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About trallallero

  • Birthday 03/26/1970

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  • Location Karlsruhe
  • Nationality italian
  • Gender Male
  • Year of birth 1970
  1. My (future ex) wife asked me to change the Familienkasse so that she gets the money. I said no (for many good reasons). She falsified my signature and she told me that (smart). So I went to the Familienkasse office, told them that the signature is not mine and all is blocked. The kids don't get the money. I asked her to sign so that I can get it again and pay school, sport, etc but she refused. What can I do? Is it a crime? Shall I go to the police?   Another proof of her narcissism...
  2. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

      I read your first link, thanks, and it proves again that she is a narcissist, maybe not an NPD but an N for sure. I'm pretty sure she has truly loved me till some years ago and this disorder came up later when she realized she's getting older and without a job career. Now the peak is really high and she is 40 yo.   But, as said, I don't need psychiatric help as I've already sent her away once and lived alone with my kids for 6 months. I could do the same again, suffering but I could it, no problems. What I need is a good lawyer and... money to pay him. No, no him, I would prefer a female and misogynist lawyer   
  3. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

      Ah ok, so it turns out now that I am the narcissistic one    And you are diagnosing me exactly as I'm diagnosing my wife. With the little difference that you don't know me and we have not been partners for 18 years.
  4. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

      You probably don't know that the best person that could diagnose an NPD is the partner and I'm 100% sure she has it (I could tell you recent stories and you would confirm). What do you mean with "I have this in-law...we actually keep a journal..." ?   I cannot seek the help for her because she "is ok" as you probably know. For me, I don't need any help beside the one of a lawyer. If it's possible to "send her away", I'll do it, if not, I will think about another solution. The only thing I don't want to do, is to waste money without solving the problem and an insurance would help.  
  5. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

      Yes I know but thanks for the info. My plan, in fact, is to get an insurance now but to start the process after the summer holidays. For the T&C... I'll ask the help of a friend of mine. I asked here if someone has experience because there could be some hidden trap, you know.  
  6. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

    I update the thread: I've got an appointment with the Jugendamt for the 8 June.   A question: does someone have experience with Familienrecht Rechtsschutzversicherung ? I don't know if it's the right name but I mean an insurance that covers the cost of the lawyer in case of separation/divorce/alimony.   I've found this and all costs seem to be covered but... is it true?
  7. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

    Today I'll go to the Jugendamt and ask there. But I cannot decide with whom the kids will be if we get really separated... I need to prove that my wife has problems and it's my word against her. Even though I still own the old separation contract with which she left the kids to me to go to London, usually the mother wins against the father. I'm 100% sure that the elder daughter (12 yo) would prefer to stay with me, but not the little one (7). She is already in the phase "in love with her father" but also still in need of her mother probably due to the passed separation from her.
  8. I guess I'm the only one in Bruchsal, but is there someone around Karlsruhe? I'd like to meet some new human being and share some thought, drink some good beer, play pool, whatever.
  9. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

    @RachSW you got it! I called her out on the lie of her sister and she blamed me after a "it's not my fault, I've been told that she was dead" (ridiculous).   Also, your description of sociopath is both awesome and... scary.  
  10. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

    No wait, there's a misunderstanding. She is not bad with the kids, she just doesn't care so much as me.   Regarding the money, I pay all. She has a job but all the contracts are signed by me. All.   And we don't fight at home.   Regarding happiness, I'm not supposed to make her happy. Beside nobody can make you happy if you don't permit it, imo happiness comes from inside.  
  11. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

      Yes, I am and, together with my natural hurry, that's my weakness. But now that the problem is clear, I can wait, I can think, I can fast.
  12. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

      We have strong intimacy and it's really hard for her to get intimacy with other persons (me too), that's another reason why she cannot really break it up. And yes, you're somehow right. There's anger and sorrow inside me but I will not say awful things, that's not me.   Thanks again.
  13. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

      "Women speak two languages one of which is verbal".  (William Shakespeare)
  14. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

    Yeah totally right.   Thanks all for the suggestions.   She is still not so bad but it could get worse so I'll find someone for help.
  15. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

      I know but I don't have friends here. That's my problem.