Big job decision

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OK, so I'm panicking right now, I got a mail from my potentially new boss, I'm supposed to call into the office this evening and sign my new contract, but I am so sacred of the unknown, what if the job sucks or if I suck at the job and get kicked out during the probation period with only a day's notice?

 

Everyday for the last 13 /14 months, I've wanted nothing more than to get away from my current job, now I have the opportunity, I'm bricking it.

 

How do I know what's right? I know no-one else can make this decision for me - financially I'm not really doing any better, only by a few Euros (due to the Sodexo vouchers I mentioned in another thread) in factI'll actually have less cash, but I have the chance of maybe being happier in my job and if I'm good, I have the possiblity of taking on other tasks and maybe in the long term, earning more money, a possiblity I don't have here.

 

Aaaaarggggh, my head is about to explode!!!

 

How do other TTlers deal with big decions

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The last big decision I took was "Helles" or "Weißbier" in the beergarden last Sunday :).

 

No, just kidding. I would say follow your heart. Like you mentioned yourself we can't make that decision for you. In your case, I wouldn't look at the financial aspect that much and would be more future oriented.

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In all cases, try to keep a good relationship with your current employer before you say good bye. This means sometimes you have to give up what you see as your "absolute right", just for the sake of a healthy business network.

I saw many cases where employers take you back if it didn't work out.

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Jobs are much more than the financial part. You spend 1/3 of your day, 33% of your life working. If you have any chance of leaving something you hate just do it.

That's what's pushing me to sign, but even then there's no guarantee I'll be better off with this one.

 

I guess my problem is, I've never quit a job, I was either studying, being a stay at home mum, had jobs that were time-limited, was in an Ausbildung, then in my last job for 8 years, before being let go due to the company's financial difficulties, this will be the first time I've ever quit (another thing I'm scared of doing, I have no idea how to quit a job, I mean I know HOW to - in theory - but actually doing it is another thing, what do I say, how do I say it, what do I wite in the letter etc...

 

 

If you get kicked out with one day, it's life... at least you tried.

 

And fortunately aren't we in one of those socialist countries that will take care of you if this happens?

 

True, but in both jobs, the pay is crap and if I am made unemployed, 67% of crap, is still crap. (and the actual "crap" I'll be getting in cash is less than what I'm getting now)

 

I'll probably end up signing the contract, but I'm so scared of making the wrong decision. It would be different if I was single, but I have a husband, 2 kids and a house, so there's a lot at stake.

 

 

I saw many cases where employers take you back if it didn't work out.

 

God forbid it will have to come to that, but yeah, my predecessor at work quit here 3 times but kept coming back ;)

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Take a few minutes to go somewhere quiet. Now close your eyes and picture yourself handing in your notice to your current boss. Imagine all the various ways that conversation could go but every time, at the end of it, picture yourself walking out of his office after having done it. Are you smiling and/or feeling slightly smug and/or feeling so relieved you might cry? If any of that is possible, then you definitely should take the new job. :)

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Oh, I'm not just smiling, I'm jubilating, I will be doing cartwheels in my head (only because the office is too small to really do them ;) )

 

Leaving this job will be one of the best decisions I ever made, I just wish I had something better and securer to leave it for

 

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CRAP!!!

 

I just saw the date on my telephone - it's the 13th, don't know if that's a good date to sign a comtract, hope it's not a bad luck thing - a well, at least it's not Friday the 13th ;)

 

Yeah, I'm superstitious...

 

...but hey, on the other hand I'll have an Irish team leader, that's good, right?

 

Not to mention all the American, British, French, Spanish, Israeli (and God knows what else) colleagues I'll have. The company language is English, which is great, finally being able to talk English to adults AND I can wear what I want to work, no more suits, my noes ring can go back in as can my two other set of earrings that I have to take out every day at work. Not being forced to take holidays when the company decides (meaning if I still have this job next year, I can go home for my brother's wedding (which I'd miss out on if I stayed here), maybe getting St. Patrick's Day off next year etc.. and a few other small things that make life so good

 

Yeah, I think I've convinced myself

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I have the chance of maybe being happier in my job and if I'm good, I have the possiblity of taking on other tasks and maybe in the long term, earning more money, a possiblity I don't have here.

 

Just take out the maybes and ifs and you have answered your own question. Its usually really important to just make a change. Even if for some reason things don't work out, it's likely to have been an important step in the right life direction. Changing nothing goes nowhere.

