Why are you unhappy today?

I am sorry Wahoo, I know exactly how you feel at the moment.

Cos someone that i would have put my life in their hands appears to have only their best interests at heart.

I would have scaled mountains for them, swum across seas and any other saying you want to use, seems self preservation is uppermost on their minds.

Self-preservation is the first law of nature .

Because, though I had a lovely night last night, my phone starting ringing late, and started ringing again very early this morning - I am sooooo tired!

The internet on my laptop does not work!! I have so many things to do on the internet !!!

and my post for help has been removed by a mod!!!

Wasn't that exchange supposed to be removed because you'd posted your e-mail address by mistake or something?

well I did not ask them to remove it. But yes you are right they might have done it because of that. Sorry Mods for badmouthing!!!

Because I am suffering from an overdose of solanum lycopersicum that kept me up half the night and feel absolutely miserable.

I worked very hard, tried my best and still didn't get what I wanted. I'm disappointed in the outcome, not in myself.

I'm still a lucky guy but just a lucky guy who doesn't get everything he wants

because our computer geek at the office, did some touch ups on the computers on the weekend, and now I have to take even more steps to get into my computer... was very upsetting this morning as I couldn`t get into my computer and about 5 people were trying to get info and bug me too. Just sort of set the mood for the day.

Just one of those days I'm sure all expats have. Maybe its the gray, gloomy weather or the fact that its Monday and I had to give up my time to a job I hate. Just wish I could go home for a weekend, see my friends and family, laugh and share stories, hang out with my brother awhile...

I'm pissed cos I've finally realised someone I thought was a friend is really a selfinvolved dispicable person who deserves no more of my time. I'm pissed at myself for making excuses.

You realized this by assmois.

Huh ?

Osmosis?

Not I think Lavender Rain is jumping to all kinds of conclusions and calling me an ass. She obviously didn't read the subtitle about supporting each other.

It's a play on the words "osmosis" and it's new slang for a process by which butt-kissers and back stabbers gain advantage and hide their dark side.

It had nothing to do with you I was referring to "your friend" being an ass. You're sensitive today. Did your self-esteem take a blow today from "your friend"?

O sorry - yes I'm jumpy today. No I think my self-esteem is ascerting myself actually. I guess I'm jumpy cos I haven't yet decided whether to just let it go quitely and not speak to the person any more or go with the more melodramatic reading of the riot act before the ignoring begins

If you want to know my opinion, this is it. If you have some uncertainty about what happened or the motivation behind "your friends" behavior or actions and want to try to clarify it,then I would recommend you try to speak to this person in a nonconfrontational way. Save the melodrama and the riotous behavior as you are only causing yourself more pain and stress. At the end of the day, you have to figure out how much this person means to you and your life and determine how much is your reaction worth to you.

Just wondering, do you believe in forgiveness?

oh boy, can I relate to you on this. I felt I did the adult thing, and just closed that chapter of my life. I felt it was time to move on.

I'm soooo lonely and isolated

Actively ignoring will probably make you angry for making an effort.


I agree, state your case and then let go. Holding a grudge won't do you any good, it will just eat you up inside. Live and learn and move on.

PS - I am unhappy because I made this huge trek to Ikea to get my kitchen cupboards some doors and - contrary to the saleslady's promise - there were neither hinges nor screws with them, so I get to go back.

And one of the boxes was damaged, so I have to drag it back with me I could have had them set up for me tonight while I was out. oh well.

DDBug- if it's only about the screws and hinges, just call them up and let them send the screws by mail. You need the bill of your purchase. The number can be found on the IKEA-website under "IKEA in Ihrer Nähe". ... that's what I did today cause some screws and hinges were missing too.

Yeah I did this once too, though it took around a week iirc.

Had the mother of all fights with the estranged wife last night. All sorts of agreements coming out that I never agreed to.

My general lack of documenting things is coming back to haunt me. I'm too trusting perhaps?

Thanks Zee and UA, if I didn't have to take the damaged box back and exchange it, I would probably just do that. (What's another week of a sea of Ikea boxes in my hallway anyway )

Pas - dude - start writing that shit down! And start a journal and write down everything that happens, just for 2 months to start with. Yes, you are probably too trusting.

