anne k

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  • Location Dresden
  • Nationality British
  • Hometown Chelmsford
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  • Year of birth 1969
  1. Pros and Cons of moving back to New Zealand.

    Practically speaking, they're both first-world countries, the kids will get a decent education and life in either; there aren't such huge differences. So for me it would come down on one hand to who would be happier staying in the other country the rest of their life - your husband in NZ, or you in Germany? If your husband loved it in NZ and isn't particularly close to his family in Germany, for instance, then go there. But if he has a huge, close family here and you have no-one in NZ and can imagine settling down here, then maybe Germany would be a good choice. If one of you hates the other country deep down and can never see themselves living there permanently then maybe avoid that country Having said that, I never thought I'd be OK about Germany being my forever country, but I am now. On the other hand, fingers crossed, think about what would happen if you divorced. Your husband would then be unlikely to want to move to NZ with you. Under international law, you can't just go back there with the kids without his agreement - would he agree? Would you want the kids to be separated from their dad? If not, what would your situation be in Germany? Would you be able to support yourself? Even after the kids grew up?
  2. There are quite a few recipes online for making clotted cream yourself; the basic idea is to remove some of the moisture from normal cream. I've actually managed to create something very similar (and tasty) by leaving a pot of cream open in a very cold fridge for ages - I have no idea how safe it is but here's a discussion on the topic:
  3. Euro 2020 and 2021

    Whoever is doing the camerawork is doing a great job of picking out familiar faces in the crowd - yesterday they zoomed in from a great distance on David Baddiel and Frank Skinner, enjoying the sound of their song being sung
  4. Have you tried the publishers? Maybe the ones who took over Photo Revue? And libraries?;DE-B11;DE-B170;DE-109;DE-17;DE-465;DE-101b;DE-30;DE-89;DE-27;DE-929;DE-Kob7;DE-Kn3;DE-832;DE-12;DE-91;DE-715;DE-898;AT-UBS-HB&view=full   edit: or this guy in Austria?
  5. Square dancing is great, though I found it a lot harder here than in the UK - the standards in the place I tried here were a bit high for me and it took me weeks to remember that a "chick" was in fact a jig
  6. When I did singles dance classes I was pleased to find a man who was able to make decent conversation. Berlin does sound very different to Dresden, or at least the course I was on, though, as the one I tried was very clearly designed as a way to meet people. At the moment the courses have stopped, but they are planned again for the autumn. In the meantime, the singles events are taking place outdoors here. There's a guy called Günther who organises loads of stuff and charges people €5 a head for each event - if you are keen to stay in Berlin maybe you could look for the Berlin version of Günther, or become a Günther yourself and make some extra cash at the same time. Or get yourself a Bahncard...
  7. " Let's assume I'm the worst person in the universe (if that makes you feel good about yourself)! " Well, I said you were brave and that if you had any issues then you were not alone because everyone does at some point in their lives. But sure, if you insist, then let's assume you're the worst person in the universe and Berlin is the worst place to date in the galaxy. It's terrible. There's no way, with that set of cards, that you will ever, ever find a partner. My condolences. Has anyone suggested singles dance classes yet?
  8. The jazz bar is much cooler
  9. I can't imagine meeting someone in a bar in Singapore, and had my first date with my partner based on a photo on the Internet
  10. Saying "If you behave in XYZ way you will look desperate and people don't like that" is not an attack on your personality; it's a tip about what behaviour to avoid. Behaviour is something we learn and can change. No-one is born knowing how to behave in every situation. It's mildly embarrassing asking for tips, but you've been brave enough to ask, so it would be a waste to ignore the tips you get.   Saying you should try therapy is also not an attack on your personality. Even if you think that therapy is only for people with serious mental health conditions (it is not), all human beings will have some sort of mental health issues at some point in their lives, and therapy for that is nothing to be ashamed of. Therapy is also a useful way of working through more minor issues that you have. I've found it very useful in the past and I'm sure others responding have, too - probably even some of those suggesting therapy.
  11. Euro 2020 and 2021

    I don't think the England team or fans make any particular claim to "fair play", and I doubt the German team are tearing their hair out wishing they hadn't grabbed or pulled anyone during the game as it might make them look bad.
  12. This is hilarious and I'm not even sure why 😂
  13. A question for all you long-timers:

    You sound about how I felt at the five-year stage. That was when the kids arrived and I belatedly realised what I'd got myself into Until then, Germany was an exciting foreign country, the language was an interesting pastime, the people were an amusement and I was basically a tourist. When the kids arrived, Germany was a country I'd tied myself to permanently, the language was a chore, and I had to make friends with the people or remain forever alone, but many were standoffish as I was an immigrant. I was also annoyed by the differences instead of finding them entertaining, and more nostalgic as the kids grew up, as you normally share the things from your own childhood with your children - going to pantos, seeing them in school uniform or singing Christmas carols. Those feelings have melted away over the years. It's ages since I last got annoyed about what The Germans do. Now I just get annoyed at what that lady in that shop said, or that annoying neighbour's weird habits. That process might have been a bit faster with a more supportive spouse, but I got there anyway. I was surprised to find that getting my German ID card made a difference, too - wasn't expecting to be so pleased to feel welcomed in.
  14. A question for all you long-timers:

    When I applied for my Aufenthaltserlaubnis after arriving here, they asked how long I would be staying and I said I didn't know. The eye-rolling answer was "Man muss sich im Leben entscheiden!" so I said two years. That was 29 years ago. I'm happier here now that I'm divorced - my ex was a workaholic, so I couldn't get out much as I had to look after the kids all my waking hours. Now the kids have grown up so I can get out more (in normal circumstances) and have a non-workaholic boyfriend I can actually spend time with. Dresden's a good place to live alone - plenty of cheap little flats to rent, much better than my options in the UK. I used to feel sad about the idea of never living in the UK again, but now I'm not bothered. I wouldn't entirely rule it out, but as long as the kids stay in the area that's a big incentive to stay.