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  1. About a month ago I saw a tv documentary report about airbnb and similar tourist apartment rentals in Germany. They mentioned that there are now laws in Munich and other cities prohibiting this. Apparently the main problem was neighbors complaining about noise:  suitcases being dragged through stairwells at all hours, drunken tourists returning home late, etc.

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    I sympathise with your plight here but this baby, actually not a baby but a toddler, crying up to four hours a night indicates that something is seriously amiss. She could be teething but it could also be breathing problems or reflux and leaving a toddler alone this long crying every night for months is simply bad parenting; night terrors should last half an hour maximum and if it lasts longer than that then this toddler should be seeing a doctor to find out the cause.

     

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    You should highlight that you have been a nanny and that this amount of crying is not normal

     

    These were my thoughts while reading through this thread. The description of the baby's crying reminds me of our daughter's situation. At about age one (just around the time that she was weaned) she started waking up frequently in the evening and several times throughout the night, always crying loudly as if she were in pain. At this point, she had never slept through the night and I attributed her current waking and crying to teething. Eventually she had all of her teeth, but the crying persisted. By this time, it seemed as though she were dreaming and I assumed her waking was due to nightmares. She was never fully awake, but would cry until I came and soothed her, often with a bottle of milk (cow milk and/or cow-milk based formula).

     

    Fast forward until last Christmas, shortly before she turned three. She had a stomach virus and for two nights didn't have any milk before bed. Despite the virus, she slept really well both nights and actually had a great appetite. Until then, she had always been a terrible eater--consuming just an absolute minimum and preferring to get her calories through milk. It dawned on me that maybe she had an issue with milk. Over the next several weeks, we substituted oat milk for the cow milk and experimented with lactose-free cow milk and other products. She still seemed to have a problem with lactose-free cow milk products. Our suspicions that she has a milk protein allergy (different from a milk allergy, as I later learned) and lactose intolerance were then confirmed by our doctor. Ever since we eliminated milk products from her diet, she has been sleeping and eating much better.

     

    If I've correctly pieced together the timeline of your neighbor's child crying, Dot, then it seems that it started at around the time the child turned one. If the baby had been nursed until then, it's possible that the parents switched to formula or cow's milk around that time. Perhaps the child also has a problem with milk or some other food that was introduced around that time.

     

    I agree with topcat that a good approach might be to show concern about the child's health and to mention your training and experience as a nanny when inquiring if the child may have a food allergy or intolerance.

     

    The fact that the parents apparently sleep through all of this crying is another issue. Certainly, some people are much heavier sleepers than others. My husband, for example, has always slept through our daughter's crying, even when sleeping in the same room. It still seems unusual to me that both parents in the OP's story do not hear (or claim not to hear) the child crying. Actually, this claim is incongruous with the fact that they explained that the child is crying because of nightmares. How do they know why the child is crying if they supposedly do not even hear her crying?

     

    The OP's story also reminded me of a situation with my former neighbors years ago. Their son (under one year old at the time) was crying incessantly one night. I could hear him clearly although we lived in separate, free-standing houses about two meters apart. Just the mother's car was parked out front; the father didn't appear to be home. In any case, no one seemed to be coming to check on the baby. There were some lights on somewhere else in the house, but no one seemed to be stirring about. I wondered if the mother was drunk or stoned and passed out. It just didn't seem possible that someone could be inside the house and able to sleep through or listen to that desperate crying for hours without reacting. Dot, is it possible that your neighbors may have some substance abuse issues which prevent them from waking up when their daughter is crying?

     

    In any case, Dot, I hope you find a good solution soon! It seems that you are very reasonable and have been very tolerant. I know first hand from our daughter how difficult it can be to be sleep deprived for so long!

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  3. Vmelchers, have you spoken with your doctor about your depression and other symptoms? I'm not a medical professional, but some of your symptoms (depression, hair loss, some eating disorders) could be related to a thyroid disorder. I would definitely consult with a doctor if you haven't already.

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    A playgroup for English-speaking parents and young kids takes place Mondays from 10:30-1:00 in one of the buildings (Vorderhaus) of the Himmelfahrtskirche in Sendling.  The address is Oberländerstr. 36. The entrance is on the side of the building. This is a 5-10 minute walk from the Harras and Implerstr Ubahn/Sbahn stations (U3 & U6).  The 53 and 132 buses also stop nearby (Margaretenplatz).  If you get off the bus at Margaretenplatz, please be aware that direct access to Oberländerstr. is via a fairly long set of stairs.

     

    The playroom is on the first floor.  There is a lift in the back of the building.  Please leave strollers/prams outside or bring them upstairs into the play area.  There is also a kitchen area available for our use.

     

    We are asked to give a small contribution to the church. One euro per family per visit should cover this cost.

     

    All are welcome!  Please send a pm if you need more information.  It's always great to see familiar faces and meet new ones!

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  5. A playgroup for English-speaking parents and young kids takes place Mondays from 10:30-1:00 in one of the buildings (Vorderhaus) of the Himmelfahrtskirche in Sendling.  The address is Oberländerstr. 36. The entrance is on the side of the building. This is a 5-10 minute walk from the Implerstr and Harras Ubahn/Sbahn stations (U3, U6 and S7).  The 53 and 132 buses also stop nearby (Margaretenplatz).  If you get off the bus at Margaretenplatz, please be aware that direct access to Oberländerstr. is via a fairly long set of stairs.

     

    The playroom is on the first floor.  There is a lift in the back of the building.  Please leave strollers/prams outside or bring them upstairs into the play area.  There is also a kitchen area available for our use.

