal Kita with the only difference being that the kids spend a bit more time outside, not so much. It is a lot more work for the staff, but tends to attract a different kind of staff, if done right. If you liked the open house - go for it, I would say. Unless, as Engelchen pointed out, your kid hates spending time outside and doesn't like getting dirty. There are kids like that…
  9. How big is your company? Can't be too small if they have their own Kita. Would it be possible for you to change jobs within the company? Different department, different team? Definitely talk to the works council again. Maybe also HR? Have they been involved?   It is true that going to court might burn bridges, but a company I worked in had a complete and utter pr..k running a department. New hires would rarely last for more than a year and a half. Some long-suffering ones stayed for longer (good pay, good job security). Lots of them complained, quite a few of the ones who left told the works council and HR exactly why. A few ended up in my department. After a few years, it became to difficult to ignore, I guess and the manager got some severe warnings from HR, works council and upper management. The effect was impressive: He still is no Mr. Congeniality, but at least the constant bullying and general abuse of power has stopped and I am told he is ok to work with these days.
  10. Tax issue

    You can calculate your taxes here: https://www.brutto-netto-rechner.info/   Or check the tables https://www.steuern.de/steuertabelle.html https://www.grundtabelle.de/Grundtabelle-2018.pdf   5.7 % taxes for 2017 seems very low, so what dj said. Or ask your tax guy - he has all the figures so he can probably explain it best...
  11. Germany secondary school final exam (math)

    Also: There is allgemeine Hochschulreife (Abitur), Fachgebundene Hochschulreife and Fachhochschulreife (Fachabitur). Only the first one lets you study any subject you want at any university or college in Germany. With the others, certain limitations apply. http://www.fachhochschulreife.org/formen-der-deutschen-hochschulreife/ However, there are other ways to get your Abitur than go to Gymnasium when you are 11 and finish after grade 12 or 13.  
  12. Germany secondary school final exam (math)

    Maybe to clarify as there is a bunch of information here that is not quite correct. My info is from Rheinland-Pfalz, but most of those conditions should be similar in other Länder. For the Abitur, students chose some majors (Leistungskurs). Two in some Bundesländer, three in others. In these, the students will have more lessons. Usually five a week per subject. The Abitur-Exam usually consists of three written and one oral exam. If you had three majors, one of them will be counted like a "normal" subject (Grundkurs) for the exam. This usually means that you can leave out some of the exam questions. There are certain limitations in terms of which subjects you can/have to chose for majors and also your exams. For example: I had English, Math and Biology. My oral exam subject had to be Geography, Social Studies or History. In addition, some of your "normal" subjects have to count towards the Abitur and for some you can chose your best ones. Using Math as an example: - You cannot get rid of it. It will have to be a Grundkurs as least. Same as German, at least one foreign language, one Science, PE etc. - It will have to count for your overall Abitur grade. So you cannot have 0 points in the Grundkurs in the semesters that lead up to the Abi or you fail/will not be able to take the exam. Leistungskurs it is no less than 5 points for the semesters that are counted. - It will only not be an exam subject if you take your exam in another Science subject. It is quite a complicated system, for more info for Rheinland-Pfalz, see here: https://bm.rlp.de/fileadmin/bm/Bildung/Service/Publikationen/Schule/MSS_Abitur_2020.pdf   None of the articles say whether the exam being discussed now was a Grundkurs or Leistungskurs. Makes a bit of a difference, I think.  
  13. Elterngeld 12 or 14 months after birth?

    You don't have to take those months together. Further down the page it says (italics mine): Die Elterngeld-Monate können Sie untereinander aufteilen. […]  Sie können das Elterngeld entweder am Stück beziehen oder den Elterngeld-Bezug unterbrechen und später fortsetzen oder sich mit Ihrem Partner abwechseln. Dabei gelten folgende Einschränkungen: Basiselterngeld können Sie nur in den ersten 14 Lebensmonaten bekommen.   But beware: The 12 months are a lie. If she has a job, the mothers does not get Elterngeld for the Mutterschutz period after the birth (i.e. 8 weeks) because she receives Mutterschaftsgeld. So only 10 - until baby's first birthday. At least as far as I can figure out.
  14. Neighbour boundary issues

    Beware of bulldozing neighbours. Most people are nice and reasonable (and wouldn't even make such a request), but your neighbour sounds like the type who will rip your arm off if you offer him the little finger. Good luck for your discussion with him.   Not sure what the Bauamt means by it's ok to overhang. What if you placed (or wanted to place) your own shed with its back to the property line back-to-back with his shed? He'd have to stick to the boundary then. I would just tell him that this is a lot more than your husband agreed to - or your husband tells him that and points out that you weren't a big fan of his agreement in the first place   And what Krieg said. Depending on the type of soil and where it runs down, "a little water" can cause a lot of damage.
  15. Very true, everything you said.   There is also the fact that the areas were handed over with the proviso that the army was not responsible for any pollution etc. below ground (leading some to speculate that there might be rockets or warheads underground...). In some areas, the pollution appears to be quite extreme. The Mannheim notably the forest where shooting exercises took place, but also storage areas and petrol stations where pollutants have seeped into the ground. (Source: Info evening about Konversionsflächen in Mannheim 5(?) years ago)