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Thursday 24.Apr.2014

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Wednesday 23.Apr.2014

StarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStar (18)   Random and unannounced police home visit by BayrischDude
The world distrusts the police these days, until you are in need of one. Sadly, the bad ones are often recorded and then Youtubed. No one ever hears about the other 99%, which do a good job and are polite. For 25 years, I was a federal investigator. First, I am sorry the OP had a bad experience. But it's seldom a good one. It was one of the hardest things for me, was that I hardly every provided good news to people. You start off thinking youré there to help, which you are, but that is not the public view. An investigation is never started from something wonderful that happened. I always offered my name, as I felt it polite, but there is no regulation that requires it. We only need say that we are the police or criminal police. Random and unannounced. I know this is something that… (another 640 words)
StarStarStar (6)   Random and unannounced police home visit by Afrofrau
Hi ALL. I must say I'm in total awe with the concern and empathy exhibited and indeed the counsel given by the TT family. I really appreciate it all and yes I do feel a whole lot better I skyped with my husband and we've agreed to let it go and not pursue the matter further. Thanks once again, Afrofrau.
StarStarStar (5)   Random and unannounced police home visit by Metall
Still, I'm surprised these so-called cops simply barged in. Did they enter your apartment? (They shouldn't without a written search warrant.) I know, there is the "Gefahr im Verzuge" situation (imminent danger) where the German equivalent of a SWAT team will bust in, but these were putative plainsclothes policemen. To be honest, anybody can stand outside your door (in plain clothes and unmarked car), flash some sort of badge, and yell "Polizei!". I sure wouldn't open without them producing documents I can understand. And you shouldn't either. What if they were criminals (or rightwingers) trying to get in? Just saying. I've had people claiming to be performing an Umfrage (filling out a questionaire) or a census turn into ugly customers, just barely… (another 18 words)
StarStarStar (5)   Random and unannounced police home visit by airwave
Got pulled over once by plainclothes police when returning from a restaurant, relatively late at night, in a Munich neighborhood. Foreign-registered car, foreign occupants, I was the best German speaker of us all (and my German is A2 with indulgence). Plainclothes policemen, unmarked car (Mercedes C-Klasse, if I remember correctly, gunmetal color). They were aggressive in a professional way, flashed badges, then hung them around their necks, no weapons in sight. Demanded to see IDs, asked if the driver had been drinking, asked where we were coming from and where we were going, the works. Kept us with doors open in pretty cold weather, I asked politely if I could take my jacket from the trunk, the guy monitoring us said OK; as I went to pick up the jacket, the other guy came back from their… (another 61 words)
StarStarStarStar (8)   The Vent by More tea, Vicar?
So I'm at Pennymarkt with loads of things and I get to the conveyor belt. There is nothing on it between me and the cash-lady, who is deep in discussions with another lady about what she is purchasing. This goes on for some time, so I start building a pile of my stuff right at the top (empty) end of the conveyor belt where I am the only other person waiting to pay. In the meantime, your typical 6 foot 9 German comes along with a measly bag of lemons and three apples and surveys the maddening abuse of law before him. By the time I look up - when I finally hear the conveyor belt moving again - this German has placed his fruit IN FRONT OF MY SHOPPING. I watch it slowly lurching forward to the cashier lady, who has now dealt with her first customer. I am naturally standing by now next to… (another 210 words)
StarStarStar (6)   The Vent by Tibia
Attached imageYou wanted this bike so badly that you tried cutting through the padlock on the door cage in our cellar earlier this year, then when we put a bike D-lock on the cage door, you just waited a few weeks, then today you took the whole thing off its hinges. If anyone reads this and is a bit of a bike-noticer, and notices this one out and about, please let me know.
StarStarStar (5)   Old and no friends - what to do? by Melissa58275
I hope you all won't mind my chiming in....I'm not an ex-pat, yet! I will retire in Dec. of this year from my job in Washington, DC and plan to move at least temporarily to the Frankfurt/Mainz/Wiesbaden area in spring of 2015, so I've been combing through various expat sites and forums, seeking info about what life there would really be like. This thread caught my attention, because I too am "old"...60...and wondered about making new friends in Germany. The thing that struck me the most is this: The problem is not limited to ex-pats , although I don't at all discount that being in a new country makes it exponentially more difficult to make new friends. The truth is, I think that it is much harder for older folks to make friends...not because they are less friendly… (another 289 words)
StarStar (3)   Paraplegic sprinter Oscar Pistorius by Hazza
Don't forget to add - inconsistencies in his story and unlikely actions also point to this. Or how about expert defence witnesses that admit to being laymen on subjects they're testifying about. It's not just the land of common sense - it's the land of feasibility, and Oscar Pistorius' version lacks this on several fronts. You've also got the story wrong - I've been following this trial, and I never heard of the incident where a male guest knocked over a fan. In the incident with the washing machine, there was nobody else at home and he assumed that the noise was an intruder. This is important, because he never went into "combat mode" before, when it could have been a visitor - until (apparently) the night he shot Steenkamp. In fact, his ex-girlfriend… (another 242 words)
StarStar (3)   Resident in Germany working in Romania by airwave
No, your months in Romania wouldn't count in Germany. You would get some sort of unemployment benefit (ajutor de somaj) in Romania, which is about 150 euros a month (675 RON, i.e. 75% of the minimum gross wage). I'm not sure you would even get it, as I take it you've been working there for less than a year. Word of advice regarding your health insurance: the company does NOT pay your health insurance. The health insurance system in Romania is public and participation is mandatory for all employees (and other groups, but not relevant to your case). You will see a 5.5% deduction on your payslip - that's your part of the health insurance, the employer pays additionally another 5.2% of your gross wage or thereabouts. What the company is probably paying for is a supplementary private… (another 319 words)

