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Wronged wives standing by their men

How they do it and why

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Lorelei
The Wronged Wives Club
Humiliated, how do you stand by your man—and why would you?

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What is it with the wives? Silda Spitzer took her turn yesterday, standing grim and wounded as her husband, New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer, acknowledged conduct "that violates my obligations to my family."... Why stand there in the first place? Is it force of habit from a lifetime of being there for the big moments? Do otherwise strong women turn to putty in these awful moments and allow themselves to be pushed onstage by political handlers—or yanked by desperate husbands? What does a woman have to gain by letting the whole world watch what would be hard enough to bear even behind a locked bathroom door with the shower on full blast?
worm
why is it anyone's business but hers what she decides to do???

people do things for their own reasons
BadDoggie
"Wronged"? It was only sex. Fucking. Nothing more. Get over it. There are more important things in life than whose hoo-hoo-dilly is filling whom's cha-cha. While he shouldn't resign for fucking a whore, he should resign for his fucking hypocrisy. But aren't the Republicans who were busted last year still in office? Why is it different now?

woof.
Katrina
Because running isn't going to change things.
Because they are not putty, it takes a hell of a lot more balls to stand there and suck it up, even when all you'd want to do is smash his face in.
Because there are worse things in life than a cheating spouse.
Because it's bad enough already, why give people the satisfaction of seeing you crack.
Because this isn't about them, is it?
Because in a a relationship there's rough and smooth, so if you're there for the sun, you've got to be there for the rain too.
Because not showing your face would cause a press hunt.
Because of many reasons, not least because they still want to believe in their marriage vows.
Because nobody has any idea what happens behind closed doors.
Because they do.
BattalionBoy
Well if he can afford 4000 a shag then maybe he paid his wife to be there (over and above what is already running on the meter) - I think I saw them on CNN arriving in separated cars. Providing he keeps banging her regularly maybe she will be able to keep this affair on the back burner. The main problem for this women to overcome is that the whore was some very attractive young 22 year old.
worm
yeah I just saw a photo of her and she is HAWT. but then if she can charge £3000 an hour, she better be.
BattalionBoy
QUOTE (BadDoggie @ Mar 13 2008, 10:35 am) *
While he shouldn't resign for fucking a whore, he should resign for his fucking hypocrisy.

Totally agree
Eleanor Rigby
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A husband and wife were having dinner at a very fine restaurant when an absolutely stunning young woman comes over to their table, gives the husband a big kiss, tells him she'll see him later, and walks away. His wife glares at him and says, "Who was that??!!"

"Oh" replies the husband, "that was my mistress." "That's it," says the wife, "I want a divorce."

"Ok," replies her husband, "but remember, if you get a divorce there will be no more shopping trips to Paris, no wintering in the Caribbean, no Lexus in the garage, and no more country club. But, the decision is yours."

Just then the wife notices a mutual friend entering the restaurant with a gorgeous woman. "Who is that woman with Jim?" she asks.

"That's his mistress," replies her husband. "Ours is much better looking." says the wife.
BadDoggie
QUOTE (Katrina @ Mar 13 2008, 10:40 am) *
Because running isn't going to change things.
Because they are not putty, it takes a hell of a lot more balls to stand there and suck it up, even when all you'd want to do is smash his face in.
Because there are worse things in life than a cheating spouse.
Because it's bad enough already, why give people the satisfaction of seeing you crack.
Because this isn't about them, is it?
Because in a a relationship there's rough and smooth, so if you're there for the sun, you've got to be there for the rain too.
Because not showing your face would cause a press hunt.
Because of many reasons, not least because they still want to believe in their marriage vows.
Because nobody has any idea what happens behind closed doors.
Because they do.

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woof.
leisure suit larry
QUOTE (worm @ Mar 13 2008, 10:53 am) *
yeah I just saw a photo of her and she is HAWT. but then if she can charge £3000 an hour, she better be.

