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I just talked to my mom, my sister put her mobile on her ear so she could hear me for a little bit.
She has an oxygen mask and I could hear her breathing, if I can call it that. Such a horrible sound!
If she's still alive when I get there, they are already sorting a permission for me to go in with the baby to see her.
My sister said it looks really bad... And, through unspoken words, she meant it's very likely I won't get there in time...
Apparently my mom isn't in pain. At least that... A minor comfort for us all...
Gee! Thanks Deutsche Post!
Thursday morning, I see the yellow van, you deliver two packages to the neighbour across. I get very excited, I run to the door and you are gone! You didn't even ring the doorbell but you did leave a slip, "you can collect your package the next working day". Thanks a lot! Friday is a holiday, Saturday, well in this scheissdorf the post office is closed. Sunday, well that is God's day. Monday, another holiday. Now Tuesday, I can pick up my package after 11:00 and you guys close at 12, I better be sure and come on time! Last time, I wanted to send something you said: "oh, we can't because we are closing in 45'!!!"
I had to explain to a very unhappy grandma why her grandchild will not be getting the… (another 49 words)
My mentally handicapped sister lives independently with carers, to the extent that she has taken some holidays supported by them, to England and to Holland. She wrote and asked if I would come to Scotland to meet up with her and our parents, as she doesn't understand that I and my other sister are estranged from them.
I replied saying yes, then neutrally said, without the parents being there, I am happy to see her either alone, with our aunt, or with carers.
Today her letter has been returned to me in a large envelope- a brief peek within shows lots of pages of angry parental script.
So I guess they are still ranting, still hating me after 24 years of separation (a time in which I have worked hard and made peace with my demons)and they are still so bitter that they are going to block… (another 58 words)
My mom is on her deathbed in the hospital and I can't be there earlier than Saturday night...
The flights tomorrow are either full or it costs 3000€ to travel home. It's horrible to feel that there's a price on love but that's an amount we can't afford.
There's a very slim chance that I'll still see her alive...
This is the worst pain ever, there's nothing I can do but wait and hope she has the strength to wait for me.
My poor mommy, I just want to be by her side, hold her hand, comfort her in these last hours or days but I can't.
My poor daddy and sister, they have to go through this without me...
Unhappy because my son won't meet his grandma and feel her warmth and love...
And my mom won't meet her grandson...
My dad will lose his love and soulmate.
My sister and I, we lose her, our mom, our first love in life...
It's so horrible to be so far away from my family...
The Red Cross flew my brother back from his holiday in Thailand to be with my Mum when she was dying (24 yrs ago), maybe they still do that stuff?
Thinking of you, p a, and hoping that you get to see her.
@ Petite - if you have booked a flight already, you could at least try contacting the airline and explaining the situation - they just might be able to help you get there a little sooner. Surely it would be worth a try?
There is nothing worse than being forced to wait at a time like this. I really feel for you and your family.
Sending huge cyber hugs
Considering you've been a member here for almost two years and health insurance is one of the most frequent topics, I'm surprised you don't know that all residents need German health insurance. Unless you fall under the special rules for Studenten, you were required to have German insurance since you moved here (see the NHS website for more info).
BTW, 150€/month is the standard public healh insurance rate for those who don't need to work.
A most excellent curry - Lamb biryani was absolutely divine - They need to work on making sauce hot without throwing chilli powder at it as it makes it very dry but, all in all, some excellent fare!
I see attitudes like this in my workplace. People doing stupid things because no one has changed procedures and no one wants to stick their neck out and take responsibility. Germans have a very limited grasp of personal initiative.
They fear the repercussions for not doing something and up very much less than the repercussions of doing something and up.
hey can be lead to water but need to be told to drink.
Lots of reading! And trying to understand words based on context rather than looking them up. Getting people to explain a word that you don't know in German is great too, I always find a word sticks in my head more that way.
One of my German teachers has a great method for building vocabulary. He makes mind-map style things about each subject and then we work as a class, and with him, to learn the vocabulary about a particular subject. As a result, I know all the bike parts in German and have absolutely no idea what they are called in English (Narbendynamo, anyone?) haha. I also have a book intended for Germans learning English which is a similar idea, called Words You Can Use which has lists of words under a subject (and an english example sentence). I just turn it round and try and… (another 824 words)
Just got an email this morning from a baby clothing, furniture etc company. The 'theme' for the email was 'when I grow up, I want to be...' followed with babies dressed up for certain jobs.
"... an air hostess" with a girl
"... a doctor" with a boy
"... an architect" with a boy
"... a racing driver" with a boy
"... a teacher" with a girl
"... a cook" with a girl.
I may be overreacting, but it just makes me really sad. As Museofcomedy said above, girls have a really rough time as it is. And in this case, the boys too. I even see it at school - the kids had to look at pictures of people in professions and write, for example "he is a baker". There was a photo of a female pilot, but they all wrote "he is… (another 144 words)
Because the world is not fair, even and just. If that were true, then nice people like my mom would not get cancer and my evil sister would not be marrying a millionaire and flying to Fiji for her honeymoon while our mother gets her Port A Cath put in. No, in a fair world, my sweet mother would be able to enjoy her golden years and reap the benefits of a paid-for house and free time to enjoy shopping, reading and movie going. Contrast that to my sister, who NEVER did a single thing for another human being that did not benefit her in some way. Someone who actually told my mother to wait by the car because she spotted her big company boss at a football game and she wanted to speak with him. She was ashamed of her. The woman that gave birth to her, nursed her, loved her and that fat, arrogant… (another 94 words)
My mother accidentally wrote the address as "a3" instead of "3a" and the postman couldn't find the address and sent the $70 package back ACROSS THE OCEAN! REALLY!?!?! There are 8 houses on my street and my name is on the mailbox, is "a3" to "3a" really that difficult to figure out?!!?!?!?!
Given what you have posted, if I were you, there is no way I would bring your daughter to Germany- for any reason.
Does your ex-husband's family have the resources to tie you up in court for a long time?
It has taken 2 weeks, but the scale said 74.5 this morning. Been striving for this, waking up every morning and being excited about what the scale would say. Hoping, hoping, hoping!
My total loss is now 10 kg.
