New in Munich - New to TT

hi, wonder if anyone out there like me, new and "afraid" to go to these meets ALONE.

i'm new in Munich, feeling shit alone in this city so, went to my first TT "meeting" - 80s party last night - met Magnum (as promised in his pink Hawaiian shirt). know no one else, didn't have enough courage to chat up strangers so gulped down my drink and fled.

without a "companion", conspicuous: alone and non-white, felt like i intruded.

wonder how many of you out there feeling like me. perhaps we could give each other a "support"?

Crosslink by admin: Newcomers Drinks Night

maybe it was a bit intimidating to be in a room full of people where most people know each other. There were a few newbies there last night that made themselves known, though.

If you feel conspicuous (there's no reason to be, really) try coming along to a smaller event, like a curry night or a TT Tuesday at the pub. It is far easier to get chatting to people that way.

btw, why would being "non-white" make you feel conspicuous? TT is full of people from many different nationalities and backgrounds.

Come to games night. Definitely more relaxed than a bar scene and cheaper.

yeah...I can see how last night might have been tough to get to meet people, but the smaller events are much better for that. Its a shame you didnt hang out though...making friends last night would have been darn easy! (getting them to remember you after their drunken stuper though would have been the hard part )

You really should have just spoken to one or two people. There were plenty of friendly bods about. I said hello to you briefly but I was on my way to the loo at the time.

i remember the "hi" yeah, maybe a smaller meet.

(not meant to be racist in the "whites", "non-white" part. just saw a chinese girl there last night, btw)

And I didn't go last night because I didn't think I would know anyone there - you have more gumption than I do!
Well, the hangover from a b-day party on Friday was also a contributing factor to staying home...

Hi,
I am fairly new in Munich(within a month) and am up for new adventures/friends. The next time you feel like going to a TT event, or just to the cafe for coffee, drop me a line. Do you like jazz - I am going to Voglers (Rumfordstrasse 18) on Monday for "Jam Night". You & anyone else are more than welcome.

Zimmer and DDbug, come to Curry Night this wednesday and I promise you will go home knowing that you have made a bunch of new friends.

Although not new to Munich, but I am fairly new to TT. I had the opportunity of meeting some very nice TTers (the husband and I had placed a few ads in the 'items for sale' and 'accommodation offered'). Thats what made me want to join in one of the TT meets/events to meet some more nice TTers!. Roots, I hope this Indian Stammtisch takes place this Friday and your reply here to Zimmer and DDBug already makes me look forward to it (and comfortable about meeting absolute strangers )

To the new TTers who have posted a message/reply here, I too would love to meet all of you in case you decide to organise something or plan a meet-up.

@roots

I am leaving on wednesday for the states, but will be dying for a curry when I get back!!!

just an idea: What if an oldbie guy and an oldbie girl are designated 'Introducers', watching out specifically for newbies who turn up, and then pouncing on them and introducing them to others?

OK, it's only an idea (Where's the shruggin' shoulders emoticon?)

zimmer, come along to the Curry Night on Wednesday! Usually between 6 and 26 people go and far easier to talk to people! Just ensure you get there early and sit yourself in the middle so you're at the centre of conversation!

hey which curry, original curry, rotating curry or the new secret curry.

/ducks and runs before gets hit with naan

My first TT event was the newbies' night - great occasion to get in touch with the TT crowd!

However, I don't know when the next one is going to happen, or does it even exist anymore?!

@PanB
Yes, we are going to have the Indian Stammtisch next friday. I will post details tomorrow and look forward to seeing you there.

I really don't see the point in a newbie night cuz nobody knows nobody. Best thing is to go to one of the regular events and just blend right in.

@jml

Waits for jml to stop ducking... fire naan!!!

