Dating out of your league

OK, so I'm seeing this chick, she's like über-hot, one of the hottest chicks I've ever dated. Sometimes she even lets me put it in there and I feel all gooey. The question for today is, when will she come to her senses?

Experiences? Anyone?

why wouldn't she want to date you? You are smart and funny and from the pics, very attractive.

Jesus.

I'm way too hot for my boyfriend and I still let him hang out with me.

I wanna see pictures of Parnell.

uh the hair on the back means nothing , that was my sister.

Oh man, is that the sound of a whip I hear. Ahhh parny's in love. How sweeet.

Yesterday I saw this really HOT girl, I mean HOT with a not so hot guy. He was her age, not so bad just kinda dumpy. I bet he's really funny. I know a girl who married below her league, visually speaking. She's a guys girl. Real pretty, smart, good profession, sports nut: has season tickets to baseball, loves football, basketball ... and by love i mean she really should have gone into some sort of sports field...she plays golf even and goes on golfing holiday. She married the guy because he treats her right, had the same values and well is super nice and funny. In short she married him for him and not his looks.

ps: parny is hot Mo, you should hit that.

I'm hopin that the laser eye surgery she's always talkin about she can't afford for another coupla years , no shit.

BTW I was hopin for contributions from women who've married/dated ugly guys and or guys who've dated women and honestly wake up everyday and think they're still dreamin.

parnell, hot chicks have to date somebody. A lot of great guys think they're not worthy or whatever and won't even ask them out, so kudos to you.

Meanwhile, the other hot chicks have to date guys who think they themselves are more than worthy because they've got money or looks or muscles, and most of those are intolerable company.

If you are dating her only because she's hot, then you'll probably get dumped. If there's more to it than that, then I wouldn't worry about it anymore than you do in any other relationship.

If you do say so yourself


You show us yours then he can show us his

There is more to it than that - she's a pretty brilliant person, caring yadda yadda - but there's no gettin away from it, I'm definitely the Jennifer Anniston.

Good point.

Guys who are too hot are a) intimidating and b) usually full of themselves. A very good line from Sex and the City: "uh uh, that good-looking of men are never good in bed because they never had to be."

Women just aren't as superficial as men. :rolleyes:

quick question jml - u reckon she's cheated on him ?

It was meant in jest, dearest Timmeh. If you want to know what I look like, all you have to do is click on my name. There should be no doubt that I am too hot for every man.

I don't think looks are the first priority for most women. I can think of so many qualities that are more important in a guy than looks.

Hotness is way overrated.

I'm with ER.

But if you're stupid, short, AND ugly, you've got no chance. Unless you've got money.

Or a really good sense of humour.

Although it's not a priority, for some reason I'm willing to forgive all kinds of faults I otherwise wouldn't if the guy can make me laugh all the time.

But a bit of advice, parnell: don't ever ever go on about how she's too good for you, blah blah blah.

That is seriously irritating and she WILL start believing it before long.

There's nothing worse than an un-funny guy. You just start to feel bad for them after awhile.

A sense of humour and a good conversationalist go along way for me. Looks are not that important to me.

large bank account?

Seriously I tell her she's pretty great but also (and I mean it) I'm not afraid it'll come to an end - even considered dumpin her a couple of times - then again it was for relatively minor stuff.

Definitely more important than hotness.

Beauty fades with time but diamonds are forever!

OK Gids, ya got me. I can't find any cockney rhyming slang that makes large bank account rhyme with hung like a horse. What is it?

There is nothing more unattractive than a guy who is super insecure in a relationship and has an 'why did you pick me I'm not worth it' attitude. In short - get over it and stop second doubting yourself. She likes you, enjoy it and don't ruin it by overthinking.

@ BG...Amen sister!!

Oh and for the record, looks aren't everything. Ugh, hate pretty poster boys with no substance. Okay, hate is a strong word, they are just not my type.

Pretty boys with substance however...

Da ladies have spoken.