I had wanted to be 65 kg by the 26th, as that was when Mr. Moondancer got to Germany and we shared our first kiss, etc. , but that is still 9 kg. away. Will get there eventually, just not as soon as I had planned. It certainly feels good to say only 9 kg to go instead of 20.
Whaaat? Is it the same in Würzburg?
This is not Ordnung, this is Swabian crackpottery. In VGN (Nuremberg area) you can choose if you want:
1. transferrable monthly ticket
2. non-transferrable monthly ticket for 1 person (~8 euro cheaper)
3. non-transferrable monthly ticket for the family of 2 adults and 4 kids (~5 euro cheaper)
4. Everything above valid from 9am (5-6 euro cheaper than 24-hour ticket)
This is ordnung.
I was going to write that Jeba should post in the you know you're turning German when ... thread, but I just looked at his profile and it seems he is German. 'Nuff said...
Let's see if we can get something going here.
Biddy Early's is right near the center of the city on the Sophienstrasse. Well that's where it is located but it's near the corner of Marienstrasse, and that seems to be their official address http://www.biddyearlys.com/.
Please sign up. I'll show up either way, but it would be nice to know if I'll be alone or not...
As is so often the case with suppliers whom you are not going to be giving repeat business to.It's your property, the previous owner should be out. Letter (Einschreiben Einwurf) giving them 7 days to remove their property or you will treat it as abandoned and dispose of it at their expense. The transfer of the property with keys should take place on a date stipulated in the contract or agreed separately. As it's your property, you can go onto it and do pretty much as you please. However, if the property of the former owner remains on site you do have some legal obligations to not unnecessarily dispose of it. A small gratuity in the form of readily-available negotiable instruments printed by the ECB will cause fewer accounting headaches for your builder, and have a higher chance of… (another 25 words)
A man in a Florida supermarket tries to buy half a head of lettuce.
The very young produce assistant tells him that they sell only whole heads of lettuce . The man persists and asks to see the manager. The boy says he'll ask his manager about it.
Walking into the back room, the boy said to his manager, 'Some asshole wants to buy half a head of lettuce.' As he finished his sentence, he turned to & find the man standing right behind him, so he added, 'And this gentleman has kindly offered to buy the other half.'
The manager approved the deal, and the man went on his way.
Later the manager said to the boy, 'I was impressed with the way you got yourself out of that situation earlier. We like people who think on their feet here. Where are you from, son?'
'Canada,… (another 46 words)
So I signed the petition and passed it along. I don't know if there was some box to tick/untick asking if I wanted to receive more stuff from the website but I got a few more emails wanting me to sign other petitions and I just blocked them. Just a heads up in case I missed something.
Soooo, apparently my parents lied to me to avoid making me worry too much because I have the baby to take care of.
It IS some sort of lung cancer, but I don't know how bad.
The other day my mom said the tumour is between the lungs and she can't have surgery.
She's stuck at home doing chemotherapy, she has to take pills every day. And she's going twice a week to the hospital to do some type of breathing exercises.
Yesterday my mother could hardly speak, she had a horrible cough and she started crying on the phone.
I broke down too.
My mom is one of the best people in the world, too selfless sometimes, incapable of saying no to anyone in need.
My dad is scared and sad, so is my mom, I can hear it in their voices.
I'm flying there next weekend but that feels like an eternity… (another 85 words)
Re my above post 8335.
Erica went to back the marital home but Sammy was verbally abusive towards her, on the advice of the hospital, she left again.
The hospital crisis team turned up to assess Sammy, but when they knocked on the front door, he legged it out the back door and has gone awol.
(You would have thought they might have covered the back door, due to his mental state).
He has stopped taking his medication again.
So at least the hospital are getting involved, but things are still far from ideal. Fingers crossed.
I'm glad you are going to see your Mom! And to introduce her to her new grandchild.
I have little advice or comfort to offer... except that as the daughter, you have the right to call or visit the doctors and ask for full disclosure. You need full information, however upsetting it may be, to make the right decisions (visiting, arranging for nursing for your Mom etc.).
It is very sad to say this, but there may be a need for palliative care or a hospice. It sounds like you are the strong person in this situation, and that you can help your parents through here - even thought it may well be to a sad, but natural, end.
[pause... thinking of my own Mom, wiping away a tear.]
You already are being the best daughter they can ask for.
I am so tired of all the sexualizing to young girls in reality shows, etc., and now I see In grocery stores we have Top Model and Fantasy Model book covers, binders, note pads, etc with these seriously fantasy looking young girls being marketed to i would think 8 and up. So sad, and even Happy Horse stuff is next to this. In the US you can't even get through a grocery store line without 20 Magazines clearly telling women they are not good enough for anyone.
Young girls growing up with this much pressure so much more than 10-20 years ago just messes with their self esteem. Boys growing up to think this is what is important, can loose reality.
I just see such difficulties for these kids. Hard enough to grow up with the everyday stuff of years ago, and we all did. Now we have reality TV… (another 39 words)
GAAAHHh! Frikking stupid hospital. They billed my insurance, my insurance paid most of it, they then billed me for the remainder, I paid it. Now a year later "we've never received payment..." Seriously?!? And of course they won't call my insurance company (who has translators) and the insurance company won't give me the transaction paperwork
Good doctors, but their moronic back office workers need to be slapped up alongside the head a few hundred times
Well, um, they are two kind of related issues.
Question: When am I going to achieve fluency in a language I have been learning for a short time?
Counter question: When are you going to achieve proficiency in a language you have spoken your entire life?
The two are related, because "language people"--those who pick up a language quickly and easily--are often, if not always, careful to the point of nitpicking, about their own language.
If you think the errors in your mother tongue are not important, you will hardly be driven to sharpen up the finer points of your German. You are likely to think that details which can change the whole meaning of a sentence are not important, only matter to people trying to on your parade. That is not how you become fluent in a language. It is a hope,… (another 48 words)
" Seriously 500euro a month for one year? With such small increments? I feel like my life would be on pause for three years! We would not be able to move out of our tiny flat, would not be able to go on holidays, and that is exactly the reason why we moved away from London, we were always worried about money."