@sin: i like your suggestion. i guess that would be easier for me yesterday if there were some sort of "host"/"hostess" last night where i can say, "hi, i'm that zimmer newbie". just walking up to stranger & chat to someone: of opposite sex would look like a pick up; of same sex *strange*. or am i just?

would try the curry nights, if not this wk, next

I haven't yet been to any of the TT events, but would love to go and meet some new people. I'm going to try to make the curry night this week.

@zimmer or any other newbies: Feel free to PM me if you want to meet up and go together.

Well H-E- double hockey sticks!...your in Europe now...that nonwhite thing has to go...I am brown myself but never think about the color barriers..in fact I have a bigger issue with finding the right dark beer...wich I highly recommend in Bavaria...well man relax welcome to germany and TT..although I have not been to any TT events I have met a few TTers in Munich and they are cool and the ones I have not met I enjoy talking to on line...so wallflower welcome to TT

@perdido
obviously u dunno how it feels, this thread is perhaps not 4u

What are you talking about..I am a minority and came from a country where I was always reminded that I was a minority and an outsider even though my family was there from the begginning...So as a child through my University years I was the wall flower...I have gone to the Twisted B a couple times and yes it can be intimidating..but if i allow myself to be susceptible to degrees of seperation then i will always be seperated...you are in now in a new country new city ..you can be whatever you want to be...no one here can judge for we are all outsiders...please do not take this as offensive..I understand what you are going through...trust me I am one of the weirdest persons out there and am usually the one person that sticks out in Germany LOL

When I first arrived in Munich I knew nobody outside work. So after a month I plucked up the courage to go to Gunter Murphys (I found it on the net). I got chatting with 3 Irish guys (two of which I am still friendly with), and one was a young kid called Johnno (who went back to Dublin about 4 years ago).

I asked Johnno "What are the people like here [in Munich]? Are they friendly?"

He said this: A traveller walks down the road towards a new town. At the entrance to the new town is a bridge. Sitting on the bridge is man. The traveller asks the man sitting on the bridge, "Are the people friendly in this town?". The man answers "Were they friendly in the last town?".

I thought long and hard about what Johnno said. But he was right. You have to take the friendliness with you to get along.

@Zimmer - So sorry I couldnt stop and chat longer with you on Saturday, t'was a little bit busy.

I can see your point of view, I think I would have been a little intimidated on Saturday as well. I certainly wouldnt have spoken to me.

Come along to future events, TT Tuesdays, curry night.

Winegirl is planning a trip to Andechs on the 28th, you should come to that, it is always a good day.

@ Zimmer, I have only been here a few weeks myself so remember all to clearly how nervous I was turning up on my own at my first TT event and nearly chickened out when I got to the fromt door of the pub! I have to say though that after the first hour or so of feeling really self-conscious I started to relax and chat to people and had a great night as everyone was really friendly. The next event was then easier as there were a few faces I recognised and each one gets easier and better as you get to meet more people! As the guys here have said, some of the smaller events would be good to go to or if you are into sport at all there are lots of things happening and I have found this a great way to meet people as well.

Go for it! Turn up at a few things and like me you might start to feel as though you have been here for ages after just a few weeks .

Another method to try is to pick someone who strikes you as nice who has written that they will be at whatever event you are interested in. Try sending them a friendly PM to ask if they would be willing to meet you at the closest U-Bahn stop or in front of the restaurant/pub/wherever before hand. That way you know at least one person there and won't stand around, wondering who to talk to. I've done it for others and have no problem at all doing it again - although the one newbie who didn't show up and left me standing outside for 15 minutes wasn't really appreciated. But I would give it another shot, as would several other "old-timers" too, I'm certain.

Showem's suggestion is probably the best method. I'm happy to perform the function of initial meeter (but not pointlessly-hanger-around) too.

And I can vouch for Jeeves' niceness, so definitely PM him!

I don't mind doing it, either.
In fact, have done it many times for newbies coming to play badders with us.
I think most people would, surely? We were all newbies once, after all.

