Naked photos of your husband's ex-girlfriend

My husband and I got married about one year ago. Recently, when I reviewed our wedding photos, I noticed there were also lots of other (old) photos stored in different envelopes, stacked up in the same drawer, which I had not looked at previously. Out of curiosity, I looked at all of them, and I came across a set of soft porn photos showing my husband’s ex-gf. In some photos she was in sexy underwear, and in some photos, she is naked. She looked pretty and sexy there.

At the start my attention was drawn to these hot photos, they’re really nice. But after a little while, I felt a bit uncomfortable, maybe even somehow angry, thinking why my husband (he is German, btw) put these photos here and leaves me a chance to see them? Why can’t he just put them somewhere else, like in the basement? (The photos are more than 10 years old, taken in different years, btw. He definitely knows they lay in the drawer, because he picked some other photos of his ex-gf from the same envelope some time ago to show them to me)

I know it’s quite normal to take these kinds of photos as a couple, but it feels not right to let me see them. In the next two nights, before I fell asleep, the sexy woman’s pubic hair and breasts and legs came into my mind and refused to leave.

By now it’s fine, I’m not bothered by her image anymore before I sleep. I’m just still curious about how others think of this. I have two questions, I will appreciate it if you take your time to answer them:

1) How do you think or feel if you found naked photos of your husband/BF’s ex (you may replace wife/GF to husband/BF, if you’re male) in your drawer
A. We can appreciate these photos together
B. I don’t specifically like it, but it’s not a big deal
C. I dislike it, and feel jealous
D. or add your other opinions

2) What you would do with these photos
A. Let the big boy keep his ‘toy’ and memory there (in the drawer)
B. He can keep them, but he need find another place to store them.
C. It’s not allowed to keep these, he must burn them.
D. or add your other opinions.

I , and I'm pretty sure most of the others, would really need to see them to be sure which option to take.

Unusual first post.

he is a man, and most likely forgot that he had the photos mixed in with the others. I am sure he ment no harm to you... but he did have a life before he met you.
Offer to make new photos of you.

Comparison photos will also be needed to make an informed opinion.

I kept pictures of my naked sister for years...

If I were you I'd seriously consider getting somebody to take erotic pictures of you and then swap them for the pictures of his ex. Could be a jolly old jape.

If a man keeps ex's photos, that's fine.. it is his "trophy collection", nothing more. Let him keep them, but they should be kept privately away from you, that was just a dumb mistake.

If a woman keeps ex's photos, that is wrong.

Yeah. Imagine finding dick pictures in her pantie drawer.

I regret to admit that I did the psycho thing and ripped up one particular (clothed) photo of an ex GF of my husband's that I came across one too many times shortly after we moved in together. It felt really, really good. Oh, those were tempestuous days.

And what other way is there to get to sleep at night?

Batson, that sentence you quoted is just classic... Strikes me someone's taking the pee again...

Well Tracy, no idea who you are, and it strikes me that there's an interesting contrast between the highly personal nature of your first post and your entirely blank profile. But as far as I'm concerned, your timing is fantastic and you've done at least three people a big favour... thanks so much for the reminder!

Most likely, we lost contact, she spent a lot of time in the streets of LA and her claim to fame was Sharon Stone's body double in some trashy film. Anyhow, she made buck selling pictures of herself and I had a drawer full of them; had to explain that once or twice. Ummm, that? Next to the napkins? That's my sister.

But I've lost contact. And the pictures were thrown out after a cat electrocuted in our appt and set off the sprinkler system and everything got drenched.

Soggy, fried-cat smelling, sisterly, Stone-like, snatch snapshots? Not really worth keeping til they mold.

No woman talks like this. Wind up.

Why?
What's the right way woman should talk?

I planed to have others' thoughts from this forum because a friend told me people here are very smart. Till now, I have to accept the truth: people here are too 'intelligent' to believe simple things.

Down load some pictures of men with extraordinary large dicks. Doctor them to make them look like home pictures i.e. get printed on photographic paper and put these in your photo album after your wedding pics. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander that’s what I say. Also I know a good divorce lawyer.

apparently it's quite common for men to come across pictures of their ex-girlfriends

I disagree - cuming across Playboy magazine yes maybe. Tracy you gonna post those gf pics or not?