Well, that's the thing, isn't it? When you're younger, you get your education or training when you can put up with baked beans on toast morning, noon and night, you can put up with a single, possibly grotty room and you don't go anywhere except to the library. When I was a student, there were no holidays - just holiday jobs. And I did live in a room in hall. And every day from Monday to Friday it was a toss-up between catching a bus to and from lectures… (another 231 words)
Grab that Ausbildung in IT. It will stand you in very good stead.
You're suffering from 'short-termism'.
I got A levels, I got a BA in German from Manchester, but all that still didn't qualify me for anything in Germany. I went to the job centre in Ratingen (just to the north of D'dorf, where I now live).
Job centre worker: "What can you do?"
Me: "I have a degree in German."
Job centre worker: "What can you do?"
Me: "I have a degree in German."
A few more minutes of that I left and never returned.
In the UK, your qualifications are (well, they were then) an indication that you can actually think (and take notes, and put the notes into an essay - i.e. argue and reason) etc. etc.
Here, in the Land of the Sausage, they want you… (another 175 words)
It's important to remember why it is a good idea to try to fit in as much as possible: most Germans can't handle anything "outside of the box".You will always be a foreigner, but to gte hired and stay employed, you need to be "tolerable", i.e., well-integrated enough to communicate and work with others, although it should be said that what they consider teamwork here is not something we would recognize as such in Anglo-Saxon countries.
Go for the long haul. Do your Ausbildung and enjoy its fruits. You are going to be here for sometime and you are young - so might as well do things "the way they do in Rome".
You think you have job experience at 22, i have 25 years of job experience at 47- but without good german "only B1" and without ausbildung it does not count here. At my age i can't do one. So be happy to get paid while you learn and in due course, you will have a better salary package.
Because not paying child support and not visiting a very young child are serious indicators that something is wrong with him as a father- decent fathers don't do that. If the mother is so overprotective amd/or selfish, why is she willing to travel to Germany and let him see their daughter there? Her caution is warranted.
Because enview's kitty, Boo, that escaped onto the balcony yesterday was found several balconies further away, piteously mewing away at a stranger's balcony door: "Let meeeeeeeee-in, let meeeeeeeeee-in, I live here!"
On the return of the prodigal feline her sister, Pip, hissed and spat and swore like a sailor. I bet that she pushed Boo onto the balcony in the first place, cackling evilly and rubbing her paws.
Being caught without health insurance is the least of your problems.
If something were to happen to you while you are uninsured, you could find yourself literally buried under mountains of medical debts.
He is talking about leaving a country where health insurance is compulsory to get "illegal" treatment in a country in which he is not entitled to it. It hardly seems disgracefully capitalistic to suggest that he should simply stay here and pay for the insurance. In any case he is, I think Pflichtversichert, and so is in fact covered here, he has just not yet paid for it.
You are required by law to have health insurance here. You are probably building up backpayments untill someone notices and therefor whatever you do you will most likely end up paying for the time since you came here so you may as well be covered.
Everything else in this thread, such as whether you are eligable for free treatment in spain is irrelevant.
Toe is broken; vacation is cancelled; contractor sucks and has screwed me financially. My young nephew has to have brain surgery. I feel lonely and sad.
Edit: Feeling better now. The first 2 are nothing, really. The 3rd will be a hardship and painful, but soon enough it will be a distant memory. My poor nephew is something else. This will be his 2nd brain surgery, and we have every reason to think it will be as successful as the first. I wish it were me not him, though.
It's been a long week of violence in the US, stabbings and lots of shootings, so lots of suffering and grief. So sad and so senseless. Tomorrow is the first anniversary of the Boston marathon bombing. What is this mass sickness?! I'm both angry and on empathy overdrive. time to turn of the news.
As much as I struggle with the time difference, I am still not believing it is already friday in DE.
But... (glee) Bullet points
From the top...
- Everyone is lost when abroad, man. That is the whole point. Don´t own it, don´t internalize it and certainly don´t make it a negative. You can only ever be found if you are lost in the first place.
- Dating sites are there to make money. From lonely people. Period... You are an expat in Bankfurt. A pasty, white, nerdy one at that. So I am guessing that what you do for a living does not involve soup-kitchens, heavy machinery or landmines. You should understand this kind of transaction already.
- I would not be surprised in the slightest if you do have MORON tattooed on your forhead. Probably in Japanese. Because, you know, Japanese tatts… (another 469 words)
Let me explain you that "hostility".
All of the sites you have mentioned are offering PAID service with FREE options to take a look at how they operate.
They will not provide you with full functionality, simply because it is very easy to create a new profile every time with new email, and then why would you ever need to pay for their service?
And calling a legitimate business "CON" just because you are not willing to pay... well, spot the problem there.
All of the sites you have mentioned, they are respectable sites, that operate for a few years, with a certain level of success. Most of people that I know, using them for one-off dates, if you get my drift.
THERE IS NO GARANTIE THAT YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE EVEN AFTER YOU PAY: A lot depends on your attitude, and as for… (another 97 words)
Don't really get the hostility. Maybe I'm missing something...
Ok, most dating sites are commercial enterprises and setting up every one that signs up with the partner of his/her dreams is a dying business model. So, it's in their interest to have you continue at the dating game.
That said, I do know a few couples that met through a dating site (not enough of them to have overcome my own hesitation with them), and I've heard good things about PlentyOfFish (pof.com), which does seem to have more of an altruistic streak (mind you, they do employ 66 people, so it won't all be for free).
And obviously, as with everything internet and relationships, YMMV. Obviously your best chances are (statistically) "at work" or "at hobby", so find a rollerblading club… (another 12 words)
What I don't get is why you think a service that makes you pay to use it must be a con. Yes, read the conditions properly before signing up, and make sure you won't be paying through the nose for the next 100 years, but otherwise..there are plenty of private companies that don't give the luxury of a free trial. You don't get a free sample at a restaurant before ordering the menu, and you don't get to see the first 10 minutes of a movie before paying for the ticket.
