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Friday 06.Mar.2015

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Thursday 05.Mar.2015

StarStarStarStarStar (9)   Why are you happy today? by chaos_amoeba
In light of problems with former landlady, I contacted - shyly and apologetically - an old friend who happens to be a lawyer, for advice. Ok, he's an old friend and I've been there for him at some tough times and all that sort of thing but, as well as indicating that he thinks she's on the wrong side of the law and could get into a right pickle if she doesn't come to an amicable agreement with us (btw: w00t!), he began his reply with "I don't mind at all, and I'll do everything I can to help you." In light of problems at work, and despite being placed in an unpleasant situation herself, my boss is not only standing by me but keeps on apologising to me for bringing me into this situation in the first place! In other words, I have some bloody awesome… (another 6 words)
StarStarStarStarStar (9)   Why are you happy today? by evildudette
I've been pretty quiet of late as things have been very up and down, and things have been pretty stressful. This weekend I'm moving forward and going to work in Asia. It's an unlimited contract, but I agreed to go for 3 months as a trial to see how I like it there before moving the cats for a full time commitment. So it's goodbye from me for a little while. Look after yourselves.
StarStar (3)   Why are you happy today? by Rankersbo
Because it's two weeks until we leave for the UK. Savings accounts closed, phone cancelled, ADAC cancelled, Healthcare cancelled, 2014 tax return submitted, pension notified, energy supply notified, ferry booked, redirection booked, landlord booked.
StarStar (4)   Interesting spam e-mails received by crusoe
Call me starved of human contact and low on self-esteem if you like (on second thoughts, just keep it to yourself), but getting a mail from Madame Racy Williams starting "Greetings, God's chosen" has got my day off to a warm and fuzzy start.
StarStar (3)   Bavaria and the real estate bubble by Johnny English
A rather short and sweeping statement there - backed up with zero facts? Considering you can now buy and pay less than 2% interest, and yet renting will often cost around 3% or more (of a property value) I am not sure where you get that statement. N.B. Anything you pay above the 2% interest is knocking off the capital sum of course (like a savings plan kinda). Furthermore if you own the property then after 20 or 25 years and the mortgage has been paid off you have a property worth €xx that has appreciated in value by €xx? Renting is 100% the route if you intend to stay 5 years or less, but if you have any kinda longterm view then crazy not to purchase. p.s. Hanging around waiting for a "housing crash" is rather optimistic. Ain't gonna happen. The market is too basically… (another 39 words)
StarStar (3)   Bavaria and the real estate bubble by jaycool
not just the interest: interest+upkeep+property tax, etc. My in-laws have put close to € 100,000 into our house (new roof, drainage pipe, windows, heating, floors, etc.) since we moved in there in 1998. We live in a small Bavarian town, where housing is inexpensive (plus they haven't raised our already low rent in all of that time), so I have only paid them slightly more than € 100,000 in rent, so far. PS: If I had it my way, we'd sell the houses that we eventually inherit (except the one we live in), but my wife wants to keep renting them out. As long as she takes care of all the hassles that go with that... go for it.
StarStar (3)   Indian med student, want to do internship in DE by arunadasi
I have spoken to the lady and she seems to think it might be difficult -- then again, maybe she just hasn't done it before! We are a relatively small and friendly hopsital with links to the University Clinc Heidelberg, and we do take their PJ students, they are always running around. The lady said you should simply send your documents and apply and then we would see -- that would mean she needs proof that your university in India requires a PJ and also that they would recognise a PJ done in Germany. After you were accepted you'd have to apply for your Arbeitserlaubnis. If you want to do it through me just send me a pm and I'll reply with my email, otherwise just your application docs to the hospitals you are interested in. We have ortho, cadio, gyn, and inner/gastro departments,… (another 11 words)
StarStar (3)   Working Holiday Visa, Can I go without Appointment by engelchen
I would definitely recommend applying for the WHV and try to be there by 6.30 am (and then run to Z6 as soon as the doors open to wait in line for a number). If you had a job offer for a position paying over 450€/month, you wouldn't need to show additional health insurance. Without a job offer, you'd need health insurance. If you have health insurance and all the other necessary docs, you have good change of being issued the permit.
StarStar (3)   What made you laugh today? by ale3982
Attached imageI found it funny. But whoever did it really SUCKS at math. 134m X 22.25m X 13.1m = 39,058 CUBIC meters (not square meters) and... there are 1 Billion cubic millimeters in 1 cubic meter (not 1000). So, it ends up that they each have 6.5 million cubic millimeters to roam. Let's pretend they really did want SQUARE meausurements... assuming there were 3 levels to Noah's boat, then we would have 1,490 sq mm per species (if 3m different animals). That's about 15sq cm or slightly smaller than an adult elephant's footprint (1,260 sq cm). On the 3 million species question - the latest I could find was 7.8million animals, of which only under 1 million have been catalogue (so, guessing the others are really really small), and really, some of those million will be fish / water-based.… (another 82 words)
StarStar (3)   Grand Opening Party by The Keg Bar
The Keg Bar will be celebrating our metamorphosis from shisha lounge into pub and opening our doors to the public on Saturday the 14th of March at 19:30. To welcome our guests we will be offering free finger food all night and giving away free beers from the first keg of the evening. Hope to see you there!