Damn, I missed the "nice" bit. Guess that rules me out then
*sticks hands in pockets and strolls whistling tunelessly into the middle distance*
Note to newbies: Just kidding

and I dont mind giving a hug if someone asks for roots at curry night

thanks y'all. i felt i know u all already, just gotta add the face will try for next meet so, wait for the surprise PMs

Hello all.. Am new here in Munich.. I arrived about 2 weeks ago, and all my trials in getting friends have failed. I'm an open minded person, but the problem is that ppl in here doesn't often like English speakers.. it seems..

Anyway.. Being lonely really drives me crazy and i wish if i can get an address or a number where i can meet ppl in .. i'd prefer a placece other than pubs.. if not.. I might join in a Tuesday night if possible

PS: am 19, got an apartment, and am ALONE ! looking for any1 to talk to ... reply ASAP PLEASE!

Hey Silent. I wouldnt worry. Every TTer was a newbie at some point. People here are a friendly bunch. You should go to a meet. TT Tuesday is usually quiet so its easy to chat to people and get to know them a bit. There are a lot of different people on TT. While you wont make friends with everyone you'll make friends with a lot of them.
The first time might be the hardest but its worth the effort to go to a meet!
Have fun...i'm sure you will!!!

@scotsman

Thanx for making things seem easy... well one last doubt.. wat time am i supposed to pop into the pub? and how will i know where the TT ppl are?? or how can i introduce ma self..

describe the situation PLEASE.. Waiting for a reply

It's at The Arc today and one of the guys who owns the place is a TTer. So if in doubt ask behind the bar. Otherwise people will be getting there sometime before 7:30 because of the wine tasting

@Jeeves

I'll b arriving sometime between 8 and 9 perhaps .. Wish to b well welcomed =P .. see u all there guys!!

And Thanx a Mill.

SilenTTearS, if you are interested in curry, you could come to Curry Night tomorrow. You could ask for my name if you want and I am more than happy to introduce you to other Toytowners. Don't feel shy and welcome to TT.

@SilenTs, is that Silent Tears or Silent TT Ears...nevermind...

FYI: even if the meets at a pub no-one cares if you drink alcohol or not. I dont drink (often) and don't like smokey places so I prefer the biergarten meetups where I can sit outside enjoy the sun and a bright shiny Fanta. Its a bit to cold for them now but when the sun comes out...

If going to pubs really isn't for you, try the Curry dinners on wednesday...thats usually a nice way to meet people as well. There's also loads of healthy (and cheap/free) sporty things going on the weekends like rugby and frisbee. And occasional hikes and whatnot. Keep an eye out on the calendar.

In the meantime, here's a very amusing thread to get you acquainted with one of the quirkier issues in Munich: crossing against the light. If you get caught by the Polizei, you can get fined for jaywalking, along with many other things such as not carrying ID, not having a ticket on the train, flashing your middle finger, waving your hand in front of your face aka the you're crazy symbol, and using obscenities. Probably many, many more.

There was also a great thread - IMHO a must read for newbies - on various subway personalities but I've lost it.

Cheers and welcome to Munich

jml

Courtesy of Keydeck:

65 Bits of Munich Info etc. by Keydeck, Fact.

Train Travel for peeps who ride the train.

Plane Travel for peeps who fly the planes.

You can't buy this kind of insider info. All very good ways to get to know the darker side of TT.

and if you like getting out and doing things other than pubs/eating, the sports in munich section is great!!! For example, weds. and sun. we do Ultimate Frisbee in the Englischer Garten, I'd highly recommend it. There is a map and full explination in the thread. Also, there are groups who run, mountain bike, play soccer, rugby, go hicking and other sports. Just gotta look around the site and pick an activity that sounds like fun, post if needed, and (most times) just show up.

sorry, shameless post to promote UF

Welcome to TT!

