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  • Location Prenzlauer Berg, Berlin
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  1. Protocol with Handwerkers

      When the professional is related to the seller, that's not good, but bad, because it means that he is partial, and rather doing a favour to his relation than to the foreigner.   Certainly the village people don't bother whether you're from Wales, England, Great Britain, Scotland or whatever, as much as a Welsh villager would make a difference between a German from Sachsen, Ostfriesland or Bayern - the one is as foreign as the other. And what they hear you speak is most likely English, or do you speak fluent Welsh all the time out there? (Congrats if you do speak it in your family, though, as a linguist, I believe those minority languages should be preserved)   By the way, there are linguistic over-generalizations that are certainly incorrect, but people just do customarily say it and won't stop doing: So, Germans without deeper knowledge about British history and also Germans with it would call colloquially everyone from Great Britain "Engländer" and the country "England". In the news and in politics it would rather be "Briten" and "Großbritannien". But "Großbritannien" is very long and "England" is so much easier to say. More conscious people would probably know that Scots and Welsh are British, but not English (am I correct?). Not forgetting Northern Ireland. All of it the United Kingdom = Vereinigtes Königreich, a term I hardly ever use. But after all, there are geographical, political and cultural/linguistic "units" and the definition of each is unfortunately not common knowledge to everyone, just as not every foreigner understands the Bundesländer, Ost- und Westdeutschland, the Wiedervereinigung or the Bayern issues.
  2. German beginner classes starting asap! Hello people wishing to start beginner classes right away! I have a couple of students waiting to form a group and begin lessons as soon as possible. There is space for two more students. (I can of course open more groups, if enough people are interested). How about you, would you like to join? Classes will take place on Mondays and Thursdays at 14 h. With 4 students, the price per person will be materially reduced compared to one to one classes. Still, the lesson will be quite intensive as the small number allows individual attention and at the same time, you have the advantage of mutual feedback and interaction. Write me directly for further details and course information:
  3. Protocol with Handwerkers

    This is all very horrible. I'm very sorry for what you´ve been through and I dearly hope you're not going to be affected by the asbestos. Before buying a house or flat anyway, one should consult a professional, possibly officially recognized expert in architecture and renovation ("Sanierung"), who can find faults and have him check the house to minimize the dangers of getting too deep into renovation cost. Paying such a person is well invested money. Hidden things that only come out to the light during renovation are somewhat imprevisible though. But I cannot stop thinking - why on earth would you move to a small village where people don't understand you and you don't understand them, in the first place? Maybe because these are the only places where houses with ground are still affordable? Didn't you do any research about the neighbourhood, about life and society there? Did you visit the future neighbars, the local markets, the yearly village fair or so? The genuine people of the North Sea coast are known to be rather introvert, Germans already having a wait-and-see attitude, certainly more distant than in the South for example - veeery generally speaking.   Finding good, reliable handcrafters is difficult everywhere, also in towns. Works mostly via word-of-mouth recommendation. For official work offers, there is usually a typical procedure. If you don't sollicit the official offer (Kostenvoranschlag or Angebot) in a correct way, you're probably not having a fix price, and for some things, it's impossible to fix a price to the exact euro. Undo a roof, undo walls or floors, if it's not the same workers who build it, they cannot know what's inside or below. Also, you have to pay attention to whether VAT is included or not. Handcrafters' offers are usually listing items and working hours without VAT, only the end price is with VAT. When there is some unpredicability, they reserve the right to add, e. g., up to 10 %. When you have amazingly low prices, be suspicious because somewhere could be an overread clause like "according to the actual consumption of material or uprising necessities". The manners of acting of your plumbers and roofers though appear to me totally out of common and illegal, especially the roofers, as others stated.   "you are not intending to remain outsiders... " (quote) but there there should have been proper research before and, judging conditions favourable for an integration, there would be intense "socializing work" to do for this. Maybe considering to really learn German. I guess moving to a small English village as a non-English speaking foreigner wouldn't be much different or would you be received right away with open arms? Would people be able to speak German? Before buying the pub, did you talk personally to your future neighbours or other village people checking out how is the mood in the village? Would they be delighted to have foreigners buy and reopen the village pub? Why they sold to foreigners/outsiders? Probably they needed the money very badly. I don't know where you live exactly, but the far North countryside isn't probably the most prosperous area, job-wise, make-a-living-wise.   I want to tell a little true story. My parents bought and renovated a tiny house on the countryside in Germany in the 80ies. They are Germans. My father knows about construction and cannot be fooled easily, but he also had a hard time with some of the workers. My mother even understood the dialect they speak there because she spent her late teens in the neighbour village, and the residents know she is the daughter of Mrs X, formerly respected village farmacy owner. But that wouldn't mean the village women would invite her for coffee. So my parents and we as a family were somehow linked to that area, even though outsiders "from the city". I would say that only by the 2000´s, we were kind of accepted as "weekend-and-holiday-villagers" by say, half a dozen people. The only ones we were really connected with are our direct neighbours. Probably because the neighbour man is from another village and he got never entirely  "warm" with the village people either,, so we're in the same boat. The neighbour woman is born in her house and her family has been living in it for 3 or 4 generations. The village is also split, there are the old residents, the land-owning farmers with big old houses, some of their children who are not farming anymore and who got local businesses. Their children wouldn't play with my siblings' and my children. Only once one of the daughters played with my son one summer, but then never again. Must have been because of the parents. On the other side, the old residents descendants of poorer people, who now just own their house and the ground under it. Their children would come and play with ours, though the parents, except for our direct neighbours, wouldn't make contact. And there are people who bought land from the big farmers to build new houses on who form sort of their own tiny "barrio". They work in the surroundings, bigger villages and smaller towns. They have nothing to do with us nor the rest of the old residents, they don't bother and are completely disinterested. It takes years to be accepted also for Germans. It takes an enormous effort to be accepted only by a number of people, even temporarily. I don't think it's so very different in other places. I know villages in France, Spain, the Netherlands and Portugal where it wouldn't be much different. It wouldn't work falling from the sky without speaking the locals' language. In Spanish or Italian villages moreover, if you're not stout Catholic and attending the local "folclore", forget about it. It's not so very surprising it did't work out for you. I hope you manage to get out of this mess healthily and to be happy elsewhere.
  4. Pregnant without legal status in Germany

      A fellow visitor of this thread pointed my attention to a vocabulary mistake I made, so here is a small correction to my post: First, the pregnant woman must receive a NEUTRAL consultation about .... (It's of course not about "neutering" anyone", just in case someone misunderstood!)
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  6. Pregnant without legal status in Germany

    All this is a real pain, not only the situation but also the discussion. And where is the OP now? Hasn´t appeared on the last pages. There is still information lacking. I dearly hope the pregnant woman gets to read this, or has access to information. If the OP wants to help especially his affair and himself to be relieved of at least one burden, and to save his marriage if he´s so lucky his wife doesn't find out, he and she should consider an abortion, which is safe and legal within the first 3 months of pregnancy, and safely done in the Pro Familia centres or other places, given that the pregnancy is only 3 or 4 weeks old. The earlier, the better. You don't die from it and you can have other children afterwards. It's a small operation, and nothing compared to a birth. If the woman had an insurance, it would pay for some of the cost but not all, but as she doesn't seem to have any, the OP, so you, MUMA, should just put that money on the table and pay the abortion and other necessary post-operation treatment, examinations, remedies etc. It's the minimum you can do for her as you (both) didn't use proper or effective contraception. The poor future baby can be spared an existence as an unwanted product of an extramarital affair and being sent back most likely with its mother to her home country, which we ignore, but which quite likely could be much less friendly with extramarital affair offspring and unmarried mothers than German society. And please, don't come up with religious or moral objections. First, the pregnant woman must receive a neuter consultation about pregnancy, birth, abortion, etc. This consultation is obligatory by law. You