Tuesday 22.Apr.2014

StarStarStarStarStarStar (12)   The Vent by sarabyrd
When you invite me, by letter, five weeks in advance, to a meeting on 22 April at 9 AM with all sorts of documentation I sort of expect you to be in your office. And not on vacation.
StarStar (3)   The Vent by Chocky
"the environment is part of the economy and needs to be properly integrated into it so that growth opportunities will not be missed". The words spoken by one of the ConDem's apparatchiks recently regarding the 'economic viability' of the beautiful and sacred British countryside. I don't even feel rage, just.. despair.
StarStarStarStarStar (10)   Why are you happy today? by smeeks
49th wedding anniversary today (22 April). Flashback to 1965. Standesamt, Sandhofen, W. Germany. Didn't even make the papers, but it was good news to us. Time sure flies when you are having fun. cs
StarStarStarStarStar (9)   Why are you happy today? by El Jeffo
Attached imageI'm happy because I just got three of these puppies in the mail: I booked everything about 10 days ago, but having the tix in hand makes it really real. So not only will I get to see the Pythons live ("mostly", as they say) - which has always been on my bucket list - but my son will, too. It will also be his first trip to London.
StarStarStarStar (7)   Why are you happy today? by katheliz
I answered the phone today to hear a breathless little voice saying, "Hallo, Grendmada!" It was one of my German granddaughters, the 6-year-old, asking when I could come visit them. The little dear.
StarStarStar (6)   Fake British Accents by Gwaptiva
Turn it around though, and how many native-English-speakers that have never been to a country where German is spoken natively can tell the difference between Bavarian, Saxon and Hamburg German? They can probably tell there is a difference, but it takes quite a lot of knowledge to be able to pinpoint it geographically.
StarStarStar (6)   Paraplegic sprinter Oscar Pistorius by dacarch
My gut tells me he did kill her knowingly and immediately regreted it... that is it; he commited a big mistake in a rush of anger and now is trying to get away with murder. No hollywood writer could come up with something as gripping as this, the olympic amputee, the killed beauty and the relentless prosecuting lawyer... what a cast of characters from real life!
StarStarStar (5)   Blood donation in Germany by HH_Sailor
Just a 6 monthly catch up... Tried to give an armful last Saturday and was refused. .... lived for more than 6 months in UK between 1980 and 1996. Applies for myself and the GerFrau. I hadn't checked with TT and so spent a fruitless morning. Note to self: check/search TT before trying something new in this country!
StarStar (4)   Poetic translation of a poem by sarabyrd
The discrepancy in the meter did not go unnoticed. If I were really going for a prize I would sit down and file and hone away until rhyme and rhythm are correct. Again, thank you for your appreciation. EDIT: for righter - Wake not the sleeping infant child, For sacred is its rest. By silken angels’ wings beguiled Its sweet repose is blessed. Within the star-deep cloud-borne bed Whence erst its soul arose, From kindly Norns’ rose-tinted thread Is spun its future's prose. Half still a native of the spheres, Half ever earthly yet, Life has not entered with its fears, No grief has it beset. Its slumb’ring dreams as yet retain The bliss of Heaven’s home. Let its untroubled sleep remain Within this sacred dome!
StarStar (3)   Poetic translation of a poem by Alexnf
Wow, wonderful thread (even though I found it quite late) ! +100 greens. Wonderful translation Sara. And not only the translation as translation but even more for the justice it does to the original, and the way it sound in English as well. It is incredibly difficult to translate a poem and make it sound so nice, while staying so close to the meaning of the original. Clever thought Nenette. However according to greek Mythology, Clotho from the Moirai (the one who spun the thread), appears during the 9th month of pregnancy (hence the Latin name "Nona" see got during Roman times, that means "The Ninth") Cheers, Alex
StarStar (4)   How to translate "medical condition" by jeba
What about: Sie scheinen davon auszugehen, daß man sich zwischen der Verbesserung der Hörleistung und der der Herzfunktion entscheiden muß. Ich sehe jedoch keinen Grund, warum man nicht beides gleichzeitig tun kann.
StarStar (3)   Munich Curry Night by MadAxeMurderer
Ah welcome back oh great dictator. In your reign may the curries be spicy, the drinks wet, and the punters satisfied. Iisaac, curry night happens every Wednesday without fail, and if Putin starts WWIII we'll still be having curry in the nuclear shelters on Wednesdays. So yes, events are planned for May.
StarStar (3)   Some thief bought bitcoin from my bank account by gmtl
With a signature-based Überweisung form, it's the bank's responsibility to check the signature. After all, it's the bank that decided to acccept this outrageously non-secure means of payment. That's why credit cards have been abandoning signature slips in favor of Chip-and-PIN: it's not only more secure, but it also reverses the burden of proof: with Chip-and-PIN, the client is expected to keep his PIN secret. As chip-and-pin transactions cannot be carried out without the physical possession of the card AND the client's secret information, the client is automatically assumed to be responsible for any such transaction. In stark contrast, with the Überweisung form there are no such expectations, and thus no comparable responsibility for the client in case something… (another 2 words)
StarStar (3)   Comparison of state insurance system and private by john g.
Dear aqua minie! I´m on holiday but because it´s you.......don´t worry about your choice of public insurer...there is NO State insurer and you have a free choice on the whole market, so to speak. Barmer is good enough - don´t worry. Public insurance companies/Kassen do not offer Haftpflichtversicherung- ask your insurance advisor to point you in the direction of a good, comprehensive and modern private liability insurance - you are right to mention it: it´s essential in Germany.

