Hi there,

it's Marcus and the other day I walked along the "Hirschstrasse" in Ulm I saw a nice pretty and definitely British-talking girl with her mobile sitting on a step in the nearth of the "Münsterplatz" (the one around a tree or post I guess). I had't the courage to talk to her however this is where I realized I always wanted a British girlfriend. As intentions can change...I think it would be great to find someone to talk to in English.

I'm originally from Austria, live in Lehr and work at the University, maybe we could meet some sunny or the other Saturday.

Marcus

Good luck, I hope you encounter her again. Btw, I think your user name is the longest I've ever seen on TT.

next time don't be shy and just talk to her!

Thanks a lot JodieJo, I guess she had the sweetest voice I've ever heard an that all in English.

What makes you so sure that she is British? I am mother tongue english but I cannot place accents from certain different parts of the US and Canada and between Australia and New Zealand for example. Or are you just advertising to meet someone else on this forum?

Why dont you try posting something with "Ulm" in the title? in the meet up section perhaps? If this person is a member of TT im sure they will be keeping an eye out for meet-ups... or perhaps someone from Ulm knows her? Worth a try!

Also, i agree... how could you be sure she was british? I'm from Australia and everyone i meet thinks I'm from England (or Canada). Only the "trained ear" picks up my Australian accent.

Very very best of luck!! I hope you find her.

Hi there BattalionBoy...it need not be as Brithish as you know it...and you know it better than me, however she reminded me of ...eh what was that girl called Ross in "Friends" was married with...Emely i suppose. And her accent was quite British to me.

Malways:

i think your right if she was speaking in english its quiet easy to tell, that shes not american or austrialian. its not like your trying to work out which part of england she is from, thats hard sometimes for a english person let alone a non native.

good luck.

ever tried to just go to the pub and meet girls? it sort of works out better than chatting up some bird in the street

Yes, never be too shy as you often don't get second chances in life. But I think you are going to have to give Toytown some more info; what was the girl wearing, age roughly, what did she look like, what was she saying on the phone, etc.? There are a lot of British, Canadian, New Zealand, Australian women here in Ulm, you are going to have to be more specific if you want us to help find that girl of your dreams...

Dear Scogs, I wish you luck in the pubs if you are out looking for "birds" - they are smarter than you think and will fly away!!!

lol spot on jmitchell.

As a "bird" and ex-barmaid there is nothing more sleezy that a guy trying it on in a pub. 99% of the time the girl is gonna think your drunk and just move away. The only reason a few girls will stay is that their so drunk themselves they don't know any better.

So he is not going to meet someone in a bar and not very much likely on TT. With all this nice weather Marcus is most likely to see this English sprechen bird in Ulm again.
Maybe we should help him catch that one. Any suggestions for him?

If you were too shy then she doesn't want you to say "hi". Women want to see confidence in their men. For all their talk about wanting a sensitive man, what they really want is that uncouth bastard who just walked over and started in with his spiel while you sat there waiting quietly for just the right moment to walk up and say, "Umm, yeah, I think, like, you know, did you... could you umm pass me a napkin?"

woof.

Hey you guys are great.

BD, when did we start talking about you?

Woof, woof!!

I don’t think you are shy Marcus.
With this Ulm bird you have to work with what you know and that is:
She can sit around in public so this a good sign that she could be someone approachable.
She has a mobile phone, and she speaks English.
She doesn’t know that you know this.
And you don’t tell her either otherwise she might think you are stalking her but you are hunting her Marcus and the trick is to make her want to feel like she has discovered you and not the reverse.

If you can find the courage to talk to her – maybe invent a story that you have lost your mobile phone and you have to make an urgent call (your mother, boss whatever). Speak to her in German at first then of course you only just then notice that she is English so this can always be a conversation starter. If she allows you to use her phone then call yourself not forgetting to previously putting your phone on lautlos otherwise you will screw up badly right there and then. If all goes well then take it from there and if you depart without making a date then also you now have her number on your phone. No stress – she will sense this - must treat her as someone that means nothing to you just someone that you just happen to ask for help.

I don't think you're so shy either if you had the audacity to PM me . Sorry, this Lavender Rain is already taken.

Please don't invent some silly ass story about a mobile phone, that's weak and transparent for a come on. Most women like authentic men who are brave and fearless. If you are genuine in your approach this is more endearing than some phony pick-up line.

BattalionBoy, you must've tried that line about the mobile phone a few times before .

I am pretty direct in general... too direct maybe... got myself a reputation as being easy but I do think that there is no point wasting time. You like someone well thell him or her. What do you have to lose ?
Of course I would not do that on a day when I feel shit about myself...

I agree. I think I would prefer someone to make their interest known than to play some silly ass game with me. I'm way too old for that, I'm not good at reading minds, and I don't like to waste my time either.

go back to where you saw her sitting and put up a "PLEASE HELP ME FIND" poster.
you might somehow find her, or you might get arrested, who knows.
LIFE IS SHORT - TAKE A CHANCE - if you find her and she says NO. then she is not the one for you.

Lavender Rain I thought we were on PM terms you were the first to PM me a few months back - you are definitely not my type, far too short a fuse for me. I only PMed you recently (with the cruise line link) in an attempt to try and calm you down after your last blow-up. Feel free to ignore my postes and keep your sour comments to yourself - anyway I am sure you are too busy serving the community (as you call it), what ever the hell that means.

