First of all, why do Germans respond to these threads to antagonize the anglos who are already having stress adjusting to all the issues we experience here? Secondly, I concur it is not morally right to pay tax on gifts received from family members from the USA.
I don't see it like that. Not always.
You see it as unfair, but others could see it as perfectly fair and the emotive way you express your opinion as antagonistic.
Belligerent ignorance is even less nice than arrogance- at least arrogance is (usually) based on something nice- knowledge.
I do understand what you mean, it can be stressful being out of your depth and finding out that what you thought you knew was wrong. My head was in a spin the other day when I discovered I had to take action because I had been hit by new info that threw doubt on my reasearch. It can make people who just come on and blandly state the facts seem
as if they are being antagonistic. But blaming the system, rather than our own lack of understanding can also look self-righteous and antagonistic, and maybe, just maybe people you think of as nasty are actually being nice by standing up to nastiness.
I mean my reaction when reading that someone thought €40 was low for a gift was "Wow, you have some generous friends and relations there!"