Greetings you all,
Yes-to all you new people in town or those on their way here or those who have found themselves still here years later and now have school aged kids. The German school system is a slanted, dated, 3 tiered caste-like system -like ant farm (to put it nicely) and yes-after the 4th grade, but often decided in 3rd (because they just know these things- for we are teacher!). It is both Flexible and PISA challenged – both a modern and prehistoric schizophrenic school system that is WAY over due for a major overhaul-that often Americans and I believe many British parents have major issues with at some point. Sorry cannot guesstimate how it is for Indians and other English speaking folks.
Will your child survive? Yes, will they be educated…? Yes…(even at all levels). Will they learn to wait their turn in line or learn to be fair and open doors for elders…? most likely not, but if you don’t value that or have been successful to teach this at home-you’ll be fine, but hey- life’s tough anyway, get use to it-besides you’re going to have to learn to use your elbow’s soon enough anyway ….
(Google Gayle Tufts-she explains it much better)
First, let me list these web sites,
www.zkm-muenchen.dewww-kikus-muenchen.de,
It is the “Zentrum fuer kindlich Mehrsprachigkeit e.V., zu Hause in mehrenen Sprachen� Sonnenstrasse 20, 6st. 80331 Muenchen. 089-45 22 95 60…
I listened to their Vortrag at a Lions Club meetings recently… I was truly impressed with what they said and offered. Having experienced Kindergarten - grade school & now 6th grade, here myself as an American since 2000, I was and am convinced that KIKUS is in the right direction. After, with a sigh I said “Gee, I sure wish you were around in 2000 when my daughter was in Kindergarten.� And was shocked to hear that they were. Later I drove one of the ladies to the
U-Bahn and asked her (& kind of scolder her) for why they don’t get out to the schools, Kindergarten’s and Horts and spread the word…she answered that -they do- all the time… but they are just not that well received by the Pedagogues (sp) and Rektors in present power. “Intergration, Chancengleichheit… Mehrsprachigkeit… pah? Uns? Was? Wer? Wie? If the parents would just teach and speak German to their kids –all would be in Ordnung…?� ah…Hello….? She said it - not me, folks. But I have actually heard those same words often enough myself as I struggled with basic German-asking teachers & principal along the way for help and advice. I wished my daughters teachers or principal would have provided me with such information…or even to have pointed me towards the local Schulamt (GoethesPlatz?) back then- we were and still are in Kreis-Muenchen, so at the Schul Amt, I heard-“well your not exactly with-in city limits, but your daughter can get on a list and maybe…..� it would have still spared so much emotional trauma, money, tears -for both myself and now 12 year old daughter. Oh you bet –they were real quick to point fingers at me and tell me to stop speaking English to her and how “Sie muessen was Unternehmen Frau Auslaender… Sie!!!� meaning me. Usually in a scowl of accusation, especially when I naively asked about their Deutsch-as-a-Second Language program – that surely every school in Germany offers…? Oder...? Of course when I asked “please help me - what and how and where�, that superior know-it-all attitude went mute and often with a shrug…Theme wechsel. By mid grade 3, It was nicely explained to that my daughter is Hauptschul material anyway… and shouldn’t bother with having her repeat the grade-besides her German is so much better than the other “Auslaender� kids…it’s just those Leistungsfehler…I was even consoled nicely (but thenot officially) with ‘Well gee, what do you want? What can you expect- your an Auslaender and don’t speak fluent German, you’re an Alleinziehender mutter (therefore a women)-but credit was give for me being so widowed so young, (yada yada), and oh yeah- You work fulltime- (ah-ha!). Besides your daughter is (just) a girl…by the way, she is so polite and plays well with all the kids and raises her hand for questions…but what do you want or expect? She can get a Lehre or something and catch-up later….Just accept it. It wasn’t that frank-and it took awhile for most of that to sink in but I eventually understood what was meant… Along the way I have met some great educators that were real Mensches with open worldly minds that seemed to enjoy their profession and kids. Some have actually lauded me for keeping English up with her so well…for she now speaks dialect free English and German…She doesn’t ‘zis or zat’ nothing. But also have met some real useless, heartless, unreasonable elitist Beamter DUDS. I guess they are everywhere else in the world too. But she is in Hauptschul…and yes folks-there is a huge stigma attached with that-but she has made into the M-Zug, which is basically a Realschul study/degree plan but offered only in some Hauptshul…Heh? Eh? Was, Wer, Wie bitte? What false film have we landed in to this time...Toto?