     

    We are asked to give a small contribution to the church. One euro per family per visit should cover this cost.

     

    All are welcome!  Please send a pm if you need more information.  It's always great to see familiar faces and meet new ones!

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    A playgroup for English-speaking parents and young kids takes place Mondays from 10:30-1:00 in one of the buildings (Vorderhaus) of the Himmelfahrtskirche in Sendling.  The address is Oberländerstr. 36. The entrance is on the side of the building. This is a 5-10 minute walk from the Harras Ubahn/Sbahn station.  The 53 and 132 buses also stop nearby (Margaretenplatz).  If you get off the bus at Margaretenplatz, please be aware that direct access to Oberländerstr. is via a fairly long set of stairs.

     

    The playroom is on the first floor.  There is a lift in the back of the building.  Please leave strollers/prams outside or bring them upstairs into the play area.  There is also a kitchen area available for our use.

     

    We are asked to give a small contribution to the church. One euro per family per visit should cover this cost.

     

    All are welcome!  Please send a pm if you need more information.  It's always great to see familiar faces and meet new ones!

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  7. A playgroup for English-speaking parents and young kids will take place Mondays (starting 28 April 2014) from 10:30-1:30 in one of the buildings (Vorderhaus) of the Himmelfahrtskirche in Sendling. The address is Oberländerstr. 36. This is a 5-10 minute walk from the Harras Ubahn/Sbahn station. The 53 and 132 buses also stop nearby (Margaretenplatz).

     

    The playroom is on the first floor. There is a lift in the back of the building. Please leave strollers/prams outside or bring them upstairs into the play area. There is also a kitchen area available for our use.

     

    We are asked to give a small contribution to the church. One euro per family per visit should cover this cost.

     

    All are welcome! Please send a pm if you need more information. Looking forward to seeing familiar faces and meeting new ones!

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  8. The bathrooms in Germany usually have tiles on all walls (nearly) up to the ceiling, unlike bathrooms in the US which are usually tiled just around the tub/shower and maybe behind the sink. I'm not sure why all the walls are tiled in Germany, but I would love to be enlightened!

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  9. Hi Ladies, I hope that you all had a great lunch last week. I've booked the same table again for this week so hope to see you Wednesday.

    We have a table reserved (name of Mackie) at Cafe Glückskind, Seeriederstraße 9, 81675. This is actually very close to the Hofbräukeller so hopefully shouldn't be too difficult for people to get to. It is a short walk from Max-Weber-Platz Ubahn stop (lines U4/U5). We have a table reserved nearest to the play area inside.

     

    I've reserved a table for 8 adults + children. The table is booked for the usual 12:30pm.

     

    Who's coming?

    1. Flora & Naomi (who just loved her babyccino and is keen for another one!)

    2. K & M (depending on how M sleeps--Flora, I can let you know in the morning)

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  10. Mlovett, not sure about your smoker question, but I would be careful about denying it to a family with children. The US federal Fair Housing Act prohibits discrimination against protected classes (age, race, religion, etc.). Smokers are not a protected class.

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  11. Just wanted to add that we also had a very bad experience with the US postal service. We shipped about a dozen boxes of personal belongings and added insurance for each box. None of the boxes were actually delivered to our door; my husband had to pick them up at customs (a hassle). Some of the items arrived broken. We tried to file a claim for the insurance, but the USPS insisted on verification from the German post of the damage. Since my husband had picked up the items at customs and not the post office, he had no way of getting this verification. The US postal service wouldn't budge. We had paid several hundred dollars to ship items which we could no longer use. In the future, I would use a single company (i.e. UPS, FedEx, etc.). for the whole shipping process.

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  12. Hi Ladies, I have reserved the usual table at the Hofbräukeller, inside, near the play area. I'm not sure what the weather will be like on Wednesday so if the first people to arrive decide it is actually nice and sunny out and fancy sitting outside, then please feel free to find a table outside somewhere.

    Any english speaking (native and non native speakers) Mums, Dads and Mums to be are very welcome. We'll be at the Hofbräukeller Biergarten, on Innere Wiener Str 19 in Haidhausen. This is very near the UBahn station Max-Weber-Platz (U4/U5) and tram stops for lines 18/19/15/25. We normally sit at a table near the playroom from 12.30pm until around 2.30/3pm, but may be outside if the weather is actually dry & sunny!

     

    1. Tina & Lukas

    2. Kylie & Carys

    3. Flora & Naomi (we'll be late as usual!)

    4. Penny & V

    5. Tess & Georgie

    6. Kerry & Marlies (maybe)

     

    PS: If anyone else fancies organising the lunches - and perhaps mixing up the venues a bit to take advantage of the better weather - please just let me know!!

     

    Flora I can probably take over the organisation if you're trying to give it away but we're going back to NZ at the end of May for another month so wouldn't be possible until June.

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  13. Hi Ladies, Who's coming to lunch this week?

    Any english speaking (native and non native speakers) Mums, Dads and Mums to be are very welcome. Feel free to join us even if your child(ren) are in Creche/Kindergarten etc. We'll be at the Hofbräukeller Biergarten, on Innere Wiener Str 19 in Haidhausen. This is very near the UBahn station Max-Weber-Platz (U4/U5) and tram stops for lines 18/19/15/25. We normally sit at a table near the playroom from 12.30pm until around 2.30/3pm.

     

    1. Donna

    2. Penny & V (hopefully, we're having nap terror this week)

    3. T & L

    4. Flora & Naomi (we will be a bit late, as per usual!)

    5. Sabine & Danu (looking forward to meeting you!)

    6. Kerry & Marlies

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