I've never had to use the internet for my love life, but am friends with a couple of women who found their partner online. Personally, if I had to use it, I'd actually prefer a paying site. It's a better guarantee that those there are seriously commited (not trolling) and keeps away the Riffraff.… (another 45 words)
The elementary and middle schools I went to back in the last quarter of the 20th century still had separate taps; the toilets in the school I went to til about 1987 had that "powder" soap which more closely resembled gravel than anything properly pulverized; all have been torn down in the meantime, most likely for being lead-pipe fitted, asbestos-riddled death traps. But I digress. I can distinctly remember, even as a six-year-old, who did not see the point in washing one's hands with gravel one way or the other, wondering to myself, "whatis up with these retarded taps", and developing a (for a person who could barely tie her own shoes) sophisticated system of filling one cupped palm with cold water and then splashing a bit of hot water atop it. Even at home in the ghetto… (another 76 words)
Theoretically you'll have no problems. Unfortunately as others have noted Germany has a poor track record upholding the Hague convention. German courts tend to sympathise with German parents over foreigners. If he just keeps the child, you will have to navigate the legal minefield of getting your child back.
And most important, if he manages to hold the child for 6+ months, a German court might well decide its in the best interests of the child to stay with her new stable family rather than going through the trauma of swapping families even if it was a highly illegal action that established this new family.
Bottom line: German courts have a track record of strictly upholding the law when a foreign parent kidnaps the child, but flexibility and consideration of the child's best interests… (another 22 words)
Regardless of what wellfounded legal advice you can get from a lawyer, and regardless of the fact your divorce/custody ruling seems watertight from what you posted, in the light of this anxiety, I would recommend NOT to bring the child along.
You already are worried.
Even if everything goes smoothly, you will be going through a personal hell of fear and foreboding. Not just during the trip itself, but from today on right up to the flight.
What are your reasons to consider bringing your child? Other relatives and friends in Germany? The father himself?
In that case, invite them to the US. Flights are cheap if booked well in advance, even paying the father's flight to visit the child (something I would do) is much less hassle than all this nailbiting.
I'm Asian and never used msg because as a kid my mother banned it from our diet. To enhance flavour, add in a sprinkle of salt and sugar in 1:1 proportion. You will get the similar umami flavour.
Better yet if you make dashi stock yourself with kombu kelp and umeboshi. The umami flavour comes originally from stock made with kombu kelp, and msg tries to imitate it.
If you don't know what I'm talking about, please google 'umami'.
Everything has been checked by the authorities in Germany, and everything is entirely above board. I follow what the German authorities say, rather than a guy called SpiderPig.
Why should he be answerable to you SP? ovbg is providing good information to get English TV over internet for people who cannot get the same through satellite. Let him continue the same. Why all this negativity which is not relevant to the original question?
1) They are not deleted.
2) Even the reported ones that breach the guidelines are only removed.
3) Anyone who steals those posts doesn't need a trial and sentence, the punishment is reading them.
I don't have any 'on the ground' experience. I've never applied for benefits. I can tell you from reading the press that the Job Center doesn't like people claiming benefits on arrival in Germany as they tend to construe that as benefit tourism. Sometimes foreign applicants get refused even if they are technically entitled to benefits and have to battle it out in court. I know that's not the case. You might want to be prepared for that.
Also, if I may offer my opinion, I think you should concentrate on how you can earn money in Munich, rather than on how you can get benefits. Munich is a wealthy place with relatively low unemployment, and, having no idea about your skill set, you might find it easier and more lucrative to be gainfully employed than battling with the… (another 99 words)
My father has had two cancer surgeries this year; my aunt is going in for breast cancer this week; my sister with RA is in the ER right now and live-posting about it on FB; my younger sister's hubby lost his job; and here I sit in Germany with my wife bitching about how we haven't been to the cemetery to see her dead people yet this year.
When my ex-husband’s parents died, at different times, but not that far apart, they were both cremated and the ashes were given to the family in urns. My ex, being the eldest, decided to bury each of them in the back garden under a rhododendron bush. The only problem is, it’s a council house and now, after a few years, nobody can remember which rhododendron bush it was.
He was never very good at thinking ahead!
Basically the same thing as any TT event. If you want to know how it works you got to join yourself.
And in that case you need a good working bike and need to be able to cycle at 17-18 km/h average speed. Which is a medium speed for that kind of tours.
Got really bored one saturday evening not long ago during my self-enforced celibacy phase (that failed really quite badly in the end, I´m afraid), and did a couple of basic ratios regarding the rep system. Have not, until now, had a chance to post my preliminary findings (because, you know, I started having sex again. And who the really gives a what your reputation is around here when you are getting regularly laid).
Anyways, it was (reputation divided by number of posts made) and (profile views divided by number of years active). Across a small sample of about 30 popular and long-term members.
With rep/posts, I came out on top with 2.4 ( ), followed by DessaD and Poppet (1.5), Jay (1.4), you and Gwaptiva (1.25), and Tor (1.21). No-one else scored above 1.0. Very few… (another 216 words)
I have a new project for your next sexless Saturday night: finding out the ratios for posts to rep since the rep system was introduced (in 2009?). All of your posts, for example, were made after the system was already in place; some people were posting hundreds of posts per year before that.
Who gives a rats as about statistics, 8 of 10 people don't even believe in them.
As for the op, I would of thought it obvious that if there was anything of value then it should be reported immediately in order to make any insurance claims, a crime number will always be required in the event of a claim relating to theft.
Both Garages cleaned, tidied and and loads of room made.. Barn tidied and straighted up....
Sit on Mower sold... either to a TTer or some Turkish guy!!!
Happy happy happy.!!!
BUT, The Jewel in the crown is that Lilly comes to me for a day or two this week, coz Kindy is closed!!!
Oh Happy days!
I once hit a man - hard - in the nuts. I was sleeping in a cheap hotel in Cartagena, Colombia, when I was woken up by a man touching me. I didn't think.... I woke up, checked immediately that it was a break- in, and just lashed out , hard, and got him where it hurts. He was so shocked he turned and ran.
On the whole I have not been touched inappropriately by men, not even when I was young. The only place this ever happened was in Colombia, where men would actually reach out and grab while I walking down the street minding my own business.
Learning business fluent German is neither quick nor easy, however, fortunately for you an increasing number of German universities offer engineering courses taught in English by German profs who can't speak proper English and could use foreigners who can speak English.