Wednesday 04.Mar.2015

StarStarStarStarStarStar (12)   Using a recording of workplace harassment by Boots
If your company is big enough for a BR they are big enough for HR, and HR is who you should talk to. Try this. Don't go in saying 'the bad ladies are unkind to me'. HR hates that sort of thing. Instead try asking straight questions. "Is racism at work legal in Germany?" and "What is the company policy for dealing with racism in the workplace?". "What must I do if my colleagues harrass me racially?" Then whatever they say you should do, tell them you will do it, and then do it. By their book. Maintaining an air of professionalism and grace. By the way HR hates the Betriebsrat so feel free to play them off against each other.
StarStarStarStarStar (10)   The Vent by LizzyH
Grrrrr! Yet again you have to make a snide/rude/asshole comment when someone seeks advice (and god help any woman asking for help as you clearly hate women!) and yet we are expected to be sympathetic whenever you ask a question or make a comment.
StarStarStarStar (8)   Elderly parent care by sarabyrd
AFAIK she has to liquidate her own assets before the State can demand your contribution. Also, your contribution must not leave you destitute yourself. Tell her to provide the results of her research before making any unfounded statements. Also, tell her to move in with your witch-in-law, she seems to have room.
StarStarStarStar (7)   Elderly parent care by emkay
My daughter just told me the rest of what my mother told her. Mother believes that I have to pay for her care or care for her myself whilst she stays in her own home otherwise I wont inherit anything from her. This doesn't concern me anyway having been estranged from her most of my life. She then went on to tell her grandchild that she will kill herself if she has to go into a home which would be my fault. She's doesn't win grandmother of the year award does she.
StarStarStarStar (7)   Elderly parent care by Mellyco
Your mother is full of crap. Yes, children do have to help support their parents, but it is all calculated out by the Amt in charge, and it seems to be rather fair. My husband's Oma is now in a Heim, and his mother has to help with the support. First, Oma's assets were used - well, she didn't have any, but basically any savings and her pension go to the Heim. She gets a certain amount of the pension as pocket money. My MIL has to contribute a certain amount each month, but it isn't too bad she said, because it is pro-rated against your income. She had to collect all of her tax returns and pay stubs and info on other income for a bunch of years for them to see, and then they calculated what she should contribute to Oma's care. And if she had dependents, apparently that would… (another 92 words)
StarStar (4)   Elderly parent care by engelchen
How does your daughter feel about her grandmother? Are they close? Do you think it would be better for your daughter if she had less contact with her grandmother (as in no contact)? You might want to consider also not enlightening your mother about what you learned here and let her continue to be misinformed.
StarStarStarStar (7)   NY Times article about the German Nanny State by El Jeffo
Yeah, I noticed that, too. You'd think the editor of the political opinions page at Tagesspiegel wouldn't confuse the CDU and CSU like that, RainyDays. Especially since she made the distinction later on in the piece. I, too, lament the downfall of the FDP, but they have no one to blame for it but themselves. After their historic triumph in 2009, they blew their entire political capital in the coalition treaty negotiations only to secure a tax break for hotels, but in such a ham-fisted way that it made the regulations even more complex, contrary to their long-standing fight against red tape. That, more than anything else, indelibly stained the FDP as the party of clientele politics, where they formerly stood for deregulation and personal liberty. Westerwelle always fancied himself… (another 83 words)
StarStarStar (5)   NY Times article about the German Nanny State by mkwiede
I think it depends on what your own personal experience in Germany is. And this will determine whether you will agree or disagree with the author about Germany being a Nanny State. A lot of Brits complain that the UK is a Nanny State, after living there I personally don't think so. BTW America has food labels. and tries to reduce smoking as well. The people in America are not as unhealthy as you may think.
StarStarStar (5)   NY Times article about the German Nanny State by AlexTr
The FDP is Germany's answer to American-style libertarianism (or vice versa - not my point so let's not engage in chicken and egg BS). Both have the prima facie affect of pro-social program liberalism, but in the end are the economic equivalent of an old man yelling, "Hey you kids get off my lawn!" The concepts of privatization and removal of subsidies are corporate speak for making it easier for the big boys...and they do mean boys because their version of rights is that government doesn't interfere and leaves the private sphere to self-regulate. We all know how that works for women and minorities, don't we? It makes people feel good to say they are all for rights and freedom and equality (the so-called liberal tendency of this party). Some of us are willing… (another 82 words)
StarStar (4)   NY Times article about the German Nanny State by Small Town Boy
One person's "nanny state" is another person's social justice. The writer obviously has a fairly right-wing I'm-alright-Jack perspective, or perhaps just wrote what she thought her American audience wanted to hear. She even criticises the labelling of food high in fat or salt, and indirectly thus attempts to reduce smoking as well, something that happens not only in Germany but in basically every western country outside of America. In fact other countries are much further ahead in those fields.
StarStarStarStar (7)   Looking for house for over two years by the.frollein
No offense, but I'm not surprised that landlords and agents won't give you the time of day once they get a look at your financial situation. Remember that there's many more people that *want* housing than there is housing available - so of course if you're a landlord (unless you're extraordinarily altruistic), you're going to choose those tenants with the best financial situation. You might want to check whether you're eligible for a Wohnberechtigungsschein - basically a certificate that entitles you to subsidised housing. This is no guarantee that you'll get housing, but it could vastly improve your chances at finding something.
StarStarStarStar (7)   Appointment letter from Arbeitsagentur by sosarx
Any comment? Stop committing fraud. Either you are here and looking for work - or you are not. Either you get money from us all via our contributions - or you don't (deserve it).
StarStarStar (6)   Why are you unhappy today? by Irish_Aine
Im suicidal again. I dont know what happened, I was feeling fine but yesterday I just kinda snapped. I took some pills, drank some vodka. Had a row with my mum and slept. Ive got an emergency appointment with my doctor later today. Isnt life great, Ill be fine tho. At least I have the sense to get some help

Tuesday 03.Mar.2015

StarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStar (19)   The Vent by Erised
I have listened to you moan for seven years that you just want to fall in love. That you are so tired of girls not seeing your inner soul of peace and love and poetry. I have made lots of suggestions, like join a gym or class. Take up an interesting hobby. Travel. Go to clubs. Join a dating website..... and ALL were shot down by you because..... You hate old chicks, she must be young, like 18 is cool with you. She must not be a "fat chick" that hangs around gyms. She must spend all her time with you and not talk to other guys. She must be bubbly and fun and want sex all the time and not have kids, because, of course, you want to knock her up fresh with baby #5 because all your ex-wives won't let you near your 4 other kids and you just want to raise a family. Of course, most… (another 93 words)
StarStarStarStar (8)   The Vent by chaos_amoeba
Dear Herr Professor Doktor Swanzkopf: You know what you did. You know what happened. You are fully aware that you were bang out of order and I have at least one witness who is prepared to say so. So, yes, I made a complaint. And no, I don't want to work with you in any way in the future. But No, my work is still not incompetent or fraudulent just because it doesn't fit your pet theory... if one of us is a scientific fraud, it isn't me, so please stop implying that about me. You really are pathetic. As for your butt-licking minion: Minion, are you really prepared to lie about two people who have never harmed you (in fact, we have both helped you) just to please Him? Would you really go to the lengths of placing a formal complaint against someone utterly innocent, just to please… (another 56 words)
StarStarStarStarStarStarStar (13)   A warning to cat owners by emkay
Attached imageI think I dare now to say that our Joey has recovered. He has had 4 IV infusions to clear his kidneys and various other medications and has bounced back to life going past the danger period. Fingers crossed he continues to improve. Thank you all for your kind wishes...they worked a treat....
StarStarStarStarStar (10)   Using a recording of workplace harassment by Smaug
According to Section 201 of the German criminal code an audio recording of someone else's private words is punishable by fine or up to three years imprisonment, so the answer to your question is "NO", it's not only not allowed; it's an offence. Don't tell anyone at work you've got this recording and don't use it. What you need to do is take notes of what was said when and by whom. You also need to lawyer up. Yes, I know, you don't have much money, but you need a lawyer, because, no offence, you don't come across as someone who can navigate the shitty situation you are in on your own. Oh, and if I were in your shoes I'd be looking for another job because your relationship with your coworkers, and possibly your employer as a whole, is not going to… (another 108 words)
StarStarStarStar (8)   Why are you happy today? by Clive2677
Following on from my entry yesterday in "Why are you unhappy today" my younger son, who hasn't been in touch for seven years contacted me today and we have arranged to meet on Friday. Am I happy today? You bet.
StarStarStarStar (7)   Unpaid overtime - common in Germany? by LeonG
How so? You ask what their overtime policy is. Lets say they say overtime is unpaid. You will then say: "but x% of companies in Germany pay for overtime"? You think they will change their policy because of that? If it's a dealbreaker for you, you should simply say that you will not work overtime if it's unpaid. That's regardless of the policies of this employer or x% of other employers in Germany. If that is a dealbreaker for them too, then you simply don't end up working there and keep looking.
StarStarStar (6)   Negative experience with Ausländerbehörde by shayne_s72
Hallo there! Not sure if this post will still be active after 2.5 years since the last reply but here goes my bit of venting... The Amt is question is the Ausländerangelegeheiten of Stadt-Köln and the issue is regarding my application for long-term visa in order to work as a home-based freelance medical writer out of Cologne. Since I am a non-EU, non-buddy country passport holder, I made the application from the German Consulate overseas...about 5 months ago. Now I am a science professional, with a 15 year research experience in various countries (including Germany) and a 4 year writing experience. I did live in Cologne from 2011-2014 as a researcher on a EU project (on a pittance called fellowship), integrated wonderfully, went as high as A2.1 in Deutsch Sprachkurs at the VHS (despite… (another 790 words)
StarStarStar (6)   Worst jokes ever by fuzzytony
The Black Cow and the White Cow A man goes hiking and he sees a farmer with two cows, one is black and the other is white. The man walks up to the farmer and asks him, "What do you feed the cows?" The farmer asks, "The black one or the white one?" "The black one," says the man. "I feed it grass." "What about the white one, then?" "I feed it grass, too." The man nods. "And where do they usually sleep?" "The black one or the white one?" the farmer asks. "The black one." "In the barn." "What about the white one?" "It sleeps in the barn too," says the farmer. The hiker starts getting frustrated. "And what do you use them for?" he asks. The farmer asks again,… (another 103 words)
StarStarStar (6)   Worst jokes ever by clickety6
A guy was driving along a deserted country road late one evening with no other cars in sight. Suddenly his car started to cough and the engine died, leaving him sitting on the side of the road. He opened the bonnet and turned on his torch but he had no idea what was wrong. Suddenly, he heard a deep voice say "It's your fuel pump." "Who said that?" the man called out. The voice said again, "It's your fuel pump. Give it a tap with your torch". The man looked up and saw two horses, a white one and a black one, in a field. Nervously and feeling a little foolish he asked "Did one of you talk to me?" The white horse answered, "Yes. It's your fuel pump. Tap it with your torch and try it again." Confused, the man tapped the fuel pump… (another 144 words)
StarStarStar (5)   A sticky situation regarding relationship by dessa_dangerous
We also got married with zero guests present. Still dearly regarded as the most intimate and romantic day of our lives. But that is besides the point, forgive me. OP has decided to have a small wedding and choose who he wants there. Simple as that. There is nothing written in any social or moral code that I know of, which states that if you request the company of one person, their significant other is automatically invited. Of course, manymanymanymanymanymany people behave as if there is, but my conviction is that they are loony-tunes and have invented this rule in their own heads. Perhaps in Victorian England, or on the prairie way back when, or even in the first two-thirds of the 20th century, when a woman was basically regarded as the property of her husband, and wouldn't be allowed… (another 363 words)
StarStarStar (5)   Obtaining a driving license in Germany by MuffinTop
I recently obtained my drivers license in the netherlands, so not germany, but the two countries are neighbours and I think the process is not greatly dissimilar. I took hundreds of hours of lessons and have probably experienced every driving instructor horror story possible... Firstly, do NOT go for instructors offering discount rates/coupons - it's a sign that they can't get enough business which says something about either their teaching or reliability. And only pay in advance for multiple lessons/package if you can get a signed contract. Secondly, the number of hours. Part of my taking so many hours was because of the first instructor who kept cancelling lessons/turning up late, so I couldn't practise regularly... i paid him in advance (big mistake), now taking him to court… (another 469 words)
StarStarStar (5)   Munich Curry Night by MadAxeMurderer
Ah let's not have another curry war especially over me. 2 weeks ago Enview proposed Mahrani for last week, when I was sure I couldn't come. I begged him to delay it 1 week and make last Palast der Winde instead, a restaurant I refuse to go to. I'm probably not coming this week anyway. So coupled with that and the fact it's Uncle_Nick's birthday, I'm quite happy for my request for a Maharani this week to be overrun. @Uncle_Nick It is true that you're a sporadic curry eater so you probably didn't even realise that we tend to discuss at one curry where to go in the future. Special requests like birthdays and being in town when you're not usually; can be requested from the curry dictator. A bribe always helps. But the way you went about it, even though not… (another 73 words)
StarStar (4)   Why are you unhappy today? by fuzzytony
...and then of course I've got this terrible pain in all the diodes down my left hand side. Oh yes, I mean I've asked for them to be replaced but no one ever listens. Funny, how just when you think life can’t possibly get any worse it suddenly does. Life! Don't talk to me about life. Pardon me for breathing, which I never do anyway so I don't know why I bother to say it. Oh God, I'm so depressed. Do you want me to sit in a corner and rust or just fall apart where I'm standing? What’s up? I don’t know, I've never been there. Life. Loathe if or ignore it, you can’t like it.