Monday 21.Apr.2014

StarStarStar (5)   Marriage to a Romanian in Germany with an American by engelchen
Actually, it is not difficult for the spouse of an EU citizen who has been legally living here over 5 years to obtain a residence and work permit, however, I have to agree with you on the difficulty of starting a new career at 40 in Germany for a foreigner who can't even speak German (see, for example, Pros and cons of Ausbildung, prior work experience). Although it would be a lot of paperwork and extra studying, I think the OP's financée would be better off in the US anyway. There are much more professional opportunities for nurses in the States than in Germany. What would you like to do? What formal qualifications do you already have? How many foreign languages have you already learned? The most common challenges faced by foreigners to Germany are inadequate command of German,… (another 54 words)
StarStarStar (5)   Marriage to a Romanian in Germany with an American by the.frollein
The residence and work permit will not be a problem, as Engelchen has pointed out. However, moving to a country where you don't speak the language, are completely unfamiliar with the culture, when you don't (seem to) have key qualifications that will help you find a job, and planning to start over at the age of 40 is not a good idea. Starting married life together is challenging enough, adding the above to the mix just seems a recipe for stress and eventual disaster - not least because there are no easy answers for your situation. Much better to stay in the US, and have your wife immigrate there. In a previous lifetime, I did my nurse's training in Switzerland and then took the RN exam in the US. Although it was hard, it wasn't impossible, and TBH as a nurse your wife will… (another 18 words)
StarStarStar (5)   Some thief bought bitcoin from my bank account by gmtl
I don't think there's necessarily a link between the fraudulent transaction and last week's incident with the open apartment door. After all, if someone did get in, he wouldn't necessarily have spotted the TAN sheet, which was not in plain view, and even if he did, he would not know the password for getting into online banking (unless that information was also lying around somewhere). Perhaps whoever did this used another method of doing the transaction, like an old-fashioned Überweisung form. The OP should contact the bank and ask further details about the exact way the transaction was carried out (through online banking or using an Überweisung form). I guess the second is easier to challenge than the first: the Überweisung form doesn't have any information that one… (another 31 words)
StarStar (4)   Schwyzerdytsch, Swiss German by franklan
Hi, here - as an example - the weather forecast on swiss TV: And the weather lady is actually *easy* to understand, compare that to the average lad/lady interviewed in the streets: Cheers Franklan
StarStar (3)   Deportation of EU citizens without a job by engelchen
You are actually no longer covered by your Spanish health insurance. Your colleague should probably verify that he is still insured. Just because his health insurance card has not yet expired, does not mean that his health insurance is still valid. In December 2013 Spain made a change to their EHIC validity rules that automatically voids EHICs after 90 days outside Spain.
StarStar (3)   German windows with no screens by pog451
Idiot. The Aldi / Lidl ones are exactly the same but cost 1/2 to 1/3 of the price. How long have you been here? And you still don't know about the reputation of Aldis non-food offers?

Sunday 20.Apr.2014

StarStarStarStarStar (10)   Poetic translation of a poem by sarabyrd
Simple past, honey. This poem supports the theory that children grow in heaven among the angels, that's where their souls are formed. (In this context, read up on "At The Back Of The North Wind" and Diamond's dream of the angels tending to the star garden) Here's a stab at the second stanza: In the star-deep cloudy bed Whence erst its soul arose, From celestial rosy thread Is woven its future's prose. EDIT: If you're gonna do something, do it right Wake not the infant while it sleeps, Wake not the sleeping infant child, For sacred is its rest. Sent down by angels’ wings By silken angels’ wings beguiled Its sweet repose is blessed. In the star-deep… (another 140 words)
StarStarStarStar (7)   Poetic translation of a poem by friederike
Tis is interesting - and awfully hard to translate. The poem can be confusing to a German as well because it contains some cues that make people think of death "Seele entschwebt" etc. and if you just scan it, it's very easy to get the message wrong. Perhaps that's why your friends seem to think it's sad. About the "pink ribbons": No strangled baby The German "rosige Bande" doesn't sound as, hmm, real as the English. The first association I have for rosig is the sky at sunrise - goddess Aurora/Eos etc., perhaps pink roses or something similarly ethereal - pink sounds too mundane ;-). so there is no association with the baby's sex at all, more a general idea of hope, new beginnings etc., and Band/Bande can be used in an abstract way, as Metall… (another 329 words)
StarStarStarStar (7)   Pros and cons of Ausbildung, prior work experience by tokeshu
Hi Zachary Nina has really put down everything there is to say to someone in your situation. I think no-one here is making light of your situation nor talking down to you when they say 'you have time on your side' - it's just an observation from people with a lot more experience in this country. If you can get into an Ausbildung it's something well worth thinking about. I can't really advise, only commiserate. This is Germany. Doing things the UK/US/Aussie/Kiwi/SA/Canadian etc etc way just doesn't work. You asked in one of your posts - what would it be like if you were 40 and had years of experience? They'd have to acknowledge that experience, right? I arrived when I was 38 with 2 professions behind me (including Masters level study), an international profile,… (another 338 words)
StarStar (4)   Pros and cons of Ausbildung, prior work experience by nina_glyndwr
I'm probably going to sound like a right bore, but something else popped into my head about this. Think of your pension. Yes.. I know .. you're 22 and the current retirement age in the UK is 66 so you have 44 years (at present anyway - they may raise the limit) stretching out ahead of you. Now.. you've probably heard that pensions in Germany are good. This is only true if you have had a well-paying job. Here, the amount of pension you get is not a flat rate as it is in the UK, it depends on what you put in. A lot of people who did low-paid jobs or who did part-time work or took time off to raise children are left with pensions of only a few hundred euros (say like EUR 200-300). A month. Whereas the current UK pension is GBP 113.10 a week or EUR 137.47 or EUR 595. So.. by getting… (another 202 words)
StarStarStar (6)   Health insurance and pre-existing conditions by camlough
THREE days ago and you're already impatient?? Good grief. Did it escape your notice that it is Easter, school holidays and people are off?? 3 days is nothing. Jeez. Have some patience. Also try AOK, you may have a better chance there.
StarStarStar (6)   What's going on in Ukraine? by gaberlunzi
Hi SpiderPig, I have been thinking about the word doubt a lot lately and find it like a swamp. The more I get into it, the more my mind gets full of wet mass. We all have to have a sufficient amount of doubt to survive.But as to much is very harmful,so is not having any doubt at all. You seem to be missing this spice of life totally and it shows now and then.Just like a diabetic gets into trouble when his insulin production is closed off and he gets into shock. Do yourself a favour and ditch your self assurance now and then and take yourself not as the all knowing wise guy.Bite your lips and be happy.Spring is on the way and you can be farming and enjoy the fresh air while you still can.
StarStarStar (5)   The meaning of "Inlandgespräche" in legal disputes by MadAxeMurderer
Inlandsgesprach means calls inside Germany. Inlandsfestnetzgesprach would mean only calls to landlines in Germany. Clearly a flat Tariff would exclude mobiles, and premium 019x numbers and it was naivety on the part of your landlord. The way forward I'd say is tell him clearly it was his mistake, and from now you will restrict yourself to only calling German landlines, and volunteer to pay half the excess. It's not fair to you to pay it all when he misled you, but if he's otherwise a good landlord it's not fair to him that he should cover the entire cost for his naivity, expecially when you didn't ask: Do you really mean mobile is free? Because mobile never is free except in the USA.
StarStar (4)   What are you cooking today? by sarabyrd
cheddar cheese buttermilk buscuits bacon buttermilk buscuits for the Biergarten do this afternoon EDIT: by popular demand 2 cups flour 2 tablespoons baking powder (American style) 1/4 teaspoon baking soda 1/2 teaspoon salt 1/4 cup shortening (Palmin soft) 1/2 cup grated cheddar cheese (Kerrygold) 3/4 cup buttermilk Mix the dry ingredients Cut in the shortening until the mixture looks like meal Add the cheese Add the buttermilk Roll out 1/2 inch thick, cut biscuits Bake 10 - 15 minutes at 200°C
StarStar (4)   What are you cooking today? by katheliz
Attached imageI made Spanish rice today, so-called I suppose because it has peppers in it, green or jalapeno. It turned out risotto-like, very creamy. Fry some bacon, lay meat aside. In the same pan, sauté chopped onion, peppers and rice in the bacon fat. Chop the cooked bacon. Pour rice mixture into a large pot, with the bacon. Add canned tomatoes and tomato paste, plus bouillon powder. Bring to a boil, then bake in a 350F oven until rice is cooked. Add water as often as necessary. I sprinkled some Parmesan cheese on mine. It didn't need any salt or pepper.
StarStar (4)   Getting work permit in preference to a German by engelchen
Your lawyer has either forgotten to mention a few salient points, is just stringing you along to keep collecting his fees, or you are ignoring the details. In order to qualify for a Niederlassungserlaubnis (permanent residence permit) you also need to have a steady source of income, a permit allowing you to earn that income, over 60 months of pension contributions, no criminal record, sufficient living space, and German language skills over B1 as well as have passed a test on life in Germany (see §9 AufenthG for more info). On what grounds are you planning on applying for a permit? - family reunification to a German spouse (won't work since your German spouse is divorcing you) - family reunification to a minor German child (won't work since you don't have a child) - Asylum (won't… (another 401 words)

