yesmadam, the money grows on trees and you just pick a few Euros and fly to wherever and moan when you don't get an increase in your wages or when you have unforeseen expenses and don't know how to cope with it. Life is only easy for a few and not like the OP or me.It's nice if you have parents who can give you a good start in life and if you are blessed with abilities beyond the average.The rest of us have to toil and save and have to make a judgment every time the urge or emotions strike us.I have seen enough hardship in the cooking mass of life and happy I made it through it to stay reasonable happy,it was not always a cakewalk.Besides, what is wrong with being bored? It gives you time to think about things, particular when you can be on the internet and bore other searchers to desperation.
Geez. Try to be nice and inspiring to someone and that's the response you get. You've made a lot of assumptions (you're pretty off base with most of them but that's alright). Anyways, sharing ideas is just that, sharing ideas. If they speak to you, you take action and if not, you ignore them. Simple. No need to be grumpy.
Honestly, I don't think it's just a Germany thing. My husband and I live in London (originally from Canada and then Germany) and are in a very similar situation (well, except we aren't fortunate enough to own our own home OR a sunshine getaway!). Nonetheless, these feelings of boredom (as much as I hate to admit it) seem to come from within and also need to be resolved within. I've found that I can be surrounded by people who want to chat with me but unless I'm in the mood for their interests, it's boring as hell. That's not their fault, that's me - I'm just disinterested in a lot of things that most people find worthy of their time. I know it sounds harsh, but it's true.
So far, the best solution we've come up with is taking short trips to nearby places and taking advantage of how quick and cheap it is. Last year we went to Spain, Germany (multiple times), Holland (many multiple times), Poland, UK, etc. It's only January and we've already booked trips to Italy, Greece and Holland. Travel without the commitment of moving is nice - and perhaps above all - it's always nice to have something to look forward to. Plus we've started signing up for things that we wouldn't normally do. Like, for example, this past Thursday I went to a pagan meditation group in a basement in a London bookshop. It was definitely different but it's great to meet people and experience new things - I don't plan on hanging out with any of them again but I'm glad I had the experience.
Or maybe sign up for a class that seems out of character for you? I forget the name for those local colleges in Germany but they have some great courses. If you're fluent in German than you have a ton of options. Constantly learning and breaking out of your comfort zone are great. Explore new kinds of music. I'm personally into minimal techno and for me, Germany is the mecca of that genre! If you go to an underground club, you can just dance and dance in anonymity (definitely no Top 40 will be played ;-). Dancing is a great release, even if it's a bit uncomfortable at first.
I'm not sure if this is the type of reply you were hoping for but I'm just speaking from my experience. I'm not easily amused or entertained - in fact, I'm miserable when I get bored. But, if there's one thing I've learned about my restless nature, you're right, moving only satiates the beast for so long...then it's time to find another distraction. Best to just confront the boredom beast head on, get to the bottom of it within yourself and enjoy what IS available instead of thinking about what isn't. Also...maybe break out of those patterns. One annual trip to Spain? Really? If you own the place...heck, why not just pop over for a change of scenery? Don't underestimate the power of spontaneity.
Best wishes to you both. I'm sure as soon as winter passes and the sun starts shining more, things will not seem quite so bleak... :-D
I apologize in advance for the horrendous attempt at spelling you're about to endure but it's for a tasty cause. Last year around this time my husband and I were living just outside of Stuttgart. While there, we encountered tasty and delicious little round donuts that were covered in sugar. The name was something along the lines of (here's the horrendous spelling) "Topfenhurmphfel" (wow, it was even worse that I anticipated). Anyways, given that I can't spell or pronounce it, I can't find a recipe anywhere online and since we're in London now, we're hoping to make our own for the holidays.
Any chance someone out there knows what I'm trying to find? Any help is appreciated. :-)
I'm a non-EU spouse of an EU citizen and let me tell you, in reality it is an ENORMOUS pain in the ass to go through all of the paperwork and there is a lot of waiting involved. I married for love so I'm willing to deal with all of the governmental nonsense but marriage for the sake of beating bureaucracy isn't a great idea, but that's just my opinion.