Monday 02.Mar.2015

StarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStar (17)   Why are you unhappy today? by SpiderPig
I am deeply saddened because today i finally applied for joint custody of Lilly.... I had to make a statement as to why I was applying and was forced to tell them the crap that her mother puts me through... I feel sick to the stomach.. I know that I have to do this for Lilly, but would have prefered if it was done amicably.. I feel empty and very very alone....
StarStarStarStarStarStarStarStar (15)   Opinions on MMR vaccinations for children by calibear
Just a little anecdote from our life with a chronically ill child and how very seriously doctors are taking measles: My daughter had her first MMR and all other vaccinations before she became very ill with an extremely rare neurological syndrome (think 1 in 20 Mio). Unfortunately she is not immune to measles after the first shot as tested by her pediatrician. She has been stable for almost two years now, but so far her neurologists have always been of the opinion that we should hold off on any vaccinations as her particular syndrome is so very rare and it is unknown if there is a auto-immune component to it. It is one of the possibilities though. Last week, after it seemed that the measles were edging closer and closer to us I started making phone calls to inquire about vaccinating her now… (another 210 words)
StarStarStar (6)   Opinions on MMR vaccinations for children by chaos_amoeba
At the risk of starting an OT debate here, did anyone else happen to catch the recent BBC docu on childbirth? (Childbirth: All or Nothing) following people who made unusual birth choices? One of them chose 'free birth' - alone and unobserved, on a houseboat with just her husband and two year old child there. She reminded me rather of the anti-vaxxers. The NHS midwives (she did attend pre-natal meetings) were obviously very concerned but said they couldn't force her to choose differently; they offered her a list of emergency contact numbers, just in case - she refused. Admittedly, her husband could call 999 for an ambulance - but they were floating about on a canal, not the easiest place to bring an ambulance. She claimed that she would 'know by instinct' if anything was… (another 185 words)
StarStarStarStarStar (10)   Who washes the dishes in your household? by chaos_amoeba
When my husband and I first lved together, I did almost everything, though we shared cooking and washing up. Basically, those were the only chores he understood though he would hoover if asked, but refused to dust because, apparently, his Mum always said he did it wrong. Over the years, he's watched and realised how much time I spend on housework. Because he's inherently not a bad person, he gradually added things to his repertoire to make this fairer. Since he cut down his work hours, he's been keen to take on more, since he knows that I am doing more to bring home the money, have long hours and a stressful job. That is nice. We lived in a barn conversion for a while, and he saw me dusting the beams with a feather duster. He thinks that's fun, so now he does all the dusting,… (another 182 words)
StarStarStarStar (7)   Missing Person: Mirela Moisa by Bookslut
Is she really missing, or has she just cut off contact with you all? The wording you use ("...she might be applying in vain...) makes me wonder if she is just getting away from a controling family... I hope she is safe, and happy with her new life.
StarStarStarStar (7)   Best instant coffee in Germany by Small Town Boy
Filter coffee is about 2% more work than instant coffee but about 2000% better-tasting. Instead of spooning coffee-containing granules into a cup and adding water you spoon actual coffee into a filter on top of a cup and add water. Couldn't be easier, and the result rivals any of the gimmicky coffee machines.
StarStarStar (6)   Lost iPhone - Lilienstr. Munich by mtbiking
Is it powered on? If it is and the owner hasn't called you yet, try long-clicking on the main button and see if Siri comes up. If it does try the commands "call my wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend" or "call my mother/father/brother/sister", or the same in German. Or even "take me home" if you want to get the address of the owner. In the default phone settings those commands override the screen block. If it doesn't have battery left, get a cable from somewhere and charge it..
StarStarStar (6)   A single tear for the Makler by Hutcho
This isn't a loophole, it's the way it's meant to be. However, basically no one will go to a Makler for this, because everything is on the internet now these days anyway, so people can just do it themselves. If they do go to a Makler, they sure as hell won't be willing to pay 2 months rent for being shown around a couple of places. Some Maklers might end up making a business out of this by reducing their fees substantially, but certainly not at 2.38 months rent. Of course they can do all these things, but they are things most people don't need, and if they do need them, they need them for a sensible price. To pick up over 30 grand for selling a 1 million euro house is absurd. Once the person who orders the service has to pay, the pricing strategy will be forced to chance… (another 28 words)
StarStar (4)   A single tear for the Makler by MadAxeMurderer
It's all a bit of a quandary for me. I rent out my furnished apartments through Home Company. With short term furnished rentals the agency both charges less and does more work. They do the handovers for me, and sometimes twist my arm to get things replaced.I kinda hope the Makler reform will not hit short term rentals. Now for unfurnished rentals if the makler actually acted on the tenant's behalf. Picked up tenant from work, drove them to see 6 properties and had the keys ready then they would provide a service. But in the current system they add as much value for the tenant as a bouncer does vetting patrons going into a nightclub.
StarStarStar (6)   Pleeeze help me by silty1
I'm from New York and all we have to do on the bus is swipe this card and you're good to go, but here, jeez, you got to know where you're going. So can someone tell me where I want to go? And how do I do that?
StarStarStar (5)   The Vent by Chat Noir
Losing faith in humanity? Nah, I never had any to begin with. Whenever I find something that had been lost, I always take it to customer service. This includes a brand new iphone and a diamond earring. God forbid, you piece of you return a hand painted cat necklace my kid lost! You kept it because it was pretty! I normally would wish that the string strangles you in your sleep but I'm thinking that maybe you gave it to your kid. So, you keep it and I will just buy another one, already have contacted the artist who makes them. You do disgust me though!
StarStarStar (5)   Leasing furnished apartment - rights as tenant by MadAxeMurderer
Did you actually agree in writing or even verbally to dog sitting? It's an unusual perk for a landlord. The Mieterein is the tenant's association. It's a bunch of lawyers, probably not brilliant but specialised in property law, and quite cheap. They sort out most problems pretty snappily. Everybody knows they know their stuff, and are afraid of tenants getting their advice. I'm such a good landlord I've never had the Mietverein sicced on me.
StarStarStar (5)   Leasing furnished apartment - rights as tenant by mandyhward
Thank you thank you! I gathered my courage and told her and her daughter they needed to leave (after 8 hours) because I couldn't think straight over my dogs barking out of terror. She said "Ok see you tomorrow" and I asked why? And she looked confused, so I put it out very simply that I have a right to a clean space, and she is only to appear when called. She needs to remove her things or I will. There was a misunderstanding it seems that she just very much wanted to be my friend. Hopefully this clear and brutally honest communication will put an ends to this, but if it continues I have no problem with taking further action. Thank you all so much for the insight! What a nightmare!