Saturday 19.Apr.2014

StarStarStarStarStarStarStar (13)   The Vent by bramble
What a jerk! Good job I can read dogs and know how to handle them. I step forward and block his aggressively approaching Dalmation dog assertively with my body to prevent him from attacking the three dogs I am walking and that I had gathered behind me on the side of the path when I saw him coming. He tries to get around me to get at my dogs but I swiftly step sideways and stop him forcefully with my hip and my knee. His dog gets the message straight away and backs off as soon as I physically block him. The owner immediately comes up to me angrily and forces me backwards pushing me with his chest (I'm only 1.52 m and 67 years old) shouting at me. He's about 1.80 m and much younger. I push him back with my hands and shout back at him. He keeps pushing me. But I push back against him… (another 56 words)
StarStar (4)   Drug dealing scene around Görlitzer bahnhof by DickShawnsDiction
I've lived here for nearly 25 years and I'm on Weiner Strasse a few times a month (ancestral pilgrimages to the Morena); to the last weed-salesman who "accosted" me I smiled and replied, "Thanks man, but I'm cool for now," and he smiled back and that was it. Treating him like a human involved in a human activity (ie: trying to make a little money without hurting anyone) was probably the key to that brief and not unpleasant exchange. Alt-Yuppies and hipsters, with tender eyes, who crave antiseptic vistas should probably steer clear of the area. May I suggest Spandau...?
StarStar (3)   One week Praktikumplatz for My Son by janjan
If your son is really desparate, why not try a department store in Munich? My son left everything to the last minute and then three weeks at Karstadt (in Hamburg), which he actually enjoyed as he ran the sports shoe department at times and his friends who were in high-faluting Placements weren't allowed to do anything. Nö-one has ever later asked him what he did, so from the CV Point of view it didn't matter.
StarStar (3)   Poetic translation of a poem by tor
I am helping a friend prepare for a recital. I haven't heard the music, so I wasn't sure if it was happy or sad, but I was told it was sad so I was trying to make it so. thanks, I will make it happy.
StarStar (3)   Foreign car parking in Frankfurt by airwave
The green sticker (Umweltplakette) has nothing to do with the parking. The Umweltplakette (which can also be yellow or red, depending on the emissions class) can and must be acquired for any car which is to be driven through specific areas of some German cities (even when just visiting or transiting). This has nothing to do with the registration country, residence of the owner or anything like it - you just go to the resellers of these stickers (TÜV, Dekra etc), they check the car emissions class based on its certificate of registration, then will issue you the corresponding sticker for 5 euros. In Munich, you can get a residents' parking permit even for a car registered abroad. However, that was an EU registration and it was in Munich. Do check with the local Ordnungsamt.

