I have used the search facility and can find no other thread similar to this so I am starting a new one. I think I need to get things off my chest so please everyone, don’t feel you need to post a reply unless you really feel you want to.
We (husband and myself) moved over here just 3 years ago from the UK. We had it all planned, husband to retire, me to work part time and we even bought our house 2 years prior to moving. I had high hopes of a new life and with my husband being so positive about things, even learning a new language (I speak fluent German and have done for many years), I though we were on a roll. Was I wrong…..
He is so half hearted in everything he does. He even looks like a tramp and if I have to look at his dishevelled appearance over the breakfast table one more time, I will scream. He won’t go out, mix with people and he is starting to withdraw so badly, we are not speaking to each other like we used to….. He started to learn German and then decided that because most people tried to speak to him in English it wasn’t worth the effort so he stopped going to school.
He is now a shadow of the man I love and married and I don’t know what to do. I am at my wits end….I feel so responsible for his unhappiness as it was my idea to move here although he did seem eager. It seemed to me that it was just the last 4 months that he has changed but I think it has been going on longer although I have never noticed it. I feel a bit better now I’ve got this off my chest….