Agree.
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Yeti
She is not really standing up there as his wife, she is part of a political machine.
Kat
Still, I think if there were a political function she should be excused from attending, it might just be that one.
As Samantha Bee said, what do you even wear to your husband's public mea culpa? Do these pants make my ass look more humiliated?
He should at least have had the balls to go up there alone.
worm
but what if she doesnt really care that much? what if she knew all about it? what if she knew all about it and decided that, on balance she was perfectly happy with her standard of living from being married to the guy, and their sex life was over anyway, so what's the big deal about him playing away every once in a while?

you can't judge other peoples home lives soley on your own opinions - people are all different and have different expectations of marriage.
HellesAngel
You're all so cynical. She's just in love

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(1 Corinthians 13:5)
Love keeps no record of wrongs.
Love is not resentful.
Love holds no grudges.

Ok, enough of that, normal service resuming now...
Moonboot
I was also thinking what if the wifey knew about hubby's nights with the prozzies. maybe she's even getting some on the side too.
who knows what goes on behind closed doors.

it's in her interest that the misdemeanor is smoothed over asap. maybe then she'll leave him, go on Oprah, write a book, make her millions etc. who knows.
sea-king
What about wronged men standing by their women? There are some out there I should imagine! blink.gif
bluedave
Isn't it the norm that politicians wives stand by their man in these circumstances?

I can think of several cases in the UK.

I think they are worried about losing their perceived standing in the community and the smell of power that lingers in the corridors of politics.
HellesAngel
At least until they're out of the media spotlight then I should imagine she jams his balls in a vice as payment for her humiliation.
lilplatinum
That makeup sex is going to cost alot more than the 3 or 4 large he paid the hooker.
Lorelei
QUOTE (worm @ Mar 13 2008, 2:33 pm) *
but what if she doesnt really care that much?

Her face at these press conferences seems to show that she cares about something.
DanHessen
QUOTE (BadDoggie @ Mar 13 2008, 10:35 am) *
"Wronged"? It was only sex. Fucking. Nothing more. Get over it. There are more important things in life than whose hoo-hoo-dilly is filling whom's cha-cha.

So, like you're in charge of deciding what's acceptable behavior in other people's marriage? I'm pretty sure most folks like to decide those sorts of things themselves, eh?
AshleyM
Nasty bastard he is! I hope that she nails his ass in court and takes everything that he has left.

Yes, from the look on her face she is in pain. I feel for her.

If it is only "fucking" and she should get over it, then what the fuck is marriage for?? What is the point of saying vows before the person that you love and God if you are just going to go fuck anyone you want when you want and humiliate the person you are supposed to love, cherish and honor?

Why don't we women just use your asses for stud service and have you mail us a child support check later?

$80K for whores? WTF? (And btw she was NOT hawt...rather dogish and skanky!)

Why do men sacrifice everything that they have worked so hard to attain, humiliate his family, his wife, his friends, just for a nasty fuck with a stank whore?

Why do they think their little dicks are that fucking important!?!?!?

How does one kiss his kids goodnight with the stench of whore on his manky lips?

Alley cats have better morals that this jackass!
Crawlie
If I spent 3 Grand on a whore then my wife would be more upset about the amount of money spent. It's a shit load of money to get yer end away

QUOTE (AshleyM @ Mar 13 2008, 7:10 pm) *
How does one kiss his kids goodnight with the stench of whore on his manky lips?

They don't kiss clients. Well, at least that is what Pretty Woman taught me.

Nice foaming-mouthed rant though
alimess
Let's be realistic, who does not cheat ???

Seriously, I have learnt that you cannot trrust men! As for the people who will say that I am generalising and that I have simply not met the right one, well I will say Yes I did actually meet the guy who would not cheat on me and I actually stayed with him for 4 years and I cheated on him! Funny oder ?

I am not proud of what I did but lets face it this is reality!!!
eurovol
QUOTE (AshleyM @ Mar 13 2008, 7:10 pm) *
If it is only "fucking" and she should get over it, then what the fuck is marriage for??

Why don't we women just use your asses for stud service and have you mail us a child support check later?
$80K for whores? WTF? (And btw she was NOT hawt...rather dogish and skanky!)

Why do men sacrifice everything that they have worked so hard to attain, humiliate his family, his wife, his friends, just for a nasty fuck with a stank whore?

Why do they think their little dicks are that fucking important!?!?!?

How does one kiss his kids goodnight with the stench of whore on his manky lips?

Alley cats have better morals that this jackass!

Marriage is for free fucking, only when the vows are said the fucking usually stops.

Many do.

