Hi everyone. New to all this. Freshly seperated and thinking about when to make moves on divorce. After years of soul searching, counselling and trying everything we finally realised we were flogging a dead horse. He just moved out in February, but it was separate rooms for a long time before that, and might as well have been for a very long time before that again. We haven´t any hard and fast arrangements, except every second weekend. We still have to work out holidays and special occasions. Today is our younger daughters birthday so we all spent the morning together - but it´s his weekend so now I´m home alone. I think even just the morning was confusing for the kids. My older daughter keeps telling me things would be much better if we could just love each other and live together again. I guess it´s probably normal for things to be up and down for a while - even though we were just making each other unhappy for so long -and they are a bit down these days. Would love to meet up or chat with others in the same boat. Anyway, now that the nervewracking first post is over maybe Toytown wil help. Things can (and will) only get better