Sunday 01.Mar.2015

StarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStar (18)   Opinions on MMR vaccinations for children by Metall
Sorry if this is long: A major Bavarian radio station has a good quality (meaning calls are screened, informed studio guests) Sunday talk show on current developments. Today's topic was if measles immunization (and vaccinations in general) should be mandatory in Germany. That interested me, being from the medical business. I was a bit surprised by the amount (but not a majority) of anti-immunization of calls, and even the studio guest, the chief editor of a local newspaper was a skeptic. All the opinions voiced already were covered in this thread, so I won't repeat them. When a German GP (Allgemeinarzt) spouted "immunizations are bodily injury" ("Impfungen sind Körperverletzung!"), I picked up the phone and called the talk show. I was pleasantly surprised… (another 490 words)
StarStarStarStarStar (9)   Opinions on MMR vaccinations for children by sarabyrd
They should be refused coverage and kept separate from the herd, living in a kind of parallel world where everyone can rejoice in their natural life - and the early natural death of their children. I have no patience with blatant stupidity and wilful mental blindness. After asking about the antivirus protection for their PCs, here's another quiz: Do you have car seats for your children? Do you use them to protect them from outside incidents such as high velocity impact? Do you use them even though you drive carefully yourself? If you answered "Yes" to all three questions - Why the hell won't you ... Oh, forget it. They won't learn until it's too late, and not necessarily just for them but for others as well. Idiots.
StarStarStarStarStarStarStar (14)   Surgery in Munich for US citizen w/ no insurance by beckin
As a follow up, just wanted to let people know how this played out on the medical/financial side, in case anyone else ends up in a similar situation, as having some kind of ballpark figure is better than nothing. My sister ended up staying in the hospital for three weeks, and had two surgeries—one emergency upon arrival, the other planned, and rather complex given her injury and immediate history. The total cost to her out of pocket was approximately 12,000 euros (she was entirely uninsured). As far as I understand, she fell (bad pun) in an interesting limbo category—as an unscheduled Notfall patient from an EU state, she was charged less than private patients who arrange to come to Germany for planned surgery. I know this because I initially went to the “international office” at Klinikum… (another 157 words)
StarStarStarStarStarStarStar (14)   The Vent by chaos_amoeba
Dear Former Landlady. You really are the dregs of humanity. You called us "exemplary tenants" when you wanted us to move out - you'd seen the house regularly, with and without our permission (which is illegal btw) and we'd done our best to look after the place despite your neglect having caused leaks etc. Then, a month after we leave, you come up with a list of "damage" we are alleged to have caused to your property. Simply because you are a money-grabbing &*$&@ and you think you can keep our deposit of nearly £1000. I think about 5% of your list is true, but comes under the heading of "fair wear and tear", so not chargeable. You raise some cleaning issues, though very minor. These are Not true. If you did want the place cleaner than we… (another 503 words)
StarStarStarStarStarStar (12)   Employees rights to increased sick days by ticky
I don't know about this. My husband recently had a case where an employee of his called in sick (or better, sent an email on sunday night) saying he was ill and wouldn't be coming in on Monday. He looked fine on Friday. So much so, that he even commented at the time: "this guy is just faking it to have a long weekend" and then on Wednesday they found out the guy died on Monday night! So you really shouldn't judge.
StarStarStarStarStarStar (12)   Who washes the dishes in your household? by fraufruit
This problem falls under the heading, "We teach people how to treat us." The person who says something needs doing in my house is the one who does it. I call it volunteering.
StarStarStarStarStarStar (11)   Who washes the dishes in your household? by friederike
We both work and we both share the housework (or we don't do it - we're both quite sloppy). I'm always surprised when couples my age (40ish) or even younger do not share the workload. It's 2015, after all, and I don't see that me having tits (sorry) makes me better equipped for household chores than men. Even my parents (in their 70s) share the work since they retired although they used to have a traditional marriage with my mum working part time due to a lack of better opportunities. But my experience is also that many women love the role of passive-agressive saint, talking about their partners like children who can't do chores right, who need constant correcting with the result that the men are fed up and stop doing the chores, which I can understand, and the wives… (another 101 words)
StarStarStar (6)   Who washes the dishes in your household? by MadAxeMurderer
Ah Friederike I can only green you once. Yes when you make an effort and it's never good enough you give up fast. If woman jumped a man every time he cleaned the bathroom, and said how a clean bathroom made her feel horny as hell, well she'd have to make a rule that the bathroom is only cleaned 10 times per week.
StarStarStar (5)   Who washes the dishes in your household? by AlexTr
Discussion last night on our dog walk: Me: Sorry my business has been so lately. It'll pick up. Wifey: It doesn't matter We're fine for money. Me: Yeah, but I'd like to contribute more. Wifey: Are you joking?! I am so relaxed knowing the house is clean and my clothes are done and the dog is handled...and I hate to get groceries and there is always bread in the house. I am not at all worried about money, but I would hate to work all my hours and then have to do that. Me: So, you don't want me to take a full time job. Wifey: No way. How would anything get done? So, as you see, even with two "wives" you still have the same conversation about unequal income and unequal distribution of housework. Today, I am doing all the ironing (business shirts included), defrosted… (another 45 words)
StarStarStarStarStar (10)   Why are you happy today? by bobD
I'm happy because we are finally in our new house after neigh on three years of searching, anti kid neighbours and associated stress,and two expensive failures. As I sit in our new living room I have to pinch myself that it is real My wife seems to lapse into a happy delerium throughout the day. I don't want to count any chickens but fingers crossed that we can be happy here.
StarStarStar (6)   Misbehaviour by students during language classes by ruapehu
I also think the direct approach is better as a first attempt. It often makes much more of an impression if the group as a whole decides on something rather than the first disciplinary instance. Do you have a chance to speak to other students without him being around? Can you count on their support - have they also said it's disturbing? I think you (or one of the other students) should say at the beginning of class - Could we make an agreement among all the students to switch our phones off during class? (or leave on silent and leave the room in case of an urgent call)? Because some of us are finding it hard to concentrate when phones ring constantly. This also gives the "naughty" one the chance to save face, as you're addressing the entire class and not just him (although… (another 101 words)
StarStar (4)   A single tear for the Makler by Hazza
These would be valid observations and speculations if the makler was an essential part of the process. Then landlords would indeed be looking at loopholes and ways of reclaiming out of pocket expenses to a makler from the tenant. However, the reality is that they are not - especially in this day and age where anyone can easily post an ad online for a few €'s to find a tenant themselves. The most likely scenarios are that either: 1. Makler fees will be reduced to a level where the landlord feels that they are getting value for money, or 2. Landlords will simply forego their services completely and find their own tenants The few landlords who might try to insist on using a makler at current rates, and somehow trying to find a way to make the tenant pay through higher rent or long-term… (another 29 words)
StarStar (4)   What made you smile today? by HEM
Several days ago a muffled voice spoke out of a drawer in the dining area: "You have reached your destination". Frightened the life out of the wife. You'd have thought that if the Navi was still running & hadn't had a GPS signal for a few days they could have programmed it to say "Heeelp - I'm shut in - please rescue me".
StarStar (4)   Family funeral - should I cross the Atlantic? by vmelchers
I never expected so many responses, thank you everyone for sharing your thoughts on the matter. My father called me back a few hours after his initial call. He was drunk when we first spoke and he apologized for the way he sounded. It was reassuring in a sense, and alarming in another... I offered to go ASAP (i.e. not wait until the official date of the service) but he said he would prefer me to come for the funeral. He said he was working now and won't be taking time off. Him and his brother are overseing the entire process. He asked me to wait until the date of the funeral is confirmed before booking my flights, and that he will pay for part of it. That being said, I am really not family oriented and am kind of annoyed for having to go, to be honest. I would rather go on a holiday… (another 37 words)
StarStar (3)   The Whisky Fair - Limburg a.d. Lahn by Malt-Teaser
Hi all, I think I mentioned this event last year but left it a bit late so this year I'm being a little earlier: For me "The Whisky Fair" is the best whisky festival in the annual calendar, certainly in Germany, possibly world-wide. What makes it different is that it focuses on independent bottlings and rarer whiskies from years gone by as opposed to the 'usual' corporate marketing stands showing what's new or current. In fact I don't recall any of the corporates exhibiting there, certainly in the last few years I attended. It's running during the last weekend of April so if anyone's in the area and likes a dram I highly recommend it, although expect the Saturday to be very busy, it usually is. Sunday is certainly the quieter of the two days. Just to… (another 93 words)