She is not skanky. Have you actually seen her picture? Not worth a 1,500 an hour, but not someone you wouldn't tell your mates about that is for sure.

Maybe the wife wasn't giving him any. Maybe she was being a skanky bitch.

Because our dicks are as fucking important as your hugs and flowers. It is not bad, it is just different.

I am sure he took a shower.

Morals is in the eye of the beholder.
AshleyM
True, morals are in the eye of the beholder.

True, that if I can not be with a man who has the same moral standards as I do then he can hit the bricks.

I dont have time to waste on morons and rather be by myself and keep my sanity.

The more a woman feels loved and cherished the more sex the man will get and everyone is happy. wink.gif
eurovol
QUOTE (AshleyM @ Mar 13 2008, 7:36 pm) *
The more a woman feels loved and cherished the more sex the man will get

If I had a penny for every time a woman said that in this big old world, I would be rich! And if I had a dime for every time they actually lived up to that, I might be able to afford a beer at O'fest.
KingBilly
QUOTE (AshleyM @ Mar 13 2008, 7:10 pm) *
And btw she was NOT hawt...rather dogish and skanky

Are ye mad? She would definitely not be kicked out of the bed for farting. She is hawt.
sarabyrd
You bet I would be right up there next to my husband. As close as possible to the desk so no one can see my hand around his balls giving them a good hard squeeze and whispering "I know you like this, baby!" while he is trying to keep a straight and painless face because he knows that is only foreplay to what is going to happen once he's out of the limelight. He'd be lucky to leave the podium as a one-balled bastard.
AshleyM
@Sarabyrd: Amen sista! laugh.gif

I treat myself way to good to be dissrespected by some fool.

@KB: I look just as good in a bikini and am able to pass judgement. sleep.gif
Tiggi
QUOTE (BadDoggie @ Mar 13 2008, 10:35 am) *
"Wronged"? It was only sex. Fucking. Nothing more. Get over it.

If she was unaware of it, it was deceit. That's what I'd find it hard to get over, not the sex.
parnell
QUOTE (AshleyM @ Mar 13 2008, 7:54 pm) *
@KB: I look just as good in a bikini and am able to pass judgement.

Post pics or retract in humiliation.
parnell
QUOTE (sarabyrd @ Mar 13 2008, 7:44 pm) *
You bet I would be right up there next to my husband. As close as possible to the desk so no one can see my hand around his balls giving them a good hard squeeze and whispering "I know you like this, baby!" while he is trying to keep a straight and painless face because he knows that is only foreplay to what is going to happen once he's out of the limelight. He'd be lucky to leave the podium as a one-balled bastard.

So if a woman cheats on her husband he should be free to assault her?

Nice argumentation there. Pat on the back for you.
AshleyM
No he is not free to assault her. It is a glorious double-standard that benefits us. Off with his head! wink.gif

I'll post some pics from my upcoming vacay on the French Riviera but you may ruin your keyboard with drool. cool.gif

Pfft! I say hit 'em where it really hurts...the wallet. laugh.gif It's legal!
sarabyrd
@ parnell: If she insists that he stands by her side whilst she sheds crocodile tears to the deceived public, I to think a discreet tweak of the tanga is justified, yes.
The Senator of New York condescended to inform the long-suffering public that he feels sorry for Sp®itzer and his family. I endorse the second half of that sentiment.
parnell
@ sarabyrd

Far cry from the maiming you were recommending as justified in your previous post huh?

@AshleyM

My wife has all my drool ad infinitum. She's also the best thing that ever happened.
sarabyrd
@ parnell: See the Adult forum regarding the sensitivity of the clitoris.
Von
Gosh, where do I start?

Him - Ooops! Darn! Idiot!

Her - Do I want to lose all the $$$$$ I've worked for as a wife? And all the $$$$$ he will inherit. And all the $$$$$ he will make again on WS after this blows over? That's a clever woman.

Their Daughters - Shit happens parents. Move on.

@ Katrina - Excellent post

@ sarabyrd - Ouch! But I understand where you're coming from.
bluedave
QUOTE (AshleyM @ Mar 13 2008, 7:10 pm) *
If it is only "fucking" and she should get over it, then what the fuck is marriage for?? What is the point of saying vows before the person that you love and God if you are just going to go fuck anyone you want when you want and humiliate the person you are supposed to love, cherish and honor?

