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About trallallero

  • Birthday 03/26/1970

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  • Location Karlsruhe
  • Nationality italian
  • Gender Male
  • Year of birth 1970
  1. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

    Today I'll go to the Jugendamt and ask there. But I cannot decide with whom the kids will be if we get really separated... I need to prove that my wife has problems and it's my word against her. Even though I still own the old separation contract with which she left the kids to me to go to London, usually the mother wins against the father. I'm 100% sure that the elder daughter (12 yo) would prefer to stay with me, but not the little one (7). She is already in the phase "in love with her father" but also still in need of her mother probably due to the passed separation from her.
  2. I guess I'm the only one in Bruchsal, but is there someone around Karlsruhe? I'd like to meet some new human being and share some thought, drink some good beer, play pool, whatever.
  3. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

    @RachSW you got it! I called her out on the lie of her sister and she blamed me after a "it's not my fault, I've been told that she was dead" (ridiculous).   Also, your description of sociopath is both awesome and... scary.  
  4. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

    No wait, there's a misunderstanding. She is not bad with the kids, she just doesn't care so much as me.   Regarding the money, I pay all. She has a job but all the contracts are signed by me. All.   And we don't fight at home.   Regarding happiness, I'm not supposed to make her happy. Beside nobody can make you happy if you don't permit it, imo happiness comes from inside.  
  5. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

      Yes, I am and, together with my natural hurry, that's my weakness. But now that the problem is clear, I can wait, I can think, I can fast.
  6. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

      We have strong intimacy and it's really hard for her to get intimacy with other persons (me too), that's another reason why she cannot really break it up. And yes, you're somehow right. There's anger and sorrow inside me but I will not say awful things, that's not me.   Thanks again.
  7. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

      "Women speak two languages one of which is verbal".  (William Shakespeare)
  8. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

    Yeah totally right.   Thanks all for the suggestions.   She is still not so bad but it could get worse so I'll find someone for help.
  9. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

      I know but I don't have friends here. That's my problem.
  10. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

      Yes we do all. Until she doesn't find another victim, I guess.   Forgot to say: a couple of weeks ago she was down because her sister in her country (Caribbean) died due to cancer. 27 yo. So she asked me 300€ to send there for the funeral. 2 days ago I sent condolence to her brother who answered: "wtf, nobody died here! we are all fine!".   She invented all just to get 300€ from me!
  11. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

      OK I'll try to get some help. The problem is that they speak German 
  12. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

      No, it's not diagnosed but, after years together, it's clear enough. She is anyway not giving me the chance to prove that I'm wrong... she will never ever go to a "help center". She is 40 yo so she's reaching the deepest point of the curve of happiness and, without interesting hobbies and with a temporary low paid job, it can can go faster and faster. She's definitely a bit depressed thus you're right, the idea of leaving the kids alone with her via a divorce, scares me a bit. I'm not angry anymore, not since I understood that she has this problem. Getting help sounds good but she is convinced that all is ok, she is not depressed, she has no problem, I am the problem. But she's damn sad, I feel it.   I don't need help, I need friends.
  13. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

    No, the house can't be sold or, at least, not without having to pay a huge fee to the bank (if you have a loan and sell it before 10 years, German law).   My kids and me were fine but this time I would leave them with their mom... I need my life and I don't believe in a second one.   I think I should just ignore her and make new friends as I'm alone like a dog... anyone from Karlsruhe? Bruchsal? 
  14. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

      We have 2 kids and a house together, not possible.
  15. Narcissistic Personality Disorder at home

    Well, I like it strange, then