Being followed by strangers

i have that quickly foound this out the first posts.

Anyone what to help me out here? T***ling?

Georgiagirl - So what is your motivation, to knock some sense into her so that she follows some of the useful advice proffered, or to belittle her?

My motivation is neither, hams. I have neither tried to 'knock sense' into her nor have I belittled her. I have given her advice, many other people have given advice, yet there still has not come a point where she just says 'okay, thanks, I'll take that advice and give it whirl.' Just kind of wondering when that's going to happen, rather than her just continually complaining about the problem.

So I reckon my motivation is to see some sort of resolution to this, since I and others have invested time and energy trying to help her.

It's human nature to reject good advice. We all learn from our mistakes at our own pace... best not to waste your time and let her get on with it, whether that 'it' is attention seeking or not, as the case may be.

You're just jealous Georgiagirl cos no men follow you when you are out walking the town. I am sure this pixie person is hot stuff if it happens to her

The general concensus, BP, would appear to be that not acknowledging help and/or advice is rude.

Saying thanks, or simply acknowledging info given, Basic chat forum etiquette, it's not so difficult

You're just jealous Georgiagirl cos no men follow you when you are out walking the town.

He likes changing people's usernames into something funny

I need more of a social life so i want to go out and do more things. So i have run into a problem when going out alone. Sometimes get followed or stopped by weird guys. Some of them won't go away. And when i think i had made it clear i didn't want to be around them i sometimes see them again, and they won't leave me alone. I am very much open to male(or female) friends, but some creepy weirdos won't leave me the eff alone when i have figured out they have intentions i don't like. My limited German skills make it difficult to express what i want to say. I would consider going out with friends, but since i got here i haven't met new friends yet, asides from my bf and his sisters(i also enjoy my solitude in the city sometime). I want to go out and meet new friends but having this happen every time i go out is discouraging. I am still adjusting to the life style here so i don't know all the fun things to do yet.

More accurate:

Hams: your TT member whose tolerance for BS is not at an all time high today.

I think GG and BP should don wet t-shirts and then wrestle live on webcam.

Are you really sure these are Germans who are following you? I've been here for 10 years and have experienced some of this "following" behavior but it was never Germans. Most often it was during my times in the Studentenwohnheim, and mostly I was followed/not left alone by Moroccans. There was a large Morroccan community in the Wohnheim back then, and they were very persistent.

Perhaps it's someone from another culture who is not as sensitive to the cues you are giving as most Germans (in my experience, at least) are.

Must be more 'Mercan talk! y'all!!

Are you really sure these are Germans who are following you? I've been here for 10 years and have experienced some of this "following" behavior but it was never Germans. Most often it was during my times in the Studentenwohnheim, and mostly I was followed/not left alone by Moroccans. There was a large Morroccan community in the Wohnheim back then, and they were very persistent. Perhaps it's someone from another culture who is not as sensitive to the cues you are giving as most Germans (in my experience, at least) are.

It doesn't answer why it only happens to you.

I guess being stoned to death is a pretty good incentive to encourage women in these cultures to play hard to get.

And for those who aren't taking broadway_pixie seriously, believe me, there are a lot of weirdos out there. I used to get this all the time when I was younger - creeps who sidle up to you and murmur stuff like "hello" ... "wie geht's" ... "bist du allein?" ... "hast du einen Freund" ... "wo wohnst du?" ... "willst du mit mir spazierengehen" ... and these are emphatically not nice guys wanting to flirt with you. This is something totally different: creeps, wierdos, who hang around waiting for young women to prey on, and it is a bloody nuisance. Some will follow you around for hours, all over town. Dunno why they do it. I guess they're just maladjusted individuals. Many of them speak German with a foreign accent - I used to think maybe they come from different cultures and haven't got the hang of how things are done here, but now I think they're just plain weird. It's interesting that it happens to some women a lot, while others never experience it. I'm 5-foot-4, maybe they think smaller women are easier prey.

perhaps women in these cultures play a little harder to get so the men are used to pursuing much more aggressively and not taking no for an answer.

The one from the other night i didnt talk to, so i really do know about him. It was dark and he was wearing a hat, and he also did not have german features.