 

Good luck

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It is always a bit nerv wrecking to quit a job and start a new one. The first time quit my job I was still living in Canada and the job offer at hand was here in Germany. Of course it was a bit scary as I didnt really know what living in German y was like and I didnt speak any German at all. But i went with my gut feeling. Ended up being rather bored with the job after a while and really disliking the majority of my collegues. After 1.5 years, I quite my job again only to start a job where I really didnt know what I would be doing and sometimes i still dont know...but i love my new job and my collegues are great. Both me and the CEO of the company went with the gut feeling. So far I have never regretted leaving a job for a new one, but on the other hand, I have never been one for putting a lot of thoughts into my decissions. I am a constant optimist thinking...if it goes to hell there is always other options out there. But that may also be due to my background as in essence, if i were to loose my job, I would only go back to what i used doing which means i could pitch just about any company anywhere in the world where i like to live, as long as they are in my particular field. I will have a new job within a few weeks...but I might have to move to Australia at the same time :). Being single, that is not a big problem, When you have a house and family, different story.

 

Best advice I can give, one which has always worked for me, is to trust your gut feeling. But of course, talk it over with hubby as well. Will you be able to handle it finacially if you were to be fired? IF so, go for it!

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Best advice I can give, one which has always worked for me, is to trust your gut feeling.

 

That's exactly what my husband said, but right now, my guts just want to empty themselves

 

 

Will you be able to handle it finacially if you were to be fired?

Not really, but I couldn't handle it if I was fired from this job either…

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You're not happy where you are, so for me it's a no-brainer. You sound like my wife. She can't stand change, yet she married me, who can't stay at the same place longer than two years, as I get bored out of my mind. The only job I've had for longer than 3 years is the bank I'm currently freelancing for, and that's only because it's rare to get such long-term projects as a freelancer, so you simply don't just walk away when you get one.

 

As for getting fired. The Germans aren't so quick to get rid of people. As long as you're putting in the effort, even making mistakes while doing so, they're unlikely to let you go. Especially if you're a hottie, which you are in my mental picture of you... :P

 

I say go for it. It may be the 13th, but jeez it isn't Friday.

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It may be the 13th, but jeez it isn't Friday.

 

WHAT! It's not? Great, thanks for ruining my day...

 

Anyhooo. Yea, you are only gonna get one type of response from here, and with good reason...you only get one shot at this life. Sure you gotta be a bit sensible with decisions, but you already have another job lined up on the same payscale...that's about as safe as it can get.

 

I've changed jobs loads of times. Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse. But I never regret trying and it has left me with a wealth of different experiences which I wouldn't trade for the world.

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Congratulations on the new job and good luck!

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Thanks guys.

 

To be honest you are all saying what I really think (it's just good to get objective opions from people who aren't directly invovled)

 

I guess I'm just scared of the unknown and being left without a job altogether.

 

I know if I don't take up the offer, I will regret it (y'know all those "what could have beens"), if I do, it could be a case of "if only I hadn't", but I'll never know if I don't try, and at least, because of the working hours (sometimes starting later and working until 20:00), which are a bit crappier than the ones I have now, it means that if the job is crap and I need to go looking for another one; I'll be able to schedule interviews for the morning or late afternoon, something which I couldn't do before, I just got lucky with this one as it's just around the corner from where I work now, so I was able to pop over during my break, or if it must be, I'll be able to take a day off for ones that I feel are important enough to do so.

 

Well, I have another 5 1/2 hours to make a final decision, but I think I will go for it.

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I am really happy for you. Great to know that one can rebuild a life again after being an at home parent.

 

I think if you are an optimist and a good problem solver you can get work anywhere. That goes even if this new job doesn't crack up to be as great as you thought.

 

Good luck!

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Great to hear!!

 

I had a "Big Job" this morning... I did the paperwork... Then had a shower...( all without the need to ask for TT opinion!!)

 

I had to leave the bathroom window open for a while as the smell of the "Job" was still lingering... :rolleyes:

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Delighted for you!!!

 

Regular bowel movments are sign of good health (they are regular, right?)

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I just saw the date on my telephone - it's the 13th, don't know if that's a good date to sign a comtract, hope it's not a bad luck thing - a well, at least it's not Friday the 13th

If your colleagues are Israeli, it is in any case the 5th of Tammuz (or the 6th of you sign after sundown). Problem solved :)

 

Good luck with whatever you choose!!

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Simple questions:-

 

1. Do you notice anything in the new office/boss/people that you don't like?

2. Do you saw any typical red flags in the new job like unpaid working hours, too much stress etc?

3. How do you see yourself doing it for another let say 3 years, would you be happy?

4. The new work interests you?

5. The new contract/pay/conditions are better than your current?

 

If you are clear about these questions you are good to go. Sometime the sixth sense also helps, and it doesn't always lie. If you are feeling nervous about anything then don't be quick to take the decision, take time. Maybe a week or so in which you can better analyze the offer and make the decision.

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