Saturday 28.Feb.2015

StarStarStarStar (7)   Family funeral - should I cross the Atlantic? by mkwiede
My grandparents were my primary caregivers while my mom and dad had their awesome careers. My grandmother was my mother. I get teary eyed daily because I would love to share moments with them. Not everyone has your situation, grief is still grief. That being said. Sorry for your loss. And if you think your dad needs you then go.
StarStarStar (6)   Family funeral - should I cross the Atlantic? by katheliz
Really? The deaths of our grandparents help to prepare us for the deaths of our parents. We grow up knowing our grandparents are old and that some day they'll die. Our parents, whom we may have known since their 20s, have a more immediate effect on us when they die, bringing with their death the forced realization that our generation will be next. Still, the grief for our close relatives is all-pervasive and can't be quantified.
StarStarStar (6)   Family funeral - should I cross the Atlantic? by jeremy
Jesus I have to offer the humblest apology for my above comment. As is usual with me it came out completely wrong. It sounded terrible! Oh Jesus last thing I wanted to cause was hurt. Misconstrued and I said it completely wrong.
StarStar (3)   Family funeral - should I cross the Atlantic? by dugald1
Vanessa: I would urge you to do what the majority of suggestions here suggest you do... go to the funeral. I lost my wife just about two years ago, and without the presence of my daughter at the funeral I don't know what I would have done. You will only get one chance to do this Vanessa. I live in Canada and have made several visits to Scotland for funerals. All of those visits had problems associated with them, but i am very glad I went to the funerals. When i lived in Scotland I had the opportunity to attend the funerals of both my grandmothers but I didn't go, and I've regretted it all my adult life. I wish you luck Vanessa, and hope you make the correct choice. Dugald.
StarStarStarStar (7)   What made you smile today? by bobbylines
Was outside my motorbike dealears today standing about 10m away from my bike,suddenly my navi blasted out"please drive to the chosen route" two little girls playing nearby first looked startled and then one said "how cool is that! a motorbike that can talk" i felt like the knight rider
StarStarStarStar (7)   Why are you happy today? by LeonG
I am happy today that my new boss is so nice. I was working all day and he phoned me at 4 pm to ask if I had something to eat. I told him I brought a sandwich and he was shocked that I only had a sandwich all day and quickly sent over a pizza and coke to keep me from starving.
StarStarStar (5)   Why are you happy today? by Metall
Kinda happy because I was able to fight through a 4 hour performance review at at work yesterday. They gave me a lot of flak for being sick too much - so I came clean about my chronic headaches (and what I'm doing about it), named the name of my work mobber, and fought tooth and nail every damn minute. Result: Did get a raise after all. *phew* It's kinda sad that employees need to do extensive self marketing these days, too, as if they were contractors.
StarStar (4)   Why are you happy today? by jeremy
I'm satisfied because i probably have the most menial low paid job I've ever done in my life yet it is so satisfying. I wake up 5.30am SATURDAYS to build up a market stall, sometimes burn my thigh on gas heaters, cut my lip bad last weekend, then later I take their waste to the recycle place. Pay is peanuts but i get fresh air, loads of laughter from the market ladies, buckets of free fruit and veg. best thing is no twatty boss with a power trip!
StarStarStar (6)   US native, want to do Master in tourism by 2B_orNot2B
Graduate degrees in most fields from free (?) or publicly funded German universities are highly regarded in most countries. Private German universities mostly consider themselves as elite institutes, an attitude which is mirrored by their marketing departments and their fees. Quality ratings, alumni reviews and assessments for unis in either system can be found online. I've no idea which would be preferable for the program you're interested in though. Unfortunately, sfindlay's picture of Heidelberg is no longer actual since, apart from a handful of peeps still turning the lights out, there are no longer any active US military personnel there. The US European Command units which were formerly stationed there have long since been dispersed to *Wiesbaden, Mannheim, Kaiserslautern,… (another 512 words)
StarStarStar (6)   Need job and place to stay - urgent by 2B_orNot2B
Why do you need our help?Neither do we! Especially not since you're choosing to drip-feed the essential details we'd need to help you. To refresh your memory... ...(4 days after your first post) this is the sum total of our knowledge about you: 4 pertinent facts + 3 vague claims The best help we can offer you under these circumstances is to advise you to learn to help yourself. Most adult expats new to Germany have had to learn that lesson themselves too. Many of us had to do that before the internet existed. I recommend you look at the top of your screen and click on the words "Jobs" and "Property" behind which you will find search tools designed to make it easy for English-only speakers to cope with. You should also click on "More..." then… (another 56 words)
StarStar (4)   Need job and place to stay - urgent by robinson100
Personally, I would prefer that the OP gets himself a job, rather than living off the State from his first day in Germany! Obviously, with the information currently available, it would be near impossible for any of us to help him find a job, but I certainly think that he should be further encouraged in this direction - sure, he might be "entitled" to benefits by the simple fact that he is "German", but I fail to see a reason why the tax-payers of this country should support somebody who has just decided to move here, without first organising a job and a place to live...
StarStarStar (5)   Misbehaviour by students during language classes by Mellyco
This is a case where you need to speak to the teacher, and if nothing changes, speak to the director. You are there to learn, and if he is disrupting class in this way, you can't. If they won't speak to him or make him behave, is there any other class in the school that you could transfer into?
StarStar (3)   Misbehaviour by students during language classes by Erdmann
[adminmerge][/adminmerge] Just wanted to share my experience at the Sprachschule, where I go to learn German. We are a nice batch and everyone is very keen to learn the language. Along comes a new guy who says he knows German, as he learnt it from the "Streets of Berlin" (honestly, it's quite horrible, but joining the Sprachschule would do him some good) and I'm guessing he is obliged to write an exam soon, as instructed by the Ausländerbehörde. Oh, and he's been in Germany for 6 years, apparently. We give him a warm welcome to our batch and the class resumes. The problem occurs now. First, he is least interested to learn the language (he said so, to our Teacher). He says that his native language is enough for him and he doesn't like German (people are touchy about… (another 139 words)
StarStar (3)   US Military Reserve Retiree SOFA by the.frollein
I can't speak to the military issues such as SOFA and post/commissary access. However, this raises huge red flags: Not sure where you got your information from, but it's antiquated and wrong. There is no 90-day residency. As a US citizen, you have the right to visit as a tourist for 90 days. Once that is through, you will have to leave Germany, and the entire Schengen zone, for 90 days, before you're allowed back for another 90-day tourist stay. There is no such thing as a Gastarbeiter permit, it's no longer the 60s here. Read the TT Wiki page on permits and residency for more information. Seeing as you're retired, I assume you wouldn't be interested in working. Other possibilities for a residence permit involve language study, or marrying a German or EU national.… (another 82 words)
StarStar (3)   Complaints from a neighbour about cooking smell by lisa13
Yeah SP you may be right. And as an American I have NEVER had friendsships with or worked with or lived next to Indian people/families. They've NEVER cooked for me, shared recipes or cooking tips with me. And the website I linked is backed by a bunch of deep south hillbillies - it's a complete lie (that cumin is an integral indian spice). My comment was not against aqua-minnie at all, and I have no idea what her background is (I don't review profiles very often) but the idea that cumin is not often used in indian cooking simply did not compute for me. Which is why I asked - maybe she meant that it's not used in large quantities? no idea. Merely postulating the ingredient link between mexican and indian cuisines and why they might be "offensive" to one's nose.… (another 39 words)
StarStar (3)   A single tear for the Makler by murphaph
If the LL uses a Makler and IF he does (which many will not when they see how much these leaches actually cost) then the amounts will be much lower as there will be true competition between the Maklers who remain in the game. They'll be offering what they offer in the UK or Ireland, maybe one month's rent (at the very max), but to be honest I expect most LLs to simply drop the Makler and post the ads themselves. The internet has made the job of a Makler largely redundant (except in cases where the LL is not able to manage the property directly, perhaps because he lives too far from it).