The reason why I post this here is I just wanted to prove it's a normal reaction (feeling a bit unhappy for a while after seeing these special photos) of a woman(if she loves him), becuase earlier my husband accused me 'you're jealous!'(yes, I was a bit jealous and I don't deny it, but that's noraml!) after I told him what's the reason made me moody.

But, well, since someone said even I'm not a woman, so I failed here.

My husband can keep these photos (even he said he would throw them away if I want), that's his past and memory. Carm, you're right, and thanks for your response.

Are you religious tracy?

Of course no.

Well a big doh to your hubby. He was dumb enough to forget those photos between your wedding pics.

Most men only keep sexy pictures of the ones that swallowed.

What about women who keep sexy photos of their old boyfriends? What's your theory on that one?

I am not sure women actually keep sexy picture of bfs new or old. Photos of Rugby players maybe. What do you do with those pictures LiaB?
If they did keep such pictures I would say they are desperate.

But the pictures are "more than 10 years old" the ex girlfriend probably doesn't look (bodywise) the same way anymore, so whats the big deal?

*she might have 5 chins and a beer belly gut and warts on her bum

Not a big deal. I'm just a silly jealous woman.

I've got some pix of an ex somewhere. Haven't kept them for any particular reason, but at the same time don't think there's any reason to throw them away. They're just a part of my history and amongst all the paper clutter I have collected over the years.

He's just being honest to me, not hiding things from me. I appreciate this characteristic, even through sometimes it causes a few small problems(mainly becuase I'm jealous and sensitive). But, anyway, I love him, and I know he loves me too, that's the most important thing.

I'm finished here. Thanks for everybody, and enjoy your day.

divorce him on the grounds of tackiness?

Tracy,

Your husband probably still dreams about his ex and fantasizes about her while having sex with you. This is why he still has the pictures. He probably is still in touch with her and might even be sleeping with her occasionally if she lives in the same town.

I was going to say the same thing but I did not want to hurt her.

It also sounds like you have lesbian tendencies. So if you do some threesomes with your hubby and that girl, the issue would get resolved.

I don't know what all the fuss is about. I've got hundreds of explicit photographs of ex-girlfriends, hundreds of explicit photographs of my ex-wife and thousands of photographs of other people's wives. I'm not a pervert. I'm just a collector. That's all.

Oi Sin, you got any nice photos my girlfriend? I've got no nudes of her, and I'd fancy a couple.

I've got some Madaxe! She's really pretty, it's keeping me up at night.

I dunno. My indexing system is shot to pieces. Can you give me her first name, breast size and pubic hair features and I'll try to look into it?

We all fancy a couple. cheeky.

It's keeping you up at night???

I always thought you were a woman.

Dat's nice Saint. Could you send me a few of you and her buck naked getting it on together. But no dildos, not my ting you see. Or better yet, put then in the gallery so all can enjoy.

@Sin,
First name Missus (MadAxe)
Breast size Adequete
Pubic hair Black

Maybe I meant, "upright" Sin!

I kept naked pics of mx first love as he had a ridiculously long willy and it was fun over the years to bust out the pics with the girls over some cocktails.

Do admit I tossed them after getting married, but only after our third year together.

Seriously doubt his keeping them are a sign of lack of attraction/love...just probably doesn't even think about it.

Thanks for nothing. I've spent the last bloody hour checking and I've got 64,197 matches.

Any distinquishing features?

@Sin - she's the one with the 'ridiculously long wanker (sic)'. Surely you must remember 'her'?

Mate, I have to deal with so many wankers that one single one doesn't even stand out anymore.

Poor Sin, I feel really guilty now. What a wasted hour.

Just send all 64,197 piccies to me, and I'll tell you which ones are of her.

From what I've seen of Sin's collection, you'll need to know your girlfriend quite literally inside and out to be able to identify her from some of the photos...

We divorced this afternoon right away after I saw your post. Thanks for telling me the truth. What a nice and smart woman you are!

Other women, pls pay attention, it's still a big possiblity that your bf/husband fantasizes about his ex-gfs while having sex with you, no matter if he keeps photos, becuase the ex-gfs' images anyway already been carved in his mind.

, it's so impressive that you see me through(I thought I hide this very well).

Threesome? nein, I have no interst. You're much more attactive than 'threesome'. Send me a message if you feel interested.

call her and organize a naked dart party. you will see everything will be ok

Whew, she's part of his past, he's permitted some fond memories.

Now I see that I've missed some lovely heckling, so I'll go read the other answers now.