Friday 18.Apr.2014

StarStarStarStar (8)   Why are you unhappy today? by petite_azorean
I just talked to my mom, my sister put her mobile on her ear so she could hear me for a little bit. She has an oxygen mask and I could hear her breathing, if I can call it that. Such a horrible sound! If she's still alive when I get there, they are already sorting a permission for me to go in with the baby to see her. My sister said it looks really bad... And, through unspoken words, she meant it's very likely I won't get there in time... Apparently my mom isn't in pain. At least that... A minor comfort for us all...
StarStar (3)   Why are you unhappy today? by Metall
Is your mother still conscious? Even if she isn't - call her several times today, and call her tomorrow before you go to the airport, and ask her to hang on. Seriously, I have seen very ill people mobilize great strength because they wanted to see a loved one. And if she cannot do that, both of you will have the comfort of having talked. Even if she cannot answer. I know even the intensive care unit of a hospital will connect your call to a patient. Or have a relative go there with a mobile phone, and hold it up to your mother. Let her hear your voice! Let the child make funny noises, too. Get on the phone now, that memory will be important. All the best.
StarStarStarStar (8)   The Vent by Chat Noir
Gee! Thanks Deutsche Post! Thursday morning, I see the yellow van, you deliver two packages to the neighbour across. I get very excited, I run to the door and you are gone! You didn't even ring the doorbell but you did leave a slip, "you can collect your package the next working day". Thanks a lot! Friday is a holiday, Saturday, well in this scheissdorf the post office is closed. Sunday, well that is God's day. Monday, another holiday. Now Tuesday, I can pick up my package after 11:00 and you guys close at 12, I better be sure and come on time! Last time, I wanted to send something you said: "oh, we can't because we are closing in 45'!!!" I had to explain to a very unhappy grandma why her grandchild will not be getting the… (another 49 words)
StarStar (4)   Bullying and being bullied by Gwaptiva
You are right, katheliz. I was bullied by almost the entire class all through primary school and the first few years of secondary school. In fact, it was so all-pervasive that it took me until I was 17 to realise it had kinda stopped at 14. However, those )&£%) kids have left me with no self-esteem, no self-confidence, a fear of abandonment, a feeling I am being excluded, no matter how many people tell me and show me they care about me. I do believe them, but my initial reaction is one of being "one too many", a burden, someone others put up with because they were taught to be nice to folk... But I have caught myself on occasion starting down the path of being a bully myself, and that shames me more than I can express. I do fear that there's no solution, and that there… (another 12 words)
StarStar (4)   Jokes by smeeks
Phil Mickelson’s Mercedes-Benz ... On a golf tour in Ireland, Phil Mickelson drives his Mercedes into a petrol station in a remote part of the Irish countryside. The pump attendant, obviously knows nothing about golf, greets him in a typical Irish manner completely unaware of who the golfing pro is."Top of the mornin' to yer, sir" says the attendant. Phil nods a quick "hello" and bends forward to pick up the nozzle. As he does so, two tees fall out of his shirt pocket onto the ground. “What are those?", asks the attendant. "They're called tees" replies Phil. "Well, what on the god's earth are dey for?" inquires the Irishman. "They're for resting my balls on when I'm driving", says Phil. "Jaysus",… (another 9 words)
StarStar (3)   Scammed by an eBay seller by SpiderPig
Having looked at the guys past ... then there is a possibillity that the Ebayer has had his account hacked as 2 neg feedbacks have been left in the past 10 days... Its quite common... However, Find the Guys name and adress and next time I drive to Munich, I will go knock on the door and ask whats happened... If you get the info, send an email to me and I will rattle a cage or two