Why don't we women just use your asses for stud service and have you mail us a child support check later?

Why do men sacrifice everything that they have worked so hard to attain, humiliate his family, his wife, his friends, just for a nasty fuck with a stank whore?

Why do they think their little dicks are that fucking important!?!?!?

Alley cats have better morals that this jackass!

Hmmm ok, a moral stance there.

QUOTE (alimess @ Mar 13 2008, 7:14 pm) *
Yes I did actually meet the guy who would not cheat on me and I actually stayed with him for 4 years and I cheated on him! Funny oder?

Oh dear, seems the morals are one sided?

QUOTE (AshleyM @ Mar 13 2008, 7:36 pm) *
I dont have time to waste on morons and rather be by myself and keep my sanity.

Or some poor bugger who happens to be with you?

QUOTE (AshleyM @ Mar 13 2008, 7:54 pm) *
I treat myself way to good to be dissrespected by some fool.

Take a look in the mirror eh?

QUOTE (AshleyM @ Mar 13 2008, 8:21 pm) *
Pfft! I say hit 'em where it really hurts...the wallet. It's legal!

Yep, that just confirmed it, no more to be said except a massive sense of entitlement and no measure of balance.
Hutcho
QUOTE (AshleyM @ Mar 13 2008, 7:10 pm) *
Yes, from the look on her face she is in pain. I feel for her.

She is probably in pain for having her private life publish on the world stage.

QUOTE (AshleyM @ Mar 13 2008, 7:10 pm) *
If it is only "fucking" and she should get over it, then what the fuck is marriage for?? What is the point of saying vows before the person that you love and God if you are just going to go fuck anyone you want when you want and humiliate the person you are supposed to love, cherish and honor?

Your view of marriage is obviously very narrow. Firstly, most people don't get married "in front of God". Secondly, you have no idea how their marriage worked. Like others have said, maybe she even knew about the affair and was ok with it, that would certainly not be a first.

I agree with BD - the guy shouldn't have to step down or cop any of this shit for using a prostitute, but he should have to step down for being a hypocrite.
parnell
Dollars to donuts most guys aren't public about their using of prostitutes with their wives. May not be the case here. Still think violence is inexcusable and for sarabyrd to comment that de-nutting some guy is equivalent to a twist of the female panties - well quite an insight into the mind there...
sarabyrd
I enjoy your efforts at trying to read my mind, p. It keeps you off the streets.
parnell
QUOTE (sarabyrd @ Mar 13 2008, 7:44 pm) *
He'd be lucky to leave the podium as a one-balled bastard.

You're right , I really needed my crystal ball to read your mind.
BattalionBoy
Can't just blame the man. I mean - is there any female on TT that wouldn’t have sex with this man for 4000 dollars? Why can one just buy women like that?
AshleyM
I wouldn't have sex with him for $400,000.

Contrary to popular belief of the majority of male TTers there are some women with morals. wink.gif

It is interesting just how many guys here think that it is just fine to polish their rod in anyone they want, and could give a damn about their wives feel about it. Sad indeed.

It is quite possible that she, like many women faced with the same situation is in a state of mind where she can only think of her kids welfare, preserving her way of living and keeping her cool without killing/castrating him.

After everything else is taken care of then she will allow herself to grieve and decide which path is the right one for her to take.
eurovol
Funny how you have come to the conclusion that every guy is cheating and not a one of us find what he did wrong. Sad indeed.
sea-king
QUOTE (AshleyM @ Mar 14 2008, 6:01 pm) *
Contrary to popular belief of the majority of male TTers there are some women with morals.

Believe it or not there are quite a few TT guys with high moral standards too!
AshleyM
I didn't say every guy here thinks that way...I said it was sad at how many do. "How many"...that does not equal all. wink.gif

@Sea-King: Glad to hear it! I was worried there for a minute! wub.gif

It gives me hope for when I start dating again!
Lorelei
QUOTE (sea-king @ Mar 14 2008, 6:11 pm) *
Believe it or not there are quite a few TT guys with high moral standards too!

Pity that more of them don't reveal their moral standards in their posts.
sea-king
Oh that´ll be me then? wink.gif
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