Traditionally Germans have completed a Habilitation after their PhD in order to become a professor. However, there are an increasing number of Junior Professorships that only require a PhD and publication record. Furthermore, it is possible at many universities to write a "cumulative" Habilitation using a combination of academic papers.
You should probably start by making sure that your PhD is recognised in your Bundesland and how you are allowed to use it.
Die Zeit is a good place to start looking for academic… (another 1 words)
An update for anyone else with an OSSD.
The KMK finally corrected the info for the OSSD last month; only one official language needs to be taken as a native language and the other can be taken as a foreign language. Furthermore, I've heard that Direkter Zugang (fachorientiert) might be an option for OSSD grads who don't have all the required UPC subjects. Not quite.
3 UPCs = Studienkolleg or Feststellungsprüfung
0 UPCs = no admission to the Studienkolleg
On the other hand, NRW is currently experimenting with university admission without a recognised Hochschulzugangsberechtigung (aka HZB), making it theoretically possible for you to study in NRW.
For the last two weeks I've had a time.
March 29th, Fran, my mate Dave's wife called me to say Dave had died.
I had known Dave for over 30 years, he was just 50 years old.
Then the following week 5th April, Erica, my mate Sammy's wife phoned and told me she had left Sammy.
When I came back to England and had nowhere to live, Sammy let my wife and I stay with him until we sorted things out.
Over the years he has drunk too much and it has damaged his brain, he now suffers from Psychosis.
Three years ago he slashed his wrists and was taken to a psychiatric ward and stayed there for two months.
He was let out for a weekend to go home, but then tried to cut through his neck with a bread knife.
Through medication, he slowly got better and resumed normal family life.
However slowly his… (another 67 words)
I feel really sad as I've just heard that one our our elderly acquaintances had a freak accident. He was putting air into his wheelbarrow wheel at a petrol station and it exploded causing major head injuries. Despite being airlifted to hospital, he later died. RIP
I admit that the first thing that popped into my mind after the doctor told me what he found (after the 'oh god' moment) was "I need Metall!"
He pretty much said everything Metall wrote and he seemed pretty relaxed. He seemed pretty confident that it'll close up with time, but you can't help but worry. She gurgled and cooed all evening yesterday with lots of smiles and a decent attempt at a giggle! She's a healthy Geekling, I'm sure of it!
I feel ashamed too though, as my initial reaction to them suggesting ECG and ultrasound was "hmm, is this all because she's a private patient?" I'm glad that the doctor has picked up on it and that they're keeping an eye on it.
On the plus side, my boob is better. It still looks a bit… (another 22 words)
I got the news that the mother of a close friend, G., lost his mother. Hanna was one of the most warm and special people I have ever met. G's family had adopted the entire group of friends during our bachelors degree, they constantly encouraged us to show up spontaneously for dinner. And we often would, the more the merrier, sometimes 10 of us at a time. In more than one case a bunch of us went there without G even being home. Hanna was the shoulder we all went to cry on, even though we were all in our 20's.
Hanna, your family is one of the most special I know. Your very special sons reflect directly back on you. You will be sorely missed by a large circle of people, you have touched far more lives than you know.
Since arriving in Germany a little over 3 years ago, my grandfather,… (another 20 words)
And while you're at it, please tell us why you're posting from a Cypriot IP, when you claim to be in Cologne, and why you seem to have "borrowed" your images from this page, among other places.
And then feel free to piss off like a good lad. Thanks.
That's a good suggestion. This is the text I'm planning to send them on Monday, which I don't expect will just get me off the hook so easily, but at least it will piss off whoever gets to read it at the GEZtapo office. That's not bad in itself: instead of 270 yoyos for nothing, a stupid letter they have to reply to:
Sehr geehrten Damen u. Herren,
mit Verwunderung nehme ich Ihre Rechnung vom 01.04.2014 zur Kenntnis. Von mir haben sie bestimmt keine Bestellung bekommen und zwischen uns besteht meines Wissens nach keine vertragliche Beziehung. Daher erwäge ich ihre Rechnung als gestandslos und schicke sie ihnen mit diesem Brief zurück.
Außerdem möchte ich sie bitten gemäß § 35 Bundesdatenschutzgesetz (BDSG) alle Daten, die sie von mir gespeichert haben zu löschen. Die… (another 63 words)
I was being intentionally absurd and inflammatory as a way of taking the piss out of your ignorance and stupidity. Please don´t think for a second that I have any kind of problem with Portoguese people or Portugal. I have a couple of very good friends who are Portoguese and I have travelled a lot in Portugal itself. Wonderful country and wonderful people. They are probably glad to see the back of you.
You are (as a LOT of other people have pointed out) erroneously conflating "gay" with "criminal". Those people did what they did to your company because they were CRIMINAL. It was NOT because they were gay. The rest of what you have been blathering on about is borderline hate-speech. And no, ignorance is never a defence. Most of my friends are gay, lesbian or… (another 152 words)
People do not become fluent in 3 months. Period, unless they are higher functioning like the guy who learned Icelandic, one of the most difficult languages out there, in a few weeks.
You are in an enviable position and you will learn much more German in your time here with the type of immersion you are experiencing that it goes way beyond comparison for even a couple of years of German in the classroom. Schuldeutsch is something I had to forget, at least on the superficial level, in order to start learning Alltagssprache. No doubt, a lot of your peers will think you are approaching fluency, but those of us who have been here a while know that fluency isn't really ever achieved unless you start learning a language before the age of 14 or so. You just get so hard-wired into your mother… (another 161 words)
I would agree that you are expecting too much of yourself. Definitely stop speaking English unless you are talking to somebody who doesn't understand German. When I arrived here 5 years ago, my best teachers were the parents of my friends who didn't speak a word of English. The struggles I had sometimes trying to tell them something and looking for the right word were pretty funny and then they'd guess and we'd come up with the right word together and such a victory. Learning a word like that, you never forget again because it cost you so much effort.
As suggested, you can watch soap operas on TV because they speak clearly and don't talk about anything important anyway. You may learn cool new words like gehirntumor, herzinfarkt and amnesie. You could also try watching DVD's,… (another 126 words)
@ the Deutsche Post branch in Angererstrasse, Munich: Excuse me? Letters for which notifications were received on Friday and Saturday cannot be picked up before Monday 2 P-fornicating-M? Some of us work all week and can only pick things up on Saturday.