Thursday 17.Apr.2014

StarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStar (20)   The Vent by Tibia
My mentally handicapped sister lives independently with carers, to the extent that she has taken some holidays supported by them, to England and to Holland. She wrote and asked if I would come to Scotland to meet up with her and our parents, as she doesn't understand that I and my other sister are estranged from them. I replied saying yes, then neutrally said, without the parents being there, I am happy to see her either alone, with our aunt, or with carers. Today her letter has been returned to me in a large envelope- a brief peek within shows lots of pages of angry parental script. So I guess they are still ranting, still hating me after 24 years of separation (a time in which I have worked hard and made peace with my demons)and they are still so bitter that they are going to block… (another 58 words)
StarStarStarStarStarStar (11)   Why are you unhappy today? by petite_azorean
My mom is on her deathbed in the hospital and I can't be there earlier than Saturday night... The flights tomorrow are either full or it costs 3000€ to travel home. It's horrible to feel that there's a price on love but that's an amount we can't afford. There's a very slim chance that I'll still see her alive... This is the worst pain ever, there's nothing I can do but wait and hope she has the strength to wait for me. My poor mommy, I just want to be by her side, hold her hand, comfort her in these last hours or days but I can't. My poor daddy and sister, they have to go through this without me... I'm devasted...
StarStar (4)   Why are you unhappy today? by kiplette
The Red Cross flew my brother back from his holiday in Thailand to be with my Mum when she was dying (24 yrs ago), maybe they still do that stuff? Thinking of you, p a, and hoping that you get to see her.
StarStar (3)   Why are you unhappy today? by robinson100
@ Petite - if you have booked a flight already, you could at least try contacting the airline and explaining the situation - they just might be able to help you get there a little sooner. Surely it would be worth a try? There is nothing worse than being forced to wait at a time like this. I really feel for you and your family. Sending huge cyber hugs
StarStar (3)   Why are you unhappy today? by marie-claire
I'm so sorry petite_azorean. I pray to the universe that you will reach your mother in time. Some airlines still offer compassionate fares. I'm not sure which ones, but I think Air France and Lufthansa would be the most likely. There is a thread about this. I hope you find some helpful information there.
StarStarStar (5)   Advice on reaching Fluent German by smilesbetter
Lots of reading! And trying to understand words based on context rather than looking them up. Getting people to explain a word that you don't know in German is great too, I always find a word sticks in my head more that way. One of my German teachers has a great method for building vocabulary. He makes mind-map style things about each subject and then we work as a class, and with him, to learn the vocabulary about a particular subject. As a result, I know all the bike parts in German and have absolutely no idea what they are called in English (Narbendynamo, anyone?) haha. I also have a book intended for Germans learning English which is a similar idea, called Words You Can Use which has lists of words under a subject (and an english example sentence). I just turn it round and try and… (another 824 words)
StarStar (4)   What's got you flummoxed today? by CanadianCat
This may be more of a rant than a flummox. So it is clearly the beginning of the outdoor bathroom season here! I know that there are times when traveling that needs must be met. But why oh why do so many men feel the need to relieve themselves at the side of a road! We have become civilized and have toilets for a reason! Put your grimey hands in your pockets and pay those 50 or 70 cents to use a toilet!!!The autobahn has all of these rest stops for a reason! Don't pull off at the next exit, pull over your car and then get out to take a pee!!! Never mind the fact that people are taking along the pathways! Covering it up with newspaper that then gets blown away does not help! USE A TOILET PEOPLE! God damn it.
StarStar (4)   Problem with hospital payment by engelchen
EU citizens wanting to take advantage of their right to Freedom of Movement are required to comply with local residence requirements. All German residents are required to have German (or BaFin-approved foreign) health insurance. Based on the info you've provided, you should have had German health insurance and your NHS coverage was (and is) not sufficient. I think your only option is to work out a payment plan with the hospital; it is not their fault that you were fraudulently trying to use your NHS card while already resident in Germany. On the other hand, I'm not sure whether you have a claim against the woman who caused the accident. The liability issue has been previously covered in another thread.
StarStar (4)   Child's near-death sparks row over refugee homes by FunnyLookingForeigner
I see attitudes like this in my workplace. People doing stupid things because no one has changed procedures and no one wants to stick their neck out and take responsibility. Germans have a very limited grasp of personal initiative. They fear the repercussions for not doing something and up very much less than the repercussions of doing something and up. hey can be lead to water but need to be told to drink.
StarStar (3)   Curry night - every Wednesday evening in Munich by NevGroom
A most excellent curry - Lamb biryani was absolutely divine - They need to work on making sauce hot without throwing chilli powder at it as it makes it very dry but, all in all, some excellent fare!
StarStar (3)   Jokes by BobUK
A young boy called Kev about 12 years old was walking down the street dragging a flattened frog on a string behind him.. He came up to the doorstep of 'a house of ill repute' and knocked on the door. When the Madam answered it, she saw the boy and asked what he wanted. He said, ''I want to have sex with one of the women inside. I have the money to buy it, and I'm not leaving until I get it." The Madam figured, why not, so she told him to come in. Once in, she told him to pick any of the girls he liked. He asked, 'Do any of the girls have any diseases?' Of course the Madam said, 'No'. The boy said, 'I heard all the men talking about having to get shots after making love with Amber -THAT'S the girl I want.' Since the little boy was so… (another 231 words)
StarStar (3)   Moving to Berlin and my situation/question is unique by Lischen7274
@tal sar: We are also in the process of searching for a temporary apartment until our household belongings arrive (also a 2-3 month period) and we have had a lot of success on Just go to "Wohnen auf Zeit" and you will find a ton of short term, furnished rentals. Hope this helps. :-)