are neither talked into an abortion nor into having the baby. Then, minimum 4 days must elapse before an abortion can be done, if desired (by another doctor than the one who did the consultation). Quoting: "When may you have an abortion carried out? Abortion according to the consultation rule Approximately 96.4 percent of abortions in Germany take place according to this regulation, the rest with regulation of indication. The following requirements must be met for an abortion according to the regulation of consultation: • No more than twelve weeks must have elapsed since fertilisation. • You have received the legally prescribed consultation and the corresponding consultation certificate. • The abortion takes place at the earliest on the fourth day after the end of the consultation.. • The abortion is carried out by a doctor. For the legally prescribed counselling, you have to contact a pregnancy conflict consultation, for example a pro familia counselling centre in your area."   Cost: There are conditions established to relieve the pregnant woman, if she has little income, of some of the cost, but all this only applies to persons who are legally here and who have a health insurance. The Pro Familia website states no case how it is done with women being here illegally. I guess, private billing for the costs would be possible though. You, MUMA, should find out and ask them, which I'm sure can be done anonymously by phone. I'm not sure but I think if the costs are covered, they are probably not obliged to reveal the woman's identity to an authority. I assume they should be under "ärztliche Schweigepflicht"/doctor-patient confidentiality. But again, not sure, check that. Or you just go to a centre personally with the woman and you ask for counselling on the whole issue. Ask them whether they can recommend a doctor / an institution for the obligatory consultation and whether the centre can carry out the abortion, if you just pay cash. Quote: " The costs for the actual abortion are not covered by the health insurance. The costs to be borne by you amount to approximately 200 to 570 € depending on the practice, method and insurance. If you are admitted to hospital, you have to pay the daily rate yourself. " So if no insurance pays part of the whole cost, it might be somewhat more that the above figures.   Here, you can download abortion (in German: Schwangerschaftsabruch) information in different languages.  
  7. You need or want to learn German and don't know where to begin? You've already started learning German but you have no clue, no idea of the grammar or you are totally confused? You've already been attending classes, but you don't understand the explanations and can't follow, or you are shy and afraid to speak, or you feel lost in a big group? You have no idea of (English) grammar anyway and feel a slight dizziness when someone talks about "verbs", "subordinated clauses" or "conjugation"? You want to apply for German citizenship and have to present a positive B1 test result? Or you have to take a test for enrolling studies at university or for another purpose and want to prepare it more efficiently? You've heard weird and intimidating things about the "awful"* German language (* Mark Twain) - endless numbers of articles, cases, monster words and you are scared? Or you're already quite advanced but you want to get rid of that annoying accent or these little mistakes, once and for all? Don't worry. There are answers to all this - there's light at the end of the tunnel. Sure, nobody says that German is particularly easy or that you can learn it within 3 days. You have to be patient and put some effort, indeed. But there are no hopeless cases. Especially for anglophone natives or proficient speakers of English, German will appear very close and related, especially regarding vocabulary and tense structure, therefore it's the most logic thing to learn German. German is structured, logic, analytic, consists of many bits you can put together like a puzzle, sometimes surprising, funny, precise, poetic . . . GERMAN IS LEARNABLE!!! I'm using a special method, a macro-micro-structural approach in order to achieve that students understand grammar easier, quicker and more thoroughly. Most of the time I'm giving one to one lessons, but also small group lessons for up to 3 students are possible if you have the same language level. Lessons are given at my place in Prenzlauer Berg. I can teach in ENGLISH, FRENCH, SPANISH and PORTUGUESE. You're coming to Berlin for a limited time - alone, as a couple, two or three friends - and want to not just do sight-seeing but also learn basic communication and get a "cultural coaching" at the same time? I can tailor a small crash course or "workshop" for you. Also, I offer intensive "Taster Courses" of 7 to 12 lessons that should be taken within a period of 14 days in order to give you an idea of how I teach while at the same time giving you a basic overview of German grammar and some basic conversational skills. If you're interested and want to know my website, details about my method, the prices, the open time slots or when to have a trial lesson, please send me a mail to (please no personal message here, I sometimes don't get notified)