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get a flashy decibel meter app for your phone and next time he comes knocking bamboozle him with technojargon,blah blah, deutshe larm schutze institute blah blah mess protokol blah blah verbunden blah recht protokol gespieched blah blah official blah blah.You might scare him off.

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It sounds to me like the neighbour is jealous of you apparently getting something that he isn´t!

Just in case things escalate out of all proportion, I wonder if you have joined a Mietverein yet? If not, it would be a good idea to do so...

 

Get talking to the other neighbours - maybe he has always been a grumpy old git(?)

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Complain to your Hausverwaltung. Your boyfriend is probably paying a multiple of the rent Mr and Mrs Grumpy Git are, so the HV should be on your side. And if the builders skimped on soundproofing when they added your flat onto the building (which is what I assume happened), that's the landlord's problem, not yours. You shouldn't have to put up with any rubbish from the neighbors because of it.

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"Are you finished with your sex games now or what?"

 

"Nee noch nicht ganz, bring deine Olle hier mit hoch und wir können dann wieder anfangen..."

 

EDIT: Just seen you're two guys, then "...bring deine Sado-Maso-Sammlung hier hoch..."

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What a waste to have such great wood floors without tap shoes!!!

 

and then play twister, but in a wonderful, ticklish way!!

 

Then, jump in jacks, hopscotch and then babysit my little hund, who loves running back in forth. (don't worry, I will let his nails grow out for this special evening.)

 

Then let my son hang out who is growing at such a fast rate that he doesn't realize how flipping loud he is walking....

 

Then, they will beg you to return to your sex games.

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We thought about ignoring them if they ring our doorbell again, or smilingly answering the door in our underpants ...

 

Both fantastic ideas. The former was actually what I was going to suggest anyway.

 

It seems pretty clear they don't want to be your friends, and won't want to be, no matter how quiet you are--apparent from the way they've chosen to approach you from the start. There is a certain kind of grumpy, pushy old git in this town who will take a mile if given an inch. Whatever course of action you take, don't bother being conciliatory. They sound as if they are highly likely to take it as a sign of weakness, that with enough assholish behavior they can make you back down from anything.

 

I realize that sounds more confrontational that is strictly necessary, but with some kinds of obsessive, neurotic meddlers you've got to fight fire with fire. They will have to go to a lot of effort to get someone to come around to your place and threaten you with a fine or try to take the issue to court. Eventually they will get tired of bothering you and just learn to live with it.

 

NB: we successfully got Mormons to stop coming to our house by answering the door half naked and drunk. By "we" I mean "me", and by our house, I mean the one I shared with three other early 20-somethings, where we for some reason had a Mormon problem, I think it's because they had a church at the end of our block. This will work even better if your neighbors are indeed homophobic and not just gaycist, as the sight of two scantily clad men grinning at them from the other side of the threshold is likely to give them nightmares they're not likely to want to revisit.

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Sounds annoying, to say the least.

 

I recently moved into an apartment in a less trendy part of Neukölln, and my wife and I have had two separate comments from neighbors about our noise. We are actually really quiet: my wife is away for work at the moment most of the week, we only walk around in socks, we don't have parties, I actually mostly listen to TV with headphones (!!) etc. On top of that our neighbors are actually loud themselves. Our theory is that this is an old established apartment block, where most of the people have lived here for a long time )and are pretty old) and aren't used to change, and part of the reason for their complaints was to find out who we were. Also the people we are subletting from weren't here a lot so the noise probably has gone up since we've arrived.

 

The comment about sex is clearly homophobic, and disturbing, but I could imagine chasing your bf around the table was pretty audible to the apartment downstairs. In an old apartment I used to be able to follow the four year old upstairs each time as he ran from room to room.

 

One strategy I've found quite affective here and in other situations is to simply knock on the neighbors door, say you really concerned that you've been disturbing them, and ask if you can test out what they can hear. We did this last weekend with my wife in the downstairs apartment while I stomped around the apartment, closed doors, played music at different levels. It was surprising what was audible (closing the doors made a loud noise) and what was not (music could be played much louder than I realized). The point isn't really to change your noise levels too much, but more to show that you care enough that the neighbors find it hard to create an us-against-them situation.

