Love at first sight

I used to think the whole love at first sight notion was bogus and ridiculous and that the only thing possible was perhaps LUST at first sight. But recently I met a man who I seem to have fallen for the first time I looked at him or he smiled at me. I didn't think of him as being particularly physically gorgeous at all. I just felt sort of intrigued by him. Then when he smiled at me I felt faint. When we went out on our first date, I remember thinking in a strangely casual calm way 'yep, you're about to become someone very important in my life and I probably already love you.'

We had sex quite early in our time together - by the 3rd or 4th date. The sex was awkward and it just didn't seem to work. Not good sex at all. But I didn't care. I just sort of felt I was destined to be with him. Things did suddenly click into place and the sex became great. It's still very early days. We both seem to be mesmerized by each other.

I am just trying to figure out what this is all about. I just feel so sure that this person is the love of my life and I find it weird that I thought this even before I'd spoken more than a handful of words to him and even before I had any idea that he was interested in me too. It's definitely not some juvenile infatuation - we're both over 30.

I don't think you can ever be too old to suffer from juvenile infatuation.

I don't believe in "love" at first sight but I do think you can get a pretty good feeling for someone straight off. Trouble is, my people-radar sucks so I'm not really one to talk about this.

I don't believe in love at first sight. To fall in love with someone you need to feel connected to him not only on a sexual level. This takes a little time.
I am not sure about your story. I read it like two times but I don't feel any love between you guys. You only talk about your side of feelings of "love". I don't know maybe you felt intrigued by him, you banged him and now you guys sort of hang around? And maybe you feel you love him because you want to feel loved?
EDIT: I also feel that calling this thing between you guys "love" is a bit premature.

Before I always believed love at first sight was impossible, as normally it takes time for me to get to know a person before I can really feel to open up to them and allow myself to become involved in a more intimate relationship with them. However I was persuaded to think otherwise when one day I was reading Playboy magazine and there was this photograph a very beautiful woman and almost immediately on seeing this I just wanted to shag her arse off.

I don't believe in "love at first sight" , but if it works for you then be happy. Just be careful

So now you believe in love over the internet?

I does, I saw it.

Allegedly you work out whether you are attracted to somebody within something like 3 seconds. Now if you do this often enough you are bound to sooner or later come across somebody you are attracted to who isn't a complete t**t.

Miss August 2001, Jennifer Walcott I'll bet.

I thought he fell in love with the Pamela Anderson centerfold.

I do and we have been married now for 10 years.

What was it like when you first met him/her? Please tell me your story!

I personally do not believe in love nor infatuation at first sight. Unless, of course, you're German, in which case attraction, infatuation and love all seem to be the same thing, and are grouped under the "love" catch-all.

Attraction at first sight, I definitely believe in.

Can I ask you a personal question? Were you a virgin when you met? Cos that sounds exactly like a first-timer problem.

I try not to fall in love too much as it makes one feel really guilty when it’s time to dump them.

I was living and working in Cyprus. I came to Memmingen to help lead a seminar. She attended the course. She saw me and said inside, that is my husband. I saw her and she never left my heart. At the time we both had partners, but two years later we both split from our partners. She called, flew down to Cyprus the next day, and we have been together since. Now we have two children and find ourselves more in love today than ever. Sappy, I know.

I think that's really beautiful.

PES I am happy for you but judging by your profile photo this relationship has really taken it’s toll on you.

@ Bella1971
Could you please answer my question? thx.

@ Bella1971 so have you actually told each other 'I love you' yet?

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No. Neither was he.

That is Origen, an author I love to read (and so does she!)

@ Bella1971

Ok so how come you're both so shit at sex? Did you meet at a swingers club for retards or something?

No. So far it's just been both parties saying 'I've never felt this way about anyone before...'
It's true. I've had plenty of relationships before, ranging from flings to a 5 year relationship. I've never felt this way about anyone. I'm finding the intensity of how I feel about him slightly scary actually. I'm a grown woman and also the sort of person for whom relationships are not the be all and end all (usually) and I'm perfectly happy when single. I am not used to feeling like this and I'm finding it a little hard to concentrate, or eat anything.

Bella!! Does his wife know about this?

I don't know that we are usually. For some reason we both were very nervous the first time together and it ended up not quite working.

This is the same Bella who was looking for work as a prostitute, right? Maybe this guy was her first client?

@ Bella1971
Did you take it up the dumper after a curry or something?

do you want to tell him?
maybe it isn't love after all then?

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He doesn't have a wife.

Yep.

the prostitution posts were a joke. Although I am generally curious about what life's like for prostitutes in Germany

That's really disgusting. You have a very strange mind.

no not disgusting, just European or "continental".

How about a sister?

Really? It is European custom to have anal sex the first time a new couple sleeps together?

my work here is done...

Well if the ol' main entrance didn't do the trick maybe you should have let him have a go at the back passage?

Maybe you shouldn’t tell him that you are interested in being a prostitute unless you want to find out if his love is unconditional.

and he probably shouldn't lend you any money...

Hey Bella,
think it may need more time to work out. I do believe in love at first sight...happened to me and it ended up being a heartbreaker. It's all about timing I think. You just need to know what some of my friends told me when I was single...they (meaning yourself and lover) are on your best behavior for the first six months...after that, the real (or hidden) person tends to seep out...if not 6 months, maybe 8. And by then, you should know them well enough to know if the red flags are serious or something you can live with. Everyone has faults and 'seeing' them instantly can be distorted.
Anyway, everyone deserves 'love at first sight' once in their life. I hope it goes well for you. My regards.

Thank you.

Have you considered vaginoplasty for your face? Look it worked for others it can work for you too.

quit being a dick parnell

Thanks for such a helpful and mature response.

You're welcome. Anytime. Cept now.

I never really believed in this but met someone a few years ago with whom I certainly shared an extremely strong connection straight away. And you can definitely feel attraction instantly - I don't think that's in doubt. I probably wouldn't call it love, because I think you have to know each other rather better to class it as that, but I guess it just depends on your personal definition. In any case, I hope it all goes well for you.

Ah, a paying client to your new profession and he felt sorry for you and gave you a tip anyway. Yep, that is love at first sight of the money. I think you just might be a gold digging under the bridge dweller. Carry on with your bad self.

Bella, 3 months later you may regret that you wrote this was a love

@eurovol, don't see that the OP's motivations really matter if it's a topic that interests other people. It won't be particularly riveting if every second post is a dig at her though, that's for sure.