Wednesday 16.Apr.2014

StarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStar (19)   The Vent by Nobska
My mother accidentally wrote the address as "a3" instead of "3a" and the postman couldn't find the address and sent the $70 package back ACROSS THE OCEAN! REALLY!?!?! There are 8 houses on my street and my name is on the mailbox, is "a3" to "3a" really that difficult to figure out?!!?!?!?!
StarStarStarStarStarStarStarStar (15)   The Vent by Erised
Because the world is not fair, even and just. If that were true, then nice people like my mom would not get cancer and my evil sister would not be marrying a millionaire and flying to Fiji for her honeymoon while our mother gets her Port A Cath put in. No, in a fair world, my sweet mother would be able to enjoy her golden years and reap the benefits of a paid-for house and free time to enjoy shopping, reading and movie going. Contrast that to my sister, who NEVER did a single thing for another human being that did not benefit her in some way. Someone who actually told my mother to wait by the car because she spotted her big company boss at a football game and she wanted to speak with him. She was ashamed of her. The woman that gave birth to her, nursed her, loved her and that fat, arrogant… (another 94 words)
StarStarStarStarStarStarStar (14)   The Vent by vesparia
Just got an email this morning from a baby clothing, furniture etc company. The 'theme' for the email was 'when I grow up, I want to be...' followed with babies dressed up for certain jobs. "... an air hostess" with a girl "... a doctor" with a boy "... an architect" with a boy "... a racing driver" with a boy "... a teacher" with a girl "... a cook" with a girl. I may be overreacting, but it just makes me really sad. As Museofcomedy said above, girls have a really rough time as it is. And in this case, the boys too. I even see it at school - the kids had to look at pictures of people in professions and write, for example "he is a baker". There was a photo of a female pilot, but they all wrote "he is… (another 144 words)
StarStarStarStar (7)   Travel to DE-will US custody be upheld there? by Conquistador
Given what you have posted, if I were you, there is no way I would bring your daughter to Germany- for any reason. Does your ex-husband's family have the resources to tie you up in court for a long time?
StarStarStar (6)   Diet support by Moondancer
It has taken 2 weeks, but the scale said 74.5 this morning. Been striving for this, waking up every morning and being excited about what the scale would say. Hoping, hoping, hoping! My total loss is now 10 kg. I had wanted to be 65 kg by the 26th, as that was when Mr. Moondancer got to Germany and we shared our first kiss, etc. , but that is still 9 kg. away. Will get there eventually, just not as soon as I had planned. It certainly feels good to say only 9 kg to go instead of 20.
StarStarStar (5)   Ordnung muss sein - order must be by yourkeau
Whaaat? Is it the same in Würzburg? This is not Ordnung, this is Swabian crackpottery. In VGN (Nuremberg area) you can choose if you want: 1. transferrable monthly ticket 2. non-transferrable monthly ticket for 1 person (~8 euro cheaper) 3. non-transferrable monthly ticket for the family of 2 adults and 4 kids (~5 euro cheaper) 4. Everything above valid from 9am (5-6 euro cheaper than 24-hour ticket) This is ordnung.
StarStar (4)   Drunken, Uninhibited Meetup for Beer (DUMB) by jaycool
Let's see if we can get something going here. Biddy Early's is right near the center of the city on the Sophienstrasse. Well that's where it is located but it's near the corner of Marienstrasse, and that seems to be their official address Please sign up. I'll show up either way, but it would be nice to know if I'll be alone or not... 1. Jaycool 2. 3. ...
StarStar (4)   Advice on reaching Fluent German by Petrusnator
First of all, I applaud you for your effort in learning German. Please forget the unconstructive comments, nobody needs them I started learning German less than two years ago and so far I am able to hold a semi-intelligent conversation in German reasonably without much problem. Its not perfect, but mostly I am able to correct myself after that. Here's a few things I have learnt: 1. Learn and understand the grammar. German demands more precision than English, so learn the word form. For example: instead of learning the word "fahren", learn the grammatical characteristics of the word: Ich fahre mit (dativ) auf (dativ). It may sound counter-intuitive to learn words like that, since it consumes more time. But I have seen countless examples of people learning German by conversation… (another 167 words)
StarStar (4)   Bought a Wochenendhaus in Germany, afterthoughts by scoffer
As is so often the case with suppliers whom you are not going to be giving repeat business to.It's your property, the previous owner should be out. Letter (Einschreiben Einwurf) giving them 7 days to remove their property or you will treat it as abandoned and dispose of it at their expense. The transfer of the property with keys should take place on a date stipulated in the contract or agreed separately. As it's your property, you can go onto it and do pretty much as you please. However, if the property of the former owner remains on site you do have some legal obligations to not unnecessarily dispose of it. A small gratuity in the form of readily-available negotiable instruments printed by the ECB will cause fewer accounting headaches for your builder, and have a higher chance of… (another 25 words)
StarStar (4)   Possible fraud buying a car online by SpiderPig
So... UPDATE! "Artur Taglisch"... The German cars sales guy has been in touch with the OP and offered a second car... The second car is on for 250€ less than the original car, but there has been no mention of a price reduction.... I have replied to the OP witha lovely letter to send to The car dealer... We/I have basically given to options... 1.. Full refund plus the "Extra SP fees".... 2.. 1000€ discount and ship the car thats offered... If he accepts the second offer, then the OP gets a car and saves 1000€ and also the car dealer saves a visit from the boys in Blue and a letter to the finanzamt!! Here's hoping!!
StarStar (4)   Deportation of EU citizens without a job by YorkshireLad6
That is a poor (misleading) interpretation of the Sächsisches Meldegesetz §16(2) which clearly states that an EU citizen who normally lives in another country can stay for up to 2 months prior to having to register - in essence this is the rule for tourists. In general (but it depends on the state and Sachsen is one of the exceptions) you are allowed to live in Germany as a visitor (tourist) for up to 3 months without registering, unless you have any clear intention to stay longer. As soon as that intent is obvious (like you get a job!), or after 3 months, then you have 7-14 days (depends on the state) to register your residence. If you are claiming to be a visitor within the 3 month rule then you also have to be able to show you have a permanent place of residence outside of Germany. A… (another 111 words)