G'day, Kate! An Open Letter from Australian Author Kathy Lette to the Duchess of Cambridge
As you pop George into his kangaroo-themed baby pouch (which I presume you refer to as “one’s onesie”) I thought you might appreciate a few quick tips on how to survive your first official tour Down Under. To impress the natives it’s imperative that you brush up on the lingo.
Basically Australian is just like English only there are fewer words for “cold”, “wet” and “miserable”. But don’t expect anyone to call you Catherine. It’s too hot in Australia to say whole words. [...]
Having lived in London for 25 years I know that the first step in befriending an English person is to thaw them out… and that you should allow at least 10 years for this. Australians… (another 102 words)
Transport pass is 64.20 per month for Mannheim (without LU). When you register your residence (at K7) ask for a coupon for the "Entdecker-Ticket" (one-time offer for new residents). That one would cover you for 55.10 for the first month and would be valid in the entire Rhine-Neckar tariff area so you could take trips outside Mannheim on the weekends during that month.
400 for a sublet room in a WG is pretty standard for Mannheim, although you shouldn't pay more than that. Generally (from a quick look on wg-gesucht) they currently run around 350-400 for most areas in Mannheim, 300-350 in the suburbs that are farther out (Rheinau, Schönau, Seckenheim), 250-300 in the dodgy areas, and 200-250 if there's some serious problem with the apartment itself. If you get offered something… (another 111 words)
Mum died this morning. I know some of you know I have been dealing with her dementia for the last 5 years with frequent trips back to Australia and, more recently, my Dad's illnesses. It was very sudden - a matter of hours from a phone call saying she had taken a turn and the dementia had caused her body to shut down, to her passing. Thankfully she did have Dad and several family members who managed to get there in time (it was over in a matter of hours) but sadly my older sister, younger brother and I couldn't get there. I did manage to tell her I loved her whilst she was still conscious when Dad held the phone to her ear and he said she heard, so for that I am thankful. First day of school holidays here in Germany so difficult to get a flight but managed and fly home this evening.… (another 76 words)
My deepest condolences. Have a safe trip back home - I'll be thinking of you and Roger this evening *raises glass*
I'm somewhere between upset and worried. Not entirely sure where exactly, but somewhere. Geekling and I went along to the Kinderarzt today for her first vaccination. It was an oral one which Geekling happily drank and she smiled and played with the doctor. The doctor did a quick check with her stethoscope, mostly because Geekling has been having problems with trapped wind. She checked her, then checked her again. Then she just looked at me and said "I can hear something". She then told me to wait for the other doctor as she wanted him to check Amelia's heart. I sat in the waiting room alone (bar Geekling) in a corner and was called in after waiting half an… (another 179 words)
Whoah! Slow down!
I need to ask what sort of a hole this is - I will bet a lot of money this is a so-called open foramen ovale (aka atrial septum defect). German: offenes Foramen ovale. Please ask and let us know.
If I'm right, then this is NOT a big deal. This is a natural shortcut in the heart *every* child in the womb has because circulation is totally different, being hooked up to the mother, bypassing the lungs etc. Normally, after birth (after cutting the naval cord and starting to breathe) the pressure in the child's circulation and heart changes, and the hole closes spontaneously. In up to 25% of children, this doesn't happen. In many cases, it persists, and most of the time does NOT cause a problem.
Geekling is not a "blue baby" (lack of oxygen, disrupted… (another 184 words)
My best friend died when I was 20, she was 19. It was very sudden and unexpected, I had seen her 3 days beforehand. We had grown up together, and I had worked at her family's pharmacy from the legal working age until we left school. It was around new years, and we had both gone back to our home town for holidays, but I left a few days before her. She was at the pharmacy, went home with a headache, then rang her dad from home saying the headache was really really bad, he went home to help her - but when he got there she was unconscious, and never woke up.
I cried constantly from the moment I received the call, throughout the funeral, and then afterwards I was numb. I couldn't get out of bed, and I just did not have emotions for several months...
The funeral was hard to bear and I was… (another 288 words)
Did you stop mid-knee jerk long enough to actually read the article you linked to? The article is about male victims of rape at the hands of MEN (especially those known to the victim and in positions of power or authority), not flirty women at the bar. HELLO? Jesus Christ with you sometimes, SpiderPig.
Appreciate the attempt to turn the tables but the reality is that few men are given any real reason to fear a woman following them out to their car, overpowering them and then raping them, with potentially drastic, lifelong resultant trauma.
I realize you're not actually trying to come across as a sexist, insensitive ass at the moment but do you even think before you write sometimes?
In the same way that are far more female prostitutes than gigolos, it is vastly more frequent that a woman has to ward off unwanted sexual advances than a man. Coupled with men being in principle stronger and more aggressive, it really is a woman's problem not a man's.
You can of course find isolated cases where a man claims to have been raped by a woman*. Likewise you find isolated cases where a woman is the strongest in the gym. But I don't think many men fear being shown up by a female body builder.
*Male rape is almost universally perpetrated by men not women
I found an apartment that suited my needs and was within the budget I was given.
The landlord called me and started asking me all kinds of questions, such as how much I earn and how much I pay for our house.
I told him it was none of his business, since the company was paying the rent.
He then emailed me a form to fill out with all of these questions in there too. I filled in "none of your business, as I am not paying the rent" next to the questions I didn't feel he needed an answer to.
The next day, he said that I have to fill it out as completely as possible. I informed him that it was already filled out as completely as it would ever be. He seemed to agree.
He then contacted our personnel administrator and tried to get a copy of my contract. Is this idiot nuts?
I sent… (another 163 words)
For an American to give up citizenship would be the dumbest move ever! There's no need...unless your last name is Snowden.
To OP - Many congratulations!! Welcome to Germany!!
Now, here's what to do next...