Now that's the dark side of TT !

yeah, well... guess I accidentally let one slip... hope I don't slip again and also that no one else brings to light all the shady dealings of TT We'd never get the kind of respectable members we need to keep us appearences

Sin - what a great idea! I said somewhere else on this forum that I have been here just a month but checking TT out for some time and looking forward to a meet. However, single female does NOT want to be going into a pub or anywhere else alone. I was given various suggestions, and finally, the perfect solution! Another Newbie who had never been to a meet, suggested meeting me somewhere and us going together. I still took a bit of convincing this was "safe" as it was a fella, but we both wanted to watch the footie and he knew where GMs was - I didn't, and offered to meet me at the UBahn. At the last minute almost, I got brave and went! I was glad I did, but neither of us found the other TTers, the pub was heaving when we arrived at 8.30 (he couldn't make it earlier) and we could hardly go around asking people if they were TTers! Shame we were there but never met anyone, but just as well we had each other for company and enjoyed our night anyway. We both have said we would like to go to other events and hopefully meet more people this time, and again, it would be good to go together so we are not the only Newbie, just need to find the right occasion. curry night is a definite no no for me though! Maybe one Tuesday or Thursday night we will give it a try together? Maybe other Newbies could do the same thing? A whole crowd of us could meet up together and go find the oldies, as it were?

Is it because you don't like curry or because you think meeting total strangers and hot spices at the same time is not a good idea? You seem to like Pepper a lot in one german thread so I don't see how you don't like curry

Hey, I meet you last night at The Arc. There's also a newbie night coming up next Thurs. at one of our favorite pubs, Günter Murphy's. Both newbies and us old veterans will be there but it's an easier way for some newbies to meet us since many of the people will be out for the first time.

Everybody who made it easy for me to meet u guys up...

Thanx might not b all what i mean, but well.. its all that i can type at the moment.. so am really thankful for every1 who i met yesterday and for every1 who helped me get into The Arc, and for every1 who introduced me to the others.. I should mention here Raj, Debby, Pankaj who got almost drunk lol, Dirk, Sara, Herry.. and to all the others who i met at The Arc last night am saying: forgive me for not mentioning ur names but that should b because i dunno how to write them correctly

You guys can't imagine how it felt when i saw everybody around me with that kind of manners, speaking that lang which i really miss.. it was amazing meeting u ppl Wish that i wasn't a heavy guest that u had to get on ur shoulders!

roots, jml, jip, Alys, zimmer
** Thanx a mill for all the support u gave to me ..

Kat , Hisitated means not sure of something.. or can't make up ma mind.. and thats how i was feeling yesterday =) .. but thanx for u guys who made this feeling over =)

Winegirl, I wonder who u r.. am sure that i'd remember u if u told me ur real name.. i'll b waiting 2 receive it on ma pm or here if u wish..

Count me in for that one.
Haven't been yet to any TT meeting, but signed up for the Luxembourg weekend.
If I wont be on any other TT meeting till then, then this will be my first jump to the water.
I think that the water will be warm though...

In any case, if any other newbies plan to go to whatever, and need backup, PM me.
If the date/time is ok, I'll come, no matter (almost) what the activity is.

I attended my first TT event this last Wednesday (Curry Night), and I had a really great time. Everyone was very friendly and welcoming, and I met a lot of really nice people. I highly recommend going to a curry night if you haven't been yet!

Also, I don't know if any of you had seen this yet, but there is going to be a Drinks night - Newcomers to Munich and TT Thursday 19th May @ Günther Murphy's. Sounds like this would be a great way for us newbies to meet up, and meet some other TT'ers as well. I'm going to try to make it if I can. PM me if anyone wants to meet up and go together. Hope to see you there!

i've not done anything with the TT lot, got started exactly the way Sin describes it, get down the pubs and start talking to people. but then TT wasnae around when i got here in early 90's. i know what you mean about breaking into a bunch of people that already have an established dynamic, TT or no TT.

i reckon you newbies should have a newbies only session in some random place, away from the established TT haunts, to get to know each other and build the confidence to come along to a full-on TT bash. you could be TT-The Next Generation. if it worked for Star Trek, it might just work for TT.