Friday 27.Feb.2015

StarStarStarStarStar (9)   Family funeral - should I cross the Atlantic? by vmelchers
Hi all, I need TT guidance... My father called me from Canada a few hours ago, informing me that my grandmother died in the hospital last night. She had been ill and we knew for the past 2-3 weeks that the end was near, she was 90. I personally felt like this was the right time and was ready for this news. My father is absolutely shattered. I am his only daughter, he is divorced since '89 and single since, he spoke to his mother every night, visited her every weekend. Basically she became the center of his life after I left Canada 3 years ago (he fell into alcoholism after I left but was now getting better). Instead of feeling sad for the loss of my grandmother, I felt very concerned for my father. He told me he wishes that I visit him, he needs to be hugged and feels lost, but then… (another 221 words)
StarStarStarStar (7)   Family funeral - should I cross the Atlantic? by Metall
Hi, I think you need to go, because it helps to go to the service, talk to the family etc. German has a great word for this: "Trauerarbeit" (grieving as an active process, involving work, but also personal progress). I was unemployed when a very dear relative died overseas, and it helped me greatly that I was given a flight ticket to go there. I would be kicking myself if I hadn't gone. In your situation I would ask for financial help with the ticket, and go soon (cheaper, time with your Dad). Is there a way to avoid unpleasant situations like visiting a friend for a day or so? Or could you go hiking etc. to get away a bit? Also, try not to take whatever your Dad babbles just now (because he is) too seriously. Grief will make people say and do strange things they didn't… (another 3 words)
StarStarStar (5)   Family funeral - should I cross the Atlantic? by Viennamom
From personal experience-- if it is at all possible to go, GO! You won't regret it. My grandmother died a little over a year ago-- it was a fairly sudden thing(died within about 4 days of going into hospice.) My parents told me there was no pressure or expectation to come-- in fact my mother basically said don't bother. However I simply booked my ticket and informed them that I would be arriving that evening. And in fact I found out later from my dad that basically my mom (whose mother it was who died) was trying to put up a brave front and didn't want to give me the 'hassle' of a trans-Atlantic trip at short notice-- and it made it all a little easier having her daughter present. So I was there for my mom. In addition it made the death feel more real to me and I was… (another 51 words)
StarStarStarStar (8)   Why are you happy today? by La Poune
I'm happy because I got promoted to a team leader position after a week of stressful interviews. What was supposed to be a temporary job while I get comfortably installed in Germany is becoming an important step in my career!
StarStarStarStar (7)   Obituary thread for the demise of notable folk by Gwaptiva
"... yet it should be noted, in the midst of our sorrow, this death takes place in the shadow of new life, the sunrise of a new world; a world that our beloved comrade gave his life to protect and nourish. He did not feel this sacrifice a vain or empty one, and we will not debate his profound wisdom at these proceedings. Of my friend, I can only say this: Of all the souls I have encountered in my travels, his was the most ... human." - James T Kirk RIP to a man that could do so much more than just be Spock, but will forever be remembered with great affection as Spock.
StarStarStar (6)   A warning to cat owners by emkay
Although Ive been a cat owner all my life, I had only ever vaguely heard that lilies might be poisonous to cats. I threw away some lilies I had been given just to be safe though it now seems one of our kittens might have consumed a part dropped en route to the bin though I extracted as much as possible from his mouth. He's now very poorly with sickness and diarrhea. Might be coincidence of course Our vet almost dismissed the possible lily poisoning. Seems that the general veterinary opinion is that all parts of lilies (including the vase water) can be, and mostly are, fatal to cats causing renal failure in a matter of hours or a few days. Many animal charities are campaigning for greater awareness. Just a quick Google has lots of information.......Lily poisoning. The next 12 hours are… (another 37 words)
StarStarStar (5)   A sticky situation regarding relationship by LMAshton
No. I'm saying it's a shame that he's unmarried, shame meaning unfortunate, since he would prefer to be married and in a permanent relationship with a woman. Is it really necessary to find the absolute worst way to interpret something?
StarStarStar (5)   What made you smile today? by tor
Even though it is a drizzly day, I decided to walk to the Ubahn instead of riding a stadtrad to enjoy the weather. If I hadn't walked, I would not have found the leather glove I lost a few days ago, neatly placed on a post.
StarStar (4)   Are we avoiding the PEGIDA topic? by sosarx
Have you been in Vietnam, Great Engineer? During that war which, if at all, only served the American arms industry. I bet no. But you dare to call people "chicken" who have undergone all sorts of hardship only to avoid --being shot at and, more important , having to kill others without any good reason (which national and personal self defence are). Respect, that's what they earn.Nothing less. If you were in that historical situation I bet you would have preferred to defend Texas from the Vietcong. Just like the heroic GWB.The greatest chicken ever .Posing in a uniform like Schwarzenegger in a really bad movie. A coward like none before in the White House.
StarStar (3)   SportScheck outlet sale - Ostbahnhof -shopping tip by kangaruhmunich
Shopping tip: I just walked past the Sportschek outlet and it's 50% off the lowest marked price for all 'textiles and footwear' ... grab yourself a bargain because things inside are already generally min. 30% of retail price then take 50% off ski wear and shoes etc ... sale ends Sat. 28 Feb they told me. Happy shopping!
StarStar (3)   Complaints from a neighbour about cooking smell by bramble
My neighbour on the same floor is of Indian heritage and now and then she cooks Indian dishes, which is evident as soon as you leave your flat or enter the house - or when they open their own front door. I don't mind as long as the smell doesn't invade my own flat. It reminds me of a quarter my husband and I were provided with many years ago when we were in the British army. A Maltese family had lived in it previously for two years and the whole place absolutely reeked of garlic. Now, I like cooking with garlic discretely myself sometimes, but this place smelled really evil. The whole flat had to be newly painted, the carpets were thrown out, as well as all the bedding including the matresses, and the sofa and chairs and the curtains had to be replaced. So, yes sometimes there is cause… (another 2 words)
StarStar (3)   European citizenship: does it exist? by 2B_orNot2B
Well, it does (as a supplementary status to national citizenship for almost all EU countries) and it doesn't (insofar as Denmark or any non-EU countries are concerned. My bolds. Source: European Citizenship >Citizenship of the European Union See also: EU Citizenship 2B