I would say that, to a large extent, someone's physical appearance is always going to be the thing you notice first. But, as ER said, there are other things way more important than hotness. I have known people that were INCREDIBLY good looking and I would never have dated them because they were dummer than a bag of hammers or somesuch. I have also known people who weren't absolute studs but that I adored nonetheless because they were smart and made me laugh and treated me right. You're obviously doing something right if she likes you so don't worry about dating out of your league. I don't like to think that "league dating" is appropriate anyway. Some people are compatible and others aren't. That doesn't make someone better than someone else. And besides, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

@showem

Only if he doesn't love himself more than he loves me . I can't compete with that.

>> a really good sense of humour

>> I'm willing to forgive all kinds of faults I otherwise wouldn't if the guy can make me laugh all the time

>> There's nothing worse than an un-funny guy

>> A sense of humour and a good conversationalist go along way for me

>> I adored nonetheless because they were smart and made me laugh



The ultimate ladies' man

Huge cock?

Nevertheless, a Toytown Fantasy Dating League would be fun!

Also highly overrated

Its all about what's inside that counts. My last boyfriend wasn't drool worthy but he treated me better than any of the nicer looking guys I ever dated.

What are the transfer rules again?

Clowns are scary, not funny.

yea and the one above is really creepy

Dump her, parnell, she is obviously not for you.

She "lets you put it in there" - that's where the problem is rooted! If she didn't let you, you'd be begging her to let you.
When she finally let you, you think "No, this can't be true, she is too good for me, she will leave me, let's dump her first!"
Booooo.

1. you have got low self confidence - this is but the smallest problem of all three!
2. you don't love her
3. you are a coward and you are dishonest towards her

Loser.

Let her go.

And don't worry cause she will get over it really fast. Losers are very easy to get over with.
One doesn't actually need too much experience to be able to see through you, man... take care next time what you post...

I don't see why we couldn't borrow these: Fantasy Football rules

Thanks cinzia. I think I rank as professional (single for only 3 months in the last 25 years). It can't be my 'large bank account' because I'm skint most of the time. No idea. You'll have to ask Mme Sin.

Where do I sign up?

I guess it must be the hung like a horse thing?

One only has to look at the long list of models out there who hooked up with much less good looking men -

Christie Brinkley --- Billy Joel
Heidi Klum ------Seal
Jerry Hall ------------ Mick Jagger
Heather Locklear ----- Tommy Lee and Richie Sambora (although he's not bad)

I could go on all day.

Looks don't last forever and women are less superficial. I dated two guys in my life that I was so not attracted to the first time I met them. But, then we became friends and later...err...more than friends. Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder.

Er... don't think so.

Ã?s soon as she reads this thread.

Seriously, women are attracted by confidence. She obviously felt you were in her league (or that she was as low as yours) or you wouldn't get to feel all squishy and definitely wouldn't be allowed to put it in. The moment she thinks you're not in that league or you have no confidence is the moment she'll first think of how soon she should dump you. Once you've lost that "confident" label with any particular woman, you'll never get it back with her. Ever. She'll never look at you the same.

SO... Shut the fuck up and when she asks where to go for dinner, make a decision real fast. Don't ask questions, don't ask where she wants to go. She wants to see that confidence. Either that or start looking for a new girl.

woof.

What BadDoggie said.
It's absolutely true.

Ditto.

Confidence is the key.
Eventually when she's finally fallen in love with you it's ok to waver from time to time but not in the early stages.

rock star
rock star
rock star
rock star and rock star

Ah, it's comedians that push the right buttons, then.



Sexy, sexy, yes please, sexy

Somebody told me this. Forgot who or when. Must have been in a pub. But - it sounded so plausible and apparently there's statistical evidence to back it up:

Relationships last longest when both partners have a similar score on the *attractiveness-scale*. But (there's the rub) not the objective score, but the subjective score you'd give yourself (not your partner!) counts.

Example: Totally hot babe thinks she's a 6 out of 10 and meets guy who thinks he is a 6 out of 10: BINGO. (Objectively she's a 10 and he's a 4 but that doesn't matter).

It's all in your head ...