anne k

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  • Location Dresden
  • Nationality British
  • Hometown Chelmsford
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  • Year of birth 1969
  1. Do you like living in Germany?

    Yes, "Dein Deutsch irritiert mich" is more like "Your German puzzles me". It could mean, for example, that you are American but your accent sounds more like that of a Dutch person, to them. Or e.g. you have a surprisingly large vocab considering that your grammar is only average. If they were irritated they'd say "Dein Deutsch nervt!"
  2. And yeah, I arrived in the East in 1992 and despite my admitted white privilege have been told Ausländer raus, had a delivery man tell me I must be the cleaning lady and not the person living in my flat, called a Schmarotzer because I didn't have a sign pinned to my chest saying I was employed, and told that I'm in Germany and should be speaking to my children in German. So I have no issue whatsoever about people without my white privilege complaining.
  3. Oh, I wasn't complaining that Renemp wanted a rant, just giving him some tips where he could go to avoid the more teacherly comments :)
  4. I'm in a choir too, also with lovely people. I think singing often just puts people in a good mood   Renemp, if you want to just have a good rant you might have noticed that this isn't quite the right place. A lot of us have been here for donkey's years and worked out how to behave so that people are more respectful, or have seen lots of facets of German society. Or just decided to focus on positives.   If you really want a nice old moan, get together with some more recent arrivals if possible, and do it IRL, as people are more likely to smile politely, nod along and comfort you in person, rather than trying to educate you  
  5. Sounds just like my experience with men. (That and the thing about buses.) You may need to accept that you will never find a Mr or Ms Perfect Apartment.
  6. I agree that the best solution is to move, now having a better idea of what to avoid.   In my case I didn't complain about the noisy child upstairs, having had children of my own and they did move out - hence my feeling that it's worth checking with them, if you're not that keen to move so quickly. They're likely to be pissed off with him, but if they are thinking of moving, they probably won't care if he knows. Of course if he finds the prospect of talking to annoyed people scary, then he might not want to.   Yes, and in my case a young, single man moved in instead, who doesn't run around but instead started hammering away in his flat at 4 a.m. on a regular basis. (I did complain about that, to him personally, and he seems to have stopped!)
  7. He's already been complaining about them to the landlord, I doubt that he would be ruining an otherwise happy relationship.
  8. I thought you meant an old building as in an Altbau (1900ish), but if you're in a "modern" 1970s building then yes, you've unfortunately chosen the noisiest type there is. I'm in the same type. Talking to the parents probably won't help as they can do nothing about it. Maybe ask them if they are planning to move out in the near future before you start looking for a new flat, though.
  9. Plastic packaging at Grocery stores

    You can get Zahnputztabletten, which come in a compostable bag. More expensive than toothpaste, but also useful if you are flying with hand luggage only.
  10. Plastic packaging at Grocery stores

    I also like the Lush shampoo bars, but dm has one too that's half the price and really good.
  11. Letter from court for former roommate long gone

    Literally just write what LeonG said in big clear letters on the envelope.
  12. I have had the same experience with a German/Russian couple making comments about Jewish Americans. When I disagreed, the German actually asked if it was possible for him to be xenophobic, having a Russian wife as he did. I politely answered that yes, of course it was. He looked a bit surprised but didn't argue back. They are both otherwise very polite and pleasant to me, but seem blinkered on this point. Weird, isn't it?   When I first came to (east) Germany there were not that many people who could have spoken to me in English, and I guess I was also too slow to even come up with the idea so spoke to most people, e.g. in-laws in poor-to-non-existent German. And people seemed to expect that. If the wife came over as a teenager then she probably came up against the "you must integrate" attitude a lot, and couldn't have got by in Russian, so it was a matter of pride for her to have been "more integrated" than the Turkish immigrants - most of whom started out with pretty menial jobs, so were not people she perhaps wanted to be associated with as a foreigner. Her whole pride might be based on the premise that you have to integrate and stop using your mmother tongue. So you might be a bit of a threat.
  13. Stepfamilies can be tricky. My mum and dad both remarried and had children, leaving me the "odd one out" in both families. We have always got on fine, but I do feel that the children from the second families had a "proper family" while I had a weird combination. I wouldn't be surprised if the stepbrother feels uncomfortable in some way.   From your comment about "that passive aggressive German way" it sounds like you're a bit anti-German at the moment ? I wonder if you're seeing this as a specially German problem when actually, if you were all from the same place, you'd still be rubbing each other up the wrong way, just about different things. I'd cut back as much as possible on contact with the stepbrother as a family, and when you do have to speak to him just do the "stupid and cheerful" act or just give him a blank look, and let his racist shit bounce off you like a force field. There's nothing you can do that's going to magically change his mind overnight.   You're lucky to have your MIL on your side. In my case it was only really Uroma who showed any understanding for my situation as a potentially homesick outsider who found constantly speaking a new foreign language tiring. Try to focus on your good luck at having a nice MIL, and perhaps try to gently educate the other family members (any more receptive ones!) who might not have any idea whatsoever how much hard work it is to live in another country. They might need it spelled out quite simply. If you can get them on board and your stepbrother is in the minority when complaining about you, he might tone it down eventually.   Keep the stepbrother's money and give him a present worth exactly the same amount at Xmas.
  14. Translation software for freelancers

    What do you mean by "translation software"? Translation memory software such as Trados or Wordfast, MemoQ or Across? I have used all 4, and currently focus on Trados. If you want information about those, maybe go to or another translating website?
  15. Brexit / Applying for German citizenship

    I had one of these, also from the 1990s. This is a photo from Google - didn't realise they would actually take it away from me at the naturalisation ceremony or I would have taken a photo of mine!