Thanks Lavender.
Yeah I've been very forgiving with this person. Truth is I shuold have stopped talking to them many months ago but I kept makign excuses for how they were acting. I have tried talking to them in a non-confrontational way weeks back and they blew up out of nowhere and said they didnt' want to talk anymore. So I said fine. They started talking to me again days later. etc etc melodrama melodrama hot and cold for another month.
I'm done. Sick of it. Yes you are right - no more melodrama called for. Thou I have a thing abuot always letting someone konw why I'm pissed at them so I might retract the claws and say something non-melodramatic

I found out yesterday that one of my closest friends from the U.S. had a brain tumor, underwent a 10 hr surgery and has been at home, not working, for the last 3 months and I didn't know about it because the email she sent never arrived. I feel like a horrible friend.

hmmm its not about holding a grudge - I'm not. its not about a specific. you see my version of moving on is sometimes to just totally cut someone off. it works for me - I'm good at it. Sort of on principle I don't like doing it, but sometimes its the only way.


Oh that really does suck. I'm sorry. But really kitkat its not your fault. You didn't know!! So explain you are sorry you didn't know and that you are there for them now however you can be. yuo really can't do anymore than that

Because at 4 o'clock this morning, No 1 son woke up crying he had a nosebleed, No 2 son decided a 'Monster' did it and woke up NO 3 son with the all the crying!

Had three hysterical kids whilst I was still half asleep, finally got them settled eventually and now i am wide awake and cant get back to sleep!

Still awake ...

Good for you, I am doing the same, some people think its a grudge, but I don't see it that way, these people thru their actions have shown their true character, and I don't want to be involved with them anymore because of that.
Besides, some people are perfect, and turn all their issues around on you, because they cannot accept or respect your decisions.

I got a secretary that lies and is so superficial its so fucking annoying, she gets annoyed when I point out mistakes she made on my appointment plan (that I nicely ask her to fix), then turns it around to the bosses that I am too hard on her... fucking bitch! And my new hours for the year, have me working 3 days with her.

Yeah I agree. Its not even about good or bad people. Even thou someone can have very good qualities sometimes they just do things that cause you too much grief. Its not about grudges or anything, its just about protecting yourself really.

I've been up since 0400 this morning and one of my first experiences of the day was to see a mangled body in the middle of the highway. I was stuck in traffic and then I realized that this was no ordinary accident... There was all kinds of strange debris lying in the road and then I realized that one of the strange things was someone's foot. A little further down was the rest of the body, covered with cardboard. Not pretty.

That's horrific ! This is a good example how our lives can completely change in a second and never be the same again. This also help give some perspective to some of the other "unhappy" posts on this thread.

I guess I really shouldn't complain about me being unhappy...imagine how the poor schmuck who got killed must have felt!

Well, he probably didn't feel a thing. It's his family that's probably hurting.
Sorry to hear that BeeGeeJesus - it's an imagine that will stick in your mind for awhile. Eventually, it will go away.

because my lovely lovely dog had to be put to sleep. I've had her since my 12th birthday and I told her she is never ever allowed to die, I think she must have taken it to heart because it seems that she must have been suffering in silence for a while

My father called to tell me that our dog home who had puppies 5 weeks ago had died in a car accident. She died in my sisters arms. I am devastated.

I'm really sorry to hear about your dogs, Rilana & alimess.

Because I've got The Dreaded Lurgi, I ache all over and have the energy of a damp firework, I feel shit!

ditto

Sound like the Asian strain generally picked up at Thai restaurants in the Nymphenburg area. Allershausen got it by proxy by reading a post by coolerking.
@ alimess - How sad for you and your family. Do the pups have a surrogate mother yet? (no, I am not applying for the job, I am a cat-person)

Sarabyrd thanks a lot! Well unless you want to fly to Mauritius and take care of them. I am sure you would!;-)
The puppies are old enough to eat and drink by themselves so my parents are waking up a few times every night to feed them. I have been talking a lot with my little sister who is 14, she loved this dog and it has been a real trauma seeing the accident happen.

I think you may have something there, sarabyrd. I was supposed to be skiing today, but I'm too sick

cos it seems that some people are just intent in never forgiving things and always hurting your feelings people can be real scum sometimes

Because I'm very alone in a hotel room on a bad weather day in a town doing nothing on my birthday.

Sin, Happy Birthday! I hope you have many, many, many... more.