Hey! I'm a Torontonian as well and I've been to Schwabish Hall a few times. I checked out the GI while I was there and it looked pretty nice. They have a high standard of teaching (as you well know) and really, their certification is the only one that matters in Germany. It's best to pay the higher price and know that the accreditation will be recognized down the road. As for the town, it's small but very lovely. There seems to be a bit of everything so you won't go without. I personally wouldn't want to live there for an extended period of time (just because I prefer cities myself) but for a 2-4 week course, it would be great. I actually considered doing the same thing myself, but instead I've relocated to the UK for the time being.
I like what this person has to say. I'm all for living "outside the box" and have been country hopping myself (with my husband) over the past few months. I wouldn't go so far as to insult the people who choose to live in a more, uhm, "structured" way because that's just being mean but I will say, if none of the OP's suggestions appeal to you, then simply don't do them. Live and let live.
I couldn't agree more! My husband and I were living in BW (a small town outside of Stuttgart) for the past few months and moved to London around a month ago. Though we love Germany for many reasons, we are so much happier here in the UK. We're not from here but for us, removing the language and cultural barriers has made us feel much more integrated into society. Here in the UK I work with people from all over the world, especially other EU countries, and we all agree that there's something about the UK that's very comforting and sociable. Though there are weirdos everywhere in the world, it's just nice to be able to understand the weirdos when they speak (so we know who to avoid). ;-)
Doom and gloom is okay - I appreciate all honest perspectives. :-)
To be honest, I think the unenviable employment situation that you mention is pretty common throughout most of the Western world at the moment. Canada proclaims to have a strong economy but truth be told, unless you are of the baby boomer generation that is close to retiring with a full pension, the rest of us are in a bit of a pickle. There are a TON of university and college graduates - far more than there are jobs available. The chances of finding a full-time permanent position that pays a liveable wage isn't particularly good unless you have a very specific type of education (medicine, engineering, etc) or, more importantly, you have connections. The cost of living is continuously rising but minimum wage remains incredibly low. Most jobs these days are either part-time or contract and consequently do not have medical/dental benefits, etc. Most commonly, the jobs that people could "fall back on" are being out sourced to cheap labour markets across the seas. Geez. It sounds so depressing, doesn't it?
Don't get me wrong - Canada is great in many respects but, it's basically in the same messed up situation as the UK and various countries in the EU. I know there's no magic answer to my question but I'm driving myself crazy trying to find a way to make something good come out of all of this. We're not afraid of a challenge and I'm convinced that where there's a will, there's a way...it's just a matter of figuring out which way.
Firstly, I'd like to introduce myself. My name is Amanda, I'm 32 years old and Canadian. My husband (who is a Canadian + EU passport holder) and I recently moved to a small town near Backnang (outside of Stuttgart) to renovate a family home belonging to my late grandfather. We both have permission to work in Germany (though only until November 2012 for myself) and had fully planned to do so upon arrival. Unfortunately, like many others, our German language skills are minimal. Consequently, the combination of our lack of fluency in the language combined with the fact that we literally do not know ANYONE here has made the job hunt difficult.
My professional background is Event/Production Management and my husband is a Sound Engineer. We both have solid experience in our respective fields but as neither of us have completed post-secondary education that is recognized here nor have any contacts to network with, we're thinking that perhaps it's time to re-train for a second career that may put us more in demand in Germany or the UK. As it stands, we have to go to the UK to work for the next few months just to be able to continue on this adventure of ours later on in the year.
I would really appreciate any helpful feedback or suggestions that people may have. At this stage of life (we're both 32 and trying to have some adventures before we settle down and start a family, etc) time is of the essence and we're willing to do whatever it takes to make our future life in Europe sustainable...heck, even profitable, if possible (eg: we really do not want to go back to Canada and work in the entertainment industry anymore - the hours and lifestyle are crap!).
Thanks in advance! It's my fist time posting on a forum so if anyone requires clarification re: the aforementioned, please just ask.
Whereabouts to do you live? I live in a town called Althütte (quite small) and though most people speak some English, the fact that everyone guesses which house we live in when they hear us speak indicates that we're likely the only English speaking people here.