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  1. Back to Work After Elternzeit, change of contract?

    Ok update:   I had a decent meeting with my employer in May and informed them that at least for the first semester that I would like to go part time at two days a week teaching. They agreed and nothing else was mentioned. As far as I know I    My contract is unlimited and full time. I got an email today that my "new" contract was in the mail. I responded that I have a copy of my contract at home, that I have neither seen nor signed something new---nor do I intend to.   It has sadly come to me slowly but steadily through the grapevine that there is a lot of pressure from administrators towards teachers trying to get them to sign new (and obviously less beneficial)  contracts. There has been a ton of "political turmoil during my elternzeit and I have a strong sense already that I coming back into a chaotic situation next month. Teachers are being told that they are no longer "allowed" to teach subjects that they had taught at our location for years. Myself included.    Who else has experienced something similar? What are my rights and obligations under such circumstances? 
  2.   Ah very good WillyG, what were the grounds/reason that TK made the exception? My DD will have her U6 in July and we would like to return to the USA for Christmas. I hope this might  be enough of a reason but who knows... .                                   
  3. I hope I can help.   I have TK and a 8 month old daughter. My doctor reccomended she get the vaccine before we return to vacation in the USA. He said if TK doesn't cover it, two injections would be 150.00 Euros each. ..So I did some research and found this:    https://www.tk.de/techniker/service/leistungen-und-mitgliedschaft/schwangerschaft-und-familie/leistungen-fuer-kinder-und-jugendliche/kinderschutzimpfungen/uebernimmt-tk-kosten-fuer-meningokokken-impfung-2008036   In short, apart from a situation where your child is considered 'high risk' only sub type C is covered from 13 months to 18 years. My husband and I wil likely be paying out of pocket. I hope this helped a little.
  4. Back to Work After Elternzeit, change of contract?

       Of course I have. This post is more in regards to the legal obligations, especially concerning my contact.
  5. Back to Work After Elternzeit, change of contract?

    Thank you El Jeffo for the link and advice.It will help someone plan their future for sure. I don't work at a language institute but a standard state school.
  6. Hello TT Community,   This might seem like a silly question but it might also be worth asking so here goes. I have been on maternity leave since August and will be returning to my work as a teacher in September. I have an unlimted, full time contract.   I would like to start in the first semester or two with half time teaching schedule.   I don't anticipate any issues with negotiating this but what should I be aware of in terms of my legal rights and obligations when I meet with administrators this month. Any TT Moms, Dads and caretakers share your experiences.    Thank you.
  7. Hello,   I am currently in maternity leave at the moment and can help clarify most parts of your post.   Yes, you will get compensation for 6 weeks before and 8 weeks  after birth. I live in NRW and after my (very rough) calculations I receive about 65% of my salary in Elterngeld and about 197.00 per month in Kindergeld. Getting these two income sources sorted was incredibly stressful and required a lot of paperwork, I did not get paid a cent until my DD was 5 months old. Yes, I got back pay but it was still frustrating because I am married to a German and have been living here for five years---they just wanted more and more proof.    Someone can correct me, but I am not aware of any financial extras available for women who decide to return to work before one year of maternity leave is completed. I thought about returning at the 6 month mark myself but ultimately decided against that because I was still in postpartum recovery mode. I encourage you to consider your health and that of your baby before voluntarily going back to work too early. How my health was affected really took me by surprise and I had to change my plans.    Former Kindergarten employee here. Getting childcare is a real minefield all over Germany. Most of the families I know, including the women in my 'krabbelgruppe' started trying to get a spot at a Kindergarten or Tagesmutter group when their child was a newborn. Some have been successful and some have not. I have even heard of some families choosing to baptize a their baby in one church over another just out of hopes of getting a spot at a particular kita. I think this is insane but I do understand why some people might feel the need to do this. My best advice: call a prospective kindergarten directly (emails won't be answered) explain your situation and ask for a tour of the facilities. Network with other families who can 'put in a good word' with local kitas.  Most Kindergartens will not accept a child under 2 years old which is why so many women take the financial hit and extend their maternity leave beyond a year.    In my case, my DH's Mom will be taking care of DD twice a week starting in September---which is awesome, but I realize not everyone has this option. 
  8. Bed Bugs, will they die if i go away for a few weeks?

      The hostel had Bedbugs, not me. I never left the hostel...I just went to another floor. Not the greatest choice. Luckily the little freaks didn't immigrate back to Germany with me.
  9. School Employs Nappy Changer

    The article did not specify...but are the children concerned to be of a Special Education background? If this is the case, then I can understand the need to hire a nappy changer. Most kids under the SpEd spectrum will eventually be independent toilet users but developmentally need more time.    While I was still working in a kita here, I toilet trained a five year old little boy. It was a sad situation really because the Mom was too scared to just get started and the German staff didn't want to try and train because the boy was special needs. This boggled my mind and so I took the responsibility and went with it. Training the little fella took maybe three weeks.   Makes you wonder where the skills and motivation are really missing in these situations.  
  10. Ageism and sexism in Germany

      I stand corrected. I knew about the Elterngeld but not about the Elternzeit. What the OP should know is that for us foreign workers it tends to take a really long time to get those two sorted. My baby is 6 months and I finally just started getting Elterngeld and Kindergeld. I swear those people wanted proof of everything and asked for everything short of my left leg.
  11. Ageism and sexism in Germany