Not to get on my soapbox here, but the idea of pets as objects that can be borrowed rather misses the point, as well as ignoring animal-human-relations: dogs in particular form very close bonds with people. If you have a friend with a dog and get to know that dog well, of course you can take that dog for a walk, but it won't be any fun (to say the least) for anyone involved if dogs are shunted from one human to another all the time. I realize that such schemes have been tried, but I think they can work only if a dog is shared between very few people, all of whom get to know the dog well. So I would suggest you might be better off befriending pet owners (maybe there's an elderly person in your neighbourhood who needs help with their pet?) and giving your child a chance to come into contact… (another 43 words)
Just to bring you up to date on this, the retrial has been going on for about 4 weeks now. It’s much tougher on Marie this time, there are more details, more pictures and more evidence to listen to. Marie is seeing and hearing things she hadn’t seen or heard before, much of which has been really difficult for her and once or twice she’s had to leave the court to compose herself. The examination of the witnesses has also been much more intense this time and it’s certainly taking longer than the timetable indicated. Someone asked yesterday why all of this didn’t come out in the first trial, but there was no answer from anyone on that.
With help from Cheekyfox, (“Thank you!”), we managed to find an apartment for Marie just outside Frankfurt. She settled into it last week and… (another 45 words)
what kind of dark alleys do you spend so much time in? beat me to it.
How to get rid of unwanted attention without physically assaulting the other person (who, in this hypothesis, has not yet touched or in any other form attempted to physically restrain the woman):
Him: Hey baby, bla bla blah how can I see you again?
You: (make the decision that you really do not want this attention, and not just that you wish to appear you don't want it, while secretly you are flattered by it although you are married/haven't shaved/don't find the other person attractive): Thanks for your compliment/interest, but I don't think my husband would be happy to find I was meeting up with strange men
Him: Hey, I just want to be friends. What's wrong with two people having a cup of coffee?
Here… (another 537 words)
Our daughter finally got admitted in the primary school we wanted. It was a tough fight, it is an English speaking Europaschule and she applied as a native English speaker and she passed the English test with flying colors but she was rejected simply because there were not enough spots for everyone and they give priority to people with high mobility. The most frustrating thing is that she was the first one in line that did not get a place, 14 places and the was number 15. We appealed the decision and fought for it and finally we've got it. I actually couldn't believe it when we received the official answer, finally we get to win something important here.
You should definitely bathe your cat at least once per week. It's fun for him and you and helps bond your relationship. The only problem is getting the fur off your tongue afterwards, but that gets easier with practice.
How does being short have to anything to do with being attractive?? I call rubbish! To me most women are short, and yet I'm attracted to more of them than I really would like
I can't imagine you are shorter than me. We are lucky that we are women. Short men really have it tough, but I have never found that being short as a woman is so problematic. Jokes by the millions, problems to find clothing, shoes are a source of panic attacks, can't reach anything in the kitchen or in the shops, but at the end of the day it seems that for us women what counts is partially proportions and even more what you broadcast. People notice I am small, but are shocked when they find out just how small.
On a practical note, if the skirt doesn't make you feel comfortable, don't wear it. You will spend the entire party thinking about it and not enjoying yourself. Pin the towel to a skirt you like or wear it as a tunic over some pants. That flag dress is so iconic… (another 68 words)
There is an Over 40s group, meets nearly every Wednesday evening. I am involved in the active Knitting, Sewing and cake eating group, we meet every Thursday afternoon at 16:30 in the Cafe (level 5) of Karstadt on the Zeil. You are more than welcome to come along just for the chatting.
Am in the same downer kind of feeling as genziana, mainly feeling very, very lonely. To the point that even after 27 years here, I am almost ready to throw in the towel and go back to the US where making friends is easy. Where gestures of friendship are extended, and where one feels welcome.
I have joined gyms, joined yoga classes, joined Tai Chi classes, gone to the Volkshochschule for a series of back to back computer classes, organized curry nights, set up the ladies over 40's meet-up, gone to lots of pub quizzes, joined photo walks and FB pages, done volunteer work for the consulate, and it was all for nothing other than to get me out and about. Not one of these activities has led to a friendship. I am outgoing and friendly, and am not shy about speaking to people, but everyone seems… (another 67 words)
Glad you bumped this thread. I was busy burying my son first time around and have recently lost my mom.
We never ever get over these losses but they get easier with time in the sense that we just learn to live with them.
We are supposed to bury our parents but we have known them the longest.
It's somehow harder to feel sorry for the deceaed themselves when it's the ones they leave behind who suffer the most, and God knows Bob Geldof and his family have suffered enough over the years.
(I say 'God' because apparently there is a single spiritual entity sitting on a cloud somewhere that is at best a negligent, feckless waste of space, and at worst, a malicious, perverted, spiteful sack of who is responsible for all of this.)
Oh dear... I would never conceal item sin any shop anywhere, surely that's asking for trouble? I also tend to avoid going into a shop with an item bought elsewhere, that shop 2 also sells. If I need to do so I make sure the receipt is on me, to prevent misunderstanding. I agree with Dessa and others that the OP's story does seem rather suspicious - but then again, in my experience there's practically no limit to the daftness one can commit through absent mindedness. In the supermarkets here we often have self scan machines - scan your stuff, pack your bags, pay and go. And those machines kick up a fuss if you place anything in the "scanned" area with scanning it (they go on weight) or take anything off there before paying. I was using one once and it was playing up, kept… (another 188 words)
Co-worker, it is commendable that you clear out the refrigerator every now and then, removing anything whose shelf-life has expired. How about having the common courtesy to post a notice the day before so that I can retrieve my own stuff and decide if I want to consume it anyway? Because just chucking it all into the garbage is not very nice, especially because I was counting on finishing off the creamed cheese today.
P.S. You missed a pat of butter with a shelf-life of 8 April.
Repeating third grade won't matter at all later on - your daughter will be in a different school, probably with different kids for the most part, so it will make no difference whatsoever.
I would strongly suggest that you talk to your daughter about the option to repeat a year and see what she says - for some, it might be the end of the world, whilst for others it could be the best thing possible! Also, there is nothing worse for a child than to feel totally left-out of the decision-making process.
Shorty repeated a year, and it was the best thing that could have happened to her - she was being "mobbed" in her old class and it gave her the opportunity to move to a different class with a different group of kids...
I wouldn't say happy, but definitely not unhappy, more like relieved. I've just buried my Dad.
