If you don't like it here,

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So, what is your answer to this question? Why don't you just go home?

Live with it!

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I always say I bitch about anything/everything, and don't even get me started about the Germans.

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I should probably add that this is not the actual answer I give when locals ask me this question :-D

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Coincidentally was just thinking of what to tell my German neighbor next time she makes that comment; which she makes about me or any other random foreigner. Came up with a few:

i) mmmmh funny coming from someone who has lived in the same country, town and street of birth for 46 years!

ii) You make it sound easier than packing for a trip to Mallorca.

iii) We foreigners are so dumb, why dont you make billboards to remind us that!

iv) that reminds me of non-parents who think they'd make the best parents.

When I unleash one of the above(depending on my mood), I'm sure that's the last I'll hear of this 'pack up and leave biz'. She is however very nice to my family but as someone once said 'kaffee und kuchen' offered to an auslender neighbour by a German isnt just 'Kaffee und Kuchen' so I try to keep aa safe distance.

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Two reasons why people should ask that:

a.) They are genuinely interested in the reasons

b.) They are the sort of person that doesn't deserve an answer.

If you care to tell your reasons, the answer to a is easy.

And b is a great opportunity for all sorts of snarky comebacks.

Or a doe-eyed, innocent question in return.

Why does it bother you that I stay?

I guess at this point most of the category b people would like to change the subject.

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So, what is your answer to this question? Why don't you just go home?

Answer: Because my home is in Germany...

Same here - I don't have a "base" any more in the UK. One aunt who is 90 in St. Helens, one brother near Basingstoke who when I visited him in November that was first time in 6 years & one friend in Macclesfield.

The other big question I get asked all the time is "Why don't you speak German?" when what they actually mean is "Why don't you speak fluent German?".

I don't get that, but last Friday I phoned the German Aero Club office in Braunschweig several times trying to catch the airspace expert there - the first few times I got an assistant who after a few times offered to leave a note on the guys desk. When I did get through he exlaimed "Ah - DU bist es" & went on to say he'd received a note that some Dutch guy had tried several times to reach him.

Actually I do like it here (generally speaking). Maybe thats because I know next to no expats here :)

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...Here's my answer: I like Germany but I don't want to live here. However, I can't 'just go home'. ...

Why didn't you figure out that one before you got married and had kids or at least had kids?

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So, what is your answer to this question? Why don't you just go home?

I did :)

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So, what is your answer to this question? Why don't you just go home?

This is home

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And the little problems with language and culture went away but have been replaced with the simple wish not to be a foreigner forever.

Grief can cause us to become more introspective. It's natural to feel the way you feel wondering if you'll ever get to a place in your life where you'll feel joyous and happy.

You're from the UK and that's only a few hours away, some of the expats on this forum have to travels for long hours to go home and see their families, including myself.

If you do decide to move back home and your husband and children go as well, what about them, will they begin to feel like foreigners in the U.K. since your husband is German and your children were born here?

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I personally try to always follow the rule of ;if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all'. So I may complain to other expats and husband but never to anyone else. This way I never get THAT question.

If I was in the UK and wasn't happy about the school system (my favourite subject of complaint!) I would complain about it. I've lived here half my life, but have to shut up and put up just because I wasn't born here? This is one reason I dislike being a permanent foreigner. Of course it's no good to just whine about things because they aren't like at home, but I should be able to voice a reasonable opinion.

Yep, I feel quite introspective right now! Fortunately my husband is remarkably patient :-)

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Same reason as OP, can´t because of family and work. They are happy and settled so that´s fine. I don´t like it here but there are worse places to be. I´ve hardly ever had anyone asking me why I´m here and I wouldn´t say anything negative anyway.

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