Utterly depressed in Munich - I need help!

Ok thanks everybody, I tried to post this before, but I am on a computer at my fiances work and my finger slipped on the roller wheel on the mouse and it was gone, I couldn"t find it. This is a weird Linux computer and it uses Mozilla as the web browser, it is just weird!
Anyway thanks everybody for being so nice and helping me out. I guess I just don't know the right places to go, or rather the places my fiance says are cool, aren't to me. Oh and yes he knows how much it bugs me being here, but he can't take it anymore! He is under alot of stress, he has to finish his ph.d, and he is doing most of the wedding stuff himself, I try to help but always mess up, with his program he is in the give him like a 2 day notice and say he has to go to Italy or Heidlberg or somewhere, but it is alwazs at least a several hour drive, and we have been living in a house that is owned by his father, but my fi's niece wants to move in and is a total not nice person and has said we should not live there and if she can't be there alone and totally happy having her way then it is my fi's fathers responsibility to buy her an apartment, anyway it is a whole big complicated situation, but it adds the stress of we don't have much money, and need to find a new place to live. So i understand he is terribly bogged down with everything right now and he cares very much about me, and only wants to make me happy. It bugs me when I have these break downs and can't function and then it upsets him so much he wastes a day at work too.
Anyway, the wedding thing, yea we could technically switch the date or move it to USA, but we sent out the invitations(still cahngeable though) and before all this problem with his dad arose, his dad was going to pay for it, and his mom doesn't fly, and mmost importantly why I don't want to change the date, is because we have been waiting, if you know what I mean?? But there are a few other reasons too. But if you want to know them I'll tell ya later.
Ok hmmm what else was there??? I don't mean to skip out on anything, but I am truly overwhelmed by the responses, I keep getting more and more responses!! I don't have enough time to respond to everyone!! But Thanks everyone so much for helping me. I will get in touch with everybody when I come back. I do really want to hang out with everybody. Oh yea I have been to Zoozoos before, it was for my fi's birthday, so was anyone there that night? Just kidding it was in April. ok thanks see ya

@lil

I assume that by "weird" you mean "infinitely superior to that Microsoft crap I'm used to using."


Well, in that case, why don't you just invite us all! We'll be sure to come along and get nice and loaded and make it a wedding you'll never forget!

DITO! Weird as in the way it should be!

Just join us at any of the TT events. They are all open to all and you can turn up, meet people and leave loneliness to the Germans.
Problem solved.

Okay Lil, I am trying to guage interest for brunch this Sunday...weathers gonna be crap, which means not much going on. Also joining strangers for brunch might seem less initmidating than joining at a pub or an outing. Go to this poll to show your interest.

Lil, is the rush to get married because you're pregnant?

Now there's a plan! The first TT wedding, Jesus now that would be a knees-up...

come to think of it, I got some hideous bridesmaids dresses (circa early 90s) back in the states that could use an airing out...

Badger is full on!
I am German myself and lived in Ireland for a while.
Well I actually enjoyed it but I didn't get thrown into the deep in as I was working in a multinational company and lived with Germans, so I had some time to get adjusted.
Can't put it in better words. It's like cats and dogs, they show different behavious when being friendly

And as this is an expats forum, everyone has been a Newbie before.

And we have all sorts of people, so even if you're not mainstream (what is mainstream?) you will defo meet somebody like-minded.

Badger and me wer always happy to explain our culture to anyone interested as most TT's know.

Ask your fiancé to come with you for the first "outing", or PM somebody.
You can PM me and some of us ar enot working during the day, so PM them.
You can always entertain poor badger with her knee and her tiny cheeky kitten

Come on Saturday out with Keydeck, it sounds like this would be exactly what you like. You have seen his pics and thats how we are.
At least a part of us, as I said not everybody knows everybody and there are always some people who have different interests.

You can ask Fusilli, as far as I am concerned, he felt lonesome in the very beginning and NYC was the best place in the world and then didn't wanna leave.
Sorry, Fusilli

Lil,

The way you are feeling sounds to me like you are homesick, really really homesick, and it doesn't really matter where you are, you are missing your family and freinds.
It also sounds like you have loads of time on your hands and this is something you're really not used to coming from a big family with masses of freinds.
So, making new freinds won't stop you missing the folks back home but it will help a bit and at the same time you should keep in regular contact with the important people in your life, just hearing whats going on at home can help you feel you're still connected.

About the wedding. This not an easy one to handle at the best of times.
All weddings involve some compromise but at the same time it should be a day you look back on with happy memories. One thing you may think of doing is going ahead with your german wedding in August, keeping it small and at the same time organise a church blessing for when you move back to the states. The prospect of organising the whole thing again may be a bit scary at the moment but maybe in a years time ...after all you should be able to celebrate your marriage with your family and freinds there.

I hope that in the long run you feel that living here has made you stronger and in the short term you get through this with some new freinds.

Ok everybody I just got back from Italy. I just read everything, so ok I will look around the site and figure out what's going on this week and get together with people!
not in munich,i do worry that I am very homesick. I have a ticket back to america at the end of July, but I have none back and at this time can't afford one , but I do keep in touch with friends via email, or rather they keep in touch with me, because the last month or so I have just been too depressed to reply to them.
But polar bear, no I am definitely not pregnant, we have had like a year and a half engagement, so it hasn't been hurried, but, now all our original plas fell through! so we gotta change them! Ok once again thanks

I know how you feel, lil... Ive lost soooo many women because of that. Lol.