 

Anyway it may be that it's not something you want to fix. I am not sure if I had homophobic neighbors I would want to.

 

On a side note: I remember living in Magdeburg where the apartment beneath us became a squat. Our neighbours would turn on the music LOUD continuously around lunchtime to the point that my wife desk would vibrate as she was trying to write her thesis. She'd go down stairs and ask the squatters to turn it down and be greeted with vague drugged out stares, and if the music was ever turned down it was turned back up after about half an hour. It was only when the police started visiting for unrelated reasons that they cleared out and we got silence again. So I guess the alternative is to turn up the music really loud so they know what to complain about.

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haven't had a party yet,

 

When I lived in Stuttgart I planned a poker party and left letters on all my neighbors doors letting them know it was going to be loud. If it got too loud for them, to please come to my door and let me know. The party went on until the wee hours of the morning and noone knocked on the door. I think forwarning them before your party will pay huge dividends.

 

Okay, back on topic. Buy a rug.

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We though about leaving them a polite letter saying we're sorry that they felt disturbed, but if they want to talk to us about noise again they have to be respectful, polite and calm (and maybe reminding them that Lärmschutz starts at 22:00)

 

I'd think this is a good idea (even though from the sound of things you have no reason to apologise) but to be honest, I don't think it would change a thing, they seem to not you or more than likely seem to not like gays, so no matter what you do, thy will probably always find a reason to complain.

 

But the most important thing is, if they want to talk about it, that you be respectful, polite and calm, even if they aren't

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Don't let it get to you. And don't go into too much detail regarding the tickling in your letter to the Hausverwaltung.

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Am I the only one thinking the downstairs neighbour liked being the only gay in the village?

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Don't apologise to them ever again. Angry old germans will take this as a sign of weakness. Seriously this board is littered with thread about angry unreasonable neighbours and I don't think a single person got anywhere by apologising.

 

Agree with this. How does the old saying go.. the Hun is either at your throat or at your feet. Berlin needs to do something about the grumpy old git problem. A large camp just outside city limits perhaps?

 

Go on the offensive by taking it eine Etage above them.. ie write to the Hausverwaltung and say you are being harrassed, and stress that you are not making undue noise, that you respect the Hausordnung, the Ruhezeiten and all that stuff (they like to hear all that, it's what their job and mission in life is all about).

 

It does sound like they've got it in for you, so no matter what you do, no matter if you creep around on tiptoe, they will always be looking for something to get you for, whatever they can find.

 

But stay "sachlich" with the grumpy old gits. Don't lose your temper or go in for tit for tat measures, because this only gives them ammo to use against you in turn.

 

Keep it sachlich, ordentlich and legal and you have the best chance of winning out against them.

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Either quit playing the homo sympathy card or tell those fuckers to fuck off.

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Agree with this. How does the old saying go.. the Hun is either at your throat or at your feet. Berlin needs to do something about the grumpy old git problem. A large camp just outside city limits perhaps?

 

What a load of bullshit. Do you really believe channeling Churchill is a good way of getting on with your neighbors in Berlin?

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This makes me sick – and the sad thing, not surprised. I'm so disgusted of people like this – and they are EVERYWHERE. People here claim that Americans are so nice its fake – but here you get the utter opposite. People think they are justified to have every bad mood in the book, and promptly let everyone around them know – it's sick. I got chewed out the other day for apparently not vacuuming my doormat! The best you can do is just ignore them – they will always feel they are in the right, and there's no way in the world that will convince them otherwise. If he continues with his homophobic antics (and based on the conversation you described he most definitely is) you can always report him to the police – they probably won't effect anything, other than the guy getting pretty embarrassed, which is always a plus. He's probably upset that he hasn't yet gotten laid this century.

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