The whole conflict was so confusing i think even to the serbs and bosnians and croats, all of the other groups...i don't think there is will be a clear hero's welcome for milosevic in one camp and pure hatred in the other...my grandfather was serbian and i have spent many summers as a kid in a village by novi sad...then i went back in 2002...back in the 80s, to us coming from bread/sugar-line-filled russia yugoslavia looked like the perfect little place, with friendly people, great food, prosperous towns and similar languages, mom and i thought of moving there, until in 1991 war planes started circling the tisa river...i guess that's partly why i ended up in the US
but going back in 2002... everyone was bitter and confused, infrastructure broken down, buildings collapsing...my grandfather passed away, my godfather missing, my grandpa's 2nd wife (in northern serbia) had taken in bosnian refuges, as many of her neigbors...and all of them confused yet very friendly to eachother, one of these refugee women telling me of the night in bosnia years back, when they were supposed to keep watch, mostly only women left in the village, but among them were orthodox serbs, bosnian muslims and a croat catholic woman. and no one knew against whom exactly they were to keep watch...
people in belgrade seemed more bitter at milosevic, than the rural folk but also very bitter at the west. my aunt also protested against him in 2000, apparently he knew of a lot of allied bombing targets, and managed to save his kids, without disclosing them to regular folk (such as the tv station/tower that went down while milosevic's daughter escaped earlier) but serbs in small towns would simply shrug their shoulders and ask me "why, you americans do this to us?" so many casualties in the bombing of serbia...and i felt like crap looking at this old little ladies, my own identity churning in my tummy...but mostly everyone, old, young, rural, urban just called milosevic's successior- kostunica, an ass-wipe. whatever that indicates...