Tuesday 15.Apr.2014

StarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStar (23)   Why are you unhappy today? by petite_azorean
Soooo, apparently my parents lied to me to avoid making me worry too much because I have the baby to take care of. It IS some sort of lung cancer, but I don't know how bad. The other day my mom said the tumour is between the lungs and she can't have surgery. She's stuck at home doing chemotherapy, she has to take pills every day. And she's going twice a week to the hospital to do some type of breathing exercises. Yesterday my mother could hardly speak, she had a horrible cough and she started crying on the phone. I broke down too. My mom is one of the best people in the world, too selfless sometimes, incapable of saying no to anyone in need. My dad is scared and sad, so is my mom, I can hear it in their voices. I'm flying there next weekend but that feels like an eternity… (another 85 words)
StarStarStarStar (7)   Why are you unhappy today? by hooperski
Re my above post 8335. Erica went to back the marital home but Sammy was verbally abusive towards her, on the advice of the hospital, she left again. The hospital crisis team turned up to assess Sammy, but when they knocked on the front door, he legged it out the back door and has gone awol. (You would have thought they might have covered the back door, due to his mental state). He has stopped taking his medication again. So at least the hospital are getting involved, but things are still far from ideal. Fingers crossed.
StarStarStar (6)   Why are you unhappy today? by Metall
@petite_azorean: I'm glad you are going to see your Mom! And to introduce her to her new grandchild. I have little advice or comfort to offer... except that as the daughter, you have the right to call or visit the doctors and ask for full disclosure. You need full information, however upsetting it may be, to make the right decisions (visiting, arranging for nursing for your Mom etc.). It is very sad to say this, but there may be a need for palliative care or a hospice. It sounds like you are the strong person in this situation, and that you can help your parents through here - even thought it may well be to a sad, but natural, end. [pause... thinking of my own Mom, wiping away a tear.] You already are being the best daughter they can ask for. Peace.
StarStarStarStarStarStarStarStarStar (17)   The Vent by Museofcomedy
I am so tired of all the sexualizing to young girls in reality shows, etc., and now I see In grocery stores we have Top Model and Fantasy Model book covers, binders, note pads, etc with these seriously fantasy looking young girls being marketed to i would think 8 and up. So sad, and even Happy Horse stuff is next to this. In the US you can't even get through a grocery store line without 20 Magazines clearly telling women they are not good enough for anyone. Young girls growing up with this much pressure so much more than 10-20 years ago just messes with their self esteem. Boys growing up to think this is what is important, can loose reality. I just see such difficulties for these kids. Hard enough to grow up with the everyday stuff of years ago, and we all did. Now we have reality TV… (another 39 words)
StarStarStar (6)   The Vent by poohsan
GAAAHHh! Frikking stupid hospital. They billed my insurance, my insurance paid most of it, they then billed me for the remainder, I paid it. Now a year later "we've never received payment..." Seriously?!? And of course they won't call my insurance company (who has translators) and the insurance company won't give me the transaction paperwork Good doctors, but their moronic back office workers need to be slapped up alongside the head a few hundred times
StarStarStarStar (8)   Pros and cons of Ausbildung, prior work experience by nina_glyndwr
" Seriously 500euro a month for one year? With such small increments? I feel like my life would be on pause for three years! We would not be able to move out of our tiny flat, would not be able to go on holidays, and that is exactly the reason why we moved away from London, we were always worried about money." Well, that's the thing, isn't it? When you're younger, you get your education or training when you can put up with baked beans on toast morning, noon and night, you can put up with a single, possibly grotty room and you don't go anywhere except to the library. When I was a student, there were no holidays - just holiday jobs. And I did live in a room in hall. And every day from Monday to Friday it was a toss-up between catching a bus to and from lectures… (another 231 words)
StarStarStarStar (8)   Pros and cons of Ausbildung, prior work experience by Conquistador
It's important to remember why it is a good idea to try to fit in as much as possible: most Germans can't handle anything "outside of the box".You will always be a foreigner, but to gte hired and stay employed, you need to be "tolerable", i.e., well-integrated enough to communicate and work with others, although it should be said that what they consider teamwork here is not something we would recognize as such in Anglo-Saxon countries.
StarStarStarStar (7)   Pros and cons of Ausbildung, prior work experience by nina_glyndwr
Grab that Ausbildung in IT. It will stand you in very good stead. You're suffering from 'short-termism'. I got A levels, I got a BA in German from Manchester, but all that still didn't qualify me for anything in Germany. I went to the job centre in Ratingen (just to the north of D'dorf, where I now live). Job centre worker: "What can you do?" Me: "I have a degree in German." Job centre worker: "What can you do?" Me: "I have a degree in German." A few more minutes of that I left and never returned. In the UK, your qualifications are (well, they were then) an indication that you can actually think (and take notes, and put the notes into an essay - i.e. argue and reason) etc. etc. Here, in the Land of the Sausage, they want you… (another 175 words)
StarStarStar (5)   Pros and cons of Ausbildung, prior work experience by RajeshG
Go for the long haul. Do your Ausbildung and enjoy its fruits. You are going to be here for sometime and you are young - so might as well do things "the way they do in Rome". You think you have job experience at 22, i have 25 years of job experience at 47- but without good german "only B1" and without ausbildung it does not count here. At my age i can't do one. So be happy to get paid while you learn and in due course, you will have a better salary package.
StarStarStarStar (8)   Advice on reaching Fluent German by dessa_dangerous
Well, um, they are two kind of related issues. Question: When am I going to achieve fluency in a language I have been learning for a short time? Counter question: When are you going to achieve proficiency in a language you have spoken your entire life? The two are related, because "language people"--those who pick up a language quickly and easily--are often, if not always, careful to the point of nitpicking, about their own language. If you think the errors in your mother tongue are not important, you will hardly be driven to sharpen up the finer points of your German. You are likely to think that details which can change the whole meaning of a sentence are not important, only matter to people trying to on your parade. That is not how you become fluent in a language. It is a hope,… (another 48 words)
StarStarStarStar (7)   Travel to DE-will US custody be upheld there? by Conquistador
Because not paying child support and not visiting a very young child are serious indicators that something is wrong with him as a father- decent fathers don't do that. If the mother is so overprotective amd/or selfish, why is she willing to travel to Germany and let him see their daughter there? Her caution is warranted.
StarStarStarStar (7)   Deportation of EU citizens without a job by zwiebelfisch
He is talking about leaving a country where health insurance is compulsory to get "illegal" treatment in a country in which he is not entitled to it. It hardly seems disgracefully capitalistic to suggest that he should simply stay here and pay for the insurance. In any case he is, I think Pflichtversichert, and so is in fact covered here, he has just not yet paid for it.
StarStarStar (6)   Deportation of EU citizens without a job by gmtl
Being caught without health insurance is the least of your problems. If something were to happen to you while you are uninsured, you could find yourself literally buried under mountains of medical debts.
StarStarStar (5)   Deportation of EU citizens without a job by zwiebelfisch
You are required by law to have health insurance here. You are probably building up backpayments untill someone notices and therefor whatever you do you will most likely end up paying for the time since you came here so you may as well be covered. Everything else in this thread, such as whether you are eligable for free treatment in spain is irrelevant.
StarStarStar (6)   Why are you happy today? by sarabyrd
Attached imageBecause enview's kitty, Boo, that escaped onto the balcony yesterday was found several balconies further away, piteously mewing away at a stranger's balcony door: "Let meeeeeeeee-in, let meeeeeeeeee-in, I live here!" On the return of the prodigal feline her sister, Pip, hissed and spat and swore like a sailor. I bet that she pushed Boo onto the balcony in the first place, cackling evilly and rubbing her paws.