Another topic-another day-another long discussion.
Last summer, I actually packed up-gave my schtuff away-Kuendig my overpriced schimmel Wohnung to move back to US. Basically due to the dead end, pigeonholing (not a word), discriminating damned school SYSTEM that is accepted and in place here in Bavaria. For once labeled and assigned to your destiny-it is EXTREMELY difficult to get out of that fach/slot- (they do love those labels-don’t they?). Of course this is after years of applying & being strung along and then reapplying and rejected to the Isar/Huberschulen – with a “try again in 6 months� staempl, then visiting the Montessori, Rudolf Steiner, BIS and MIS schools with carefully consideration of cashing in her college funds to pay for these, even fled to Berlin for a week to check out the John F. Kennedy school….(but if must Berlin-why not just US). When I suddenly realized; What, Why and …..Where to? There 50 of them thar States. Besides daughter-finally broke down into tears and sobs of revolt just short of departing for last summer’s “final� trip with the KreisJugendReferat (KJR)(check it out folks) on a 10 day Hausboot tour of the Canal di Midi…when I suddenly realized…there are no organized Canal di Midi-Kreisjugendreferat Youth tours in Bum-farck Texas…or even public city busses she can take into town by herself or with her ‘kumpels’ to visit Titus and Goodstuff Skateshops, or take a bus to the Riem Arcaden Mall and go to go the skateboard park there or meet me for lunch or even go to the Mini-Munich at
Olympia Park next summer. So let it be said-Munich kind of grows on you. She has also earned the status of Ueber-goalie on the local girls Handball team (E/D league’s-now C) that has totally engulfed us both with activities… and lately she is pleased that I speak English to her in front of her friends… it seems to impress preteens-but did mortified her as a 2nd grader…(so be strong folks with 1st and 2nd grade models). Her friends love my brownies and muffins-that I proudly prepare from a box labeled Duncan Hines…(schhhh-don’t tell) they sell really well at the games too…just like the Sand and Obst-kuchen do…
Now that the non-smoking psychosis wave has hit Munich-that ‘issue’ is slowly working out on it’s own in our favor as well.
Things are going to work out…for us. And will for those other’s in the similar situation. She now talks about going to the University of Texas…and she will-some how. Whether it be ‘just’ Realschul or just recently flunk out of Gymnasium (like 3 or 4 girls from Handball) kids. A solution for them will present itself. For us, Hauptschul is over at 9th grade, 10th for M-Zug, Realschul 10th too, which still allows her time to attend a High School somewhere in Bum-Farck USA. Go to the ‘Prom’, attend Driver’s ed and Letter in Basketball. Or those on the 'Higher' level can crash through Gymnasium and continue to study…and study…and study…and then go to University of Texas or one here or take a Lerhe….anyway… Then perhaps an Umschulung….or 3… who know’s…?
Yes, I still pooh pooh ‘the school system’ when I can…It is horribly unfair-but my audience has shrunk-for her school mates since grade 1 have also been ‘slotted’ and on their way too… Would I be saying these things if my child was attending Gymnasium or Realschul...? You bet I would...maybe not as loud...but just as mortified.
It’s not going to change-so you have to find your best solution within the system… that is hard… because there are just too many entities involved…but educate yourself the best you can in what ever Dorf or Stadt you land… they are all just a bit different and the rules changes often, 6 times in 4 years, per the teacher in last year Uebertritts Infoabend said. It’s your only defense. Guten Glueck!!!
PS. I have been on the Elternbeirat since 2nd grade, very involved with schools. I am American, late husband German, we met playing softball in the Englishfarden, he died of cancer while we were living in San Jose CA, when I told him my plans to return to Munich (I really wanted her to learn German)-he basically pleaded with me to stay put tghere... he tried to tell me how things were here in school...as an outsider I was doomed...but I thought he was delirious...he was so ill, after all he was dying of cancer...but he was right. I'm sorry, honey. The 'should'have's, the could'have's and the would'haves...are the worries of a widow...