Thursday 26.Feb.2015

StarStarStarStarStarStar (11)   A sticky situation regarding relationship by poohsan
call her, tell her the good news, tell her you're really looking forward to seeing her at the wedding, and when she eventually says something along the lines of "we'll be there!" you go into the awkward pause, and then say something along the lines of "yeah, about that. I really love you and want you at my wedding, and I can tell you really like d_bag, but, I can't stand the guy and would rather you left him at home" Direct, truthful, but wrapped in a little bit of love will be, IMO, your best path forward. BTW, we're all invited, right? I mean, you do love us, don't you?
StarStarStarStarStar (10)   A sticky situation regarding relationship by LeonG
If you really don't want the guy at your wedding, I think you should come clean with your friend and say so. I would tell her that I really like her as a friend, however, I am sorry but I don't like your partner and I do not want to invite him to my wedding. Maybe you will lose the friendship and possibly regain it later if she ever leaves him or maybe she will understand and attend your wedding alone.
StarStarStarStar (8)   A sticky situation regarding relationship by Marianne013
I was once the non-invited person (no idea why), but apart from some awkwardness for a while, there was no lasting harm done - the relationship I was in ended several years later (amicably) due to unrelated reasons (it was the first serious relationship in my life and I was quite young) and the friendship between the groom and my then boyfriend survived as well. Therefore I would recommend honesty in the most diplomatic language you can muster. Stick to the issue of the wedding and not her whole relationship. I think sending an invite to her only without talking to her beforehand comes across rather passive-aggressive and will backfire.
StarStarStar (5)   The Vent by Alfalfa
To the woman opposite me on the train coughing right into the middle of a group of four, with not so much as a pretence of covering or deflecting it, and getting spittle on my hand: not cool. Srsly.
StarStarStar (5)   US native, want to do Master in tourism by engelchen
Tourism degrees taught in English in Germany tend to be very theoretical (and somewhat useless). Since many programmes try to attract foreign students with the promise of instruction in English, there are not any opportunities for students to gain practical experience in their field (tourism students who can't speak the local language are not much use in Germany). It is a quaint coastal town relying mostly on tourism in the summer. There is high unemployment (especially in the off season). There aren't any. Your son is probably too old to have a chance of integrating into the German school system. If it is definitely only for a year, it could be a good experience for him to just learn some German, however, I doubt he'll be able to keep up with his American school work and would… (another 132 words)
StarStar (3)   Asians wearing surgical masks by Alfalfa
On the train this morning, I wondered if I should be wearing a surgical mask for my own protection, since none of the people coughing and sneezing around me seemed to find it necessary to even pretend to deflect or suppress their expulsions. And yesterday, I was sitting in a group of four and the woman opposite me just coughed straight into the middle of the group. I got spittle on my hand. People, turn to the Asians, consider their ways!
StarStar (3)   How to catch mice and other rodents by Metall
I am very successful at catching mice in live traps with Nutella or peanut butter. However, if you're going to release them, go far away! Mice are great navigators, can climb up walls, and will return to your home if they can find the way. And yes, block every suspicious crack or hole.
StarStar (3)   How to catch mice and other rodents by kiplette
Well, thank you all for your suggestions and tips. We have caught 15 up to yesterday morning, and I have indeed started to take them on lengthy field trips for release. Nothing in the last 36 hours, so maybe that is that. I was spreading tiny slices of apple with peanut butter, which was pretty tasty for all of us and seemed to be a winner in the traps. Speaking of traps, is the original one I bought as the most aesthetically pleasing option. The picture suggests it actually has a mouse-trapping function, which turned out to be misleading, it is more of a dash-through snack bar. Only Toom (around here) had the small mouse-sized version of the cage trap which you see commonly in a hefty rat size or in a frightening… (another 58 words)
StarStar (3)   Complaints from a neighbour about cooking smell by aqua_minie
Shouldn't the landlady take responsibility for the cost and installation of the filter? In some places tenants can't even put a new wallpaper without landlord's permission.