Hullo there,

Hi Jozi, I appreciate you interfering BD but I know women want to be teased too. At the same time BD ougth to know that it's empathy which makes a good combination. If you've got too much of the latter you anyhow have problems defining what is you and what is the other and get exploited by some bossy girls who nothing but wonders why there are so many weak guys. I like what battalion boy writes he seems to have a good balance.
Alimess has a point in how oneself feels but at the other time sees the transitoriness of some situations. In my case i could tell she was very musical...I could hear that in her voice and was so unexpectedly surprised and attracted to that voice that I in the same time was too fearful to mess the whole thing up. Aim1976 would obviously be very pragmatic in such a situation: yes or no since life is short. But interactions can make changes possible and there are also changes that take some time and are neither heaven nor hell. And as I noticed ...it's possible ther's another nice voice in here too..yours?
All in all great tips from both sexes but still a lot of questions...

Around here we call it replying to a thread.

Hullo Lifeisabuffet, I like your comment there.
Regarding BattalionBoy & Lavender Rain I'd rather rather say...time is on my side ;-) .
Hullo bluedave, BD was refferred to bad doggy on the first page. Anyway...threads can also provoce excitement.

Somehow I just don't get it - what happened to good old fashioned sincerity - "hi, my name is..." start up a conversation about something normal; the weather, art, anything but keep it elegant and interesting. There is nothing so boring and such a turn-off as lines from bad sitcoms, made-up stories and the "bird" approach. Give it a break and just be yourself. If this is yourself, then good luck to ya because you will need it (and lots of it!). Anyway, we still have no clues or descriptions of our "Miss UK Wonderful" and it looks like there are a lot of people on TT with their eyes peeled. You want to find her or not? Maybe try the Valentines train (speed dating) from Ulm to Friedrichshafen on the 14th but might be too mature for a few in this chat!!!

Hi there jmitchell,
being yourself is not enough. First you ought ot get the attention. In most of the other cases she's on autopilot and just handles it as a typical come on. Then there it is...I mean the chance...to get to know each other and to find out how much sencerity is possible. The speed dating is a great idea...where did you get to know from it?
thank you for you contribution
Marcus

Ok, let us try to build up some scenes:
let's try jmitchells first sentence:

Hullo there, I'm Marcus.
"Am I supposed to know you?"
Ok...sorry...

what about:

Hullo, I'm Marcus. The weather is great.
"Hiroshima was on a sunny day too. Why do you think so?"
Sunny...and so on...hmmm. ok...sorry

Self defeatism: women find it sexy.

come one, thefirelane,

you're 1. ironic and 2. unrealistic.

how would you do it? go in the ring with her...find one dumb sentence after the other?

do you know why baddoggy's napkin idea is good? not because ...as he thinks...he's brave then...and not because as you might think he's defeating. It can work because you get the attention. It get's the girl off the autopilot-response-pattern.

So have you ever/are you ever going to see this girl around again Marcus?

I saw that girl there shortly, I definitely heard her voice (I would recognize it) and I'm quite fond of "a" English-speaking girl with a nice voice...but don't you interrupt me practicing in dialogues...ok this is one too but how would you approach guys? and how would the other halve react?

"how'r you doing?"

3 words. Grow some fucking balls*

BTW, whatever part of "Britain" somebody is from, calling them British will probably cause offence.

*ok, 4 words. Call it poetic license.

Come on now Don Riina, young German men need to drink 6 gallons of beer so they have enough courage to talk to a woman. German men are so freaking shy when they are sober...

On that note, the poster should have a couple of beers before he tries talking to this girl...

His balls are probably full that's why he's seeking a young frau .

For you Marcus...

The appropriate acronym for that would be SÜD*
Who doesn't suffer from it from time to time

*SamenÜberDruck

Hi don_riina, thank you for your comment, so you have let your balls grow?
Honestly...how can one become a man as you are? Any real suggestions? Some concrete plans? Or just a shallow phrase out of Telly. Would you even ever dare to write your dialog where you master ostacles?
Thank you lifeIsaBuffet, you're right, I got balls. Whether they are full or not...how would you find out? What would you in my place do to get the desired action and how does it -from your experience- look like? Would you need to use the term "SED" ..which by the way leaves to me open how the maximal semenal pressure is measured and how much sense that makes.

Oh dear Christ, please put it out of its misery!

I'll do you a swap Marcus, I'll introduce you to some nice English girls if you introduce me to some nice German (or Austrian) girls.

Uh, this is getting far to technical for me .

some guys are shy..some guys arent..doesnt make anybody a lesser male!

I agree Helpus I am a very shy person however in the US shyness is looked upon as an ailment.
Did you find any secret chambers yet?

Hi MWE,

I don't know how much of this forum you've looked through, but if you're expecting help or thoughtful answers, you've come to the wrong place. First thing you learn here is to grow a thick skin and ignore the bullies and attention-seeking loudmouths. Second thing is that it's a place where people who like to whine about their place in life but are either too lazy or don't have the guts to change it come to exchange insults about the people among whom they live. In other words, you are the foreigner here, and therefore not welcome.

Apologies to the exceptions, of course. You know who you are.

Hullo silty1,

thanks a lot for your writing. I agree with you, nevertheless there are exceptions like you.

You're kind.

Marcus

Hi Keydeck,

don't worry it's all right. It's their turn now.