      I would be ok with the 3 years too---if it was extended equally to men (as it is in places like Sweden.) However, as far as I can tell a Father will get about 4 months of paid Elternzeit. My husband is currently an admin for the municipality in which we live and because he is new he doesn't plan to take paternity leave at all. I began learning German in middle school and high school and then didn't use it until I moved here almost 6 years ago. I always liked the German language and so I became fluent quickly through self study. Now I am taking a C1 class with the intention of taking a C1 exam soon. My employer has asked for this and I am happy to do it.   Even though you can get far with only English in IT, in a place like Berlin, I would strongly advise you to make yourself competitive and useful by learning German as fast as you can. The more effort you put into learning and using the language the more success you will have. In big cities like Berlin it can be really easy to go easy on the German language learning but in places like where I live; German gives you a definate advantage.
  12. Ageism and sexism in Germany

    I hope that I can help answer both parts of your question from limited and lived experience.   My German husband has a BA in Computer Science and has been working in the IT field for about a decade. After seven years at his former employer, where he worked as an admin for a medium sized company he found a new position closer to home. I was astounded by the constant intrest in his resume and the flow of interested employers. I don't think this is always the case, particularly for (foreign) newcomers but I can still see a bright future in IT in Germany. This is especially true if you continue to train yourself after completing your formal education and find a niche or special skill.    IT has always been a more male dominated field, my husband for example said that there were only three women in his entire degree program. ...So the question is, if need be can you be 'one of the boys' and no matter what can you develop a thick skin towards the behaviour and commentary that might come your way (I have trouble with this.)   About working while pregnant and subsequent maternity leave. Now this topic I know all too well---I am currently in my seventh month of maternity leave.   I have been a teacher for about ten years and employed with the same school for about three. Once I revealed that I was expecting I began to feel the long shadow of being an sudden outcast. I had always been the go to teacher, very competent and willing to work---which I did until the summer holidays---I was 7.5 months along by that time. I said 'yes' to everything and proved myself competent. I never used my pregnancy to get special benefits.   It's wrong and sometimes downright sexist but my experience has been that your colleagues and admins start to regard you as someone who could 'leave at any time'. I was not consulted for my ideas or about changes that could occur. This was really unexpected and hurt (still does.) I am in maternity leave now and communication is like pulling teeth. I am ambitious as ever but it is met with silence. I feel like sometimes women have children get slammed with a 'just a mama' once they give birth. Worse yet, many people will assume that you are going to prolong your maternity leave and benefits by having a second child within a two year time frame. Now...I do know a few women who have done this...but it really sucks if you are like me and this is not the plan.  I would think about how having a child might affect your career trajectory.    Germany is a very curious place. Yes, if you become pregnant you are protected under the law and yes you normally will get 65% of your salary for a year. Your position must be held for you for around three years. Here is what I have found in reality, which isn't as sweet: some people will act almost as if the resent you. For example I was asked: `did you plan this?' because my due date corresponded so closely to the start of the new academic year.  Many women won't say it but I think they feel a subtle pressure to get back to work sooner than later, even if they are not financially compelled to do so. Hence the crazy competition to get a child enrolled into Kindergarten...   I hope this helped.
  13. Mom & Baby (or expecting Moms) Group?

    Hi everyone,   Well DD is now 6 months and we would like to meet  other English speaking families. Is anyone still up to meet?
  14. Pregnant without legal status in Germany

     I saw this thread a few days ago and kept quiet because I wasn't sure I could provide a full answer.   I bet the unemployed, valid visa-less, side chick really thinks she hit the lotto with this pregnancy.    Wrong.   A baby is a blessing but not every baby can be an anchor.     I have been here for 5 years and on a work visa the entire time (even though I am married to a German.) I just had my two year Auslanderbehörde appointment yesterday. To my surprise,my appointments will now be every three years because I have baby with an echter Deustcher man and now even he has to show up and prove that he is who he says he is LOL.   Once your child is born you will have to prove paternity anyway .   I cannot imagine what this would be like if I were not married or worse had an unplanned pregnancy without any kind of status.   I wish the baby the very best in medical care and happiness but this whole situation is messed up. I feel sorry for the German wife too---because she will find out sooner or later. OP it's going to be painful, but tell your wife now about what has happened.     OP I would contact your krankenkasse and see if there might be some way or loophole that might allow you to add your unborn child to your insurance---some sort of premptive way to claim paternity. My next stop would be to seek advice from the family sector of your local Burgeramt and if they cannot help onto an immigration attorney. Your girlfriend is educated so why hasn't she tried to get a job in any sector? At the very minimum she would then have access to the social services network. I am not saying this entirely ethical, but at only three weeks pregnant she still has time to find work and then reveal her pregnancy at a later date.   
  15. First Ever German Dentist Appointment

    Ok I did it!   A whole filling was taken out and new composite filling put in. Unfortunately, the cavity is deep and I am likely still on my way to a root canal, not my first I am afraid. That tooth,...well it no longer exists.   Another small cavity was found and so I am on my way back next week and in June I will start with regular cleanings.   Was it painful? A little, I asked to be numbed before getting an injection and that helped. It's no pleasant...but it's not labour and child birth :)