Just driven 3,000km in four days to bury my Dad. First night Frankfurt to a brilliant friend, then straight up to the Channel Tunnel (first time ever on it, then up to Chester to brother. Next morning the hearse arrived then funeral in crematorium. Drive straight back 3pm to Folkestone night in Calais in "BnB" Hotels then up 7am this morning to get back here a few hours ago. Basically Sunday to Weds in a car most of the time. Overwhelming feeling.
I've finally managed to find a job and start tomorrow. It's the miniest of mini jobs to start with and my first venture into German employment. I'm very grateful to the company for giving me the opportunity to use my UK business experience.....just need to do a crash course in German business vocabulary and hope the grey matter bounces back
I am afraid of general anaesthesia- the fear stems from the time I came round to find that I had temporary amnesia and it was quite panic-inducing. So ever since I found out on Thurs that I needed an operation, I have been bricking it.
However, the op was today, and I woke up as they were wheeling me back into the recovery room; sat up, got dressed, had a cup of tea then sat in the waiting room reading a magazine and eating Kendal Mint Cake until they signed me off to be taken home. Best recovery ever
Also the pain is entirely manageable, and I have three days ahead of me, officially sanctioned to laze about doing nothing.
There is no need for nurses who cannot communicate in the main language the patients speak, that is German.
Nobody forced anyone to move to a country they don't speak the language. Personal choices come at a cost. One can always learn the language or move to a different place more of their liking.
Just because Cyprus happened to be a british crown colony and some people speak various levels of English (that is in urban and tourist spots, not sure that every cypriot even the civil servants can speak fluent english, and I was there for a year) and consider it important to learn it, doesn't mean the Germans are supposed to do the same or that they have to accept a nurse who cannot speak their language. Furthermore assuming that all nationalities can and are willing to speak only in… (another 234 words)
Considering that Germany doesn't really need nurses who don't speak German, why should they try to convince lazy foreigners who are not willing to learn the language to stay? Officially all EU languages are to be used in the EU, however, the three main languages are English, French, and German. English does not actually have any special status making it more important than German (or French).
On the other hand, no one is being forced to move to Germany. If you want to work here as a nurse, learn German. If you don't want to learn German, you can leave. What is the problem?
This is fast becoming a classic thread!
The thing is, I, and I am sure nearly everyone else on this thread has gone through the same things as you have. When I first moved here, my German was absolutely pitiful, A2 at best but I managed to do things such as registering, buying furniture, setting up a bank account, signing up for language courses usw. with only minor problems. While there is certainly the (fairly considerable) chance of running into a grumpy employee in Germany, most people will be willing to help someone trying to make the effort. I needed to wait an hour or so for an appointment with her but a very charming and somewhat flirtatious German lady in her late 20's helped me to set up a bank account, I had a tremendous giggle with a German man of about 40 when ordering… (another 123 words)
Back on topic for just a minute and then I'll let you get back to today's game of "Flog the Deserving Donkey".
Nursing has a variety of levels. What German hospitals consider nursing is really performing the duties of orderly and phlebotomist in most departments. I think Germany could do with an overhaul that professionalizes the industry at some level by offering BA for RN and LPN and Master's for NP. Then you can have the variety of levels to accommodate the variety of academic aptitudes NA, CNA, ward nurse plus all the above. The point is not to remove people from the pool of available healthcare workers, but to stratify the system in a meaningful way that allows for income, responsibility, and prestige growth. Right now nurses are limited the way most skilled factory… (another 65 words)
Exactly, every Rewe Kasse is overloaded with those daft little brightly-coloured bottles of schnapps seemingly aimed at small children (or those with the intellect of small children), bags and bags of ground up and melted down horse hoof dusted in sugar (also aimed at kids but which everyone here seems to pour freely down their necks), not to mention the huge push-button operated sarcophagus full of the latest cancery goodness.
And they can't sell aspirin because it's bad for your health? It makes absolutely no sense.
Yes the typical German mentality of blind acceptance of what they're told?
Asking questions is called learning and it is quite popular in an awful lot of countries
If you tell a child that the square root of 81 is 9 do you expect the child to blindly accept that that is the answer.Or do you hope that the child tries to expand their knowledge and ask why that is the answer? As far as I know Aspirin is non addictive so let me be a typically English speaking person and not quite believe that is the whole reason. A very good example of why maybe people should ask why Aspirins are not available in supermarkets in Germany?
A country allows you to buy cigs and alcohol anywhere you want but won't let you buy an Aspirin anywhere but an Apotheke,surely the becoming dependent excuse looks a… (another 2 words)
I can't add any more useful advice but this thread reminds me a funny story.
When I took my Einbürgerungstest I had to go to the local VHS with my passport to take the test. I was afraid I was going to forget the passport so the evening before the test I put it in my trouser's backpocket before I went to bed. The next morning I get my clothes ready laying them on the bed and I notice that my trousers are a bit soiled. I selected a fresh pair of pants from the wardrobe, threw the soiled ones in the washing machine, and jumped in the shower. While I am in the shower I realize that my passport is tumbling away in 60 degree water, so I jump out and rush to its rescue. The lamination had come off, the pages had started to disintegrate and what hadn't disintegrated looked awfully blurry… (another 80 words)
I had such a damaged passport. I got warned by various immigrations, held up for 20 minutes in Russia, and not allowed into Ukraine. I only was to have 22 hours in Ukraine, but instead of enjoying Kiev I got to sample the delights of the transit lounge for 22 hours.
Hi Palindrome, This is a bad idea in Germany, as - by German laws - you are already shoplifting when you conceal the shop owner's property.
Well, I had a school colleague with epilepsy and this was in a standard Bavarian public Gymnasium.
And she had attacks during lessons, and it was no problem, the teachers had been briefed what to do.
As long as your son has good enough school marks to get into and to stay in the Gymnasium, his place there is assured.
However, please do not underestimate the effort you as the parents will have depose to get your son into the Gymnasium.
Since you are not native German speakers, you will have to hire a German tutor and they don't come cheap.
If you are in Bulgarian public health insurance, get them to issue you the form S1 and take it to Techniker Krankenkasse.
As long as none of you work, you will pay around 160€ a month for public health insurance for your entire family.
As soon as one… (another 57 words)