Wednesday 25.Feb.2015

StarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStar (20)   Irish Aine update by Irish_Aine
The care package arrived a few days ago. I cant express how gratefull I am for everyones kindness. You guys are awesome!! I got a little laptop that had an offer on it. Its nothing amazing, but it will be something just for me to use and I can get some gaming done on it which Ive been really missing. I actually started crying when I opened the box, your kindness was overwhelming. I love you all!!! Thank you!!!
StarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStar (19)   A sticky situation regarding relationship by tor
Start by saying you are going to have a small wedding, say you really want her to be there, and send the invite in her name only. If she asks if she can bring the dunderhead, again say you really only want to have close friends, etc...if pressed you can say he is not really your favorite person and woudl rather not have him at your wedding. I think she will get the initial hint though.
StarStarStarStar (8)   A sticky situation regarding relationship by zeeklafreek
so, first off, i've asked a few RL mutual friends about how to proceed with this possible minefield of a social situation. i thought i'd try using trusty (and often funny) TT as an "objective" sounding board for other possible ideas. some back story: probably 2 of my best friends in Austin were married for almost 20 years and i was extremely close with the whole familial unit and even a godfather to one of their daughters. unfortunately, they were divorced (amicably) a few years ago. ~2 years ago, while on a visit back to Austin, the female half of the ex-couple introduced me to a guy she had met online. (just to be clear, i have nothing against meeting someone online). at the risk of sounding hyperbolic, i've never in my life had such an instant, near visceral, dislike… (another 561 words)
StarStarStarStar (7)   A sticky situation regarding relationship by Gwaptiva
Your friendship may become a touch awkward for a while, but if she's a friend, she's a friend. Considering you are getting married, considering you have very close friends that were married for 20 years, I'd say you're no longer 8 years old, you're not on a school yard: true friendships that have run that long don't break (or even dent). In fact, again it might be awkward between you for a bit, that's what friends do: Tell them their choice of partner sucks. (My best friend has done this on many many occasions -- ok, he's only not done it once, but she got away ) Now, this goes to show you're not the blunt twunt my best friend is, but inviting just her and telling her if she questions it telling her you don't want him there is totally valid.
StarStarStarStarStarStarStar (14)   Getting a doctor's appointment in an emergency by 2B_orNot2B
Attached imageHi b@tl@ji24 I'm a bit confused why anyone would turn to an online forum to ask about how to contact a doctor if they are already facing a medical emergency to be honest. If you are seriously ill you should call 112 immediately and ask for a Notarzt (Emergency Doctor) at any time of day or night. If you are not seriously ill but you are in need of urgent advice or treatment then please don't use the word emergency or call for a Notarzt in error. Having had a lifetime (genetic heart failure - complete heart block grade III) of dealing with cardiologists in many countries IME the average waiting time for an appointment is <30 days although in many German cities it may be as low as 1 - 2 weeks. I've never yet heard of a cardiologist in any European, North African or Middle East… (another 245 words)
StarStarStarStarStar (9)   The Vent by SpiderPig
You muppet!! Your Telekoms stop working at 21.00 and you call me! I ask " Have you paid the bill?" to which you lie to me and say yes! I sit on the phone to t-kom for 25 minutes trouble-shooting... Then the guy comes back on the line and says " The simplest way to fix the problem is to ask Mr XXXX to pay his bill"... AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!
StarStarStarStarStar (9)   Why are you happy today? by Metall
I'm happy I'm still here. Had a real bad scare in the subway this morning - without going into details, I thought I was done for. Seriously. After getting off (and seeing security pull the guy out), I managed to quiet my pounding heart, got on the phone, and talked to Mr Metall and his mom. I was happy to still be around, and able to talk to people close to me.
StarStarStarStarStar (9)   Why are you unhappy today? by T.O. to go
Got a call last night from my aunt in NYC that my uncle in Jamaica has died......called my aunt (like a mum to me) in JA and she is still quite distraught.....they were a wonderful couple, raised me the first 6 years of my life.....her and my mother were best friends at school......father's sister....only glad that I hadn't moved as yet and will be able to attend the funeral. So many things happening all at once right now....considering postponing move and wedding 'til Autumn.
StarStarStarStar (8)   Opinions on MMR vaccinations for children by RainKing
That is why they recommend two doses of MMR, so of the 5% of the first batch that did not develop immunity, 95% will develop it from the second.Or just consider the overwhelming evidence in favour of immunisation and let "feelings" decide which movie you want to watch.
StarStarStar (5)   Learn German the other way - Special method by 2B_orNot2B
Attached imageNo it's not, yourkeau. In common with john_g, Cosmopoliflor is using the "acute accent" character which is neither a "right single quotation mark" nor a correct sign for an apostrophe in German or any other language. In both English and German the "apostrophe" sign (Unicode: U+0027) should be used. Too much baloney. Whilst I agree that there's nothing wrong with Cosmopoliflor's intended usage of apostrophes, you're confusing the issue by introducing irrelevancies like printed "book" symbols and MS DOS limitations etc.. As to whether any expertise in typography is needed or not I beg to differ. It may not be a linguistically critical factor, however IMHO a language teacher's professional marketing image is not enhanced by a typo… (another 132 words)
StarStarStar (5)   Poor quality kitchen arrived, what are my rights? by scoffer
Not a lot to add on the legal side. They've delivered what you ordered at the price you agreed. Specific defects you can get them to fix. I can't see any joy with the legal route because you've decided after installation you don't like it. The best you can hope for is a small refund or credit voucher from the store, gesture of goodwill type stuff. Unfortunately, €9k is a silly amount of money to spend on a kitchen. It's too much and too little at the same time. Like most furnishing-type things in Germany, you have lots of choice at the cheap and expensive end of the spectrum. Cheap is either shoddy or adequate in quality, expensive is usually very good to amazing, but sometimes quite poor. Most of the technical stuff that was innovative and exclusive to expensive kitchens… (another 64 words)
StarStarStar (5)   Asians wearing surgical masks by dessa_dangerous
I'm wearing a scarf right now cos everyone at my job is sick so I have to combat the germs possibly hatching in my throat by wearing this antiviral scarf. If I don't get sick, the scarf worked. If I get sick, but not super sick, the scarf still worked. If I get super sick but don't die, who knows what could have happened if I hadn't worn the scarf? Good thing I wore it. If I die, it wasn't anything the scarf could have helped anyway. Grew up in a town with lots of various types of Southeast Asian folk, saw lots of surgical masks as a result, always thought they were onto something I was too vain to capitalize upon. Consistently paranoid and a germaphobe to the core, I still do cover my face when other people sneeze or cough. (Scarves are also good for breathing through… (another 9 words)
StarStarStar (5)   Are we avoiding the PEGIDA topic? by ale3982
I saw these guys on the news, they were saying "آل الوحدة هو الذهاب الى احراز الكأس !" Roughly translates into "My team will win the football cup!!!"
StarStar (3)   Are we avoiding the PEGIDA topic? by Chocky
Pacifism is a nice idea, but sadly it's never going to be the basis for relations between global communities. It's just depressing how the likes of ZGE (reactionary crusaders against anytthing they term 'progressive) are always the first to jump to their feet to denounce such ideas as naive or whatever. Reading about these flag waving idiots who have used Chris Kyle (the 'American' sniper) as a totem for their campaign of jingoistic, blood lusting ignorance it's pretty clear that 'murica will never learn from its mistakes, and that it's only a matter of time before it drags the world in to another unjustified, badly planned war. Gore Vidal coined the phrase 'The United States of Amnesia'
StarStar (3)   Life in Schwabing by RainKing
I have lived there for years and never even noticed this at Hohenzollernplatz. True, there are some people who like to sit on the benches there, but I have never seen them cause any problems. Munich is incredibly safe. There is a primary school at the corner of Clemenstr and Hiltenspergerstr and children walk unaccompanied to and from the U-Bahn every day. (And the UBahn exit they use is at Herzogstr, not even Hohenzollernplatz). For groceries, there are several options, including several supermarkets. There is a REWE on the corner of Schleißheimerstr and Herzogstr, or a smaller one nearer to your location on Angererstr. There are a lot of smaller shops and bakeries near there too. For your children going to the pool, or even yourself, invest in bikes. Cycling in Munich is safe and the quickest… (another 11 words)
StarStar (3)   Where to buy miso and tofu etc. by robinson100
I went to the new Asian food store in Prinzregentenstraße, i-shop, this morning, looking specifically for tofu, rice in large quantities, and miso. The store is very light and bright, the items are easy to find, and nicely presented, and the staff most helpful. In fact, I got talking to the manager, Mr Pham, a lovely, friendly guy, and even got some cooking tips from him! (he also speaks some English!) Compared to other Asian stores that I have visited, this one was most definitely the cleanest - obviously high priority is giving to hygiene and cleanliness in this store, which is a good reason I will go back there. Just out of interest to the Brits among us - they had PG Tips teabags, Heinz Baked Beans, HP Sauce as well as brown sugar!